Carlen Costa
Carlen Costa is one of Canada's leading Sexologists & Relationship Psychotherapists. As a media personality, a Sexologist working in private practice and a writer, she’s bringing the real back into your relationship with sex.

Keep an eye on Sexologist Dr. Carlen's website, or Facebook page to find out more about Sex with Dr. Carlen. Real sex, real people, real simple.

Entries by Carlen Costa

4 Toys You'll Want To Play With On Valentine's Day

(1) Comments | Posted February 9, 2016 | 12:06 PM

Ok friends, it's Valentine's Day.

Groan all you want, but here's hoping that at least on this one day of the year, dedicated to all forms of love, that most of us are at the very least getting laid, if nothing else. Multiple reports, whether anecdotal or not, approximate that...

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Kegels For The Best Sex Ever

(0) Comments | Posted November 30, 2015 | 10:00 AM

Improving your core strength just got taken to a whole other level, and I want to tell you how. Please, let me introduce you to Elvie -- my favourite product on the market for 2016, hands down.

What is Elvie exactly? It's the newest, at-home personal trainer......

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Fascial Stretch Therapy Is Awesome For Your Sex Life

(2) Comments | Posted October 27, 2015 | 6:17 PM

Recently I had the opportunity to participate in a session of Fascial Stretch Therapy with Colin Jackson, Certified Fascial Stretch Therapist.

This style of manual therapy is about focusing on our fascia; that is, the connective tissue that runs up and down your body and holds all...

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What It's Like to Be a Professional Cuddler

(0) Comments | Posted October 14, 2015 | 9:26 AM

Autumn is here triggering the colour changing in leaves, leather, layers, a commercially motivated pumpkin spice aggression and plenty of opportunity to get your snuggle and cuddle on as it begins to cool down outside.

Think snuggling with your loved ones with a rum-spiked hot apple cider in one...

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I Printed a 3D Sex Toy

(1) Comments | Posted June 3, 2015 | 9:32 AM

The 3D printing is one of the most stirring and quickly developing industries. And, if you haven't noticed, it definitely will be one of the streams that will revolutionize how we bring technology into everyday, practical, at home and on-demand use. Layer by layer, molding into essentially any shape, in...

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I Celebrated My Body With an Intimate Photo Shoot

(11) Comments | Posted May 15, 2015 | 2:00 PM

If I'm going to talk the talk, then I better be ready to walk the walk -- especially if they're Jimmy Choo.

What I'm talking about is that I can either preach to you about body positivity in your face and feeds or I can actually demonstrate this through the...

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4 Ways to Freshen up Your Sex Life This Spring

(0) Comments | Posted April 23, 2015 | 10:06 AM

If you Google "spring cleaning," the first few results belong to Febreze, Pinterest and the only woman who could win in a sterilizing wrestle with Mr. Clean himself, Martha Stewart. A presumable proponent of getting a hygienic hustle on, Martha would say "Spring means a fresh start and...

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This Feminist Filmmaker Is Helping Change the Face of Porn

(2) Comments | Posted April 19, 2015 | 12:31 PM

It was the Feminist Porn Awards this past week in Toronto. This meant that some of the best female erotic film making talent were in one place at one time. The number of pure orgasms that this group of women have immortalized is outstanding. #alltheorgasms

An initiative...

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Yoga For The Best Sex Ever!

(1) Comments | Posted March 25, 2015 | 6:50 PM

There's always going to be "the next hottest trend" trying to sell you on how you can have the best mind blowing, knock your hipster-socks off kind of sex. You know, the good-good kind of get-down. Yet, what is the actual key to having a great sex life? Eating more...

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Stop Complaining About Valentine's Day

(4) Comments | Posted February 12, 2015 | 12:45 PM

Valentine's Day is this week.

Most of you just groaned out loud reading that sentence -- and not in a sexy, pleasure induced kind of way, either -- which is unfortunate. There are two responses I usually hear at the mere mention of this annual observance of adulation; the...

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Three Reasons to Grow Your Pubic Hair

(36) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 5:31 PM

2014 may have been the year of the nipple (#FreeTheNipple), but 2015 is definitely the year of the bush (#PubeGame). Pubic hair is so popular right now, it's vogue. From mild to moderate tuffs, harbouring tiny strands of love in between your legs has been all the rage so far...

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The Five Phases of a Break-Up

(1) Comments | Posted December 7, 2014 | 10:49 PM

Break-ups are hard.

Recently a close friend of mine confided that she was in the middle of a separation and came to me for consolation -- well, really she came to me looking for an ear, a bag of junk food and a bottle of wine. Break-ups are hard,...

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Why We Need To Remove the Stigma Around Men Who Seek Therapy

(10) Comments | Posted November 3, 2014 | 5:40 PM

I am all too familiar with the cycle of abuse.

At one point in my career I worked as a counselor at a not for profit agency that supported abusive men. As a lead facilitator for group therapy, I worked with men often mandated by our judiciary to attend...

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17 Rules For Friends With Benefits

(6) Comments | Posted July 31, 2014 | 1:50 PM

Why can't we be friends? Because sex. That's why.

I recently searched the term #fuckbuddies and was pleasantly surprised that this was a rather popular hash tag, mostly populated by memes, selfies of half naked humans and a lot of group shots (surprising?). Whether it's that opposite sex friend...

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#SorryNotSorry: Rise of the Unapologetic Woman

(12) Comments | Posted July 16, 2014 | 6:26 PM

This is about the end of excuses. It's about the end of the perpetual apology and the idea that if we as women don't rally, pull ourselves together and support one another we won't make it out alive. [Insert reference to hobby lobby or endangered animal murdering models' opinions about...

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Creating Positive Change in 4 Easy Steps

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2014 | 1:41 PM

When it comes down to it, if we want to change how we experience the world, we must make the choice to change it. Newly enlightened self awareness can be used to create a shift within ourselves; a sense of self and personal power will help us rise up to...

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Top Five Sexy Canadianisms from the Sochi Olympics

(0) Comments | Posted February 23, 2014 | 5:18 PM

The Olympics have always had a history of pausing wars, bringing nations together and displaying some of the best patriotism & athleticism worldwide. As a Canadian Sexologist my experience is unique because I have the privilege of living & breathing in one of the best nations in the world-Canada. Where...

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Let's (Really) Talk About Sex

(1) Comments | Posted February 23, 2014 | 7:26 AM

Whether you're a 40-something plus, cruising through Gen Y, or reinventing the world as a 20ish, sometimes it can be hard to YOLO your sex life with all of the mixed messaging and fractured ideologies being thrown in the mix. Many unfortunately have the influence to lead you astray of...

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Four Sexting Tips to Help You Avoid a #SexyPicFail

(2) Comments | Posted January 23, 2014 | 12:08 PM

The ability to digitally transmit information and, moreover sexually intimate content in particular, has lead to interesting results such as that of unlimited texting packages, selfies and various filter apps. This new age trend has hit our mobile units by storm, and let's be honest -- where there's digital technology,...

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Living in Two Worlds: Falling in Love When You're Transgender

(5) Comments | Posted August 18, 2013 | 10:16 AM

I am submitting this piece because sometimes the voices we need to hear most are the ones we don't often have the opportunity to hear.

My dear friend Wes is one of my favourite humans, not to mention a wicked community developer who romantically moonlights as a pretty hip...

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