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Marcia Sirota

Author, speaker, coach and MD

Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.
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10 Bad Habits to Let Go of in 2012

No matter how curious you are about what your ex is up to, there's never any good that can come out of scrolling through his/her Facebook page. Let go of this bad habit and let go of the ex so that you can move on to better things.
12/29/2011 08:58 EST

The 12 Elements of Emotional Intelligence

Intellect can be measured by standardized IQ tests, but there's no actual measure of what I call the "EQ," or Emotional Quotient. Practicing the following elements will enable you to boost your EQ and improve your life.
11/15/2011 09:13 EST

What Men and Women Really Want in Love (and How to Get it)

Men and women have needs that are specific to their gender. What we want from our partners isn't necessarily what they want from us. Men and women communicate differently and we must tailor the way we express ourselves to suit these differences.
11/08/2011 09:32 EST

When to Un-Friend an Old Friend

Whether it's because you've grown apart because you no longer share the same values or lifestyle, or because you realize that the friendship isn't giving you what you need (and maybe never did), it's time to un-friend this person.
11/01/2011 09:43 EDT

How to Deal With Bullies

There will always be people who are jealous or resentful of your success. They're spiteful people who begrudge you the pride you have in yourself and the recognition you're receiving from others. They can't stand it that you're happy, fulfilled and achieving your goals.
10/18/2011 09:35 EDT

How to Say "No" to Bad Behaviour

Lately, my patient Lisa has been disappointed with her boyfriend Dennis, whom she describes as usually very supportive. Something happened that put Dennis and his family into clearer perspective. Den...
10/13/2011 09:48 EDT
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Relationship Advice: When to Break Up

If one or more deal breakers are present in your relationship, you'll have to see whether it's possible for you partner to stop what they're doing immediately. There's no point in waiting for them to change. You've already been tolerating the intolerable.
10/11/2011 11:03 EDT

To Forgive or Not to Forgive?

If someone has to force themselves to forgive in order to meet someone else's expectations, they'll be more tormented than if they'd held onto their hurt. A better solution would be to learn how to let go.
10/06/2011 03:12 EDT

20 Steps to Genuine Happiness

When we're clear about where to find happiness, we can make the kinds of choices that will maximize our chances of having more of it. Here's a list of ingredients that you can combine in your own way to move toward greater happiness.
10/03/2011 09:13 EDT
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The Real Reason Why People Cheat

It's too easy to say that people cheat because they're unhappy in their marriage. I've observed that there are a number of reasons why people cheat, and these have everything to do with the character of the person cheating.
09/29/2011 09:16 EDT

How to Talk to Your Friends About Your Feelings

A few pointers on how to go about the scary business of confrontation: Most importantly, start by being affirming. Let your friend know how much you value the relationship, and that this is why you're sharing your concerns.
09/26/2011 01:27 EDT
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Reality Television Is Rotting Your Brain

Maybe some people like to feel superior by laughing at the characters on these shows, but by choosing to waste their time on such drivel, they inadvertently demonstrate their own lack of discernment.
09/21/2011 08:34 EDT

Stop Taking Bad Advice From Good Friends

The worst type of advice my patients describe involves dating; the most egregious being that they should "give the guy another chance." Usually this advice comes after one of my patients has gone on one or two dates with someone who's behaved pretty badly.
09/16/2011 07:36 EDT
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Six Successful Relationship Tips

Your partner has to see and accept you just as you are. There's no point in presenting a "cleaned up" version of yourself because then they're not loving the real you. You can't feel loved if you're being inauthentic.
09/11/2011 06:25 EDT

The Difference Between Being Nice and Being Kind

Kindness emerges from someone who's confident, compassionate and comfortable with themselves. A kind person is loving and giving out of the goodness of their heart. At the root of extreme niceness, however, are feelings of inadequacy and the need to get approval and validation from others.
09/06/2011 05:31 EDT

Face the Truth About Your Bad Relationship

If you deny the possibility that someone could be hurtful, you put yourself and your loved ones at great risk. Facing this truth, on the other hand, is empowering and will enable you to make the kinds of choices which will give you a better life.
09/02/2011 02:02 EDT
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Jack Layton: Fighting the Good Fight

Unlike some politicians who switch parties like some people change their clothes, Jack remained in the NDP knowing that it would be an uphill battle to gain any significant political clout. He watched as other prime ministers came and went, but never stopped believing in his cause.
08/24/2011 09:43 EDT
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Seven Steps To Mind-Blowing Sex

What makes someone a fantastic lover is not their technical ability or their repertoire of moves but their attentiveness and their efforts to make their partner happy. When both people show that they really care about meeting their partner's needs, sex becomes something wonderful.
08/18/2011 10:34 EDT

Top 10 Relationship Deal Breakers

No one is perfect or should be expected to be, but there are 10 specific behaviors which are highly likely to ruin your relationship.
08/15/2011 09:03 EDT