Consultant, speaker, trainer and author who works with organizations to save time, money and sanity.
Insightful … humorous … entertaining … even contagious ☺ … words that are often used to describe Rhonda Scharf. A speaker/consultant with the uncanny ability to look at the normal and see something quite different.
Rhonda is a professional speaker, trainer, author and consultant based in Ottawa. She has worked with tens of thousands of people in 13 different countries. In 2004 Rhonda served as the National President of the Canadian Association of Professional Speakers (CAPS), has served on the Board of the Global Speakers' Federation and is named in the current edition of “Who’s Who in Professional Speakers” (where she has been listed since 1998).
She's funny, she's real, and she's ON THE RIGHT TRACK!
Are you shy in social situations? Do you get nervous about the thought of attending a professional social situation where you don't know anyone? You may never love entering a room and not knowing a soul, but at least you are willing to do something about it!
If I am going to have a conversation about washing bodies and clothing, my goal is that my employee (or co-worker) will agree to wash their clothing and body on a more regular basis. Perhaps you want them to take home any clothing they have stored at work, for a washing. Maybe you want them to stop wearing cologne. Perhaps you want them to shower after using the gym at lunch.
I can ask for help in the office, on the street and at home with no problem at all. But I struggle with asking for a hug when I need one, for understanding and patience, or for emotional support when I'm dealing with an issue I don't know how to deal with.
When something goes wrong it can be handled with grace, style, and class; or it can be handled with blame, finger pointing, and a definite lack of class. Late Sunday night at the 2017 Academy Awards show we saw a little of both as the Best Picture award was given to the wrong film.
I occasionally suffer from "bright shiny object" syndrome, or like a dog who suddenly veers off when he spots a squirrel. When I'm working on one thing, something else will grab my attention; I drop the thing I'm working on and jump to the other. I know that isn't efficient, yet I sometimes don't realize how distracted I have become.
Tom Brady just won his fifth Super Bowl ring. He is the most successful quarterback in NFL history, he has what appears to be a perfect life, has more success than anyone can imagine, yet he is not loved by all. He is not seen by all as the best, and he is not the most popular player in NFL either. Why not?
There may come a time in your relationship with your difficult person when you realize it is never going to work out. You are never going to reach a middle ground. You are never going to change their behaviour. Is it OK to give up? Absolutely!
Help Me Rhonda: I'm new to my company, in my first supervisory position. I don't want to step on anyone's toes and I want to be seen as a friendly boss but I feel like I'm being tested every day by my...
If you are sitting and having lunch with coworkers you most certainly have the right to your opinion and the right to free speech; but should you use that "audience" to tell them your feelings on what your boss did this week, the company's policies, or why they should go to church on Sunday? Do they have the ability to "turn off" the conversation if they want to?
Rather than focusing on your anger, focus on hearing what the other person is saying. Don't listen to what they are saying -- hearing and listening are two totally different things. Hear past the person's words, and try to understand what they are trying to tell you.
I am a consultant, but unless someone asks me for feedback on things, I don't offer that. When I attend a conference, I focus on the positives, not what they could do differently. When I am at a friend's house, I compliment my host, not offer decorating ideas, and when I am working with a coworker, I don't assume I know the best way to do things; I appreciate there are many ways to get things done properly, and my way isn't always the best way.
I'm dealing with an avoider. I find it very frustrating. Every once in a while you will encounter a situation where you want to deal with it in a calm, professional manner, and the person with whom yo...
Let's assume you work in a big city and take some form of public transit to work. Instead of complaining that your company is downtown and that working so far away is inconvenient, focus on the fact that you get one hour a day of complete relaxation to read a book or spend on social media. Don't complain about the location; focus on the benefits that getting to that location gives you.
I spent the first 51 years learning. Learning how to talk and walk. Learning how to read, attend school, make friends, earn money and preserve relationships. By no means am I done learning any of those things, and I have even more to learn.
The U.S. election has unleashed a style of aggression, anger, and hatred created like no other. There have been friendships lost, families torn apart, and relationships that will take a very long time to repair. If they even can repair. Sadly this type of situation happens all the time in the workplace.
I run out of time every day. I sometimes wish there were 34 hours in a day because that extra 10 hours would allow me to do some of the things I want to get done. When I don't get those things done, I feel I have let people down. I'm currently struggling to balance my work time, my family time and time for me as well.
Have I started doing my job on autopilot? Have I started taking my relationships for granted, not giving them my full attention? I applied it to my eating habits, my exercise, my sleep... even the way I clean my house. I realized that unless we get scared into paying attention to what we're doing, we often think we are committing 100 per cent to a task when we are not.
According to experts, every minute spent in planning saves you 10 minutes in execution. I think that if we have a list and follow it, we are saving substantially more time, and stress as well. If we create and use our Daily List of five tasks, we will save ourselves many hours of frustration just by being disciplined.
What you remember about your past employer isn't nearly as important as what your past employer remembers about you (and passes on to anyone who asks about you professionally). Are you burning bridges, or learning to deal with difficult situations with tact, professionalism and calm?