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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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What Happens To The Children Of Extreme Narcissists?

I recently wrote a post about who marries an extreme narcissist. Now, I'm going to talk about what happens to the children of extreme narcissists. In my practice as a psychiatrist, I've encountered many such children and they've all been adversely affected by having one or both parents with this personality type.
02/23/2017 04:50 EST
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Celebrating Michelle Obama's Legacy Of Kindness

She inspired Americans to be more caring and respectful toward one-another, as she never treated anyone with less than the utmost respect. For that reason, she won the love, respect and admiration of her fellow Americans. Many First Ladies are respected and admired, it's true, but few were as deeply loved as Mrs. Obama has been.
01/17/2017 04:09 EST
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Stop Being A User And Open Your Heart To Others

Using people or things isn't a valid solution to our feelings of loneliness, emptiness and alienation. Consuming things -- or other people -- has never made anyone happy. That's why someone who uses other people or things in order to fill the void is compelled to keep on being a user. It never feels like enough.
01/03/2017 03:31 EST
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The Most Effective Managers Are Kind, Not Nice

Even though the workplace is not the same as the home, and even though the people at work aren't our family, when we're grouped together day after day with the same individuals, we human beings naturally have family-type reactions to one-another. In other words, interpersonal dynamics at work will often mirror familial ones.
10/18/2016 07:49 EDT
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Learning To Communicate With Your Teen

Teens need to feel connected to their parents if they're going to open up to them, but it's harder these days for teens to connect. Social media makes it easier to be isolated and disconnected from parents and peers, as teens can opt to plug in to their technology and stay plugged in, rather than build real-life relationships.
09/28/2016 11:39 EDT
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Grace VanderWaal Deserved To Win AGT, But Should She Have?

I think that Grace VanderWaal is really special, and I would have preferred it if the big success could have been delayed a bit, so that she could have maintained her innocence for just a little while longer and enjoyed the rest of her childhood. And is Las Vegas the place that any decent parent wants their twelve-year-old hanging out in?
09/16/2016 03:39 EDT
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What It Takes To Raise A Teenager

Parents need to walk that fine line between allowing their teens to fail and make mistakes, so that they can learn from these experiences, and keeping them from being self-destructive or self-defeating. It's important that teens see that their actions have consequences and learn from their own experiences what works for them and what doesn't work. The parents' role is to make sure that the consequences to their teen aren't so severe that there's no coming back.
09/13/2016 12:14 EDT
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Ryan Lochte Lied. So What Does That Mean To The Rest Of Us?

Ryan Lochte's lie shows us that often, lying just makes things worse. If we mess up, it's better to just admit it and take the consequences like a grown-up. If we lie to avoid getting into trouble, we can make a lot more trouble for ourselves, in the long run. And if we don't get caught in our lie, that's even worse. We can start to think that we can get away with more bad behaviour, or that lying like this is acceptable.
08/22/2016 05:20 EDT
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Leslie Jones And The Crime Of Shattering Male Expectations

The fact that Ms. Jones loves herself -- the fact of her obvious confidence and the ease with which she speaks her mind -- well, that's an awful affront to the misogynists who expect a "woman like her," i.e. "not pretty enough" or light-skinned enough (in their tiny minds) to stay in the background with her mouth firmly shut.
07/22/2016 04:09 EDT
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Lessons Learned From My Year Of Working Minimally

I'm in great shape, emotionally and physically... I've learned some new tips for balancing all the things that I like to do, and as a result, I'm enjoying my practice in a way that I hadn't been, previously. Taking time away from work has renewed my love for the job and has made me a better therapist, as a result.
06/06/2016 11:28 EDT