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How to Get Into a Meaningful Relationship

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If you are not in the relationship you desire, and want to be, you will find this article very useful as these techniques will help you let go of the old limiting beliefs you have surrounding relationships, and also become more aware of the negative self talk you say to yourself and others about relationships.

When it comes to getting into a meaningful relationship most people have an opinion on the subject. That's because many of us have been in a relationship, at one time or another. However, the thing is not every tool, tip or trick gets us into the relationship that we want. Mostly, because when it comes to relationships our emotions are involved, and emotions tend to push all of our dating and relationship techniques right out the window.

The first step in getting into a meaningful relationship is to believe that your perfect partner is out there. Believe that you are worthy and deserving of not only meeting this perfect partner, but of also sustaining a meaningful relationship.

Our personal beliefs play a huge role in how we view ourselves, and the world around us -- though our beliefs are not reality itself, but rather our thoughts about reality. In our quest for love many of us desire to live a perfect life in a perfect relationships with a perfect partner. But, often we end up in a relationship that is unfulfilled, with a partner that is below our standards, living a life that is far from perfect.

If a meaningful relationship is what you truly desire, then simply believe that a meaningful relationship is possible.

The second step in getting into a meaningful relationship is to think love and think relationships. Your thoughts manifest the life you want and the life you're living now, even the unfavorable stuff. Everything that you have, the people you know, and the experiences you have are all a result of your inner beliefs and thoughts.

If you're single and alone, but don't want to be, it isn't because you are undesirable, but rather because your inner most thoughts, and beliefs are not in alignment with being in a meaningful relationship.

Most people believe that they are thinking good thoughts about relationships, but in actuality they are thinking bad thoughts about relationships. You can tell the difference because people who are thinking good thoughts about relationships tend to say things like: I'm sure he or she is out there or I'm looking forward to meeting that special someone. On the other hand people who are thinking bad thoughts about relationships tend to say things like: There are no good men or women out there or only rich men or skinny women get the relationships they truly want.

Sometimes it's hard to see where we are on the relationship spectrum. Many of us think that we are thinking good thoughts, and keeping an open mind, when in fact we are sabotaging our chances of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right. Consider checking in with yourself from time to time. Or try asking yourself questions like: Is what I am saying about relationships serving me or sabotaging my chance at having a meaningful relationship? If you try this and you still aren't sure, try checking in with a friend, preferably a positive friend who lifts you up, and ask them if the things you're saying about relationships are supportive or destructive.

The third and final step in creating the relationship you deserve is to "Act Accordingly." That means first doing what it takes to get your beliefs and thoughts in total alignment with your relationship desires. And second, letting go of beliefs and thoughts that don't support your relationship goals.

When I met the man of my dreams I knew that I had to be open and willing to receive all that he and the relationship had to offer, and that meant I was going to have to put in some work. Not necessarily the footwork, but rather the inner work on my Self. I knew this was important because ninety per cent of what makes a person attracts comes from within. While only ten per cent comes from the outer attributes.

People who are serious about being in a meaningful relationship not only do things like: join a Meetup Group, try Speed Dating, or Hire A Matchmaker, they also do things to make themselves more attractive, physically, mentally and emotionally. No matter what it is we want in life we have to be willing to do what it takes to get it, and attracting our life partner and sustaining a meaningful relationship should is no different.

In summary, everyday I come across people who are single, lonely or in unfulfilled relationships and they can't seem to figure out what to do. And, what my experience has taught me is that people who are in happy meaningful relationships are so because they are relationship minded people. That means they believe they are worthy and deserving of a loving relationship, they believe there are good men and women out there, and they focus all of their thoughts, beliefs and actions on being in a loving and supportive relationship. Therefore, if creating and sustaining a meaningful relationship is what you desire, be willing to believe, think and act in a manner that is aligned with what you say you want.

Collette Gee is Holistic Relationship Coach that helps men and women create and sustain healthy relationships. Learn more about Collette Gee

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