Carlen Costa
Carlen Costa is one of Canada's leading Sexologists & Relationship Experts. As a media personality, a Sexologist working in private practice and a writer, she’s looking to connect with you so that you can discover your 'sexy & healthy' side.

Dr Carlen calls on you to Stay Sexy and empower your intimate lifestyle. This is all about nurturing the attitude that allows us healthy and happy intimate relationships in our lives. It’s about communicating, behaving, loving and translating your own sexual energy into satisfying your fantasies & desires. Keep an eye on Sexologist Dr. Carlen's website, Facebook page “Sexy Living with Dr Carlen” or @drcarlen to stay connected and learn more tips, tricks and advice to staying sexy – because it looks good on you!

Entries by Carlen Costa

Yoga For The Best Sex Ever!

(1) Comments | Posted March 25, 2015 | 5:50 PM

There's always going to be "the next hottest trend" trying to sell you on how you can have the best mind blowing, knock your hipster-socks off kind of sex. You know, the good-good kind of get-down. Yet, what is the actual key to having a great sex life? Eating more...

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Stop Complaining About Valentine's Day

(5) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 11:45 AM

Valentine's Day is this week.

Most of you just groaned out loud reading that sentence -- and not in a sexy, pleasure induced kind of way, either -- which is unfortunate. There are two responses I usually hear at the mere mention of this annual observance of adulation; the...

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Three Reasons to Grow Your Pubic Hair

(36) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 4:31 PM

2014 may have been the year of the nipple (#FreeTheNipple), but 2015 is definitely the year of the bush (#PubeGame). Pubic hair is so popular right now, it's vogue. From mild to moderate tuffs, harbouring tiny strands of love in between your legs has been all the rage so far...

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The Five Phases of a Break-Up

(1) Comments | Posted December 7, 2014 | 9:49 PM

Break-ups are hard.

Recently a close friend of mine confided that she was in the middle of a separation and came to me for consolation -- well, really she came to me looking for an ear, a bag of junk food and a bottle of wine. Break-ups are hard,...

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Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

(10) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 4:40 PM

I am all too familiar with the cycle of abuse.

At one point in my career I worked as a counselor at a not for profit agency that supported abusive men. As a lead facilitator for group therapy, I worked with men often mandated by our judiciary to attend...

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17 Rules For Friends With Benefits

(6) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 12:50 PM

Why can't we be friends? Because sex. That's why.

I recently searched the term #fuckbuddies and was pleasantly surprised that this was a rather popular hash tag, mostly populated by memes, selfies of half naked humans and a lot of group shots (surprising?). Whether it's that opposite sex friend...

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#SorryNotSorry: Rise of the Unapologetic Woman

(12) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 5:26 PM

This is about the end of excuses. It's about the end of the perpetual apology and the idea that if we as women don't rally, pull ourselves together and support one another we won't make it out alive. [Insert reference to hobby lobby or endangered animal murdering models' opinions about...

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Creating Positive Change in 4 Easy Steps

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 12:41 PM

When it comes down to it, if we want to change how we experience the world, we must make the choice to change it. Newly enlightened self awareness can be used to create a shift within ourselves; a sense of self and personal power will help us rise up to...

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Top Five Sexy Canadianisms from the Sochi Olympics

(0) Comments | Posted February 23, 2014 | 4:18 PM

The Olympics have always had a history of pausing wars, bringing nations together and displaying some of the best patriotism & athleticism worldwide. As a Canadian Sexologist my experience is unique because I have the privilege of living & breathing in one of the best nations in the world-Canada. Where...

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Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

(1) Comments | Posted February 23, 2014 | 6:26 AM

Whether you're a 40-something plus, cruising through Gen Y, or reinventing the world as a 20ish, sometimes it can be hard to YOLO your sex life with all of the mixed messaging and fractured ideologies being thrown in the mix. Many unfortunately have the influence to lead you astray of...

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Four Sexting Tips to Help You Avoid a #SexyPicFail

(2) Comments | Posted January 23, 2014 | 11:08 AM

The ability to digitally transmit information and, moreover sexually intimate content in particular, has lead to interesting results such as that of unlimited texting packages, selfies and various filter apps. This new age trend has hit our mobile units by storm, and let's be honest -- where there's digital technology,...

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Living in Two Worlds: Falling in Love When You're Transgender

(5) Comments | Posted August 18, 2013 | 9:16 AM

I am submitting this piece because sometimes the voices we need to hear most are the ones we don't often have the opportunity to hear.

My dear friend Wes is one of my favourite humans, not to mention a wicked community developer who romantically moonlights as a pretty hip...

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The Many Benefits of Masturbation

(52) Comments | Posted May 31, 2013 | 8:01 AM

If you haven't heard by now, May was considered by many to be a 30 day tribute to self-pleasure, more commonly known as masturbation. Claimed by the infamous Good Vibrations in San Francisco, this month is all about encouraging personal reflection of the intimate relationship we have with...

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Earth-Friendly Tips for Eco-Sexuals

(1) Comments | Posted March 19, 2013 | 12:28 PM

This relatively new concept has begun to spring up and I think it is going to be one of the hottest new trends in the sex industry. What is an ecosexual, you might ask? Well, if you're Googling your little heart out, you may come across the Ecosex Manifesto at...

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5 Tips for Becoming a Better Kisser

(6) Comments | Posted March 10, 2013 | 8:09 PM

One of the most iconic visuals of love and admiration that pop culture falls back on is the public witness of a kiss. One can say that a kiss can either make or break not only you, but a potential intimate relationship -- potentially. Bad kissing isn't one of the...

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Don't Slip Up -- Choose the Right Lube For You

(0) Comments | Posted February 11, 2013 | 11:58 AM

If sex came second, then lubricant helped you come first! Getting from level none to fun when turned on has the potential to be the best part of your arousal experience. What, might you ask, could make it even better? One of the best ways to increase your pleasure capacity...

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The Top Five Dating Deal Breakers

(2) Comments | Posted January 31, 2013 | 9:09 AM

Maintaining healthy boundaries about who you choose to date is a natural part of the mating ritual. When roaming amongst the pride, being selective in who you partner with is a protective instinct. By today's standards I would say that means the protection of your self-identity, your emotions and whatever...

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