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Fragrant Rituals

Posted: 12/28/11 10:34 AM ET

Remember when your grandmother used to tell you to only wear your Vanderbilt Perfume by Gloria Vanderbilt on special occasions? Then she'd show you how to hold the glass bottle properly, spray a little onto the palms of your hands and then dab the powdery floral perfume onto your pulse points behind your ears and knees and on your wrists? I tried to follow her advice once, maybe twice, but then like everyone else in the early '80s, I determined that more was better and quickly went back to misting a thick, wet layer of Ralph Lauren's Lauren onto whatever polo shirt I was sporting -- collar up and a with strand of faux pearls around my neck -- and called it a day.

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I get where my grandmother was coming from, though. A big part of perfume's magic is in the ritual of how you put it on.

I'm not certain who made wearing fragrance on the pulse points popular, perhaps it was Marilyn Monroe. I'm smitten with the notion that she was the first woman in the '50s to openly admit to wearing nothing but her signature Chanel No. 5 to bed. I, too, routinely dash a little something-something on before turning out the lights; something sensual and indulgent for when I want to be, a light and airy scent for when I'm feeling anything but and a therapeutic lavender-based fragrance when I need to silence my mind. Where others turn to music or a pill, I mist the air, my neck and my stomach.

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My mother was a wrist spritzer, that is, when she wore fragrance. My father would occasionally buy her a fancy-looking bottle for her birthday or Christmas. I remember she kept Shiseido Saso in front of the mirror on her dresser for years. It was replaced with a bottle of the Japanese cosmetics house's Feminité du Bois in the '90s. Displayed in a place of prominence on the bathroom vanity, I always had to try a little on when I'd come to visit. The silhouette-shaped bottle's juice -- an unusual combination of ginger and cinnamon with plum, romantic flowers and a woodsy finish -- was so different in comparison to the spicy chypres I was favouring at the time.

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I could never understand why my mom didn't wear her perfume more often. This still puzzles me actually, especially now that she wears none at all. After all, I'm the girl who followed the universal rule of the '80s; not only did I wear Giorgio Beverly Hills (whenever I could borrow a spritz from my friend's bottle), I actually liked that I smelled exactly like every other girl sitting in my high school social studies class.

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Now I make my own rules. I don't have a signature scent. I like to play the perfume field and I'm not snooty about celebrity fragrances. As an equal opportunist, my code works like this: If a perfume intrigues me enough to spray it on my skin, it usually ends up in my repertoire. I also thumb my nose at those who say spritzing parfum in your hair is a no-no. It's my favourite go-to point. Because, with a toss of my hair, a quick stop or an abrupt turn, the day's chosen scent wafts up and I can breathe it in. Sometimes, it's the best part of my day.

 

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Remember when your grandmother used to tell you to only wear your Vanderbilt Perfume by Gloria Vanderbilt on special occasions? Then she'd show you how to hold the glass bottle properly, spray a littl...
Remember when your grandmother used to tell you to only wear your Vanderbilt Perfume by Gloria Vanderbilt on special occasions? Then she'd show you how to hold the glass bottle properly, spray a littl...
 
 
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03:09 PM on 12/31/2011
I love perfume.I work in a mans industry, and basically look like a hobo at work, so the perfume keeps me feeling female. I was told by my grandmother to never spray on your clothes, just a dab behind your ears, neck, between breasts, and your belly button.Keep the fragrance mysterious. Now as an adult, I have to laugh, only cause those are places my lover would visit. Naughty grandma!
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07:14 PM on 12/29/2011
perfume was first used to disguise stench when people believed that showering was unhealthy now I think it is best to use a small amount of a fresh light scent after showering, I use that along with a good deodorant with a complimenting scent and I feel fresh all day despite the fact that my job is very physically demanding. Lol of course I am a little OCD and will almost always take two showers a day anyway.
06:51 PM on 12/29/2011
Try not wearing at all and washing your hair more than once a week.
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Chad Wheeler
07:01 PM on 12/29/2011
You need to get with the times! It has been hundreds of years, literally, since perfume has been used to cover foul odors that resulted from a lack of bathing. Now perfume is just a sensual indulgence.
06:24 PM on 12/29/2011
Georgio is so heavy, I prefer light, clean sents. Ever sit next to a person on a plane that is wearing really heavy perfume - gives me a headache. I like Cool Water by Davidoff.
04:31 PM on 12/29/2011
Best way to wear a fragrance if you're concerned about allergy is to lay out your clothes and spritz them a few times -- then go take your shower and get dressed. This is a good way to get the "pure" scent out of the bottle, but often, the best scent is the combination of a person's body chemistry with the fragrance. As for all the people whining about their fragrance allergies -- body washes are often as scented as perfumes and I have YET to read an article from someone collapsing because someone's scented body wash bothered them.
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Chad Wheeler
07:02 PM on 12/29/2011
Hand lotions, hair sprays, and deodorant are often stronger, and more offensive (at least to me) than perfume could almost ever be.
03:57 PM on 12/29/2011
Perfume isn't always the best way to go. Allergies are everywhere and so is that perfume. Giorgio perfume sends me to the emergency room for a shot! I move aways in restaurants, doctor's offices, etc. when assulted by perfumes. Your place of employment (particularly if you deal with the public) should be "off limits" for that favorite scent - it isn't mine and possibly the person next to you. Keep the smells for special times - like at night. K257
07:30 PM on 12/29/2011
Thank you ! Most fragrances give me sinus migraines. While most coworkers are considerate, there's always one in the crowd who wears enough to turn a herd of wild animals mid-stampede.
02:05 PM on 12/29/2011
Perfume is NEVER all right to put on your body. It has chemicals in it that will make dark spots where-ever you put it when you go into the sun. It also makes many many many people who have asthma to have an asthma attack thus making their lungs smaller and worse each time it is triggered by perfume. Would you swallow poison??? Well that is exactly what you and all others are breathing into your lungs. Do you want to be responsible for the deaths of others..... If not, STOP using perfume.
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sabelmouse
i love to tumble , ask me why .
02:23 PM on 12/29/2011
depends on the perfum. synthetic perfumes make me sick. i only use essential oils . one that i love is ''' karma '' .
07:57 PM on 12/29/2011
That is right, the synthetic perfumes are the ones that have all the dangerous chemicals.
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sabelmouse
i love to tumble , ask me why .
02:24 PM on 12/29/2011
aerosol deodorants have made me run out of the pool changing room several times. and people let their little kids play with them too.
01:38 PM on 12/29/2011
WELL i have to say this some men, do not know how much to put on, BUT i do remeber one date that i went with, he had so much COLONE, ON, it was to much, but it did smell nice, and wow, i say this SOME GUYS need to know how much amount to put on, lol, i think its cute but dont go over the limmit with your money, try to expand in what you buy, becuase if you use it allot, then you got to buy another bottle of PURFUME OR COLONE, just try to EXSPAND your PURFUME, or somethingthen you know you got it in good use of your money, ;)
anilimili
compassion trumps hatred
01:23 PM on 12/29/2011
Hey, I'm with ya on the deliciously scented air routine... The only caveat being--not to over-scent, and not to put on perfume right before going into small encluded spaces (i.e. elevator, car)--it can be overbearing. Me, I love perfume sented lotions, where I can put a little on after a shower and it gently seeps into my skin and clothing, making for a gently scented me and having small happily snuggle closer (the best feeling ever--having a baby snuggle closer and fall asleep in your arms).
12:33 PM on 12/29/2011
I love fragrance, eau de parfum the expensive form....men always seem to say mmm you smell good...the secret is less but the expensive form so it lasts and lingers
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sabelmouse
i love to tumble , ask me why .
02:25 PM on 12/29/2011
and not the cheap synthetic stuff that's sickening in every sense.
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360Dunk
Feeder of slot machines
11:59 AM on 12/29/2011
I like a good woman who goes for weeks without showering, then disguises her stench with some Walgreen's brand perfume. It pleases my olfactory nerves.
12:41 PM on 12/29/2011
Thats just nasty(LMAO)
12:42 PM on 12/29/2011
That's just nasty (LMAO)
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m2modon
some can't see the forest for the trees
11:26 AM on 12/29/2011
Heaven Scent and Jontue bring back many fond memories for me. Hard to find, but they're out there if you have the time to search.
07:16 PM on 12/29/2011
Try searching for those fragrances on Amazon. Amazon has nearly everything imaginable, lol.
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vlynnieg
lighten up a little...but be kind
10:58 AM on 12/29/2011
I spritz the back of my neck, the crooks of my elbows (I wash my hands too much to do my wrists), and my tum above the navel.
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vlynnieg
lighten up a little...but be kind
10:57 AM on 12/29/2011
I have a fragrance 'wardrobe' and wear what suites a combination of my mood, outfit, and where I'm going/what I'm doing. My signature staples would probably be Sung, Ombre Rose, and Pherose, but I have everything from Cookie scent by Smell This to Peace, Love, and Juicy Couture and a few by Bath and Body. When I'm homesick, I wear Jessica McClintock, because I can close my eyes and pretend I'm standing next to a magnolia tree in full bloom.
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bikelady1
Believe 1/2 of what u see, nothing of what u hear
10:34 AM on 12/29/2011
Nice article. I also was told to apply on my pulse points only. Well, I spritz on my clothing in underarm areas, hem line and pant croth area. Do not spray directly on my hair, but spritz my hand and run it through my head of hair while messaging my scalp. It works for me, just dont over do it.