2013-05-18T08:12:44-04:00 Barbara Aleks Hecht http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/author/index.php?author=barbara-aleks-hecht Copyright 2008, HuffingtonPost.com, Inc. HuffingtonPost Blogger Feed for Barbara Aleks Hecht Good old fashioned elbow grease. tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2013:/theblog//3.3259933 2013-05-13T00:00:00-04:00 2013-05-13T00:14:10-04:00

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Here are five tips that I found to be quite useful and are sure to help you Pack Like a Pro -- lite style.

1. Check the Forecast
Check the forecast, recheck the forecast and check the forecast again - for at least a week prior to your trip. You'll notice over that week that the forecast will probably vary, and while the weather might not be completely as predicted, you'll get an idea of what you're in for. With that knowledge in place, you'll have a good idea of the types of clothing, shoes and accessories to pack.

2. Be Realistic
Be realistic about what you'll really be doing on your trip. Many of us have an idea of what we'd like to do (or how we'd like to look) while away, but the reality might be quite different.

Will you be on your feet all day long or transported about on four wheels? Will you be heading out to fancy restaurants or grabbing quick bites in not-so-fine establishments? The more realistic you are about your schedule and activities, the better prepared you'll be.

3. Choose a Base Colour
Not only does choosing one base colour for your whole trip cut down on the amount you'll need to pack (fewer clothing items and accessories), it also provides more opportunities to mix and match.

For example, for my trip my base colour is black. Black shoes, black handbag, black belt, etc. and I'm using white and red to add to the mix. Had I gone with brown as a base colour, I probably would have added colours such as navy and green.

4. Think in Layers
When considering what to bring, think in layers. How will your outfit work for you throughout the day? Will the weather be cooler in the early morning and evening? Would you like to switch out a piece or two when going out for dinner?

Layering an outfit or making only minor changes to it throughout the day will keep you from having to pack too many items.

5. Plan Your Outfits
Planning your outfits ahead of time allows you to know exactly what it is you'll need to bring. It also saves you time getting dressed on your trip. Photograph complete outfits to remind yourself which pieces go together, just in case you forget.

If you're like me and have a tendency to change your mind once you reach your destination, bring along a few extra pieces that go with multiple outfits. Having that one base colour and creating outfits that could mix and match will make it much easier to create new outfits on the fly.

Packing light has multiple benefits. Not only does it keep you organized, it allows you to carry less, lightening your load and possibly saving you a couple of bucks in baggage fees. But the most important benefit? All that space in your suitcase just waiting to be filled with new little treasures...

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There are however, benefits to raising free thinkers -- one of them being that you get to see life in a whole new and different way. Take my daughter Annabelle. Technically she's 11 years, 7 months old. (Practically 16, if you ask her.)

Annabelle's had an opinion on every single one of her (and my) outfit's since I can remember. In fact, I think she had an opinion about the onesie I put on her in the hospital -- the day after she was born.

I realized early on that I needed to let her wear what she wanted to wear and buy what she wanted to buy (within reason). I learned that like most women and girls, she had her own likes and dislikes and I had to let her develop her own style -- regardless of whether or not I approved.

And as a result, the most amazing thing happened. I have learned so many lessons from this little girl -- especially when it comes to style and being true to yourself.

Here are just two of the lessons that my little spitfire has taught me...

1. Turn Something Expected into the Unexpected

A few months ago, when shopping for sneakers, Annabelle found herself unable to decide between two colours of Converse. So what do you do when you can't decide which colour shoe to wear? You wear both. At the same time.

Making sure to clear the purchase of both pairs with me (the one with the credit card), she regularly wears one colour on one foot and the other colour on the other foot. Never, ever does she wear the same colour on both feet. Come to think of it, my son wears two different socks all the time too. Maybe it's genetic.

Annabelle took something that was expected, put her own spin on it and turned it into something completely unexpected. Would I ever wear two different coloured shoes? Not intentionally. But it made me realize that I needed to open my mind, think outside the box and try something different.

Take a look into your closet and see if there's something that you could put your own spin on. Maybe you have a long statement necklace that could be worn as a belt or an outfit that could be worn a different way. We often do things the same way day in and day out, so it might be nice to look at things in a new way. You never know what might come out of it.

2. You Can Never Have too Many Lip Glosses

My daughter loves lip gloss. In fact, she spends most of her money on these shiny little flavoured sticks of fun. While we've lost count of how many she has and her lip gloss container overflows, she insists that there's always room for more.

For me it's shoes. I love, love, love shoes. I could have a whole closet full and it wouldn't be enough. So what's stopping me? Other than things like mortgage payments, food and bills, it's a question of how much is too much. How many pairs of shoes do I really need?

According to Annabelle, the sky's the limit. If you have the means (and it's not an addiction or putting you into debt), why would you stop yourself from buying something you love? Something that makes you feel good when you put it on? Something that brings you so much joy when you look in the mirror?

I think that sometimes we let our heads win over our hearts and deny ourselves the little things that make us feel good because we think they're frivolous or that we should or shouldn't do certain things or be a certain way.

So whether it's shoes or makeup, handbags or hair products -- if there's something that you love, that brings you joy and makes you feel amazing -- follow your heart and don't let anyone stop you from being true to you.

I'm going to take a page from my daughter's book and keep on buying shoes. Not only that, I'm going to enjoy the process and fully experience the joy my shoes bring me every time I put them on. If my husband questions my purchases, I'll inform him that I love my shoes and he'll just have to deal with the overflowing closet. And if that doesn't work, I'll just tell him that Annabelle made me do it.

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April's a tricky month to dress for at best -- cool mornings, warm afternoons, rainy days. This April's been a bit more challenging with unexpected freezing rain, snow and cooler than normal temperatures. Ahh, brings me back to the stint I did in Calgary where we'd easily get snow in May. And June. Yup. And July.

With this fluctuating weather comes the challenge of knowing how to dress for the day to be both comfortable and appropriately dressed. Typically in the Spring you either dress for rain or no rain -- throw on a light jacket or sweater over your outfit, grab an umbrella if necessary and off you go. But when the forecast calls for sun and mild temperatures in the morning and freezing rain or snow for the afternoon commute, it can be difficult to dress accordingly.

The key to dressing for these types of conditions is to layer. Layering allows you the flexibility of having options throughout the day to deal with whatever Mother Nature brings your way.

So many women avoid layering because they fear that it will add bulk. And it can -- if done incorrectly. If you've layered on the clothing and feel like the Michelin Man (or Woman), then you've either added too many layers or some of your layers are far too thick and bulky.

Generally speaking, when layering, you'll want to vary textures and fabric thicknesses. The layers closest to your body should be the thinnest fabrics and sit closest to your body. You can increase the thickness and bulk the further you move away from your body. If you wear something extremely thick and bulky underneath a thinner, more streamlined or form-fitting garment, it can look odd and like you're bigger than you truly are.

You'll also want to vary lengths too. If you're layering, don't hide it. Let's see what you've got going on. Varying the lengths of the pieces you're wearing makes it obvious that you have multiple items on. It also keeps people from thinking you've eaten too many bowls of pasta the night before. (Not that there's anything wrong with that.)

When layering, keep an eye on your proportions. Don't get so carried away that you lose sight of the effect the layering has on your overall look. Never forget what's best for your height, body shape or your own natural proportions.

And finally, when layering, keep in mind what you're trying to achieve -- to have flexibility to handle the varying weather conditions, to dress appropriately for whatever it is you're doing that day and to look absolutely fabulous while doing it.

Layering can be a bit of an art, but like anything, practice makes perfect. In no time you'll be layering like a pro and ready for whatever weather comes your way. Bring it on Mama Nature. Bring it on.

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The great thing about a trend is that just because you adopt it, it doesn't mean that you have to go whole hog. There's no reason why you can't incorporate it here and there -- no one said you to have to wear it head to toe.

If you're interested in giving pastels a go this spring but not sure how best to go about it, here are three ways to incorporate them into your wardrobe -- without looking like an Easter egg (not that there's anything wrong with that).

1. Mix It In
One simple way to introduce pastels into your wardrobe is to pair it with something you already have.

Instead of grabbing a white t-shirt to wear with your blue jeans, how about choosing a pale blue or mauve one? Have a pair of grey jeans or army green cargos? Try a baby pink or soft yellow top instead.

Pastels go great with other neutrals as well. Cream, ivory, light grey, white or whatever you have on hand -- all would compliment any of the pastel shades.

Don't stop there -- bright colours are well-suited with pastels as well. Whether you opt for a more monochromatic look such as wearing a light pink top with bright pink pants or decide on the colour blocking route by wearing a pale yellow jacket with bright purple shorts, don't be afraid to experiment. You'd be surprised at how many combinations you can create.

2. Edge It Up
Some women like the look of pastels but don't want to seem overly sweet and girlie when wearing them. One easy way of avoiding this is to pair your pastels with some edgier pieces.

Let's say you've got a favorite black biker jacket that you love to wear. There's nothing wrong with pairing it with a pastel top or bottoms -- like a pair of mint skinnies.

Not into leather? Then perhaps you've got some studded bracelets or rocker necklaces that you could add to your outfit. The combination of the softer pastels with the edgier details is a nice contrast and keeps your look from becoming too saccharine.

3. Accessorize It
If you like the idea of pastels but don't necessarily want to wear them, you could always incorporate them into your accessories. How about a butter yellow cross-body bag or clutch? Or maybe a pale pink belt?

Still too much of a commitment? How about painting your nails a light jade or buying some inexpensive bangles in a variety of pastels to spruce up a neutral outfit? Don't forget about scarves -- they're a fun and inexpensive way to add a little pastel to an existing outfit.

Which brings me to one final point about wearing pastels. Not every skin tone is suited to the paleness of pastels and neither is every shade suited to every person. If you're thinking of wearing pastel tops, jackets, scarves or anything that sits close to your face, make sure to test the colour first.

Bring the item close to your face and take note of the changes to your appearance. Are the shadows on your face more pronounced? Do you look washed out or rather sickly? If so, then that colour's not for you. On the other hand, if your face seems to glow or if all the shadows seem to disappear, then you've found your shade.

However you decide to incorporate pastels this Spring, remember that in fashion these days, the possibilities are endless. The only limit is your comfort level and imagination.

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These famous women are known for more than their derrieres, but Google each of them and see if you don't find multiple articles or comments about their fabulous behinds. If these celebrities get so much positive attention about their ample rear ends, why is it that many women still struggle with the size of their butt?

Ask any man which body parts he loves on a woman and I guarantee that the behind is among the top three. All you need to do is watch a man check out a woman as she walks by and see where his eyes go as she walks away. According to some men, no one likes a bony butt.

So why are some of us women so obsessed? Take me for example. Last summer I took a couple of months off from the gym and refrained from doing anything that resembled exercise. As a result, I noticed that my pants were a little looser in the rump.

When I got back to it, after a few weeks of squats, lunges and regular lower body workouts, those loose sections were loose no more. Of course, panic and obsession set in. Again.

It didn't take me long to realize that the looseness in my pants was my a$$ starting to sag to the back of my knees and the workouts in the gym were lifting it back up again. You'd think that common sense would prevail and say, "Oh yeah -- perky butt here we come." But in my head all I could hear was, "Holy Hannah, it's growing."

It's like I have this deep-seated sense of terror of my butt getting bigger and I'm not sure why. It seems to me that according to the guys, a generous booty is a good thing. And whether or not it's some unconscious sign of fertility or the fact that they like to have more to grab onto, a fuller tush is more than okay.

So how about it ladies? Those of you obsessed with the size of your derriere -- how about we start welcoming the junk in our trunk? How about embracing the ampleness of our behinds and appreciating the space it takes?

I've decided I'm going to continue my workouts and enjoy the fact that my butt hasn't reached my calves and give thanks to the padding it provides when I sit down. I am personally going to bring on the bootay.

Anyone with me?

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If you're not familiar with the term, off-price retailers, such as the TJX stores (Winners, Marshalls and HomeSense in Canada), provide the same name brands and merchandise as department stores but at a discounted price.

Offshoots such as Holt Renfrew's HR2 (opening this March at Quartier DIX30 in Montreal and April at Vaughan Mills, just North of Toronto) or Nordstrom's Nordstrom Rack (currently only south of the border) are also considered off-price retailers. These types of stores typically offer lower priced alternatives, secondary or private labels, excess inventory and/or clearance items.

So how does someone like me, who enjoys the finer things, manage to stay current and on trend while still maintaining my budget? The key is to know when and how to shop both regular and off-price retail.

Shopping retail is rather straightforward. For the most part, unless there's a special promo, you're pretty much guaranteed that new arrivals are current and on trend and discounted items have been sitting in the store for some time. Most retailers have end-of-season sales to clear out items for upcoming seasonal stock.

Shopping off-price is a whole 'nother ball game. New items can arrive daily and you're never sure whether they're overstock, have slight imperfections or are from previous seasons. And unless you're quite familiar with the designers, what's on trend or what's to come, it can be quite difficult to know what to buy.

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If you're new to off-price retail, here are my five tips to getting the most out of your shopping experience:

1. Know What's In and What's Out

If you happen to be trend-conscious or want to look current, then you need to know which trends are in and which ones are out. This can be as simple as buying a few of the latest fashion magazines or doing some research online. Once you know what's what, it's easy to know which pieces to purchase and which ones to pass.

2. Check for Irregularities

Always check for irregularities or damages. While most items are probably fine, it doesn't hurt to check seams, buttons, clasps or for discoloration. It's better to find out in-store, than to take the item home, wash it, wear it and then be unable to return it.

3. Try Before You Buy

Unless you're one of those people who buy first and then try items on at home, definitely try before you buy. Don't assume that sizing is universal. Sizing discrepancies can be even more common in an off-price store than anywhere else.

4. Feel the Love

I only mention this because so many of my clients (including myself) are guilty of it: unless you absolutely love it or it looks amazing on, don't buy it. I don't care if it only costs $10 -- if it's not the right piece for you, you probably won't wear it. Regardless of how much you save, it's still $10 that could be better spent somewhere else.

5. Have Patience

Shopping off-price often requires the patience of a saint. Some days you might find yourself digging through the racks for hours, coming up empty handed and other times you might walk in and find three amazing items all within the first 15 minutes. Be prepared to hunt -- it might just be worth your while. There's nothing better than finding that perfect piece at a fraction of the price.

Here are a couple of bonus tips -- some other things to consider when hitting off-price retailers:

· If you see something, grab it. Once it's in your hands or in your cart, it's yours (unless someone steals it out of your cart and yes, it has happened). If you're not sure, think about it while holding on to it or try it on, but do not, I repeat, do not leave it on the rack.

· Shop regularly and shop often. With new items arriving almost daily, unless you shop on a regular basis and shop often, you might miss out on some of the best deals.

There are times, of course, when nothing less than retail will do. If you're looking for something specific or don't have the time to spend at an off-price retailer, then standard retail is the way to go.

On the other hand, if you have the time, are looking for something really unique or want to purchase designer duds at discount prices, then nothing beats off-price. Take it from a regular shopaholic -- the more you save, the more you get to shop.]]> tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2013:/theblog//3.2724783 2013-02-20T17:04:32-05:00 2013-04-22T05:12:01-04:00

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Some women just look better hiding their waists. Some women are built in a way that defining their waist makes their body appear visually less appealing (proportionately speaking). I'll use myself as an example. I have a very long rise (the area between the waist and the crotch), making my torso longer than it should be and my legs shorter than they should be (based on ideal vertical proportions).

Showing off my waist does absolutely nothing for my appearance -- it just accentuates my natural flaws. Add this to the fact that I have an S-curve in my spine that creates an indent on only one side of my waist and I look quite odd indeed.

Luckily, over the years I've learned how to work with it. I've learned that if I have to belt at my waist, doing it with a super wide belt, where you don't really know where my waist sits, is much more flattering. I've also learned that concealing or bypassing my waist altogether and belting or focusing on my hips is much more visually appealing. Doing so also breaks up the length of my rise and my torso.

Women who have a rounder body shape, where the torso is often quite full and most of the volume is carried in the tummy and bust area, also benefit from concealing their waist. Women with these types of bodies would do best focusing on lengthening their torso and drawing attention to their typically leaner legs.

So you see, sometimes the rules or recommendations that you see in magazines or on the web don't always ring true (for everyone). Most of the time, these types of statements are directed to a general audience, which is perfectly understandable. Everyone's circumstances are different and there's no way to cover every single scenario.

So how do you know when to follow the suggestions or disregard them? The answer lies in knowing yourself -- your body, your style, your lifestyle and your preferences. You have to be truly in tune with what works for you.

If you aren't sure what works for you, that's OK. It took years for me to figure out what worked for me and what didn't. If you need some help determining your body shape, how to dress for it and what works best for you, don't be afraid to ask. There are so many books and how-to guides on the subject and many stylists and consultants that would be willing to give you a hand.

Most importantly, don't be afraid to try different things, question what you read or hear and really look at and study yourself in the mirror. Ideally, your view of yourself and your instinct should be the ultimate guide.

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Normally I'm quite happy with the way I look. I eat well, I exercise and with the right lighting, look not half-bad for my age. But stick me under fluorescent lights after a weekend of eating Super Bowl food and holy moly hot bananas -- somebody get me a robe.

What is it with fitting room lighting in lingerie shops? No matter how dim it is, there's something incredibly unflattering about it. Don't the shop owners realize that with the right lighting some of us ladies would feel a lot better about our purchase and probably buy more? Because without suitable lighting, the tiniest lump, bump, ripple or dimple can look a million times worse.

Lingerie can be pretty tricky. Ideally it should look great on and make you feel incredible. But if you don't feel right in it, then what's the point. If it's not making you feel just a bit more special wearing it, then it just becomes a bra and panties; a slip or a nightie. I could find a ton of other ways to spend my money that don't require hand washing.

Shoes on the other hand, well, they never let me down. No matter what I look like, when I put on a sexy pair of shoes, I am transformed. Think about it. When's the last time you heard a woman say, "Do these red, platform, 5-inch heels accentuate my cellulite?"

Fabulous shoes really are miracle workers. They can make the difference between feeling frumpy and feeling fabulous. They can transform an outfit from being just OK to dynamite. They have a way of making a woman's legs look super shapely and lift her butt in just the right way. Put on a sexy shoe and instantly you're a goddess, a siren, a vamp -- a confident woman who knows what she wants and can take charge.

Here's another thing about shoes: the right pair can turn up the heat in the boudoir just as well as any sexy lingerie. Don't believe me? This Valentine's Day, if you're in the mood to spice things up, try walking into the bedroom with just your stilettos on and nothing else. And tell me that your Valentine won't know that you mean business.

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I found myself doing a mental check. Hair done and brushed? Check. Makeup on? Another check. Dressed appropriately with my usual attention to detail? Check again. Oh! I know. It's the turtleneck. I knew I shouldn't have worn that damn turtleneck.

It wasn't till later that day that I had an "aha" moment. Why should I look exactly like my photos? It's not like I go about my day perched on the edge of a chair with the wind blowing in my hair or standing with my hands on my hips looking over my shoulder with just the hint of a smile. No.

I walk, I run (usually from appointment to appointment) and I don't glow -- I sweat. My hair gets messy, my makeup wears off, I spill food on my clothes. And I've been known to stumble and trip over absolutely nothing. A lot. (Probably from running in 5" heels.) So, no. I don't look like my professionally taken website photos. And that's OK.

Over the years, many of my female clients have told me that they feel pressured to look a certain way at all times. And whether or not they feel that pressure from the media, those around them or themselves, I can relate. In my line of business, when I leave my house, I pretty much have to be "ON" all the time. If someone finds out what I do and I'm not looking my best, I'm doing my business and thus myself, a disservice.

But the reality is that I don't always look my best, nor do I want to. And nor should any woman (unless, of course, it's what she wants). We have the choice to look exactly as we want at any given time. If you want to walk out your front door all done up and in your finest, then go for it. But if you want to go out in your sweats, with your hair a big fat mess, then own it. It's your choice and everyone else's opinions be damned.

For example, some days I feel like curling my hair, putting on my cutest clothes and heading out the door. Other days I hit the streets in my Sorels, hat and puffy coat (and pray that I don't bump into a client). I call it being a part-time Hottie -- choosing to look your best and hottest whenever you darn well please. Because really, if we women were to look our absolute hottest at all times of the day and night, could the male population really handle it? I don't think so.

So go ahead -- be a part-time hottie. And give those poor guys a break.

See more celebs proudly wearing their sweats:
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What we don't typically hear about in January is keeping the old -- hanging on to the things that really work. Whether it's a habit, lifestyle choice or anything that's an asset to you in any way, there's nothing wrong with hanging on to something tried and true.

The same applies to fashion. There are pieces that each of us have in our closets that may not be new or noteworthy but continue to serve their purpose time and time again. So this January, instead of focusing on the newest, latest and hottest, I'm going to appreciate five classic keepers. And my prediction for 2013? They're not going anywhere any time soon.

1. Single Breasted Blazer

Nothing beats a well made, properly fitting blazer. Dress it up, dress it down, throw it over a dress or a pair of jeans. This versatile piece, if purchased well, can last years. If you're planning on investing in a blazer that will last you more than one season, purchase a classic cut in good quality material and fabrication. Make sure that it fits your body perfectly, so invest in tailoring if needed.

2. Simple Button-Down Cardigan

When was the last time the cardigan was out of style? Oh that's right, never. Styles may vary slightly, but a classic button down cardigan never goes out of style. Button it, leave it open, button only the top, belt it, push up the sleeves. Wear it over a tank with shorts or with a blouse to the office -- cardigans are the perfect layering piece.

3. Crisp White Shirt

If you ever find a crisp white button down shirt that fits you perfectly, buy up the store. A great fitting white shirt is like a great fitting pair of jeans -- hard to come by and worth every penny. So if you're lucky to find one that looks like it was made just for you, buy as many as you can. That way if yours gets stained or worn, you'll have more to fall back on.

4. Wrap Dress

If you ever find yourself wanting a dress but not sure what style suits you, buy a wrap dress. Suitable to so many body types, I have yet to find a woman who couldn't rock a wrap dress. The key is to find the right fabrics, colours and cut for your shape. Make sure that when the dress wraps, there's no sagging around the top or that the wrap around the waist area doesn't seem too high or too low.

5. Pencil Skirt

Pencil skirts aren't for everyone but out of any skirt style, they're the one that has withstood the test of time. The key with the pencil skirt (like with most pieces) is to have the right fit. It should skim the body -- not too tight and not too loose. It shouldn't buckle or gather, nor should it float away from your body. It should follow your curves without looking like it was painted on. Get it right and you'll have a skirt that you can easily gravitate to on any occasion.



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Clothing that incorporates sequins, leather and lace can make quite a statement and as a result some people are afraid to wear them. Others are unsure of how to incorporate these pieces into their existing wardrobe and wonder whether or not they can pull it off.

If you're one of the unsure, treat them like any other statement piece and build your outfit around them. Make sure that they are your focus and that every other piece of clothing relates in one way or another -- whether it's something that compliments or contrasts.

Below I've provided three looks for each of the materials to help you visualize different ways you might incorporate sequins, leather and lace into your holiday looks. However you decided wear them, just remember to do it with purpose and own it. But most importantly, have fun with it. 'Tis the season!


SEQUINS

First Look: MANGO Sequins Dress
Second Look: ALL SAINTS Panel High Waisted Mini Skirt
Third Look: DAY BIRGER ET MIKKELSEN Sequin Tank Top




LEATHER

First Look: ALICE + OLIVIA Martin Peplum Leather Top
Second Look: MANGO Leather Pencil Skirt
Third Look: HAUTE HIPPIE Suede Shorts




LACE

First Look: CAROLINA HERRERA Lace Blouse
Second Look: ROBERT RODRIGUEZ Brown Tiered Chocolate Lace Skirt
Third Look: BARDOT Layered Lace Short

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But then again, there's the other One. The One who looks absolutely incredible. The One who, when you see her, you do a double-take and can't believe your eyes. The One who can only be described as Va-Va-Voom. And more often than not, she's The One most women want to be.

Here are five simple ways to ensure that you're The One at the office holiday party that they're discussing around the water cooler Monday morning -- in a good way.

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1. Too Short to be Sweet

When it comes to skirts or dresses, there's short and then there's I-can-see-your-a** short. So how do know how short you can go before you're considered trashy instead of classy?

Can you bend over without flashing someone? Can you sit without exposing yourself? Are you able to move, walk and/or dance without someone wanting to slip you a dollar bill? Then you're probably OK.

If you're still not sure, there's always the finger tip rule. Place your hands at your sides and if the skirt is shorter than your middle finger then it's too short. Longer, then you should be safe. It doesn't hurt to wear opaque tights though -- just in case.

2. Flattering Will Get You Everywhere

Before you decide what you wear to your office holiday party, consider what flatters your figure best. Certain styles and cuts will always look best on certain body shapes while other styles are a bit more forgiving or universally flattering.

If you're unsure, hit the shops and try on a variety of outfits and/or dress styles to see which are most complimentary. If you're still undecided, take an honest friend along. Sometimes a second pair of eyes can make a world of difference.

3. Size Matters

Whatever you decide to wear, make sure it fits. Properly. If it's a little snug in certain areas, and it's possible, have it let out. If it's loose in others, have it taken in.

It's pretty obvious when something doesn't fit right and it detracts from the overall success of a look. Too tight can look like you're trying too hard to make it work and depending on the outfit, might seem a bit trashy. Too loose can look sloppy and like you didn't care enough to put in the effort of finding a proper outfit.

4. Take Care of the Girls

Ahh, the girls. There's something about office holiday parties that bring them out into the open. Some women feel that this is the time of the year to show off their boobs. If this is you and you have something to show off, then go for it. But I suggest you tape 'em down, strap 'em in and make sure they stay where they're supposed to. This is not the time nor the place to have a wardrobe malfunction.

5. If the Shoe Fits

What better time to buy a new pair of shoes than the holiday party season? But for the love of all that is good and decent, buy a pair of shoes that you can actually walk in. It also doesn't hurt to wear them in a bit before your party.

There's no point in going to all the effort of buying the right outfit, getting all dolled up and putting great amounts of energy into looking incredible, only to have it overshadowed by the fact that you hobbled and stumbled around all night.

Extra Tip: Know Your Limit

This extra tip, while not included in the list above, has nothing to do with what you wear but is equally important.

The truth of the matter is that some people can hold their liquor and some people can't. Some know their limit and some will keep drinking until they're cut off -- in one way or another.

If you're unsure of how much drink you think you can handle, here's one simple way to keep yourself from dancing on the table or passing out underneath: if you find yourself getting a little unsteady on your feet, then stop drinking. This is the point of no return. Because at this point, you can still save yourself. You can blame it on the shoes.]]> tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.2194256 2012-11-28T17:42:46-05:00 2013-01-28T05:12:01-05:00

Barbara Aleks Hecht http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-aleks-hecht/
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Here are five ways to ensure that you're well prepared and looking fabulous for any and all of your holiday festivities:

1. Admit You Have an Event
Sounds pretty ridiculous doesn't it -- admitting you have an event? But you'd be surprised how many people know that they have an important event coming up, stare at the reminder on their calendar for weeks, then are completely shocked the day of. How do I know this? Because I do it. All the time. The key is to admit it's coming, deal with it head on and be prepared.

Get all your info ahead of time, too. Find out either who will be there or the type of people that will be there. Is it a networking event that's quite business-focused or a holiday party with more of a festive theme? What is the dress code or what will you be expected to wear? Finding out ahead of time can often save you from some embarrassing moments -- like showing up dressed inappropriately.

2. Plan Your Look
Now that you know what you're up against, it's time to plan your look. What sort of impression would you like to make? If you're not sure how to figure it out, imagine yourself walking into the event fashionably late. Most of the people are already there and they turn to look at you when you walk in. Other than the crowd thinking, "Oh there's Susan, stumbling in late again," consider what you'd like others to see.

Do you want them to see the boss looking ever-so-chic? The life of the party, finally arriving in her slinkiest, sexiest, most daring number? Or maybe you'd like to be seen as a well dressed, approachable person looking like she'd fit right in? The choice is yours.

3. Know the Forecast
The next step is to know the weather forecast for the day of your event. As we all know, this is something you can plan for but not always rely on. But if your event is in the middle of December and you living in Winnipeg, you can pretty much count on it being cold. And even though you'll probably be inside a nicely heated room, a summer outfit just wouldn't quite cut it. Awkward.

4. Start Pulling Pieces
All right. You've admitted you have an event, you know the look you're going for, you're prepared for the elements (probably), so now it's time to pull some outfits.

Take a look at what you have in your closet that would work. Does it still fit? Does it have any tears or stains? Do you have all the pieces you need to accessorize it? How about the shoes? Are they in good shape or do they need some TLC?

If you've got all the pieces and everything looks good, fits and is ready to go then you're good. But if something needs altering, cleaning or if you need to do some shopping then make sure to leave yourself enough time prior to the event to get it done.

5. Put It All Together
It's the day of the event, you're well prepared and now it's time to put it all together. If you're planning on doing any prep work, like hair, nails, shaving or waxing, leave yourself enough time to get the job done. All these little things take time and add up. You'd hate to run out of time and find yourself doing your nails in the cab on the ride over.

And one last final piece of advice. Enjoy! Revel in the fact that you planned ahead, were well organized and came out looking fabulous.]]> tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.2124525 2012-11-15T00:00:03-05:00 2013-01-14T05:12:01-05:00

Barbara Aleks Hecht http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-aleks-hecht/
After years of shopping for myself and my clients, I've realized that there are three things I always consider when hunting for the perfect sweater. As a matter of fact, these three things can also be applied to any other tops, jackets or coats you may be considering.

Body Type
Being familiar with your body type or body shape and knowing how to dress for it can be instrumental in finding the perfect sweater. No point in buying a sweater that looks great on a hanger but loses its appeal as soon as you put it on.

Once you know which cuts and styles are best suited to your particular shape, you'll know which styles of sweaters to sift through and which ones to avoid.

Colour
Similar to knowing your body type, knowing which colours flatter your skin tone will also simplify the shopping process. With so many options out there, it sure helps to know which colours to choose from. It definitely saves time in the fitting room.

I find that many people have an idea of which colours look good on them, but most aren't sure why. If you're unsure, take a look at what happens to your face once you put a certain colour up to it. A suitable colour will have a freshening effect on your overall appearance, while an unsuitable colour will have the opposite effect -- making you look tired, emphasizing dark circles, etc.

Material
As with any other type of clothing you might be purchasing, know what it is you're buying. Always read the labels to find out what the item is made of. Different yarns will wash and wear differently. Some might have a little more give or stretch than others and keep their shape better, some will pill more than others and some will retain their colour better over time.

Familiarize yourself with the care instructions so that you know if the sweater is right for you. If you're unsure of a certain material, don't be afraid to ask a sales person. If they don't know, well, there's always Google.

Here are some of my sweater picks for the season, along with four different examples of how to wear them. Hopefully you'll find them inspirational and useful in your hunt for the perfect sweater this season. If you're unable to find one, don't worry, there's always those Hot Toddies.



Featured: Jane Norman, Cable Front Buckle Jumper $50
Top Left: Blumarine, Peplum Sweater $1160
Bottom Left: Rick Owens, Dafne Merino Wool Sweater $690




Featured: Vince, Belted Knitted Wool Cardigan $325
Top Left: Kenzo, Oversize Lined Pullover $415
Bottom Left: Vero Moda, Sweater, Talent Pink $75




Featured: Joie, Wesley Sweater $238
Top Left: Rick Owens, Drape Butterfly Sweater $650
Bottom Left: Zigga, Pullover $50




Featured: romwe.com, Batwing Oversized Yellow Jumper $35
Top Left: Ralph Lauren Black, Anthracite Cashmere Cable Poncho $1475
Bottom Left: sheinside.com, Blue Batwing Sleeve Drawstring Loose Sweater $45]]> tag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.2077243 2012-11-06T12:17:35-05:00 2013-01-06T05:12:01-05:00

Barbara Aleks Hecht http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barbara-aleks-hecht/
I met a fella the other day. His name is Steve. Steve and I were discussing what he considers hot in a woman and according to him, passion is hot. And not just in the bedroom. A woman who is passionate about life, other people or anything that interests her, is sexy. Yet once that woman's passion crosses the line to fanaticism, obsession or a little cray-cray, she loses her appeal. And apparently that line is extremely fine.

I asked Steve to provide me with a few examples of what he meant and here is what he shared:

• When a woman throws clothes around the room during an intimate moment, that's passion. When she throws those clothes out the window, well, that's a little bizarre.



• When a woman ties her consenting beau to her bedposts to spice things up in the bedroom, that's exciting. Leaving him there when she takes off for work, a little disturbing.



• When a woman follows behind said beau's car in her own car because his brake lights are out, that shows concern. Following him every single place he goes, a tad obsessive.



• Wearing a little extra sexy makeup -- hot. Painting your face like the Joker -- not.

Really Steve? Who have you been dating?

Now I've been known to lose my cool before and usually when it happens, looking hot or being sexy is the last thing on my mind. And evidently, the actions of some women or the efforts they make to express themselves and their emotions is not always fully appreciated. But I have to wonder if there are some people out there who find Steve's version of line-crossing behaviour hot.

They say that there's someone for everyone, so it would stand to reason that there must be some people that are attracted to outlandish, peculiar and over-the-top behaviour. Because I'm always on the lookout for what people consider to be hot, I wonder if the majority of people share Steve's views or if he and the people with similar beliefs are the minority.

So what do you say? Majority or minority? Anyone out there on Team Steve or can crazy really be hot?

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