Lost Her Son And DaughterMonique Lepine relived that day, repeating for the crowd a story about how she prayed when she heard about the shootings, only to find out the gunman was her son.
Lepine said the following day she realized she had lost what she had dedicated her life to: her children. "I felt like I was dying of pain and sadness," she said. Lepine said she reflected for 17 years after the shooting on the abuse she and her children had suffered at the hands of her former husband. She said her spouse never paid child support, and never contacted her, even after learning his son was responsible for the Montreal massacre. Lepine has previously said that her son was beaten severely by his father.
"My son killed himself, but I was the one left with all the consequences."
Dawson College Shooting Reopened WoundsShe said she was just starting to feel better when a deadly shooting struck Montreal's Dawson College in 2006 and the pain returned. Lepine said she decided to speak up, appearing on Quebec's TVA and writing a book, "To Live." "It took me a long time to make peace with myself because I thought I was the one responsible because everybody was saying that," she said. She has since met and cried with a family of one of her son's victims. "We were both in pain. We both had lost somebody we loved." She underscored the importance of talking about emotions.
"All this hate we keep inside, if we don’t let it go, or ask forgiveness of the people we hurt, it will build up and lead to violent behaviour." When asked how to help men who commit violent acts against women, Lepine said she didn’t know. "I don’t have all the answers," she said, noting that men can have more trouble talking about their emotions.
"It took me a long time to make peace with myself because I thought I was the one responsible because everybody was saying that."
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