Consultant, Speaker, Trainer and Author who works with organizations to save time, money and sanity.
Insightful … humorous … entertaining … even contagious ☺ … words that are often used to describe Rhonda Scharf. A speaker/consultant with the uncanny ability to look at the normal and see something quite different.
Rhonda is a Professional Speaker, Trainer, Author and Consultant, based in Ottawa. She has worked with tens of thousands of people in 13 different countries. In 2004 Rhonda served as the National President of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS), has served on the Board of the Global Speakers Federation and is named in the current edition of “Who’s Who in Professional Speakers” (where she has been listed since 1998).
She's funny, she's real, and she's ON THE RIGHT TRACK!
Ever been on the receiving end of an angry tirade that turned threatening? That's exactly what happened to me Saturday on the golf course. I was on a mini vacation with my mom, and we were golfing on...
About 15 years ago, it was widely publicized that men and women came from "different planets," and therefore did not speak the same language. I not only disagree with this notion, I take offence to it.
I'm willing to bet that the person involved in the email confrontation was not aware that she was being unfair, humiliating, potentially malicious or vindictive. I'm willing to bet that these people thought they were handing the situation clearly and in a businesslike manner. That was not the case.
When conducted effectively, meetings can inspire and ignite motivation, lead to higher performing teams and a stronger bottom line. However, more than $37 billion is wasted each year in unproductive meetings--and that's in the United States, alone. Admins need to minimize the wasted time in meetings and maximize the productive time. Once you're aware of my Seven Deadly Sins of Meetings, you'll be able to better plan, organize, participate in and facilitate great meetings.
A former colleague holds complete conversations in his head with people with whom he is angry. He rarely speaks directly with the other person. This anger in his mind continues to build because of his frustration, yet he never lets the other person know that he is frustrated and subsequently angry.
When do you decide you're under too much stress? When do you call in sick and take a mental health day? When do you put you at the top of your to-do list? Not often enough, I say - and when we do, it's usually because our body has given us no choice in the matter.
When we get discouraged, it is easy to just give up. To take that "all or nothing" attitude and walk away from it all. It would be easy to sit on the couch and rationalize that I can't exercise at all because my knee was injured. To stop looking at the college pamphlets; to resign yourself that you will never get a promotion; to eat that extra large piece of chocolate cake because you deserve it! It would be easy to give up.
Most of us have rules about our phones. No phones at the dinner table. No phones in the bedroom. No phones while flying, driving, or walking. Instead of a rule, let's make a choice. Let's decide to make connections with people, situations and experiences, and see how much better life is.
If we try (by applying for that job, going to the gym or doing something outside of our comfort zone) and don't achieve a 100 per cent success rate, we deem ourselves to have failed. Stop comparing yourself to what society says you should be, and instead create your own measurement system.
Are you shy in social situations? Do you get nervous about the thought of attending a professional social situation where you don't know anyone? You may never love entering a room and not knowing a soul, but at least you are willing to do something about it!
If I am going to have a conversation about washing bodies and clothing, my goal is that my employee (or co-worker) will agree to wash their clothing and body on a more regular basis. Perhaps you want them to take home any clothing they have stored at work, for a washing. Maybe you want them to stop wearing cologne. Perhaps you want them to shower after using the gym at lunch.
I can ask for help in the office, on the street and at home with no problem at all. But I struggle with asking for a hug when I need one, for understanding and patience, or for emotional support when I'm dealing with an issue I don't know how to deal with.
When something goes wrong it can be handled with grace, style, and class; or it can be handled with blame, finger pointing, and a definite lack of class. Late Sunday night at the 2017 Academy Awards show we saw a little of both as the Best Picture award was given to the wrong film.
I occasionally suffer from "bright shiny object" syndrome, or like a dog who suddenly veers off when he spots a squirrel. When I'm working on one thing, something else will grab my attention; I drop the thing I'm working on and jump to the other. I know that isn't efficient, yet I sometimes don't realize how distracted I have become.
Tom Brady just won his fifth Super Bowl ring. He is the most successful quarterback in NFL history, he has what appears to be a perfect life, has more success than anyone can imagine, yet he is not loved by all. He is not seen by all as the best, and he is not the most popular player in NFL either. Why not?
There may come a time in your relationship with your difficult person when you realize it is never going to work out. You are never going to reach a middle ground. You are never going to change their behaviour. Is it OK to give up? Absolutely!
Help Me Rhonda: I'm new to my company, in my first supervisory position. I don't want to step on anyone's toes and I want to be seen as a friendly boss but I feel like I'm being tested every day by my...
If you are sitting and having lunch with coworkers you most certainly have the right to your opinion and the right to free speech; but should you use that "audience" to tell them your feelings on what your boss did this week, the company's policies, or why they should go to church on Sunday? Do they have the ability to "turn off" the conversation if they want to?
Rather than focusing on your anger, focus on hearing what the other person is saying. Don't listen to what they are saying -- hearing and listening are two totally different things. Hear past the person's words, and try to understand what they are trying to tell you.