Ontario Parent Concerned About 'Allergy Bullying'

First Posted: 01/20/2012 8:25 pm Updated: 01/24/2012 5:11 am


A Renfrew, Ont., mother says her seven-year-old son's allergy to nuts was used to bully him at school, an incident she says took a month for him to get over.


Kerri McDonald said her son, Nevin Prevost, came home from school one day in a panic, ran to the bathroom and began scrubbing his face.


Prevost, who has a severe nut allergy and carries an EpiPen wherever he goes, said the incident began in his Grade 2 French class.


"This boy that was standing beside me, he whispered in my ear, he touched me on the shoulder, and he said 'I ate nuts for snack,'" said Prevost. "And I was kind of worried that he did."


McDonald said she took the incident seriously because she couldn't be sure the boy's hands, rubbed on Prevost's shoulder and collar, weren't contaminated.


"In a sense it's bullying or threatening with a weapon," she said.


Allergy bullying was assault, says advocate


Elizabeth Goldenberg, a lawyer based in London, Ont., who writes a blog about allergies, said schools need to do more to protect children from what she calls "allergy bullying" and said if certain steps aren't taken, they could find themselves liable for failing to protect the children.


"That child who was touched around his collar, he was technically assaulted," said Goldenberg, who has a son with a peanut and tree nut allergy.


A study of 353 people, mostly children, with food allergies published in the Annals of Allergy, Asthma & Immunology found that 24 per cent of respondents reported being bullied, teased, or harassed because of their food allergy.


McDonald said her son didn't suffer an allergic reaction from the incident. But she said it did have a lingering impact.


"For about a month after he was quite nervous that people might touch him [with an allergen] and he might get hurt," she said.


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Sofia Champion
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10:42 AM on 01/21/2012
Oh man. People used to do this to me all the time. I was never allowed to eat the treats given out in class, either, in case of "traces".
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novabird
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09:41 AM on 01/21/2012
Kids, even normal, average kids, can be rotten little buggers at times. All kids get bullied. The parents of this little boy have taught him a fear based, victim mentality, which will hinder him greatly as he goes through life. He is actually being greatly rewarded by his parents for being fearful, being a victim.
lofttypeofaview
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11:54 AM on 01/22/2012
Food allergies are deadly. This is not something to be taken lightly. This child could have been killed. Just because this child had an EpiPen with him doesn't mean that the bully might not have tried to take it from him or if he would be able to administer the antidote in time to save himself. This no different then if that child tried to shoot him with a gun and missed. A deadly weapon can exist obviously in many forms and it's significance shouldn't be denied.
04:13 PM on 01/22/2012
As a parent with a grown daughter who has a severe peanut allergy I completely agree with you. It amazes me how even grown adults don't understand the severity of nut & food allergies. My daughter was teased countless time because of her allergy. Had peanut M&M's thrown at her. Students would intentionally eat peanut butter sandwhiches in class next to her and give her asthma attacks. She even had an adult mother of 2 kids who was her church camp counselor say " I want to see what your anyphylactic attack looks like, lets feed you peanuts, I'm curious". How sick is that. After that she stopped going to Campus Life. She has to tell anyone she dates that they can't eat peanuts and kiss her or she'll die. This is no joke people. Take it seriously and be considerate.
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novabird
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08:46 AM on 01/23/2012
In no way shape or form am I taking the allergy lightly or condoning bullies. What I am speaking about is how the parents have created an atmosphere of psychological terror for this little boy. I know this happens because of the fear and worry of the parents but while his nut allergy is bad enough, the over reaction of his parents makes it worse.

He was touched on his collar, and this means he was assaulted? It took him a month to get over another boy touching him and telling him he ate nuts for snack? What his classmate did was no different from trying to shoot him with a gun? Over reaction much?

He was actually fine. The real injury was to his emotions, and that has everything to do with the atmosphere of fear that has been created for him.
origamib
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04:17 PM on 01/22/2012
Bull tripe. Ever see a kid in the throes of anaphylaxis? The parents who are to chastised are those of the rotten little bully who thought it funny to torment someone with a life threatening condition. The bully's parents have taught him to think of himself, and no one else, at all times.
There was a seven year old girl in Richmond, VA who died this month after a classmate unknowingly gave her a treat that had a peanut in it while they were on the playground. Peanut allergy is no joke.
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Sofia Champion
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04:58 PM on 01/22/2012
Yeah, I went into anaphylaxis in public when I was four years old. You can't breathe, you can't talk, it sets in something like a few minutes after you've eaten if you're a young child. Happened to me in public. You've got less than 3 minutes before you go unconscious but since you're a kid all you're thinking about is how badly the needle will hurt when it goes in.

Nut allergies are a big deal. Simply because all kids get bullied does NOT mean it is okay to let it happen, especially with something like this where the child ends up having to fear for their life because some kid thinks it's funny to pick on the kid with a nut allergy.
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novabird
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08:50 AM on 01/23/2012
I agree, nut allergies are very serious, and deadly, There are many perils that face our children, all of which cause worry and fear for parents.
But on the other hand, creating an atmosphere of terror and panic for your child is not the answer either. There has got to be a better way.
01:23 AM on 01/21/2012
Yes the other kids do not need to know, the teachers only and why is the school not nut-free like ours?! Sunbutter is just as good as peanut butter and is made from sunflower seeds, not nuts. The school needs to shape up immediately or face a giant lawsuit.

But the child needs to gain strength from within. There are always bullies around.
evecaren
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10:44 AM on 01/21/2012
As far as I'm concerned, all schools should have a nut -free policy. I'm retired now, but in the
school where I worked, pictures were posted of students who had nut allergies, so all the other
teachers would be aware that these children had nut allergies. This is very important information
for teachers on yard duty too. If you explain to the parents that you are implementing a nut - free
policy in the school because of children in the school who have nut allergies they understand
why the policy is in place. Some children have such a severe allergy to peanuts, they can go into
anaphylactic shock if they eat the least little bit of the nut they're allergic too and this can become
a life threatening situation very quickly. All of us, meaning all the teachers on staff, were
instructed on how to use an eppy pen. I heard a story a number of years ago of a girl who was
at a summer camp who had a severe allergy to peanuts. She went to make herself a sandwich
with a knife which she assumed was clean, but actually still had traces of peanut butter from
someone else who had used the knife but not cleaned it properly. The girl actually died as a
result of this. I'm saddened to hear that some children are now bullying children who have an
allergy with the very food they're allergic to. I'm glad to hear Nevin is okay.
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Mike vdB
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01:29 PM on 01/21/2012
The school could very well have a nut free policy but the story does not mention it. But nut-free policies only work if the child eats their lunch on school grounds, not if they go home for lunch.

I also think sunbutter and other substitutes should be accepted more, but they are hard to police because they usually look exactly like PB. I stopped buying it because both my children consistently had monitors throw out the sandwiches because they thought it was PB. This was even after it was explained to the teachers, principal, and others involved.

But you are correct that the child needs to gain strength from within because he will be responsible for his own allergy as he gets older. Education is the needed to keep parents and other students informed. But supports should be put into place for elementary aged children with allergies to help them understand how to live with it. No one should live in fear.
evecaren
In every cloud there is a silver lining
08:51 AM on 01/22/2012
You're right. No one should live in fear. My husband has a nephew who has a nut
allergy. He is in his early twenties now. But when he was a child, his parents were
very careful to read the ingredients in every product they purchased and his mom
baked her own bread, muffins etc. Now that he is a young man, he's still checks
carefully to make sure there are no nuts in the product he's purchasing and carries
around an eppy pen with him just in case he needs it, but he certainly does not live
in fear. He's just cautious about what he eats.
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FearlessFreep
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12:04 AM on 01/21/2012
There was an episode of FREAKS & GEEKS where the bully put a peanut in an allergic kid's sandwich and the latter ended up in a coma.
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onwisconsin
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10:36 PM on 01/20/2012
This is one of the reasons that many of us who grew up in the 60s and 70s with severe allergies hid our conditions. I certainly didn't need one more thing to be bullied about. Teachers/Administrators need to be made aware so they can take steps dealing with bullies of any kind but I'm not sure that making it a news story is really helping the situation.

Also, getting the child who is being picked upon an interest where he can excel does wonders for his self-esteem. Some of us live with life threatening conditions every day and don't have a victim mentality. You are not your condition. Your condition is simply a part of you.