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Top 9 Benefits Of Being In An Intercultural Marriage

My husband is from South India and I am Canadian. We are the living, walking, breathing epitome of cultural differences -- he is Hindu, I am Catholic; he is a strict vegetarian, I am not; he comes from a huge traditional Iyengar family, I come from a very small Canadian family. We met and fell in love 10 years ago in college, and it still stands that he's the best thing that ever happened to me.
05/30/2016 12:06 EDT
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Are We Talking Enough to Kids About Stress?

Who hasn't gone through playground drama, right? What I didn't realize is how this situation was making daughter feel low about herself and her ability to handle her emotions on the playground. I think like most parents I wasn't sure how much to ask her about stress. Culturally, many of us grew up with more conversations about academics and marks than conversations about feelings and stress.
10/10/2015 09:58 EDT
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How To Raise Kids in a Different Culture

We tend to be more liberal with our kids while living in the country of our origin but move to the West and suddenly stricter rules are imposed. I suppose it is a fear of the unknown. But I have to remind myself this is the country where my daughter will be growing up; it is equally her home as her birth country.
03/05/2015 06:07 EST
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How Report Cards Put Pressure on Parents

If there is a day where your ethnicity truly stands out, it has to be report card day. If you have been raised by South Asian parents, you know what I am talking about. Your parents could have been the sweetest, politest head nodding in agreement sort until the day your school smarts is up for evaluation. If it didn't read praise all the way through you probably were in trouble.
06/27/2014 12:26 EDT
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Dads Might Have the World's Toughest Job

He walks out every morning wishing he didn't have to. He bids farewell to his beautiful baby. What milestone will he miss today? A glorious toothless smile? A giggle during tummy time? The first time he says dada? To all the father's who bid farewell each morning to their babies to provide for their families, kudos to you. You just might be doing the world's toughest job.
06/11/2014 12:33 EDT
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Top 10 Ways to Be a Contagious Parent

Each child is different, gifted uniquely, and those moments of celebration, even if all you do is take them out for Dollar Menu sundaes, builds their confidence. Teaching them not to give up. And helps them to expect more of themselves. And in the end, they need to know that they are loved, accepted, and treasured, apart from their accomplishments. Simply because they are yours.
06/11/2014 05:20 EDT
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What I've Learned By Being a Feminist, South Asian Mom

As a Bangladeshi feminist working wife and mother, I have more than my share of explaining why I am raising my daughter to be an independent young woman instead of one who studies Bollywood movies for moral direction. Being a brown feminist mom is a daily battle, but more so with others than myself.
06/06/2014 05:13 EDT
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The Push For Push Presents May Be Misguided

The roots of a push present date back to India. A woman would be showered with jewelry, a sari or cash -- called a Godh Bharai. This ritual has been around for centuries. I simply assumed that any woman would love a present for pushing another human being out of her body. It turns out my assumption was incorrect.
04/02/2014 08:53 EDT
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How I Felt the First Time I Saw My Mother Helpless

The first three weeks, she was completely immobile and bedridden. During this time, I have never been so busy in my life but I have never felt so fulfilled. Caring for a bedridden mother, two little boys and a newborn, while my husband was forced to go out of town for work, made me realize what life is really about.
04/01/2014 12:15 EDT
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16 Rules For a Happy Marriage

You might say this is a classic case of the blind leading the blind. What I offer you here are pearls of wisdom after 15 years of marriage and seven years of being a divorced single parent. Had I known then what I know now, perhaps my happily ever after would have happened the first time around.
03/31/2014 08:55 EDT
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Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

This question is similar to asking a married woman if she gets along with her husband's last long-term girlfriend. For most women the answer may be no. But for stepmothers the situation is much more complex. Your step children's mother's presence is deeply embedded in your lives because of the influence she has on them, even though you may rarely ever interact with her yourself.
03/30/2014 03:01 EDT

How to Raise Strong Daughters

I decided to ask some of my favourite Masalamommas I know how they plan to raise strong girls, what they've done to foster strength in their daughters and for those that have sons, what's the plan on teaching him how to treat women well. I think you will enjoy their answers as much as I did.
03/28/2014 12:06 EDT
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Are You The Bully In Your Home?

Having children is a real eye opener into your soul. You really get an opportunity to look at yourself and listen to yourself -- your kids mimic everything you do. If you are going to bully them, they will bully back -- other siblings, kids in school, even you. So it is extremely important to lead by example.
02/25/2014 12:13 EST
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Telling My Kids We Don't Celebrate Christmas

At their age, the best explanation I can give my kids is that we are Muslim and that's why we don't celebrate Christmas. I know that as they get older, I can get into more detail but for now, that will have to suffice. We still wish our friends and neighbours who celebrate a Merry Christmas just as they wish us a Happy Eid when it's our turn and I hope to pass on this respect for other holidays and faiths to our children.
12/11/2013 12:31 EST