Kathryne Grisim2013-05-22T02:32:07-04:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.ca/author/index.php?author=kathryne-grisimCopyright 2008, HuffingtonPost.com, Inc.HuffingtonPost Blogger Feed for Kathryne GrisimGood old fashioned elbow grease.This Christmas We Were Given the Gift of a Childtag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.23701822012-12-27T16:26:04-05:002013-02-26T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
I met Stephanie of World Vision in the fall of this year and we made an instant connection -- why, I am not really sure. I have for many years known of the good work that the organization does and Bekah and Seb already support a foster child. I asked Steph if she would do a special favour for me and she was very obliging.
We got the news last week that our World Vision foster child who's name is Ankita was born April 5, 2012! We also know that she lives with both of her parents. Her mother is unemployed and her father is a farmer. Her family is Hindu and the language they speak is Marwari. She lives in the community of Alwar in Rajasthan, India. World Vision sent us this complete profile of work that is being accomplished in her community including:
Education
◦Children at 13 schools are studying in an improved learning environment with new desks and chairs.
◦Four para-educators have been appointed to schools where there is a shortage of teachers, reducing the number of students per teacher and strengthening the quality of education.
◦100 bicycles were distributed to children who travel more than four kilometres to school, making it possible for them to get to school safely and on time.
◦Four campaigns were held on the importance of education for girls.
Health and Nutrition
◦45 trained health volunteers are working with pregnant women and breastfeeding mothers to build their knowledge of child health and nutrition.
◦Health education programs have been established in 52 villages.
◦With the help of partner organizations, we held awareness campaigns on sanitation and hygiene at 47 child care centers.
Water, Sanitation and Hygiene
◦25 villages now have clean water from new water reservoirs, helping reduce the spread of waterborne illness. The community has taken responsibility for cleaning and maintaining the tanks.
Agriculture and Environment
◦Much of the harvest is lost due to improper storage, contributing to food shortages. 423 families were provided with storage bins to preserve grain for lean times.
◦Farmers have formed 47 associations and are working together to improve production and profitability. We supported their efforts by supplying seeds and irrigation pipes.
◦423 farmers attended training on improved farming methods and crop diversity to increase crop yields.
Economic Development
◦583 people are earning income for their families through activities such as raising goats, running small grocery stores, and operating flour mills. A woman who opened a small grocery store told us, "World Vision has really helped us in the hour of our need. Our meager wages were not enough to sustain the family and there was no hope for the future. Now my dreams are coming true."
Community Development
◦Community members have set up 29 self-help groups and other community-based organizations to lead development efforts and help families improve their household income and living conditions.
Child and Humanitarian Protection
◦Women from the self-help groups celebrated Girl Child Day together and discussed ways to empower women and eradicate female feticide, which persists in many areas of India due to the low social status of girls and the expense of providing a dowry for daughters on their wedding day.
◦2,075 children obtained their birth certificates through our partnership with the local government and other organizations. Birth registration is a basic right of citizenship and is required to access many important services.
And so this Christmas, we have been given the gift of a child. She is a baby girl that we will never hold or hug or shower with kisses but she is precious to us in every way and we are delighted to have become pseudo Grandparents.
Originally posted at www.boomchicaboom.ca
Check out my other blog site at www.foodmusings.ca]]>Ten Foods You Should Be Eating More Oftag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.22305832012-12-05T00:15:33-05:002013-02-03T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
This concept has always been of interest to me, but it seemed so very complicated to put into practice, until I met Mairlyn Smith, that is. Mairlyn is the most accessible best-selling cookbook author I have encountered (she is also a Second-City Comedy Troupe Alumnus). She speaks plain language in a first-hand manner and you instantly trust her knowledge and her advice. Recently, my husband and I got a "speed-dating" style opportunity to hear what she has to say about including 10 particular foods that will "rock your socks off."
1. Barley (and other insoluble fibres). These are considered gut-healthy fibers because they add bulk to the diet but do not dissolve in water, so they pass through the gastrointestinal tract relatively intact, and speed up the passage of food and waste through your tummy. Other natural sources are whole wheat, whole grains, wheat bran, corn bran, seeds, nuts, couscous, brown rice, Bulgar, zucchini, celery, broccoli, cabbage, onions, tomatoes, carrots, cucumbers, green beans, dark leafy vegetables, raisins, grapes, fruit, and root vegetable skins.
2. Oats suck up "bad" blood cholesterol and major toxins like mercury. I know from other reading that these foods include oatmeal, oat cereal, lentils, apples, oranges, pears, oat bran, strawberries, nuts, flax-seeds, beans, dried peas, blueberries, cucumbers, celery, and carrots.
3. Mushrooms and other vitamin D rich foods (salmon, tuna, soy, fortified foods like oj, low fat milk, and cereal) protect your lungs and up your immune system. And because I am the age that I am, I need vitamin D to help my body absorb the calcium rich diet that will ensure my bone health, as I further "blossom" and mature.
4. Canola Oil is high in two "good" fats that are essential in your diet because your body can't make them. One protects against heart attacks and strokes by helping to lower bad cholesterol. The other is important for the brain and for the growth and development of infants. Compared to all other vegetable oils on the market, canola oil has the lowest levels of the fats that are "bad" for human health. One serving of canola oil each day will deliver about a quarter of all the vitamin E you need. Vitamin E is an antioxidant, and is known to protect against cancer and memory loss.
5. Onions & Garlic (and Scallions) act as powerful antioxidants, stimulate the immune system and reduce inflammation. Mairlyn also added that they are anti-fungal, so maybe I can clear up the mossy stuff that is growing between my toes (JK, wanted to see if you were still awake). These are so easy to add to so many dishes. Tonight as an example, we enjoyed left over prime rib in sandwiches on dark pumpernickel rye bread. I sauteed up a mess of onions and garlic (in canola oil) to top the meat. Oh, yum.
6. Dark Green Leafy Vegetables have the most concentrated source of nutrition of any food. They are a rich source of minerals (including iron, calcium, potassium, and magnesium) and vitamins, including vitamins K, C, E, and many of the B vitamins. (I didn't even know that there was a vitamin K). I particularly like arugula for its peppery taste but you can also include more kale, spinach and bok choy into your meals. Mairlyn suggests that you build your evening meal around a leafy green vegetable which will be a mind shift for me, as I typically create my meals around a protein and a carb.
7. Nuts! Well I wouldn't call Mairlyn nuts but she is pretty kookie. Mairlyn is very petite and she scooped up a small handful of almonds (she prefers walnuts) to illustrate that even though nuts are a very important inclusion in your diet, you should limit them to a small amount. I imagined the quantity would be just right to top a salad or my morning yogurt.
8. Berries are the easiest of the list for me to get really excited about. Mairlyn adds that she only eats locally harvest fruits which are now out of season so she substitutes frozen berries at this time of year. I too always have a wide selection of frozen berries to choose from. Some bags are the flash frozen strawberries from u-picks in our area and other are the wild blueberries that are now available in the freezer section. Not only do I always have something available to whip up a quick dessert like Platz but we love berry sauces with pork tenderloin, or mixed with garlic and balsamic vinegar as a salad dressing.
9. Orange fruits and veggies hold an abundance of antioxidants, vitamins and fibre and are good for your skin, eyes and heart, and they may also decrease your risk of cancer. The best-known nutrient in orange foods is beta carotene, a powerful antioxidant which gives sunny fruits and vegetables their brilliant colour.
Experts say beta carotene is not only good for eye health it can also delay cognitive aging and protect skin from sun damage. Orange foods are chock full of vitamin C, an antioxidant which boosts the immune system, protects against cardiovascular disease and helps rebuild collagen in the skin. Marilyn even referred to the benefits of using orange zest, which may explain why I am often compelled to eat the skin of my oranges. Perhaps I should listen to my body more often.
10. I can't for the life of me remember Mairlyn referring to salmon but I understand that it is on her list. So here is a good illustration that I need to eat more foods that a) will help with my hearing or b) increase my memory capacity. Perhaps it was because we were also sipping on a rich deep red wine at the time or that we were tucking into our barley risotto, so I was admittedly distracted.
So, there you have it. Focus on eating more of these and you will find that you are eating less of the empty calories. Oh yeah, it was my youngest sister who gave me that wise food advice! Perhaps I remembered because for breakfast I had a orange with my Greek yogurt and bran (and vitamin C is good for the brain)!
Kath's quote: "Among the liveliest of my memories are those of eating and drinking; and I would sooner give up some of my delightful remembered walks, green trees, cool skies, and all, than to lose my images of suppers eaten on Sabbath evenings at the end of those walks." -Mary Antin
Originally posted on my food and travel blog: www.foodmusings.ca. Check out my Boomer Lifestyle Blog at www.boomchicaboom.
]]>My Husband and I Are Newspaper-Sharing Soulmatestag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.22286632012-12-04T08:46:37-05:002013-02-03T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
I start from the back of the Winnipeg Free Press and savour the "Random Acts of Kindness," the home section (even though we are not in the market), all the career listings (even though I am not seeking a job), the lengthy features of the FYI (Feed Your Intellect) section, the pull out book section (of course), the obits and a little Saturday feature that I love entitled "Streetstyle" where the paper randomly intercepts someone that they think looks well put-together and interviews them about their wardrobe. I am secretly hoping that I will one day get stopped so that I can brag about all of my designer label bargains picked up at my favourite women's co-op shop in the North End, my support of the Nygard business (I know that this one will raise some eyebrows), my exquisite hand-crafted jewellery from my daughter's beau and my sentimental items obtained in Europe, Israel and Isla Mujeres, Mexico.
The other reason why our newspaper reading styles complement each other is that my husband loves a neat and tidy paper to read through and I am more haphazard and chaotic: I pick up and throw down pages and sections, as I go back and forth to my laptop to look something up, record a thought or reserve a library book online. I often begin my reading in the morning and then get distracted and take on a project, coming back to finish it later in the day as my "reward" for a task completed.
But because I know that he is very fastidious about his newspaper reading, I earnestly shelf my "style" in favour of his. This seems very "un-liberated" of me, doesn't it? Well my intention is, that because I know that this is important to my husband of over 28 years, I can "speak" his love language to him and show him how I cherish him, with this small gesture.
Another trait of our recent years is that hormones create early mornings for me. I could be finished the entire paper by now but I have left it completely intact for the time that I hear him coming down the stairs. The paper has already been delivered (literally hucked) at our front door. If I hadn't already been awake and sitting here in a pool of artificial light, I would surely have heard the thunk from our upstairs bedroom. The art of newspaper delivery has changed over the years, but I will leave my observations of that story for another day.
Kath's quote: "Jessamine recoiled from the paper as if it were a snake. 'A lady does not read the newspaper. The society pages, perhaps, or the theater news. Not this filth.'
'But you are not a lady, Jessamine--,' Charlotte began.
'Dear me,' said Will. 'Such harsh truths so early in the morning cannot be good for the digestion.'"
― Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel
]]>Real Men Like Sheldon Kennedy Speak Out Against Abusetag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.21667602012-11-22T08:19:43-05:002013-01-22T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/ Beyond Borders is an organization which speaks out against child sexual exploitation and it was their 10th anniversary Media Awards. The room was full of hometown media and sport celebrities. Winnipegger Rod Black was the MC and I was so impressed by his passion for the cause, his wit and eloquence. Another person with local roots, Diana Swain, won an award for her investigative reporting for The Fifth Estate on the unspoken abuse within Scouts Canada. Also on the front line of this topic was Global personality Eva Kovacs whose husband is Jeff Mager of Truth North, the owners of the Winnipeg Jets. It was Jeff who first introduced Eva to the Keynote Speaker for the event, Sheldon Kennedy.
Sheldon too is Manitoba-bred, having been born in Brandon, Manitoba where I lived for a brief time and where many, many great hockey players are from. I am aware of the Sheldon Kennedy story in the same detail as most of you -- that is, I saw the newscasts that revealed his circumstances. I did not know that I would be so moved to hear the details freshly told. Sheldon is a big, tough guy and as he joked this afternoon: "I was more used to getting arrested than getting awards." As he was introduced, it was said that Sheldon was living proof that "beyond pain, there is hope."
He arrived at the podium in tears and shed them again as he thanked Roz Prober who the Media Award is named for. After his many thanks, his message was brief but I intend to learn more as I now have a copy of his book entitled: Why I Didn't Say Anything.
From the book's back cover:
In 1996, Sheldon Kennedy rocked the insular world of Canadian hockey by announcing that his former minor-league coach, Graham James -- the Hockey News 1989 Man of the Year -- had sexually abused him more than 300 times.
He said simply, that the answer to this question used as the book's title, is primarily about shame. What a world we live in when lives can be shattered by the sexual aggression of perpetrators feeding upon the most vulnerable of society-youth and children. How can this pain be stopped? How can this brokenness be fixed? Sheldon said today "Just show up. That's how change happens." What Sheldon Kennedy did, when he revealed his abuser, demonstrated the stuff of real men, with strength and courage beyond comprehension.
Rod Black closed with this comment, making reference to the most common response when persons are asked the question, "who is the most famous hockey player you know?" The answer is usually "Wayne Gretzky." "But Decades from now, the most important hockey player in the history of the game, will be Sheldon Kennedy."
Kath's quote: "One does not need to wear shackles to be a slave." -Carolyn Mullin (another award recipient at the event).
]]>Six Benefits of Hanging Out with Toddlerstag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.21195232012-11-13T12:02:36-05:002013-01-13T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
1) We get lots of exercise: running up and down the stairs, lifting, rolling and chasing. After one evening at the play structure at the park, we discovered muscles we didn't even know that we had. When a family joins us for a weekend at the cottage, we have to plan for an afternoon nap when they leave.
2) We get to read all the books that we and our kids loved when they were little: Goodnight Moon, Runaway Bunny, Love you Forever, Thomas' Snowsuit, Skyful of Babies, I Have to go Pee and Jillian Jigs. I have inadvertently memorized some of the pages: "Jillian, Jillian Jillian Jigs, It looks like your room has been lived in by pigs..."
3) We get lots of kisses and lots of hugs good-bye. Even though our grown children still embrace us, there is something especially sweet about a wet sloppy kiss and a chubby arm hooked around your neck.
4) We get to play. I am not very good at this. When I was a kid I spent a lot of time alone and so I am a solitary player. I was always afraid of getting dirty and/or breaking my toys when I was a kid. Doug has taught me over the years of our marriage, how to play and it is a skill that I am grateful for. Doug on the other hand, loves to play and can make a game or an adventure out of the most mundane circumstances. The little ones come to me to read or be soothed but they go to Doug to wrestle and imagine.
5) The parents get a little break. This is the most gratifying part. We have had the time of our lives and require no thanks in return. But the words and expressions of gratitude from the parents, elevate our efforts, to an entirely new level.
6) We stay young (or at least we feel young for a time). The time helps us remember an earlier period in our lives. A time that we cherish and miss.
I challenge you to not sit back and think "but, we don't have any grand kids yet." Volunteer at a Y Neighbours Group, at the community centre, neighbourhood daycare or the nursery at church. Find the little ones who don't have grandparents in their lives or their city. The benefits are as long as your arms. Arms that can be put to very good use.
Kath's quote: "Grandparents are a family's greatest treasure, the founders of a loving legacy, the greatest storytellers, the keepers of traditions that linger on in cherished memory. Grandparents are the family's strong foundation. Their very special love sets them apart. Through happiness and sorrow, through their special love and caring, grandparents keep a family close at heart." ~author unknown
]]>I Volunteer...as a Baby Huggertag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.20825762012-11-07T17:59:48-05:002013-01-07T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
I often said to myself, when I retire, this is something that I really want to do. And then one day, I thought "what the heck am I waiting for? I could do this right now." So, almost 20 years after our own hospital stay, I was accepted to be a volunteer "baby hugger."
Once a week for the past four years, I head to the ward that has been assigned to me where there are sometimes little ones, that for a variety of reasons are completely on their own in the hospital. This is no one's fault -- just the circumstances of life. In other cases, there are parents who have stayed by their babies' crib-side and desperately need a break.
Perhaps it is to rush home for their other children or to make a phone call or buy their supper. This is where I come in. I don a hospital gown (and mask and gloves if the child is in isolation) and spend a couple of hours in my special bliss.
Sometimes I gather up some toys or read or sing nursery rhymes or play patty cake. Other times, I get out a stroller or a wagon and walk the halls to provide a change of scene. When diapers need changing, or bottles need giving, I am there for that too. But my favourite moments are when I can soothe a baby who is being examined by a doctor, or provide a finger to grasp or coax out a smile. And the very best times are when a little one relaxes and falls asleep in my arms and against my heart.
I am quite sure that I get far more than I give. All my cares and stresses melt away. I am in my happy place. I can't say enough about the joys of volunteering in a manner like this. Pick you passion and volunteer.
"Service to others is the payment you make for your space here on earth." -Mohammed Ali
]]>Learning How to Drink at a Beer and Cheese Partytag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.20579792012-11-01T17:14:17-04:002013-01-01T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
First up was Molson M paired with Oka Classique. This was my first taste of Molson M and I appreciated its creaminess and lack of bitterness. The selected cheese complemented the sweet, maltiness of the beer. The carbonation of the beer cut through the richness of the cheese and cleansed the palate. I intend to remember this for my next formal dinner party and surprise guests with a glass of beer instead of the sorbet cleansing course.
Rickard's White is one of my favourite "boutique" beer. This is perhaps because I am drawn to the fresh, crisp taste of cilantro and the beer is fashioned with ground coriander which is the seed of the herb. The result is a drink with a slight spiciness and a refreshing finish. An intense, yet velvety Brie was served as a complement.
Last, but not least, was my favourite pairing: Molson Canadian 67 Sublime with a spicy Monterrey Jack. Since I have long been a lover of light Mexican beer with a wedge of lime squeezed into the bottle, this beer is my new "go to." The hint of natural citrus flavour in the beer is the perfect way to cool and refresh your mouth after a hot taste of the jalapeno infused cheese. If you close your eyes, you could be lying under a palapa on a Mexican beach.
Throughout this tasting, we were hosted by a top female executive from Molson's (her job title is VP of Beer Reverence -- how awesome is that?) who coached us to raise our glass to a light source in order to observe the colour, clarity and foam of the beer. Then to bring the glass to our neck level and fan it right and left under our noses (more than anything, this looks really cool)! Next, we were encouraged to discover the first scents of the elixir and then to release even more aromas from the hops and malts by swirling our glasses to release additional carbonation. Our noses were plunged deep into our glasses for the next step, to take in a long, deep smell. And finally, it was time to drink!
We were instructed to allow enough beer to cover our entire tongue and taste receptors, to keep our mouths closed and breath through our noses (the opposite of swimming lessons). This is called "quaffing". And thankfully, we were not instructed to spit but to ensure that the beer flowed down the back of our mouths where there are other important taste receptors. Oh yes, and then we were to breathe. "Quaff, swallow, breathe."
Our son is studying to become a brew-master and is already a beer connoisseur. I hope that he will be impressed by his ole Mom and her newly acquired swilling techniques.
Kath's quote: "He was a wise man who invented beer."-Plato
]]>An Amazing We Day in Manitobatag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.20578382012-11-01T12:06:40-04:002013-01-01T05:12:01-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/Free the Children Founder Craig Kielburger, he shared that his own life was riddled with war and hunger but that he has been given the "gift of a happy life". He attributes this happiness to his hard work and that even very early in his life, he knew that he wanted to learn and make a difference. This, in spite of living in the middle of nowhere with no electricity or telephone. He never boarded a train until he was 20 years old.
He imparted these words of wisdom to the 18,000 school aged kids who sat quietly with respect and reverence:
"Don't allow anyone to divide, because some exploiters will try to.
Never fear those who are trying to intimidate you. Be on the side of the truth.
Honesty, justice and the truth. This is what we want."
He referred back to his contribution to the dissolution of the cold war with US President Ronald Reagan. He recalls saying to President Reagan:
"A nuclear war can never be won and must never be fought."
He added: "We need to move towards a world without nuclear weapons. We need to rid the world of the militarization of politics, of civilization."
When asked about his hopes for his great granddaughter (4 years old):
"I want her to live in a world free and just, in friendship and co-operation."
And then in conclusion, he said to the crowd:
"Be brave, be courageous".
The hushed silence had ended, the crowd roared in appreciation.
I was so impressed with so many other speakers but as a food blogger, I was particularly thrilled with the following new Free the Children announcement:
"The partnership includes the introduction of an Agriculture and Food Security pillar to Free The Children's long-term and sustainable Adopt a Village program, which helps lift rural communities in developing countries out of poverty through long term sustainable infrastructure and programming. PotashCorp is the Founding Partner of Free The Children's fifth Adopt a Village pillar, which joins the program's four existing pillars of Education, Health, Clean Water and Sanitation and Alternative Income and Livelihood. The Agriculture and Food Security pillar will be added to programming in all eight of Free The Children's Adopt a Village countries: India, Nicaragua, Sierra Leone, Ecuador, Kenya, Haiti, Ghana and rural China."
Kath's quote: "In the last analysis civilization is based upon the food supply."-Will Durant
]]>Reasons to Attend We Day in Winnipegtag:www.huffingtonpost.com,2012:/theblog//3.20170922012-10-29T17:28:16-04:002012-12-29T05:12:02-05:00Kathryne Grisimhttp://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryne-grisim/
We Day is a movement of young people leading local and global, social change. The We Day organizers believe that they are the first generation that can truly end the worst forms of poverty and remove the barriers to youth being agents of social change. They push forward the boundaries of charity, social entrepreneurship and create change. "It's a worldwide movement that proves anyone can change the world." In order to succeed, Free the Children and Me to We have forged a relationship, and work together through We Day.
These are the notes that I hastily scribbled at the last We Day event that I attended:
"Do all the things that you think you cannot." Mia Farrow
"Make changes in your own life." Vice President Al Gore
"When you pray, move your feet." Desmond Tutu
"Time, knowledge, compassion is available." Rick Hansen
"Age does not define what I can do." Hannah Taylor
"Redefine possible." Spencer West
Freedom, love, trust, hope." Shawn Desman
"We are the generation that we have been waiting for." Craig Kielburger
"Africa will capture your heart, but it will also break it." unknown
"There are no can'ts or won'ts, only hows." unknown
Important to me, is whether We Day practices what they preach. This is what my research unearthed:
In the past year alone, there were:
92,121 trees planted to offset carbon emissions
275,000 people inspired by Me to We speakers, books and leadership programs
8 summer leadership academies held across North America, inspiring 439 young leaders
145,600 volunteer hours served by 1,300 travellers including youth, families and corporate groups on Me to We trips
500 Maasai mothers in employed full-time as Artisans
So why would a Boomer like me be interested in screaming and jumping around with 18,000 youth when I could be sitting at home with a mug of coffee in my turquoise house coat? Because:
I am a shameless idealist.
I believe that we cannot inspire our children to make a difference in this world unless we stand along side them rather than watching them from the sidelines.
My premise is food=love and this does not just mean in places of the world where it is aplenty but in those areas of the earth, where it is not.
I plan on inviting my daughter who has taken classes through the Canadian School of Peacekeeping and is currently studying for her degree in International Development at the University of Winnipeg.
She is looking at Kenya as one possibility to complete her practicum and I would love to visit the Maasai Mara and perhaps volunteer with Free the Children, building schools alongside local community members.
This will likely be the only time that I will be in the same room as the President of the Soviet Union and Nobel Peace Laureate, Mikhail Gorbachev. I hear that he is a snappy dresser (JK).
The Keg Steakhouse and Bar is a sponsor so the food will be good.....
Kath's quote: "Food, like a loving touch or a glimpse of divine power, has that ability to comfort."-Norman Kolpas]]>