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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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Facing Adversity Can Turn Us Into Better People

The difference between someone who's a victim and someone who's a survivor is the ability to take the crappiest moments in life and turn them into fertilizer. When we can use these painful times as fuel for our personal growth, we can move through any type of difficulty with grace and resilience.
07/16/2015 08:28 EDT
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How to Make the Best Choices for Your Life

Sometimes, it can be hard to change. We may lack the necessary tools to help us understand our motivations and improve our decision-making process. There are six helpful tools that I would recommend for anyone who wants to make better choices and live a better life.
07/07/2015 12:18 EDT
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Four Strategies for Coping With Loss

When I lost someone two years ago, I felt like I was in an altered state of consciousness, swimming through a thick soup of paralyzing emotions, with no idea how long it would last. These four strategies are super simple and enormously helpful, and I want to share them with you.
07/03/2015 07:19 EDT
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5 Tips For Getting Into Shape This Summer

Summer is here, and many of us will be heading to the beach or attending holiday parties. It's also wedding season, and everyone will want to look their best. Here are five simple tips that will help you get into better shape for summer, and for the long run.
07/02/2015 12:41 EDT

Marriage Equality Is a No-Brainer

When I heard that the U.S. Supreme Court had finally accorded marriage rights to gay people, it felt like one of those, "Well, yeah!" moments. Here in Canada, same-sex marriage rights have been in pla...
06/27/2015 06:36 EDT
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It's Time to Lower the Confederate Flag for Good

It's a very bad time for racism in the United States. It would make sense to work toward lowering the level of racial tension in the country, rather than inflaming it. It's one thing to honour the fallen soldiers of the American civil war, but it's another thing altogether to insist on waving a flag that to so many, represents violence, hatred and oppression toward African Americans.
06/24/2015 12:29 EDT

Top Five Tips for Super Summer Romance

It's summer finally and if you're anything like me, you've come out of hibernation and are excited to be getting out there and enjoying everything that summer has to offer. Here in Toronto, we have an...
06/23/2015 02:36 EDT
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America's Fatal Attraction to Guns Is More Emotional Than Logical

It's clear that despite all the convincing research demonstrating how guns make us less safe, not more safe, Americans are still very much enamoured with their guns. They rationalize, justify and explain away each tragedy, whether an accidental death by a handgun or a mass shooting of innocent people by rifles or automatic weapons. It's not a logical argument; it's an emotional one, and until we can address the complex psychology at the root of the desire to own guns, we aren't going to convince people to give them up.
06/21/2015 08:56 EDT

We Must Let Go of Our Fear of Rejection

Human beings are communal animals. We thrive when we're connected; when we feel a sense of belonging and interdependence. We hate the idea of rejection because it plays on our primal fears of being alone and perhaps unable to fend for ourselves.
06/16/2015 05:41 EDT
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What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter. I work with victims of sexual abuse every day in my psychotherapy practice, so I feel I have some insight into the subject at hand. Instead of adding to the judgements in favour of or against the family, I thought that it would be a good idea to look for the learning opportunities here.
06/07/2015 09:21 EDT
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Get Rid of Your Inner Bully

There's a lot of bullying going on these days. We find it in schools, in the workplace and on-line. There's one form of bullying that rarely gets talked about though, and it's creating a lot of misery. I'm talking about self-bullying.
05/31/2015 09:14 EDT
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Let's Bring an End to Bullying by Choosing to #BeKind

I was just watching the video about Sean O'Brien, the #DancingMan, on Yahoo news the other day, and it got me thinking about all the bullying going on these days. It's the cause of so much suffering on the part of the victims, but it's also creating more misery for the bullies themselves.
05/28/2015 07:49 EDT
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Are You Too Nice in Your Relationships?

Many of us are convinced that being "nice" is the way to win a friend or a partner and keep them; that if we please this person and give them what they need, they'll love us and stay with us, forever. Well, it doesn't really work that way. When we're "nice," the other person can't know who we really are.
05/26/2015 08:58 EDT

What Makes a Mother?

Another Mother's Day has come and gone, and it has me reflecting on what it is that makes a mother. In my own life, I've been lucky to know many women who've been like a mother to me. There was my dev...
05/11/2015 12:01 EDT
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What Provokes Us to Be Mean to Nice People?

Every human being has occasional dark thoughts, feelings and urges. Most of us can contain these, most of the time. Now and then, our dark side is provoked a bit more strongly, and we end up being not so nice. What provokes the shadow side of our personality to come out?
05/10/2015 11:09 EDT