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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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Why We Need to Boycott This Year's Lily-White Oscars

It's almost as though the many brilliant actors, writers, and directors of colour aren't even considered for the vote. It's like they don't even factor into the equation. I can tolerate a lack of imagination in the vote, where people are often rewarded more for their years of service than for the quality of their current work, but I can't sit by saying nothing about the shocking lack of diversity in the pool of nominees, two years in a row.
01/22/2016 05:34 EST
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Bill Cosby's Charges Show Us How The Legal System Fails Women

I've been writing about the politics of sexual assault for a while now, and it seems apparent that for a woman who's been sexually assaulted, the decision to go to the police and to press charges is fraught with complications. She not only has to consider the discomfort of her assault becoming public knowledge, but she must face the daunting possibility that her reputation will be dragged through the mud by the defendant's attorney; that the DA will choose, as Mr. Coster did, not to prosecute; or that the judge will find for the defendant.
12/31/2015 11:19 EST

Steve Harvey's Miss Universe Mistake Offers A Powerful Lesson

I felt fortunate to witness this incredibly awkward moment was because it illustrated to me an important lesson both in human frailty and in human resilience. It was one of the worst possible things that could go wrong -- followed by a surprising and excellent recovery which I saw as tremendously reassuring.
12/28/2015 03:38 EST

Why You Should Resolve To Be Kinder In 2016

When you're loving and giving, the people on the receiving end of your kindness and generosity are touched by your warmth and it often moves them and inspires them to be more loving and giving to those around them, as well.
12/08/2015 12:39 EST

How To Really Be There For Someone Who Is Dying

I've learned that when you want to support someone who's critically ill, loving them isn't enough; you have to meet them where they are. That means letting go of your wishful thinking, your denial, or your selfish need to put a positive spin on things and allowing the other person -- the one who's dying -- to set the tone.
11/16/2015 04:48 EST
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People-Pleasing Always Backfires

Instead of getting what they want, the overly nice person will be used, abused and belittled. It's very confusing to them. Often, they think that what's called for is to be more pleasing. Of course, this only increases the persecution they're experiencing.
11/11/2015 03:57 EST