Robin Tomlin has gotten a face-to-face apology from the North Vancouver School District 42 years after a homophobic slur was attached to his yearbook picture.
Tomlin, who says he was bullied during his time at Argyle Secondary School in the late 1960s, received the apology Monday, CKNW reported.
Tomlin went public with his story earlier this month, telling the North Shore News that he was seeking a personal apology for the yearbook entry where the word "fag" appears next to his Grade 12 picture.
Now retired and suffering from liver disease, Tomlin wanted the school district to change the entries in the yearbooks it still has and to apologize for letting it get printed.
On Monday, Tomlin got what he wanted and emerged from a private meeting with school district officials with some news. A new page in his 1970 yearbook will now read he wants to "meet as many people from all over the world as I can and I want to be a cowboy," said CKNW.
Tomlin called it a "happy day" after receiving the apology, reported the Vancouver Sun.
Supt. John Lewis repeated the school district’s apology for the “cruel and offensive” entry and for the “prolonged grief” it had caused, said the newspaper.
The school district earlier this month offered Tomlin a written apology and to pay for his travel costs so he could meet with the superintendent in person, CTV reported.
“It’s worse,” said Tomlin of the cyberbullying that led Todd to kill herself.
Tomlin said he hopes his closure will help other victims of bullying.
"I hid it pretty good, but over the years, say the last 10 years, there has been so many stories of bullying coming out, it just kept bringing it back. And I just hated to see all these new victims out there, so I hope I can help," reported CBC News.
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Who got the last laugh here? Jessica Alba told the Daily Mirror in 2010 that she was <a href="http://blogs.mirror.co.uk/the-ticket/2010/06/jessica-alba-overcame-bullying.html">bullied so badly</a> by her classmates that her father had to escort her into school.
"Twilight" hunk Robert Pattinson claims he was bullied while attending <a href="http://www.metro.co.uk/showbiz/816987-robert-pattinson-i-was-bullied-at-school">Harrodian School</a> in west London, Metro UK reports. The actor apparently got hit a lot because he liked to "behave like an actor."
Oscar and Emmy winner Kate Winslet endured merciless taunting while in school, CBS News reports. Classmates mocked her weight by calling her "<a href="http://www.cbsnews.com/2100-207_162-2144550.html">Blubber</a>."
Academy Award-winning director Steven Spielberg's mother claims that neighbours in their suburban Phoenix, AZ community used to taunt the family. Eve Adler told 60 Minutes that people used to chant, "<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/22/steven-spielberg-anti-semitism-bullying_n_2002155.html?utm_hp_ref=canada-british-columbia&ir=Canada%20British%20Columbia">The Spielbergs are dirty Jews.</a>"
Now who got the upper hand here? Supermodel Tyra Banks was <a href="http://blog.sfgate.com/dailydish/2011/11/11/tyra-banks-opens-up-about-being-bullied/">teased by schoolmates</a> for her taller frame, the San Francisco Gate reported. But the bullying didn't end there. Early on in her modeling career she was taunted for her curvy figure.
The King of Rock and Roll didn't always have fans falling at his feet. The Daily Mail reports that Elvis Presley got bullied by fellow students at <a href="http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1302136/Elvis-The-intimate-portrait-King-best-friend-29-years.html">Humes High School</a> because he never wore jeans.
Few celebrities have spoken out about bullying the way Demi Lovato has. Lovato told People.com that her detractors would write "<a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20631674,00.html">hate petitions</a>" against her while she was in middle school. Lovato said at <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2012/10/18/we-day-vancouver-demi-lovato-desmond-tutu-youth_n_1980296.html">We Day Vancouver</a>, "I know there's someone out here in this audience who's being bullied and I know they need someone to look up to."
Chris Rock may be a funny guy, but the bullying he experienced in school is no joke. In 2001 he told CNN's Larry King Live that he got called "<a href="http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/0102/12/lkl.00.html">n***** every day</a>."
Bet they're regretting this now: MTV UK reports that even <a href="http://www.mtv.co.uk/news/justin-bieber/353124-justin-bieber-bullied-born-to-be-somebody">Justin Bieber</a> was bullied in school. He said, "Most people in their lifetime have been at some point. I think it's about time that people start making a change."
Victoria Beckham credits her thick skin to being<a href="http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/showbiz/bizarre/2764509/Victoria-Beckham-says-being-bullied-at-school-made-her-stronger.html"> mentally and physically bullied</a> in school. She told The Sun, "The only reason for me bringing that up is I have always been a fighter." Here's betting her bullies never had boyfriends as beautiful as David Beckham.
Recognize The Problem
Unfortunately, the parents of most bullies are in denial. Prevent your child from becoming a bully by having a consistent, non-authoritarian parenting style. Listen closely to what your child says and be aware of what is going on in their everyday lives.
Monitor what your kids are watching on TV. Reality-based TV teaches kids that being mean gets you what you want. Bullies see their targets as "others," not as people, so kids should be taught empathy at a young age.
Be Present At Your Child's School
Volunteer at your child's school, ideally, at lunchtime or during recess. This is where a lot of bullying occurs. If you're not available during the day, you can volunteer in the evenings or after school and use this time to have discussions about bullying with other parents.
Look Out For Warning Signs
If your child is suddenly withdrawn, sad or doesn't want to go to school, they may be a victim of bullying. A lot of girls turn to cutting or eating disorders to deal with their pain. Your child probably won't want to see a counselor, but you're the parent and you need to help even if your child doesn't want to be helped.
Create Allies, Not Bystanders
More than 50% of bullying actions will stop within 10 seconds if someone intervenes. Bullies feed off of bystanders. If you or your child witness an act of bullying: <strong>Become a witness:</strong> Go to the school, and tell them what you or your child saw. <strong>Become an ally:</strong> Even if your child is afraid of being taunted for showing support to the victim in front of other kids, he or she can send a text message or email to the bullied child later that evening. Kids who are bullied feel isolated, so even a small action like this can make a big difference
Block And Delete Online Bullies
Take screenshots of online bullying, so you can report it to the school, or even the police if the situation continues to escalate.
Prevent Against Physical Attack
Enroll your child in local martial arts classes. They can learn defensive postures and how to protect themselves. Kids who learn these skills carry themselves more confidently and this might help them become less likely targets.
Get The School Involved
If you have a child who is being bullied and the teacher is dismissive, go to the principal. If the principal is dismissive, go to the school board. If you have evidence, they will take the matter more seriously because ultimately, you can go to the police.
Understand Long-Term Impact
Recent studies have shown that over time, children's brains change and become more sensitive to bullying. They become more fearful, anxious, and smaller triggers can create the same response, much like post-traumatic stress. Later in life, as adults, many of these children have trouble functioning in society as a result of bullying endured at an early age.
Set Family Guidelines For Responsible Media Use
Create a family contract on how you're going to responsibly use all of the technological devices that your children have access to. Go to <a href="http://www.fosi.org/resources">www.fosi.org/resources</a>, for the Family Online Internet Safety Contract. You can also visit <a href="http://www.carriegoldmanauthor.com">CarrieGoldmanAuthor.com</a>, to find guidance and sample agreements.
If Bullying Occurs In Person, Accept A Verbal Taunt
Accepting a verbal taunt will take the power of the bully away. If someone says you're overweight, say, "Yes, you're right. I'm overweight." Using humor is very helpful.
Cognitively Re-Frame A Bullying Statement
Don't accept blame; say to yourself, "I'm fine." Compliment the bully, and ask the bully for help. For example, you could say, "You're right. I am a bad speller. Can you help me with that?" This will catch them off-guard.
Three Simple Steps To Stop Bullying
1. <strong>Witness it </strong>- Pay attention to what is going on your child's life. 2. <strong>Document it</strong> - Gather evidence: take photographs, save damaged property, or even write the incident and date in a journal. 3. <strong>Re-frame it</strong> - Take care of your child psychologically; help them find a support group where they feel they can belong.