Erica is a mom of two young girls and lives in Toronto with her children and husband. Erica has a Masters in Counselling Psychology and a PhD in Exercise Sciences. She has worked as a fitness instructor and personal trainer for 20 years, and is a counsellor and therapist who assists clients with infertility, weight-loss, low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and relationship issues. Erica welcomes new clients. Her professional website is www.ericaberman.ca and her personal blog is http://talesofa30somethingnothing2010.blogspot.ca/
Erica is also the founder of Konjac for Life, a company that sells konjac powder, the most powerful soluble fibre available, that has incredible health benefits. Konjac powder can be purchased on her website www.konjacforlife.com where Erica also shares recipes for how to use konjac powder to create delicious, healthy meals.
Infertility is a severe life challenge that absolutely flattens people. Look at it this way: procreating is an innate primal instinct, just like breathing air, drinking water and eating food. Imagine how frantic you get if you are denied access to oxygen, water or food?
When it comes to trauma, in particular, pushing away the thoughts and feelings can often exacerbate the intensity of the symptoms. The more you try to evade the problem, the more the internal pressure will build, until you explode. The problem won't just go away on its own.
Here's the thing. If we can convince ourselves that most people are doing the best they can, then eventually we have to realize that about ourselves. That, my friends, is the key. Because if someone is doing the best they can, can you really ask anything more?
Instead of accusing women of prioritizing career over family, perhaps we should acknowledge that it is simply more challenging nowadays for many women to find a life partner during their fertile years. For that reason alone, I applaud companies for providing women with the opportunity to expand their control over their fertility.
What could be more romantic? You and your partner decide you are ready to start a family. You throw away the birth control, have a quiet evening together and excitedly ravish each other before falling peacefully asleep dreaming of strollers, onesies and playdates.
Those lucky folks who seem to coast through life without anything ever going wrong? Believe me, they are few and far between. Having problems is normal, not having them is far more unusual! Here's the thing, it's generally only when we reveal our true selves that we can fully connect and establish true intimacy with others.
Next time you meet someone who is dealing with any kind of infertility, please remember this and be kind. Also, think twice before making any assumptions about a person based on how many children they have, whether its none or 10. Not everyone has the luxury of choosing what they end up with.
As a therapist and certified personal trainer, I often have clients tell me that they don't like exercise. This makes no sense to me. It's like saying you don't like music. There is such a wide range of music, it's impossible not to find something that suits your tastes. These days, the same is true of exercise. Moreover, our bodies are designed to move and exercise is essential for health, so it's also like saying you don't like breathing.
Despite the fact that one in six couples in North America has difficulty conceiving, infertility is still something with a lot of stigma attached to it. Few people openly discuss their fertility struggles, and many people experience shame. As an infertility counsellor, I see many women whose identity, body image, and self-esteem erode as they struggle to conceive while, seemingly, everyone else gets pregnant with ease around them.
We are not just expected to put in the same amount of work in the office, and still more at home, we also have to find the time to go to the gym, pull on skin-tight shape wear, prepare gluten-free, carb-free, Paleo, blah, blah, meals, get Botox, gel manicures, and buy expensive serums, lotions, and potions proven to even out our complexion, hide fine lines, and reduce sagging.
After a bout of severe vomiting following a few bites of food, she went to the ER and refused to leave until she got answers. She knew in her heart something was seriously wrong. After a series of tests, a gynaecologist arrived to break the news. It was indeed ovarian cancer. In fact, a tumour the size of a grapefruit was removed from her body.
Are you and your partner having difficulty conceiving? Do you feel like she isn't the same woman you married? Does she seem obsessed? Emotionally fragile? Always sad? Angry? As an infertility counsellor, one of the things I find myself doing most often with heterosexual couples is reassuring both husbands and their wives that her extreme reaction to infertility is norm.
Hey, parents: Don't sweat the small stuff. Even if you work full-time, bottle feed, don't buy organic food, and never threw your kids gigantic birthday bashes with elephant rides, as long as you are physically and emotionally present for your children -- and provide a safe, stable environment for them -- they'll be just fine.
Those friends of yours who appear to have the perfect marriage may post gorgeous photos of their weekend in Montreal, but they are not going to post updates about their massive debts or the fight they had last night about how to manage them. That colleague who just posted the ultrasound photo of her first child may not have tweeted about the three miscarriages she had prior to its conception.
Hello, my name is Erica Berman and I take an antidepressant. Do you think I'm crazy to admit it? Or just plain crazy? Well think what you want. I have been taking a low dose of a serotonin-norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor (SNRI) for almost four years, not for depression, but for anxiety. Yes, in case you were unaware, some antidepressants are very helpful for controlling anxiety.
I've always found it puzzling what people chose to spend their money on at the expense of other things. Now that I work in the mental health field, it mystifies me even more. Weekly manicures, $4 lattes, cab rides, cocktails, botox, restaurant meals: No problem. Counselling? No way.
You're 28; You're single; You're having fun. Should you have your fertility checked? If you hope to one day have children, the answer is: yes. Understanding the risks of delaying child bearing is important, as is knowing the details of your own particular fertility health. Here are a few tips.
There is a family-building circumstance that some people find themselves in, that seems to only provoke condemnation from others. I am talking about when a parent or couple is unable to conceive a child of a particular gender which they desire.
So what if there was a place for kids like me, that was just for kids, with classes geared specifically to the needs and abilities of children based on their age and level of physical and cognitive development. Wouldn't that be amazing? Fortunately, thanks to one couple in Toronto, there is!