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My Hijab Doesn't Oppress Me, It Empowers Me

Posted: 03/05/2013 12:33 pm

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When you see me in wrapped up in my cheetah print scarf what do you see? Do you see oppression? Do you see liberation?

How about I show you what I want you to see?

The day that I decided to wear my scarf, was the day I accepted I was a feminist. Now you must be asking yourself "How could that be?" or "Isn't the hijab the universal symbol of oppression?"

 
Wikipedia defines Feminism as:

...a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining, establishing, and defending equal political, economic, and social rights for women. This includes seeking to establish equal opportunities for women in education and employment.


I am of South Asian decent; I came to Canada at the age of seven. Before coming to Canada, though I may have been young I was still able to understand and feel the intense struggle of women in a country that didn't allow women to flourish to their full potential. I understood that my move to Canada would be towards freedom and independence. I took my freedom very seriously. I made sure I did what boys did in school. I fought with my family to have equal freedom and rights as the male counterparts in my family. I won some battles, but lost a lot too. I was sheltered, and made to believe that there was some things men could do that a woman just couldn't. I tried to defy that with every fibre of my being. Because I believed women could do everything and it was men who were limited.

As I became a teenager, I struggled with trying to fit in, because though I was a little feminist at heart, I was still a girl. I had the desire to be pretty, a desire to be liked for my looks. I tried very hard for many years, but I always wondered why girls had to wear less clothing to be attractive while men looked their finest in a three piece suit.

My journey as a feminist eventually took me to explore my faith. Negative media helped me look for answers for the Muslim woman dilemma. Was a simple piece of cloth a symbol of oppression? I found that women were mistreated all over the world, scarf or no scarf. I did a lot of research and found that the veil in Islam was encouraged to elevate women to a symbol of respect. I was fascinated by that, because I found as a teen, self-respect was something a lot of girls struggled with. Being raised around a lot of boys and having mostly male friends I recognized that I didn't want to be objectified as sexual object.

So at 16, I began my journey to covering my body. I was afraid of what people would think. But I realized, the world would judged me no matter what I did, so I better do what I feel is right. And I felt very strongly about what I believed in. I believed, a man should respect me for my mind. I believed that inner beauty should be showcased because outer beauty would fade.

Women's bodies are used as a canvas for advertising. The machine that is marketing and the men behind it use their creative paintbrush to objectify and sexualize women. I chose to take back the paintbrush. The irony is that one of my favourite ads was by Dove, I loved their "Evolution of Beauty" video.


Contrary to what most people think, I had to fight my family to wear hijab. They were completely against it. I still get asked if I really need to wear it. Do I waver and question my commitment sometimes? Yes I do. Just as a person who may question their commitment to their marriage. You can call it long-term buyer's remorse -- just kidding. But seriously sometimes it's hard, but majority of the time I am extremely comfortable with my decision to wear the hijab.

My feminism still remains while I wear the hijab, because for me it was the greatest symbol of choice. The expression "she wears the pants in the house," was changed by my husband to, "She wears the hijab in the house." In our home hijab is a symbol of power and respect. My 16-year-old feminist self would be proud of me for sticking to my guns. She would be proud for never giving in to peer pressure, media pressure, and social pressure. My body is my own; I can do to it whatever I please.

To get a better understanding of hijab, I leave you with the words of Naomi Wolf, a feminist;

"It is not that Islam suppresses sexuality, but that it embodies a strongly developed sense of its appropriate channeling"

Be free, be yourself -- Happy International Women's Week!

Amber - @amberzcorner

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10:55 AM on 03/10/2013
Indeed it it true that few young ladies are forced to wear a hijab but the truth is that most choose to wear it. I am from Saudi Arabia and I have seen family members and friends commit to their hijab because they believe in it. Moreover, studying in Montreal, Canada, i have seen many Muslim women at my university who enjoy their hijab.
In my opinion, instead of talking on behalf of all women in hijab, you should only think about the majority, because the truth is that majority of women do love being in their hijab and are comfortable wearing it.
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11:17 PM on 03/09/2013
Thanks for the great article. It's really valuable to see the perspective of a woman who actually wears the hijab, rather than an American who probably has never actually had a real conversation with a hijabi like we normally hear from.
03:22 AM on 03/07/2013
it's ironic that in the West women who wear hijab stand out like sore thumbs, which defeats the purpose of not calling attention to oneself, which is the purpose of wearing a hijab.

Rather hypocritical in my mind.
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10:05 AM on 03/07/2013
That is the point exactly.

Because the fact is that most hijabis in the West, if they were honest with themselves, would say that in fact, the reason for wearing the hijab is to stand out...as a Muslim, and as someone who rejects aspects of the society in which they live.

If we were honest, then we could have an honest discussion about the positives and negatives of conspicuously wearing your religion on your proverbial sleeve. That's the discussion they had in France, and to be honest, whether you agree with the results or not, at least the discussion was honest.
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justcurious1
04:56 PM on 03/06/2013
I don't think anyone has any issues with the hijab. I have issues with the burqa. My mom used to wear a head scarf outside everyday to cover her hair rollers. To mom it was a religious garb for sure. But the thing to remember, it is all made up. The ceremony to appoint the new pope, is all made up. We confer so much significance to these things. Turbans on mounties. It's all made up.
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03:17 PM on 03/06/2013
Just because the author has decided that the hijab means something specific to her, doesn't mean that changes what it represents culturally as a whole. It is a symbol of the supression of women's sexuality. I suspect, more often than not, a woman wearing one has been "encouraged" by her elders that this is what she is suppose to do. Not so free. Also, while I am glad that Ms. Rehman had the choice, I still question how free and feminist she is if she thinks this is a choice she needs to make in the first place. It's one thing to have the freedom to wear whatever you want, because you like wearing it. It's another thing if you are "chosing" to wear it because you feel you need to be modest. I'm not sure if that's "freedom".
02:28 PM on 03/06/2013
Time to stop justifying this piece of fabric. No woman voluntarily loves it. There is a reason it is put on and it ain't freedom of choice.
01:52 PM on 03/06/2013
Religion, especially yours, is a cancer on humanity.
01:26 PM on 03/06/2013
On Clothes
Kahlil Gibran

Your clothes conceal much of your beauty, yet they hide not the unbeautiful.
And though you seek in garments the freedom of privacy you may find in them a harness and a chain.
Would that you could meet the sun and the wind with more of your skin and less of your raiment,
For the breath of life is in the sunlight and the hand of life is in the wind.

Some of you say,"It is the north wind who has woven the clothes we wear."
And I say, Ay, it was the north wind,
But shame was his loom, and the softening of the sinews was his thread.
And when his work was done he laughed in the forest.
Forget not that modesty is for a shield against the eye of the unclean.

And when the unclean shall be no more, what were modesty but a fetter and a fouling of the mind?
And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair.
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03:59 PM on 03/06/2013
Khalil Gibran said it all, and beautifully.
03:58 AM on 03/07/2013
With all due respect, let me ask you then out of curiosity - why don't you remove all the clothes you wear? Why do you bother covering at all? Don't you wish to attain full fledged freedom? Please enlighten me, I'd love to hear why.

Ah, yes and Kahlil. If you're using that quote to make a point here, it's not coming across for me and now I'm in doubt as to whether you even know the context of that piece.
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01:22 PM on 03/06/2013
Great Read! Must say I've never looked at the hijab issue from the perspective you offer here. As a social statement here, I can totally see where you're coming from.. As for the Mid East and the punishment some women endure for not covering enough (among other ludicrous things), that is surely oppression.
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10:41 AM on 03/06/2013
I respect your choices. I think wearing a hijab is no different than wearing a certain hairstyle when it is not compelled.

However, as a marker of the rejection of sexualization (of hair in this case), it is no different than a bikini. It still says that your hair is a sexual object and by covering it, you highlight its sexuality. Moreover, some men have great (and sexy) hair too. They don't cover their hair. So, the wearing of the hijab plays into and reinforces the societal inequality that you are trying to reject. It says: a woman's hair is a naturally sexual thing so it must be covered up. It also says that men can't control their sexual urges and woman must be the guardians of men's sexual appetites. Finally, the fact that only women have to cover up sends a message that women have no sexuality and that only men do. So, in a sense, the message behind the hijab reinforces the backwards notion that society can ignore the fact that women have sexualities and sexual urges too. It reinforces the historically inaccurate view that sexuality and sex is the domain of men and that women are only its objects. All things being equal, if the hijab was only a symbol of channeling one's sexual persona to the private realm of a marriage bedroom, then men should have to wear one as well.

Anyway, just something to think about.
07:29 AM on 03/06/2013
Yes women are treated as sexual objects in society - all society - even western society. The answer though is not "to cover" up and hide a woman's body - even her hair - that just plays right into the fact that a women's worth is nothing more than her sex. What we should be striving to is changing the attitudes of men and women so women are not simply treated as mere sexual objects.
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Quebec Hardwood
06:26 AM on 03/06/2013
If men in Islam had to wear a Hijab I'd be fine with it. It is oppressive. If you cannot see that if women have to wear it according to the Koran then Allah is oppressive. Allah would probably be more for equality.
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see-ellen2001
07:01 AM on 03/06/2013
In our Canadian society, it is accepted that women over their chest area but men do not have to. Therefore bikinis are oppressive.
07:38 AM on 03/06/2013
Actually it's legal for women to go topless in Ontario, and most of Canada it is actually accepted.
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Quebec Hardwood
06:25 AM on 03/07/2013
There is a huge difference between exposed hair and exposed breasts. Here in Ontario women can go topless.
04:37 AM on 03/06/2013
I think if a woman decides she wants to wear a Hijab, that's her right. However, when women completely or mostly cover their face, I take issue. That is dehumanizing, and even if the woman wants to wear a veil, I think it is an extreme statement of religion. I have known Muslim girls who simply dress more modest than average, or wear a Hijab with typical Canadian clothing, or wear long skirts and long sleeves with a Hijab; all of which are expressions of their faith that don't interfere with normal societal interaction. However, every interaction I've had with women that have their face fully covered suffers from the fact that it feels like I'm talking to a drapery panel.

Religion is a very personal issue, but if it can be expressed in a way that does not inhibit day-to-day life then there is no problem with it. However, I believe there is a limit to what should be openly expressed.
12:45 AM on 03/06/2013
Modesty is less about covering up and more about not drawing undue attention. I find Hijab, Burka, etc. very immodest. Who do I stare at more, an average girls in skinny jeans, or the lady bound up out of fear of showing her body? If you don't want people staring at you constantly, don't do something that is way beyond the norm.
12:34 AM on 03/06/2013
Once upon a time women in the west were "covered" They were also chattel. they had no vote. Their husbands were often guilty of beating them and they had to accept the beatings. They had no birth control. They were servants of their husbands. western women fought to oppose that and they won. So the hijab reminds Westerners of the days when women were in the position that Muslim women are in. A cashier at my grocery store suddenly began wearing a hijab and said she was "happy and fulfilled" by wearing it. She also told me she would nspecialize in the pediatric part of her intended profession since she couldn't bear the thought of touching a man. Truly tragic. What would she do if a man collapsed in front of her - not mouth to mouth or cardiac massage.
03:11 AM on 03/06/2013
being a doctor myself and following islam much more when i was in medschool, I can definitely tell you that the choice of her being a pediatrician is her own free will. Many Muslim female doctors prefer OBGYN or pediatrics just like many muslim men,such as myself, prefer not to be OBGYN. The dilemma of her giving mouth to mouth, she has to go through a rotation in emergency med as well so i am sure she would not have any problem doing that if it came to it.
09:05 AM on 03/06/2013
Also, as the author said above, we also see everyone else making similar choices along sex lines. Anyone who thinks white European cultures don't have just as many hangups about bodies and sex is fooling themselves.