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Michael Kittredge
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05:14 PM on 10/12/2012
I think the parents of bullies often have no idea what their little monsters are up to, whether it is a result of indifference or being oblivious or having rose colored glasses on.

Now, I'd know how to handle their antics, but as a struggling youth trying to figure out who I was and what I was doing in life, without any training to be strong or confident or any support system, their words and violence brought me down. It changed me into a depressed, scared person who was no longer outgoing or talkative or friendly. I was full of anger and self loathing, and eventually started to believe the negative things I was told about myself. It did a lot of damage, some of which I'm still dealing with to this day. I wonder what my life would be like if people had built me up with positives instead of constantly breaking me down.

I could have done more to stop it, others could have done more to stop it. Parents, teachers, school admin, other students. But at the end of the day, a lot of them don't care, some delight in cruelty. If parents don't teach kids how to be emotionally strong they are preparing them to be victims.
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RZiff
03:44 PM on 10/13/2012
I think that too often what you say is correct. I have actually heard parents of kids that I knew were bullying my child stand in front of me and say their child would never do that.
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Michael Kittredge
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05:23 PM on 10/13/2012
Denial is a powerful thing
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05:01 PM on 10/12/2012
Thank you Jesse. I applaud the efforts and the spirit in which you are making them. Good luck to you. And RIP Amanda. So very sad.
RealistBC
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03:47 PM on 10/12/2012
In grade school, there isn't much a bullied kid can do. But by the time one gets to college, why would a bullied kid join a fraternity? I have yet to discover one that isn't about abusing someone, and I would have had more than enough by then to even consider pledging.
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Reyeshawk13
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11:29 PM on 10/12/2012
It's simple. Bullied kids are usually social outcasts and misfits. That's why they're bullied or is the result of them being bullied. Greek societies appear to give you the benefit of instant acceptance and immediate friends. "These guys are my brothers. They've got my back." That's not how it works out, but you don't know that until you're in. They do a VERY good job of selling the brotherhood part during rush.
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01:54 PM on 10/13/2012
BS. If they were such wonderful organization, why do they have to resort to hazing their pledges? Every year we read about at least one death at the hands of these bullies. They usually get aaway with it except in the event of a death - and even then it's rare for any criminal action.
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JeanRR
10:24 AM on 10/13/2012
I was emotionally abused by my mother and bullied by my peers all through school. Unfortunately for me, my great wish in life was to fit in somewhere. I tried to join a sorority because my mother thought it would make me 'better' and because I thought I would have automatic friends. Luckily, I was turned down by every sorority on campus or my life would have gotten even worse. Now, late in life, I have faced the fact that I will never have friends like other people any more that I will suddenly become taller. I have finally freed myself to be a loner and accept it. I feel much better now.
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01:55 PM on 10/13/2012
I know your experience. It is a tough life sometimes, but at least you know who you can trust - and who you can't.
03:37 PM on 10/12/2012
You're so right. Thank you for sharing.