Alyson Schafer
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Alyson Schafer is a recognized media personality. She is one of Canada's leading authorities on parenting and is the resident expert for CTV News, CBC's The World This Weekend, The Marilyn Denis Show as well as sitting on the health advisory board for Chatelaine Magazine, and being an ask the expert columnist for Today's Parent Magazine. She has been recognized as one of the top 25 Canadians to follow on Twitter.

Alyson is a best selling author of three parenting books: Breaking The Good Mom Myth, Honey, I Wrecked The Kids, and Ain't Misbehavin'. An international speaker, Alyson presented at the inaugural TedxKids talks in Belgium last year and is now looking forward to her upcoming speaking tour in Japan.

Probably her best credentials and testimonial: Alyson is the mother of two teenage daughters who think she is doing a great job!

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Work Life Balance: Hey Moms, Dads Are Just As Stressed Out

(0) Comments | Posted December 22, 2016 | 10:24 AM

Women have long been shouting at the top of their lungs about the terrific burden they face trying to juggle the demands of raising children while excelling in the work force. Finding work-life balance is a huge problem for women. But since we have been at this game since after...

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Alyson Schafer Advice: Baby Steps To Help Moms And Dads Stop Trying To Do It All

(0) Comments | Posted December 9, 2016 | 12:49 PM

Do you suffer the plight of being an over-ambitious keener who doesn’t like to say "no" to people and opportunities? Do you want to do it all? Do it well? And all by yourself?

It’s exhausting.

Why do we find it so hard to ask for help or to...

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Alyson Schafer Advice: Why You Should Never Take Away Your Kid's Phone

(12) Comments | Posted December 2, 2016 | 4:59 PM

Youth love technology. Smartphones mean kids can do all their favourite hobbies in one place: listen to music, take selfies to post on Instagram or Snapchat, watch Youtube and, yes, texting.

Adolescents largely socialize through social media and tech, and while this may annoy parents, connecting with peers (in...

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Is It OK To Be Naked In Front Of Your Kids?

(18) Comments | Posted November 21, 2016 | 4:25 PM

If you are asking the question “is it okay to be naked in front of your kids?” then I’m assuming you want to be naked and you're looking for validation from an expert that it’s okay.

Expressing your inner Lady Godiva is not necessarily a bad thing. However, there...

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Alyson Schafer Wants Parents To Stop Saying 'Just Do Your Best'

(6) Comments | Posted November 7, 2016 | 12:03 PM

As loving parents, we try to offer our children calm comfort by letting them know it doesn’t matter what mark they got or if they scored a goal in hockey, with the caveated: “so long as you tried your best.”

We feel pleased with ourselves for being encouraging. We pat...

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Alyson Schafer Advice: 3 Important Tips For Disciplining Your Stepkids

(2) Comments | Posted November 1, 2016 | 4:47 PM

With Canadian divorce rates tipping over 50 per cent, many of us are raising children in a blended family. Creating a new family structure together with your new partner presents unique challenges. It’s important for every member of the family to understand that it takes time to settle...

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Mean Girl Behaviour: How To Stop Relational Aggression Among Girls

(3) Comments | Posted October 24, 2016 | 5:07 PM

“You’re not my friend anymore!” yells Ashley as she storms away from her friend Bella and heads for the kitchen area of their preschool classroom. The girls were having a fight over sharing a favourite doll and Ashley didn’t like the outcome.

Even at this young age, Ashley knows...

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Parenting Differences: 9 Ways Moms Inadvertently Push Dads Out

(0) Comments | Posted October 3, 2016 | 5:23 PM

Dads today are more involved in parenting than fathers have ever been. In fact, working fathers report more stress over work-life balance than career advancement.

Yet, research says they still want to do more!

In fact, about half of all dads say they spend too little...

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Homework Tips: How To Get Through The Nightly Hell

(0) Comments | Posted September 23, 2016 | 5:09 PM

Well, school is full on now and that means the euphoria of being back with friends is quickly fading and the nightly groans about homework are starting. Who’s groaning louder? You or your kids?

Let’s face it, homework is a pain for the entire family....

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Birth Order And How It Impacts Your Parenting Style

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2016 | 4:32 PM

Birth order is a hotly contested topic. Research shows birth order does not effect personality, but that is because research uses ordinal data. Yes, if you were born in 1979 and your sister was born in 1982, you are the oldest by age. However, I am talking about the psychological...

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Case Of The Blues Or Teen Depression? Know The Signs

(1) Comments | Posted September 15, 2016 | 12:54 PM

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We all have ups and downs. Some people are very moody and emotionally intense. How does a parent separate the normal swings of a youth's tumultuous life from a real depression that needs treatment?

Given that the Canadian Mental Health...

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Walking To School Alone: How To Prep Your Kids For This Big Step

(0) Comments | Posted September 9, 2016 | 4:53 PM

School is back and for many families this is the big year: the year their kids are going to start walking to school alone! It’s both a scary and exciting milestone. How do we make sure our children are ready? What do they need to know to be safe?

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10 Back To School Sanity Savers

(0) Comments | Posted September 1, 2016 | 2:24 PM

September marks the beginning of the new school year and that usually means mayhem after a long, slow summer. Here are some ways to regain a calm house and peace of mind:
 
1.     Stay organized
 
The first month of school is all about getting...

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School Anxiety: Surprising Signs Your Kid Is Uneasy About Going Back

(0) Comments | Posted August 26, 2016 | 12:23 PM

This week I ended up in the walk-in clinic with my daughter. She was tired, achy and had sore muscles and a tight chest. She thought it felt like pneumonia. After all of the rule outs, it was decided she might have some flu-type symptoms, but she was basically told...

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Parenting Advice: How To Recover After Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2016 | 10:00 AM

This past week I freaked out on my daughter. It has been so miserably hot, and I have been running around trying to get packed up and off on our summer holiday and, well, I lost my s*it on her.

Let’s face it, we have all had those parenting...

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Online Safety: Why Parents Should Never Snoop On Their Kid's Phone

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2016 | 5:27 PM

When I first started as a family counsellor, back in the “analogue days,” parents would sheepishly confess that they'd found their child’s diary and read a few entries. Today’s digital equivalent is parents reading text messages on their kids’ phone, or creeping them on social media.

The platform has...

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Alyson Schafer Advice: 12 Easy Ways To Simplify Your Kid's Childhood

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2016 | 4:27 PM

The research is clear: our kids are stressed to the point of developing pathology, while parents are running around like chickens with their heads cut off and suffering the same. Nobody is happy. We know we need to heed the advice to just SLOW DOWN… but just how...

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First Period: Dos and Don'ts Of Navigating This Milestone

(3) Comments | Posted July 25, 2016 | 3:30 PM

“So… tell me the story of getting your first period.” That was all I asked at the restaurant where I was having dinner with some moms.

These women were so eager to talk about this crazy memory from their adolescence. It was like swapping stories of car accidents, each...

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How To Discipline A Child: 3 Common Parenting Tactics That Need To Stop

(6) Comments | Posted July 18, 2016 | 1:49 PM

Many agree that shaming our children is hurtful and spanking them could soon be illegal in Canada. While these two discipline tactics are often on the no-no list, there are other common behaviours that also have negative consequences for children. And they need to stop.

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Kids Watching Porn: It's Happening Much Earlier Than You Think

(8) Comments | Posted July 8, 2016 | 3:53 PM

We all know that eventually our kids are going to see some porn. What you might NOT be aware of is how young they are going to be. What is a parent to say and do when they discover their child’s recent search on Instagram includes the hashtag #pornphoto?

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