Jamie Hubley, Ottawa Teen Suicide: Bullying Was A Factor, Says Father

Jamie Hubley

First Posted: 10/17/11 10:13 PM ET Updated: 10/19/11 04:31 PM ET

OTTAWA - An Ottawa city councillor says bullying was part of the reason his 15-year-old son took his own life last Friday.

Coun. Allan Hubley says in a statement that his son Jamie had been suffering with depression and was receiving care from doctors and counsellors.

Hubley says these professionals, along with family and friends, were trying to help him cope with his depression and his sexuality.

Hubley says his son was a championship figure skater for years and was just beginning to excel as a singer and enjoyed acting.

Hubley also says James was bullied.

He says the family was aware of several occasions where he was treated cruelly simply because he liked figure skating over hockey.

James recently tried to start a Rainbow Club at his high school to promote acceptance of others, Hubley said.

"The posters were torn down and he was called vicious names in the hallways and online," he said.

"We will not say that the bullying was the only reason for James's decision to take his own life but it was definitely a factor," Hubley said.

Hubley said the school has promised to ensure the posters are protected.

"We hope from our tragedy others will become more active in stopping this cruelty towards children," he said.

But it was Jamie's own words that may haunt the most.

'I'm a casualty of love,' he wrote in his personal blog. 'Well, Im tired of life really. Its so hard, Im sorry, I cant take it anymore.'

Allan Hubley and his wife Wendy are asking people wishing to make a donation in James's memory to direct them to Youth Services Bureau's Mental Health Walk-In Clinic.

Are you in crisis? Need help? Find links and numbers to 24-hour suicide crisis lines in your province here.


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nanaofmysky
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05:14 PM on 10/19/2011
When is it going to stop????? There is no good reason for these deaths. The bullies should be charged and punished. What a waste. He had talent tobad the idiots have so little confidence in themselves that they have to bully others. Someday they might find themselves in the same situation.I really feel sorry for the family.
03:30 PM on 10/19/2011
The ones that bullied him ..... you should be ashamed of your self
09:44 AM on 10/19/2011
Ironically in death Jamie will find peace. While the bully brigade will have this horrendous memory stuck in their psyche for the remainder of their lives. Shame!
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Fatema Saber
12:57 AM on 10/19/2011
Bullies need to be charged as criminals. This is insane.
05:53 PM on 10/18/2011
Peace to the family and friends.

I can't imagine the scale of your pain over this tragic, senseless loss.
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Peas Family Buffet
It's simple...right or wrong!
04:35 PM on 10/18/2011
I wish our schools and teachers would have a better handle on these situations. Most of this behavior happens in the schools. These kids need to be protected and helped. Smaller schools, more monitoring, something. I have heard enough about bullying. It needs to be stopped.
01:35 PM on 10/18/2011
I believe we can all do something to honor the beautiful person James was. Accept that is okay to be angry, to be gay, to have a learning disablity, to be a high achiever, to live one mom or two moms or one day or two dads or foster parents or grandparents, to be witty, to be the one that laughs alot, to be shy, to understand that not everyone is as strong as you, to tell someone what you like about them, to smile at them.
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Marcus047
given up on HP
12:53 PM on 10/18/2011
We all need to do more, but especially schools and teachers, where so much bullying takes place. Teachers need to be a support for kids, especially LGBT kids, who often don't feel safe at home. If teachers can't do this, if they can't support LGBT kids, if they won't stand up and stop students bullying other students, then they shouldn't be teachers. They and the other school administrators who won't support and protect students, especially minority students, should find another line of work that doesn't involve minors.
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Peas Family Buffet
It's simple...right or wrong!
04:38 PM on 10/18/2011
So true! I am so fortunate to have my children go to a small town school in Manitoba. This school has a total of 60 kids in it from Kind to grade 12. Very family oriented and safe....great teachers. More can be done to protect these kids.
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Peas Family Buffet
It's simple...right or wrong!
04:43 PM on 10/18/2011
I also feel as parents we should make sure our children are happy and safe wherever they are.
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relentless63
12:41 PM on 10/18/2011
Hatred and bigotry are taught. We adults must do better.
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Wendy Stewart
11:28 AM on 10/18/2011
What a tragedy. Young people should not have to do anything in life except be happy and flourish. It seems the more we know about bullying and depression in teens there is only so much that can be done. If children are not shown the tools of acceptance and empathy at home rarely will they learn it out in the real world. My heart goes out to this young man and I hope now he is at peace. God bless.
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elizlucinda
a mind is a terrible thing to waste
08:49 AM on 10/18/2011
Before we start educating our kids about bullying, we need to educate the adults in the world who are the role models. Adults have a way of tossing language around and judging others because they are different. We need to stop and realize that words do have meaning and words do have consequences.
09:14 AM on 10/18/2011
Totally agree with you. F&F.
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Jeff Forsythe
08:47 AM on 10/18/2011
I think that in these difficult times, it is not easy for people to distinguish the difference between good and bad when its comes to such moral issues as premarital sex, drug abuse, gay rights, abortion, euthanasia, etc.
I consider myself very lucky because I practice Falun Gong, which allows me to know the difference between right and wrong and Falun Gong has answered and is still answering my many questions about life.
It is a free practice with tens of millions of practitioners Worldwide. Thank you.
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Marcus047
given up on HP
12:55 PM on 10/18/2011
You're just another hater using your beliefs to legitimize your hate. Your off topic, cruel and irrelevant.
07:56 AM on 10/18/2011
So Sad. How a young person gets to this point and feels that suicide is the only option is a frightening thought. I was bullied badly in grade school, although not for the same reason. (I was a tomboy, wore glasses and did not look "girly" enough. For that, I was beat up and stabbed by boys. School chose to do nothing. However, I miraculously came out "normal" but not completely unscathed. It does affect you and now at 46, I often think back on both the "how" and the reasons those involved did it. I could have resorted to alot of questionable actions...but I did not - my family was supportive of me as well and pushed me to play sports - probably saved my life.....Kids are a blend of raging hormones and insecurities, and often feel protected in "groups" of like minded individuals. Schools often do not take time to educate on freedoms of individuals and differences of those individuals. I became a personal trainer and am successful. I have not idea what happened to some of those individuals except the one that stabbed me - he turned to a life of crime. If you do have kids, tell them that everyone is different and there is no "handbook" for life - live it, accept others the way they are, just because someone wears glasses and looks like a boy....does that have to scare you ????
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Ascoli
05:27 AM on 10/18/2011
It can be such a cruel world.
So sorry Jamie.
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drularter
Arrogance is confidence in someone you don't like.
05:24 AM on 10/18/2011
This is just depressing. I'm not sure what to think of the world, anymore. You got the Republicans in the US that are trying to merge Christian beliefs and Federal Law and you got all this bullying with GLBT youth dying because of the lack of support from government. Am I the only one that sees the correlation? What happened the the America I could be proud of??