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Carlen Costa

Sexologist and Relationship Psychotherapist

Carlen Costa is one of Canada's leading Sexologists & Relationship Psychotherapists. As a media personality, a Sexologist working in private practice and a writer, she’s bringing the real back into your relationship with sex.

Keep an eye on Sexologist Dr. Carlen's website www.drcarlen.com, or Facebook page to find out more about Sex with Dr. Carlen. Real sex, real people, real simple.
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4 Toys You'll Want To Play With On Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is coming up, and you know what that means. There's no need to be coy about this: If you're planning on getting busy this weekend, why not go the extra mile and bring the right equipment? Investing in a sex toy can make all the difference between a night to remember and an evening you'd rather forget. So here are some highly-recommended suggestions.
02/09/2016 12:06 EST
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I Printed a 3D Sex Toy

I teamed up with Diply and Tech Alley of ISP Canada and we took sex-tech to a whole new level that neither of them thought was accessible. We 3D-printed a ribbed for your pleasure (as expected) blue dildo, and time lapsed the whole thing for your viewing entertainment -- because, that's what I do.
06/03/2015 08:32 EDT
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I Celebrated My Body With an Intimate Photo Shoot

What's wrong with being authentic about your body, taking some pride in it and pushing yourself beyond healthy comfort zones in order to discover the sex-positive, beautiful goddess that you are? Pictures won't suck your soul, but the trolls will try.
05/15/2015 01:01 EDT
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This Feminist Filmmaker Is Helping Change the Face of Porn

Erika Lust's didn't want her daughters to grow up and be exposed to the commercialized and commoditized usage of women's bodies that is typical in mainstream porn; she demanded something different. Her bold emergence into the world of erotic filmmaking has been a breath of fresh air into the erotic genre industry.
04/19/2015 11:31 EDT
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Yoga For The Best Sex Ever!

There's always going to be "the next hottest trend" trying to sell you on how you can have the best mind blowing, knock your hipster-socks off kind of sex. You know, the good-good kind of get-down. Yet, what is the actual key to having a great sex life? Eating more kale? Practicing vaginal weightlifting? Cultivating perfectly pruned pubes?
03/25/2015 05:50 EDT
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Three Reasons to Grow Your Pubic Hair

2014 may have been the year of the nipple (#FreeTheNipple), but 2015 is definitely the year of the bush (#PubeGame). Pubic hair is so popular right now, it's vogue. From mild to moderate tuffs, harbouring tiny strands of love in between your legs has been all the rage so far this year and it has no intention of slowing down.
01/30/2015 05:31 EST
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The FIve Phases of a Break-Up

The most wonderful time of year can be the worst time of year if you're going through a break-up right around this time. This list contains the basic stages (as experienced in my inner circle) of what it looks like to get through a break-up.
12/07/2014 10:49 EST
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Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.
11/03/2014 05:32 EST
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17 Rules For Friends With Benefits

Have the talk before you hook-up (or once you've peed right after) and set the lay of land. You both know what this is. Games are meant to be played with rope and whipped cream, not with each other's emotions. If you're feeling compromised about a situation have the courtesy to put it out there and mutual respect to problem-solve together.
07/31/2014 12:50 EDT

Creating Positive Change in 4 Easy Steps

When it comes down to it, if we want to change how we experience the world, we must make the choice to change it. Newly enlightened self awareness can be used to create a shift within ourselves; a sen...
03/27/2014 02:33 EDT
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Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

You've just woken up from a deep sleep and then remember that you've been romping all night with the Sandman who may also happen to be your Ex. That's when the WTF moment kicks in. Sex dreams happen to everyone. Sometimes they are as pleasurable as riding white horses in the meadow with George Clooney or getting naughty with Mila Kunis' legs wrapped around your waist.
02/23/2014 07:26 EST

Top Five Sexy Canadianisms from the Sochi Olympics

The Olympics have always had a history of pausing wars, bringing nations together and displaying some of the best patriotism & athleticism worldwide. As a Canadian Sexologist my experience is unique b...
02/23/2014 05:19 EST
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Four Sexting Tips to Help You Avoid a #SexyPicFail

The ability to digitally transmit information and, moreover sexually intimate content in particular, has lead to interesting results. This new age trend has hit our mobile units by storm, and let's be honest -- where there's digital technology, there's someone else trying to have sex with it. Because well, orgasms. Here are a few tips to making sure you have a successful #sexypic exchange.
01/23/2014 12:08 EST
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Living in Two Worlds: Falling in Love When You're Transgender

I wanted to share the words of my dear friend Wes with you: "Marriage is a curious thing, especially a straight-looking marriage like ours. We are not straight, I am not straight. I am a man who was born a woman, and I began my transition to male about four years ago. I'm marrying a woman who was born a woman, in three weeks. It has taken longer than it should to appreciate that the love my partner and I share exists in two worlds. It has taken longer than it should to appreciate that we are more than one thing. More specifically, it has taken me 27 years to figure out just how many things I am."
08/18/2013 09:16 EDT