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Why Would a 35-year-old Dutch Man Sexploit My Daughter Amanda?

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Are there any right words that can describe what happened almost 72 hours ago? To use descriptive adjectives, what would they be for me?

Surprise? Shock? Anger? Skepticism? Elation?

All true but in different ways. Not even imagining that you wake up and go to work and in a heartbeat, your day (and life) once again totally changes. This is indeed another page in the chapter of the book that is not yet written. Finding this article that was sent to me via email on Thursday morning was what started the whole snowball effect of Amanda's Legacy once again.

The Fifth Estate documentary "Sextortion of Amanda Todd" was done with care and truths. Many didn't believe Amanda's story about being coerced and sextorted. The crew of the Fifth believed in it. Filmed it. And the documentary itself has aired numerous times. For that, I thank them dearly. If you are reading this and haven't seen it, make sure to watch it first by yourself and then re-watch it with your family. Then have a down to earth honest discussion about it.

I am sure many around the world have read the headlines. A 35-year-old Dutch resident who has been jailed in the Netherlands since January 2014 has been charged there and also here in British Columbia with five charges which include: extortion, Internet luring, criminal harassment and the possession and distribution of child pornography. Never in my wildest dreams would I have ever thought that Amanda's alleged perpetrator would be found in the Netherlands.

It is also my opinion (and I make that very clear) that I believe that this is only one of many that are responsible for what happened to Amanda. The international networks that these alleged pedophiles and child pornographers hang out in are not ones of solitary confinement. These perpetrators want to share what they have done with other deviant like minded individuals. This is how they get the attention they thrive for.

It makes me sick that these individuals (they could be men and/or women) can prey on others. We are also to be reminded that it is not only children and young people that are preyed upon. This person in the Netherlands has been reported to target older men by pretending to be a young boy and then luring these men to perform sex acts. This is followed by images being taken and then extortion attempts. The lessons learned here is that these things don't only happen to young people, it can happen to adults also.

A debriefing by the RCMP brought the newspaper and media articles to real terms for me. I was surprised to hear about it in detail. I was elated to see that charges by B.C. Crown Counsel had been filed. It will be interesting to see what happens. Will this person be brought into Canada for trial? Will there ever be a trial?

In the media today, it was stated that there have been 10 other Canadian young people who have been identified as victims. They are now receiving counselling. But because my daughter Amanda is no longer with us and that she has been, since day one of her death, plastered all over the media, she can be named as one of his victims. It is my hope that someone can be found guilty and that this is the start to finding out the truths.

I have received many messages of support in the past 72 hours. They have all been thoughtful messages of caring and support. I did receive a couple that were distasteful. Yes, the twisted souls are still out there. They post their words behind false names.

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They are the ones with twisted minds that get joy out hopefully making others feel bad. What do they exactly want? That the reader take their words so personally that it causes them undue distress.

Is this what would make that person sigh in pleasure and happiness? I didn't put the above screenshots to give them more attention. I did it to show others what unhealthy people do in their spare time.

I just saw an article that on Thursday, April 17 (and that is how synchronicity works), a person was charged who was uttering death threats to Glen Canning, Rehtaeh's father.

http://globalnews.ca/news/1279898/eastern-passage-man-charged-after-complaint-of-online-death-threats/

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And what about the IDIOT that has been obsessed with Amanda's life story and cyber harassing/extorting and slandering me and my loved ones and friends of Amanda's from overseas? OMG ... talk about someone without a life. Fine lines are drawn. Fine lines are crossed. As I said, I guess some people don't have much anything else to do but write lies and extort in their own ways.

The term "bittersweet" is the perfect descriptive term. I was attempting to explain to someone how I was feeling on Thursday evening. The only words that explains it is -- "feeling like you have been hit with a boulder" AGAIN. The first boulder being on October 10, 2012.

The past 48 hours have been spent fielding media phone calls. Before meeting with the RCMP, I was able to answer my phone and messages. But after the the debriefing and press conference, the day had taken its toll. It will take me many days to once again re-energize and find my grounding. It reminded me of back to October 2012 when I ignored the media requests. All I can say is that on Thursday, I had to do what was right for me.

Take the time to listen to the Podcast (link below) of the Roy Green Show for April 19 with me, Barbara Colorroso, David Butt and Roy Green. http://roygreenshow.com/carol-todd-will-join-me-today/ The show talks about the issues and also preventative measures that can be put in place for added safety.

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Amanda's Legacy continues to move forward to ensure that awareness, safety and preventions are put into the place for both younger and older people. When communities, educators, law enforcement, social media and telecommunications groups work together, this is when we will see the biggest changes occur.

Amanda and Rehtaeh are definitely watching us all from above and helping to make the changes happen.

Love always to our beautiful angels -- you are missed ever so much and taken away too soon!

xoxo

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