Alyson Schafer
Alyson Schafer is a recognized media personality. She is one of Canada's leading authorities on parenting and is the resident expert for CTV News, CBC's The World This Weekend, The Marilyn Denis Show as well as sitting on the health advisory board for Chatelaine Magazine, and being an ask the expert columnist for Today's Parent Magazine. She has been recognized as one of the top 25 Canadians to follow on Twitter.

Alyson is a best selling author of three parenting books: Breaking The Good Mom Myth, Honey, I Wrecked The Kids, and Ain't Misbehavin'. An international speaker, Alyson presented at the inaugural TedxKids talks in Belgium last year and is now looking forward to her upcoming speaking tour in Japan.

Probably her best credentials and testimonial: Alyson is the mother of two teenage daughters who think she is doing a great job!

Entries by Alyson Schafer

UNICEF Report On Canadian Kids' Unhappiness Is A Wake-Up Call

(2) Comments | Posted May 16, 2016 | 2:07 PM

Did you know that Canadian children are basically unhappy?

The latest report card on children’s well-being from UNICEF measured children’s perceived life satisfaction. They reported this shocking finding: almost one in 10 Canadian children ranked life a four out of 10 on a scale where zero means...

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Alyson Schafer: Stop Worrying About CAS And Give Your Kids Independence

(3) Comments | Posted May 9, 2016 | 9:58 AM

Abduction used to be parents' biggest worry about letting their children walk or play alone. Now parents fear something else: being charged with neglect.

There have been more and more news stories of police involvement in parenting practices. Remember the mother who let her 9 year old ride the...

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Alyson Schafer: Teaching Sexual Consent Starts In Preschool

(11) Comments | Posted April 27, 2016 | 8:41 AM

The recent Jian Ghomeshi trial has the topic of consent on everyone’s mind. How can parents teach children about sexual consent so that abuse never happens? If you wait until your child is sexually active, you’ll wish you had started the process when they were younger....

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Chores For Kids: How To Teach Them To LOVE Housework

(0) Comments | Posted April 18, 2016 | 4:03 PM

I asked my eldest daughter, Zoe, if she would be willing to help me out. I threw open the doors to the front hall closet and showed her a disaster zone of overflowing sports equipment, mismatched mittens and winter boots mixed in with summer sandals.

“You have such a...

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Alyson Schafer: 10 Signs You're Doing Too Much For Your Kids

(13) Comments | Posted April 8, 2016 | 2:23 PM

Who doesn’t want to be an awesome mom or dad? Of course we all do, but sometimes our passion and enthusiasm leads to an ambitious approach which can cross the line.

Sadly, over-functioning parents produce complementary under-functioning children. If parents do too much for their children, the kids evade...

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Why Does My Daughter Want To Be A Boy?

(10) Comments | Posted April 7, 2016 | 11:51 AM

Do you have a child who is expressing gender-related behaviours that have you scratching your head? I was one of those kids for a period of time.

At about age eight or nine, I wanted my family to call me Sam instead of Alyson. I even campaigned with posters...

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Low Self Esteem: How To Build Your Daughter's Confidence

(50) Comments | Posted March 28, 2016 | 3:07 PM

What is happening to our daughters when they hit puberty? In a recent report from the Canadian Women’s Foundation (CWF), self-esteem and mental health in girls almost universally plummets between the ages of nine and 13.

Check out just a few of their recent stats:


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How To Talk So Kids Will Listen

(2) Comments | Posted March 18, 2016 | 4:55 PM

Parents feel infuriated when their children don’t listen to them. But why should they? We sound like Charlie Brown’s teacher: “Wa, wa, wa, wa, wa” and then nothing happens.

"Make your bed, make your bed, make your bed."

"Okay, I made it for you."

"Get off the computer, get...

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Screen Time: Why Parents Need To Stop Treating Tech Like The Enemy

(14) Comments | Posted March 16, 2016 | 5:23 PM

Raising kids in the digital age presents new parenting challenges. How best to manage screen time is the burning question of the day.

If you consult the Canadian Paediatric Society, you’ll get some guidance but it's skimpy at best.


For children two and under, CPS...

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Anger Management For Kids: Tips For Dealing With Explosive Children

(7) Comments | Posted March 2, 2016 | 7:37 AM

angry kids

Most parents are equipped to get through the inevitable tantrums and meltdowns of little kids. As children grow they gain patience, develop more skills, learn problem solving and then low and behold the tantrums subside. Or they don’t.

For some children the anger or explosiveness...

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Effects Of Divorce On Children: 5 Biggest Mistakes Parents Make

(0) Comments | Posted February 26, 2016 | 7:40 AM

Divorce is difficult on children. Done properly, they manage very well. Unfortunately, parents can make matters much worse for their children if they commit one of these five hurtful divorce mistakes:

1. Bad-Mouthing The Other Parent

Your children love you both. They can understand that you don’t love...

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Joint Custody: 'I Hate You! You're Ruining My Life. I'm Moving To Dad's!'

(3) Comments | Posted February 22, 2016 | 3:15 PM

If you have ever had a fight with your child and he or she has spit out these words, you know they feel like a knife to your gut. In a joint custody arrangement, these are some of the scariest sentences that could come out of their mouths.


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Kids Mental Health: 5 Signs Your Kids Are In Good Shape

(3) Comments | Posted February 17, 2016 | 5:02 AM


We are finally working together as a culture to lift the stigma of children’s mental health issues. Given the stats from the Canadian Mental Health Association, we can't waste more time. Check this out:

  • 10 to 20 per cent of Canadian...
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Positive Discipline: 10 Tactics That Work (Spanking Not Included)

(17) Comments | Posted February 10, 2016 | 10:15 AM

Many parents resort to spanking as a method of discipline for their children. They love their kids, but are simply bankrupt for ideas of what else to do.

Perhaps they have already tried to reason with their child. When that approach fails, they nag. The nagging gets...

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Co-Sleeping: Three Reasons Why Your Kids Need To Sleep In Their Own Beds

(18) Comments | Posted January 29, 2016 | 10:45 AM


Last week I wrote an article to bring awareness to the detrimental effects of letting our kids stay up late and of missing crucial sleep. In my suggestions for improving sleep conditions, I suggested that co-sleeping had more detriments to our children’s health than...

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Sleep Deprivation: Parents Aren't Doing Their Kids Any Favours By Letting Them Stay Up

(6) Comments | Posted January 22, 2016 | 12:52 PM

It’s time we open our eyes and take a critical look at how sleep starved our children are and how it’s hurting them. Children are averaging an hour less sleep compared to 30 years go. And they're definitely getting less than what sleep experts recommend. It’s a serious...

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Parenting Mistakes: This Is What Today's Parents Need To Stop Doing

(4) Comments | Posted January 18, 2016 | 3:18 PM

Recently Cathy Gulli, a seasoned journalist at Maclean’s magazine, hit one out of the ballpark. Her essay, "The collapse of parenting: Why it’s time for parents to grow up," has caught the nation’s attention. In fact, it is one of the most read articles...

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Alyson Schafer Advice: Best Tips For Organizing Your Kid's Growing Pile Of Toys

(1) Comments | Posted January 8, 2016 | 2:19 PM

Ho! Ho! Holy crap! Did the kids ever get a lot of new toys over the holidays. Where are we going to put them all? What are we supposed to with the old one's that are still in good shape, but no one is playing with anymore?

January is...

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Parenting Resolutions We All Need To Make For 2016

(0) Comments | Posted December 31, 2015 | 11:15 AM

Tonight you will likely slurp back oysters and pop a cork on the champagne bottle to ring in 2016. Or perhaps more realistically, collapse on the couch after toddler tuck-ins and wake up to the sound of a midnight text message from your sister wishing you a Happy New Year....

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Canada Spanking Law: Why It's Time For This Ban

(59) Comments | Posted December 30, 2015 | 3:47 PM

In 2014, corporal punishment of children was illegal in 43 countries and Canada is about to become number 44. Yes, spanking will soon be illegal in our country.

Justin Trudeau has stated that he plans to accept all 94 recommendations from the Truth and Reconciliation Commission...

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