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Candace Plattor

Registered Clinical Counsellor

Candace Plattor, M.A., R.C.C., is a therapist in private practice, specializing in addictive behaviours such as alcohol and drug abuse, eating disorders, gambling, internet addiction, compulsive overspending and codependency in relationships.

Having graduated from the Adler School of Professional Psychology with a Masters degree in counseling psychology in 2001, Candace helps clients and their loved ones understand their addictive behaviors and make healthier life choices for themselves.

Candace gives many popular and well-attended talks based on her award-winning books: Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Top 10 Survival Tips for Loving Someone with an Addiction, and Loving an Addict, Loving Yourself: The Workbook. She has been featured on TV and radio programs throughout North America and has become a favorite go-to expert for news related interviews in the Vancouver area. Visit her Facebook page and her website for more information.

Is It Possible To Disagree Without Being Disagreeable?

I've often wondered what makes people so terrified of those who are different from themselves. What is that really about? Why do these differences matter so much? Why CAN'T we live in peace, why CAN'T everyone just get along?
11/23/2016 11:24 EST
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If Nothing Ever Changed, There Would Be No Butterflies

When I reached the bottom with my own addiction to pot and prescription drugs almost 30 years ago, I too realized that I had to change my life or I would die. I knew that I didn't really want to die, but that I couldn't go on living the way I was at that point. I had grown quite tired of being a caterpillar, though I had no idea how to become a butterfly.
08/08/2016 02:27 EDT
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It Takes Courage To Stop Enabling The Addict You Love

It is the loved ones who need to be the people who say to the addict, "We love you enough to no longer support you in active addiction. When you're really ready to be in active recovery of some kind, let us know and we will do whatever we can to help you make that happen." But this is a very scary prospect for most loved ones, and for many different reasons.
02/25/2016 11:35 EST
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How Saying 'No' To An Addict Shows Them You Love Them

Many loved ones of addicts are people pleasers and have been that way for a long time. They may have even learned those codependent behaviours in their own families of origin, not knowing how else to get along in the world. Saying "no" to anyone, especially a potentially rageful or manipulative addict who is still in active addiction, can be a very foreign and scary concept for them.
10/26/2015 05:19 EDT
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Those Affected By Addiction Also Need Support

These days, addictive behaviours are so rampant that it's virtually impossible to imagine how many people are affected by them. Having worked as an addictions therapist for over 25 years -- with both addicts and their loved ones -- what I know today is that for every one addict, there are generally at least 10 to 20 people directly affected by that person's addiction.
09/30/2015 08:12 EDT
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What Can We Do to Stop the Deadly Use of Fentanyl?

Talking to kids about drugs can be difficult, even intimidating for a parent, teacher, or counsellor. It's hard when the children we care about so deeply roll their eyes at us and say, "Yeah, I know!!" But often they don't know, not until someone's death touches them -- and when it comes to this malicious and criminal spread of fentanyl, we have to make sure they do know.
08/20/2015 05:31 EDT
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What Do Addicts Really Need?

It is not a loving act to allow addicts to get away with self-destructive behaviour. If someone in active addiction is consistently being rescued from the potentially negative and harmful consequences of his or her behaviour by his family, friends, teachers, bosses, or colleagues, then why should he ever change anything?
07/21/2015 12:25 EDT
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How to Maintain Your Self-Respect in the Face Of Life's Challenges

Perhaps you have a large, somewhat daunting goal like finally becoming free from an addiction. Or maybe you know you need to be setting (and maintaining) healthier boundaries with the addict in your life. Will you be able to maintain your self-respect if you lie to yourself and others about these kinds of choices?
06/05/2015 05:11 EDT
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Loved Ones of Addicts May Also Need Help Saying No

If you find yourself being manipulated by a loved one with an addiction, you'll need to ask yourself why you're allowing this to happen. That will be your first step toward stopping it. If you're not sure how to change your enabling patterns, please consider reaching out for help.
03/29/2015 04:22 EDT
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The Truth About Bullying and What We Can Do About It

I believe that bullying is an addiction. We use addictive behaviours to mask what we feel --generally about our own low self-esteem and dissatisfaction about our lives. Anything can become an addiction if we are using it for that purpose: drugs, alcohol, food, TV, smoking, gambling, excessive spending, gaming, sex, co-dependency in relationships -- the list goes on and on.
02/23/2015 05:05 EST
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Relapse Doesn't Have to Be a "Normal" Part of Addiction Recovery

Lately I've been receiving a number of articles into my inbox, talking about addicts who relapse after they come out of treatment. Most of these writers are telling me that relapse is a 'normal part of recovery' from addiction. First of all, I don't agree with this premise at all, and secondly, I totally fail to see how it's helpful for an addict coming out of rehab to be armed with that kind of biased and ultimately untrue information.
01/27/2015 08:18 EST
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Why Lassana Bathily Is a True French Muslim Hero

If you haven't read about this amazing young man, his name is Lassana Bathily. He is French and he is Muslim. While that horrific brutality was happening in the Kosher Market, he had the foresight to lead several people into the freezer area of the store, turning off the power so they wouldn't die in there.
01/12/2015 05:08 EST
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New Year's Resolutions? Try Intentions Instead

An intention is different than a resolution. My dictionary defines intention as "the determination to act in a certain way." This has nothing to do with seeing yourself as a problem that needs to be resolved; instead, intentions are about becoming aware of different ways that you would prefer to be in your life.
12/31/2014 09:05 EST
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Why We Shouldn't Be So Shocked By Jian Ghomeshi

Jian Ghomeshi has been revered as attractive, popular, successful, a ladies' man -- until now. Now we see that this man, nearly 50 years of age, may have been thinking and acting like a spoiled child who totally believes the world revolves around him -- and that he may feel completely entitled to have all of his needs met, sexual and otherwise. Personally, I am more surprised that we are so surprised!
11/07/2014 05:25 EST