writer, poet, guidance education advocate, loving Mum and Gramma
A committed writer and speaker with stories to share based on many life lessons. I found a voice and style that matches my spirit. The hope is that these articles inspire reflection and conversation.
After a rewarding teaching career that spanned 40+ years, writing became my next step. Many years spent as a guidance education trainer gave me a unique perspective on the lives of children. Divorce twenty years ago provided first- hand knowledge of that life altering experience. As a very single parent, I am devoted to my wonderful family.
Every day I knock on the sky and believe impossible things before breakfast. It is all shared with the reader.
Losing a loving parent is considered one of life's greatest heartbreaks. It is even more challenging when that death is connected to a holiday that celebrates the gift of a good father. I was only 19 when my father died 48 years ago.
A parenting book club would bring together people involved in a shared experience. It might be combined with a play date with a child carer to oversee the children while the parents talk. There are any number of ways such a group might manifest itself.
Separation and divorce bring a veritable banquet of reasons to be angry because the circumstances are often unfair. You probably didn't stop caring or stop trying to make it work. Anger grows out of that loss of control, for yourself and your future. This anger is hung on that line of uncertainty that trails back months, maybe years behind you.
Pulling the family together for a meal has many challenges at any time of year. But as spring heads into summer, the threads of family life drift outside, each person often with their own destination. Family bonds are 'the ties that bind' and mealtime is an important aspect of that bonding.
These four agreements are very simple, very clear and precise life lessons. They are neither glamorous nor catchy, just lessons for leading a fulfilling life. Remind your children to be fearless, always do their best and always keep trying. The world needs people like that more than ever.
Extensive rigorous research demonstrates that an emotionally secure child has a healthy understanding of interpersonal skills and improved academic performance. Every parent knows the pain of seeing their child in distress over some emotional hurt. As parents we must accept that we cannot make 'boo boo's go away for their entire life. Let them feel it and learn some agility skills. Dexterity counts in the game of life too.
Human trafficking can be found in metropolitan areas across Canada. It is never too late or too early for a parent to begin the discussion. Hesitating only allows the situation to become more entrenched if your child is attaching herself to the life provided by a pimp.
The question is - as parents, how do we teach our children effective stress management tools? My philosophy has always been "begin at the beginning." Ask your child to identify how they know they are feeling stressed.
First and foremost answer the question why you want to write your memoir. What is driving your need to write? The memoir you are writing is your story, unique to you. Pack your fear of honesty at the door and answer why this story is important to you. The truth frees you to be who you are honestly -- as a person.
I was married to a liar for 25 years. At a very personal level, I have first-hand knowledge of the devastation lying creates in people's lives. I know that liars can be clever, charming, smug, and thoroughly convincing. There is a reason for their lying. In my case it was to hide a very big secret.
In 2016, as our children watched, bullying became legitimate. What we accept without dissent, what we allow to be framed as normal, alters according to our level of desensitization. We have become increasingly desensitized to bullying behaviour.
If you are over 50, then the days of bar hopping back in the 1960s, 70s or 80s are long gone. Chances are there are few potential suitors warming a bar stool in today's bar scene. But online there are a multitude of dating possibilities. Feeling a bit anxious about taking the step if you are a late blooming dating neophyte is common.
It was a novel suggestion. What would I say to my former spouse if given the opportunity? We haven't spoken in nearly two decades. Twenty five years of marriage is so far behind me now that most of my life has been without him. I grew up after he left, a painful but invigorating process.
Musical training such as participating in a choir develops language. Being in a choir means reading the lyrics of songs with the tempo of the music. Playing an instrument requires another type of reading and language. It is the ability to read music and transpose that to the instrument. Both activities require an immediacy that is brain training at its best.