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Colette Kenney


Five Shortcuts for Finding True Love

Posted: 12/21/2012 12:23 am

We live in a fast-paced world, so who doesn't love a good shortcut? Especially if it helps you find true love.

If you're a woman reading this, by extension the most important thing to you in life, is love.

So please, take these 5 shortcuts to heart. Embody them. Live them every single day. Because if you do, you're destined to not only meet "the one" you're guaranteed to keep "the one" too!

5. Be Down to Earth

Ask any happily coupled man why he loves his woman and the first thing he'll tell you is "it's because she's SO down to earth." As much as you might think that men only care about your looks, the truth is, a man loves a woman who lets him be "him." Here's a tip: If you feel the need to change the man you're dating, chances are good he's not the "right" man for you.

4. Be Happy

Boys love to have fun. That's what Child Development textbooks will teach you. And whether it's nature or nurture that makes boys more prone to play doesn't really matter. The reality is, boys (and men) are hard-wired to have light-hearted, good-natured fun. If you want to capture a man's heart -- be happy -- because by extension you'll also be fun! Here's a tip: This isn't something you can fake. It's not dependent on the circumstances of your life. Happiness can only come from "within."

3. Be Yourself

Sounds simple enough, but there are so many ways that women get this one wrong. And it's no wonder because if a woman's top priority is love, her number one concern is "fitting in." But when it comes to finding a life partner, fitting-in is the absolute worst thing you can do. It's the number one reason a single woman will say "I really lost myself in that relationship." Here's a tip: Being yourself comes naturally when you take the time to question all of your beliefs about the world. Ask yourself "Whose voice is that?" and "Does it serve me, or hurt me, to think that way?"

2. Be Receptive

Another great quality about great men is that they love to give to their woman. Whether this inherent pleasure men get from giving comes from our hunter-gather days or not is inconsequential. What's important for you is being open to receive what your man gives. Here's a tip: Being an independent woman is fantastic, but be sure you leave room for your man to do at least a few things for you. The rush of dopamine he'll get from giving will instantly make you deliriously desirable.

1. Believe

Finally, make sure you believe in a world where all the good men are available. Believe in the idea that you deserve a good man. And believe that the perfect-for-you man is out there, ready, willing and looking to find you.

Wishing you all the best.

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  • Making The First Move

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 63 per cent of women have asked men out on the first date. <br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> <a href="http://www.yourdatecoach.com/" target="_hplink">Dating coach Christine Hart </a>says about 10 years ago, this would never be the case but these days women shouldn't be afraid to make the first move. "We have found a middle ground. If you're asking a man out in a confident and direct way, men are becoming more open to it."

  • Political Preferences

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 85 per cent of women have dated someone outside of their political beliefs.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> To keep conversations interesting, why wouldn't you? Hart says if you are dating someone who has different political values, make sure you communicate your values within the first few dates. "If you can focus more on where you agree, you could find yourself having the same moral values and ethics." Also, avoid anyone who doesn't respect your beliefs.

  • Healthy Number Of Dates

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 70 per cent of Canadians have gone on two or more dates in the last year.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> "I think this is a great average," Hart says. If you're looking to get back into the dating scene, Hart says coffee dates are easy ways to get back into the game -- don't wait around for a year for dates to happen.

  • Kissing On The First Date

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 44 per cent of Canadians wait until the second date to lock lips.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> "If there is any kissing on the first date, it should be on the cheek," Hart says. Locking lips on the second date is fine -- often couples find themselves short on time during their first date, which leads to awkwardness during a goodbye kiss at the end of the night, Hart says.

  • Kissing...And Telling

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 89 per cent of Canadians admitted to telling someone else about their dates.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> Make sure you have a few close friends you're willing to share secrets with -- a best friend or a family member for example. "You don't want to go to work and tell five people about your date, you're going to get a mix of opinions that can confuse you," Hart says.

  • Love At First Sight

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 66 per cent of Canadians believe in love at first sight.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> Well, this one is tricky. Some people do and some people don't Hart says, but more importantly, never let a bad date get you down. "Don't worry if it isn't love at first sight, sometimes you need at least four dates until you to know someone," she says.

  • Moving In...Too Soon?

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 31 per cent of Canadians would move in with their partners after less than one year of dating.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> "This is a nice low number. I think you need to know somebody through four seasons before you start sharing places," Hart says.

  • Split The Bills

    <strong>BY THE NUMBERS:</strong> According to the survey, 12 per cent of Canadian women say they would never pay for the bill.<br><strong>SHOULD YOU?</strong> Never pay? You want to be in a relationship right? Even if you want your partner to pay for the first date, Hart says being in a partnership is communicating to one another -- and offering to pay for a meal or plan a date is always a nice gesture.


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