Darlena Cunha
Darlena Cunha is a former television producer turned stay-at-home mom to twin four-year-old girls. When she's not parenting, she's writing novels, freelancing, going to grad school or blogging at http://parentwin.com.

Entries by Darlena Cunha

I Don't Need Anyone To Tell Me What Mothers Should Do All Day

(0) Comments | Posted June 25, 2014 | 7:50 AM

This isn't your typical post about stay at home moms and how hard they work. I won't be going on about how we're teachers, janitors, nurses, etc. Though that's all very true, this post is about my surprise about how hard I actually work now that I don't work. I...

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It's Okay To Be 'Just a Mom'

(1) Comments | Posted June 1, 2014 | 11:42 PM

Have you seen the Facebook status meant to buoy stay at home moms up and make themselves feel as if they're worth something?

"You're just a mom??

Uhh Yes....I AM A MOM!!! That makes me an alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress, teacher, nurse, handyman, security officer, photographer, counselor, chauffeur, event...

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Redefine Your Own Beauty

(0) Comments | Posted May 3, 2014 | 8:04 PM

Quite a few years ago, now, I had a slight moment of fame. I was driving to work (yeah, I used to work!) and on my 45-minute commute, I heard the morning DJ ask a question.

"If you could either be America's Next Top Model or a Nobel Prize winner,...

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Disney Cage Match: Frozen vs. Brave vs. Tangled

(0) Comments | Posted April 5, 2014 | 6:52 PM

I feel like it's time to put the modern Disney tale fight to an end. Let's take Frozen, Brave and Tangled, and gauge them component by component to get at the real winner in all this. Preferences are fine and all, but don't we really need to examine which of...

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Stop Comparing Girls to Boys and Just Love Your Kids

(1) Comments | Posted February 22, 2014 | 10:52 AM

Dina Relles posted recently on ScaryMommy, who has a huge platform, listing out ten reasons boys are great! Which would be fine, except for that's not what the post was. The post was a blatant, horrid social comparison piece between girls and boys, in which (in the blogger's...

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Please Don't Tell Me How To Be a Better Feminist

(3) Comments | Posted January 31, 2014 | 11:23 AM

Dear Jon from Babble who has a lot to say on feminism and selfies:

You are wrong.

Now, I know, as someone with a penis, hearing you are wrong will make you flare up with anger for a split second, before you catch yourself and laugh it off...

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When You Donate Food, Don't Just Give the Cans You Can't Stomach

(6) Comments | Posted December 18, 2013 | 11:25 AM

This post comes from a good friend of mine, Ani Perrault. She wrote it years ago, and I read it then. I reread it every year. Why? It is, quite simply, the best thing I've ever seen on the Internet.

Once upon a time there was a 22-year-old, recently...

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The Most Important Rule for Being a Good Human in 2014

(0) Comments | Posted December 13, 2013 | 4:46 PM

I'm not big on lists of rules. In fact, since I errantly read "The Rules" when I was a young teenager, I've pretty much hated them with a passion. This year's list is no exception.

So, before I get into it with the "24 Rules of a Lady"...

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Man, I Really Hate Wrapping Presents

(4) Comments | Posted December 8, 2013 | 2:44 PM

Well, here it is, Christmas again, and that means...wrapping. Horrid, never-turns-out-right-no-matter-how-careful-calm-and-HAPPY-you-are-about-it wrapping.

I am the worst wrapper in the history of present wrapping. I always start out with such good intentions. I'm going to cut my lines straight and even. I'm going to line the corners up and crease my...

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Kids Don't Need to Be the Centre of Your Life, But Don't Be a Jerk

(2) Comments | Posted November 12, 2013 | 3:38 PM

When young mother Stephanie Metz (she's 29) says "My kids are not the centre of my world, and that's quite simply because they are not the centre of any world, anywhere," my old, wizened ass (I'm 31, and most decidedly not a young mother) would like to point...

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Here's a Tip: Don't Hand Out Fat-Shaming Notes to Kids

(19) Comments | Posted October 31, 2013 | 12:02 PM

Perhaps by now you've seen this?


Now, you might think this is some spoof out to rile the social justice warriors. I admit, I wasn't sure at first. But no. This is a real note, courtesy of Cheryl from Fargo, North...

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Maria Kang Should Learn the Difference Between Excuses and Reality

(29) Comments | Posted October 19, 2013 | 10:35 AM

Maria Kang is getting a lot of heat for this photo:


Now, I came here to defend her, actually. That had been my idea. I mean, she's clearly "fitspiration," and that's a genre. People attacking her for "what she does"...

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Republicans Are Like Toddlers

(0) Comments | Posted October 2, 2013 | 11:52 AM

Government shutdown? You can blame Obama. Sure. Many people do. There's a whole meme about it that I see daily. Thanks, Obama.

You can blame the Affordable Care Act. That nasty bill that provides women and children with the healthcare they need and deserve as a human right.

But the...

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This Mother's Letter Perpetuates Rape Culture

(26) Comments | Posted September 6, 2013 | 11:25 AM

If you're a parent, you've probably by now seen the cocky, controlling, pretty weird letter written by Kim Hall to all teenage girls her teenage boys may ever come into contact with online.

There have already been a number of amazing responses, including my favourite one by

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Miley Cyrus, White Feminism, and the Dance of Oppression

(2) Comments | Posted August 30, 2013 | 12:17 PM

Let's just square this away up front. I am white. I am so white. I am privileged and comfortable and safe and squarely middle class. I'm a feminist. I'm a stay at home mom and "homemaker" (among other things).

Okay, got it? I'm a white, middle-class, home-making feminist.

Nice to...

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There Is No 'Right' Way to Be a New Parent

(2) Comments | Posted August 21, 2013 | 5:00 PM

As a first-time parent, I did a lot of research online. I looked at Kelly Mom, at Dr. Sears and at the World Health Organization. I joined parenting groups and forums, baby groups and pages. We have the Internet's boundless knowledge, facts and experience...

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"Repost This if You Are a Mom and You LOVE Your KIDS"

(11) Comments | Posted August 14, 2013 | 12:29 PM

There is yet another chain message going around the Facebook ranks, this time involving moms.

"All the unselfish moms out there who traded eyeliner for dark circles,salon haircuts for ponytails ,long showers for quick showers, late nights for early mornings, designer bags for diaper bags, and WOULD NOT change...
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Are These Quotes From Sex or Parenting?

(3) Comments | Posted August 8, 2013 | 12:42 PM

Yesterday, some words came out of my mouth. And those words got me thinking. It occurred to me that many of the phrases uttered by parents and children to each other in the heat of growing up a good family could also very easily be instead uttered in...the heat of...

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Ladies: Hugo Schwyzer's Life Is Not Your Fault

(11) Comments | Posted August 1, 2013 | 5:21 PM

Have you heard about Hugo Schwyzer taking a break from the feminist internet? If you have eyes, you've read about it. He made sure of it. He posted on his own blog about it, gave an interview immediately with New York Magazine about it, and his...

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Six Outrageous Things About Texas That Have Nothing to Do with Women's Rights

(0) Comments | Posted July 26, 2013 | 4:07 PM

Recently, Texas has done some unbelievable things--changed the space-time continuum, made rape kits into abortions, got out of voting fraud (but wasn't so lenient on these poor senior citizens), and managed to turn tampons into feces and urine...all before

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