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Debra Macleod

Marriage Author & Conflict Specialist.

Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is an international marriage author-expert and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at

Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

Divorce rates are nasty and too many women find themselves in unhappy, unhealthy marriages. I've compiled a list of eight subjects that, if I found myself Dean of Spouse School, I would recommend as prerequisites to marriage.
05/10/2013 08:03 EDT

10 Tips for a Spring Romance

Ah, springtime -- the skies are blue and love is in the air. Every year around this time, my Inbox fills with questions from those looking for love. In response, I've compiled a short list of dating tips that you may want to tape to your fridge if you're a single-and-seeking.
04/30/2013 08:19 EDT
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Vegas "Sex" Casino: Would You Go With Your Spouse?

M.S. Shadlock's controversial sexual thriller, The Inferno, is about a "sex hotel and casino" in Las Vegas where you gamble with sex, not money. It explores -- among other things -- what happens when couples push the limits of their sexuality in an effort to spice-up their marriages. Would couples really go to a place like this?
04/11/2013 08:22 EDT

Eight Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

People often say that their marriage ended because their spouse had an affair; however, infidelity isn't always the cause of marital breakdown. Usually, it's a symptom of a relationship that is already unhealthy and unhappy in some way. Here are 8 tips to affair-proof your marriage.
04/03/2013 07:55 EDT

Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

Time heals all wounds, right? Wrong. If a couple who has suffered through infidelity does not properly recover and heal from it, time only makes the scar more visible. The wound may even re-open now and then. But if a couple uses time smartly, it can soothe the pain and the scar can begin to fade.
03/03/2013 10:10 EST

Part 1: How Technology Has Enabled Cheating

Dating and social networking sites provide low-risk, high-excitement ways to connect with strangers and/or reconnect with past friends or lovers. The payoff -- a rush of adrenaline and arousal -- is instantaneous and people often mistakenly believe that they have made an authentic, meaningful connection with someone they have either never met or barely know.
02/21/2013 12:08 EST

Could Your Marriage Survive a Cruise Ship Disaster?

Bumps in what should be a smooth road are unavoidable. And as most of us know, sometimes the journey -- even an unexpected and unpleasant one -- can have more to offer in the long-term than the destination. Admittedly, that's going to be a tough sell to the 4,000 passengers on the Triumph. But what about when things go wrong in a marriage?
02/14/2013 05:19 EST

In a Sex Rut? From Fat Cat to Sex Kitten in Eight Steps

As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. Women often complain that they "don't feel sexy" any more. Weight gain, normal aging and other body changes. If this sounds like you, here are eight steps to go from feeling like a fat cat to purring like a sex kitten.
02/02/2013 12:12 EST

Eight Ways to be a MILF with Class

I'm all about staying sexual and attractive post-baby. But I'd like to make a suggestion. Let's leave the MILF acronym where it belongs -- in the domain of teenage boys -- while we adult women (and mothers) grow up and show some class. Here are eight ways to be a MILF with class.
01/24/2013 08:17 EST

10 Signs You're the Spouse From Hell

If you think your partner is to blame for your relationship troubles, scroll through these 10 signs and ask yourself: Am I turning into the spouse from hell? While this list isn't exhaustive, it does highlight some of the more problematic behaviours that many of us show in marriage. Life's too short for that.
01/09/2013 12:24 EST

Some Modern Love Advice From Cleopatra

As a couples' mediator, I see many women who have stopped having fun in their relationships. This year, I'm going back a couple thousand years to excavate some ancient advice from history's most cunning women, such as Cleopatra. How'd she do it? If it worked for the Queen of Egypt in 41 BC, it may work for you in 2013 AD.
01/02/2013 11:52 EST

Is Your Marriage Counsellor a Home-Wrecker?

In many cases, couples' counselling can be the final nail in the marital coffin. Why? Because counselling is a practice that focuses on the self. This "all about me," approach is the precise opposite of what struggling spouses need to save a marriage in crisis. It's naïve to think that an individual's personal experience with marriage doesn't factor into the relationship advice they dispense.
12/14/2012 08:21 EST

Eight Ways to Make Your Husband Want You Again

It's a devastating thing for a woman to admit -- that her husband seems to have lost his desire for her. Women often jump to the conclusion that unsatisfying sex is the reason for the chilly temperatures. Yet as often as not, men withdraw from their wives for non-sexual reasons. Check out these eight Do's and Don'ts to see whether any of them might help reignite his spark for you.
12/04/2012 12:13 EST

What Men Can Learn From 50 Shades of Grey

This widespread resentment toward Christian Grey -- kink version of the Alpha male -- has sparked a furor among men. But men are missing the point. It isn't Mr. Grey's bank account or bondage gear that makes him Mr. Right. The real reason women lust after him is because he makes them feel lusted after.
09/12/2012 08:01 EDT

Eight Common Sex Problems and How to Solve Them

The truth is, both men and women tend to complain about the same things when it comes to sex, particularly when they're in a long-term relationship. Here are eight of the most common complaints I hear from couples, along with suggestions to turn a partner's frown upside down.
08/03/2012 02:46 EDT

Smut With Soul: 50 Ways to a Sexier Marriage

According to a recent survey in the UK's Daily Mail, almost 80 per cent of women and 90 per cent of men were excited by the domination and submission theme of the 50 Shades trilogy. Why? Well, if you've been having sex with the same person, in the same place and positions for years, it is incredibly exciting to have that person behave in a way that is unfamiliar and unexpected.
07/05/2012 02:00 EDT

Is Your Marriage in a Bad Mood?

Don't make any stupid mistakes when your marriage is in a slump. Don't drown your sorrows in a bottle of Jack or jump into bed with the first Facebook friend to give you a poke. For better or for worse, remember? Most marital bad moods will pass quickly enough, but serious mistakes in judgement will hang around a lot longer.
05/24/2012 04:35 EDT

Is Your Affair More Than Lust? Take This Test

For those who find themselves swept up in the high seas of an affair, it's easy to think that you've fallen in love; however, before you make that life-changing and hormone-charged assumption, ask yourself a few of the following questions about your forbidden paramour.
05/14/2012 07:47 EDT