Debra Macleod
Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is a top-selling relationship author, expert resource for major media and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at

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The Difference Between Following Your Heart And Trusting Your Gut

(0) Comments | Posted March 3, 2016 | 3:40 PM

At first glance, you might think that "following your heart" and "trusting your gut" are similar. They're both about listening to your intuition, right?

It depends. I think our heart -- and, by that, I mean our desires and hopes -- can definitely help us become more intuitive and make...

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8 Ways To Have More Sophisticated Sex With Your Sweetheart

(3) Comments | Posted February 4, 2016 | 8:44 AM

Be honest. Have you started wearing your husband's T-shirts to bed too often? Have your formerly grand romantic efforts dwindled to a half-hearted, "So, you wanna?" Well, today's your -- and your partner's -- lucky day. Here are eight easy ways to class-up a sex life that has fallen out...

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8 Relationship Resolutions Every Couple Should Make

(6) Comments | Posted December 31, 2015 | 2:15 PM

Ah, we all love a fresh start, don't we? But between charging up that new Fitbit and vowing to stay on budget, be sure to make a few promises to your sweetheart. Here are eight relationship resolutions every couple should make:

1. Talk to your partner like he or she...

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Looking For A New Holiday Ritual? Try Something Old

(0) Comments | Posted December 15, 2015 | 1:54 PM

Ah, those nativity scenes outside churches this time of year are pretty, aren't they? The little baby, the cattle, the quaint little manger. I think they're lovely -- yet I don't actually believe the nativity story for a moment.

And I'm not alone. We live in a multicultural society where...

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These Are The Signs Your Spouse Is Having A Texting Affair

(1) Comments | Posted November 24, 2015 | 2:16 PM

When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as emotional, physical, or both. That's helpful to some extent. Yet nowadays, there's another category that we can loosely call the texting affair.

An oversimplified scenario goes like this: Your spouse strikes up an opposite-sex friendship with a person at work,...

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Are You Afraid To Make A Change? Don't Let Fear Paralyze You

(0) Comments | Posted October 26, 2015 | 5:19 PM

I don't know about you, but every now and then when I'm highway driving at night I slip into a strange type of reverie. The black sky with the stars visible through my sunroof. The wash of white light from the headlights on the black road, illuminating my path as...

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Life Is Short, Turn Your Spouse On

(2) Comments | Posted August 19, 2015 | 6:59 PM

The recent Ashley Madison hack hasn't just exposed user data -- it's also brought to light our various attitudes toward marriage and monogamy in today's high-tech, high-strung society.

Ashley Madison's motto is brilliant marketing: "Life is short. Have an affair." Why is it brilliant? Well, because life is...

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Vestal Virgins: Feminism and the 'Evil Field'

(1) Comments | Posted August 15, 2015 | 6:49 PM

Despite the resurgence and richness of the Vesta tradition, many people who think "Vestal Virgin" still think of one thing: the fact that Vestals who broke their vow of chaste service to the goddess were buried alive. Let's be honest. Who can blame people for going there? It's a pretty...

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The Most Common Phrases a Cheating Spouse Uses

(18) Comments | Posted August 10, 2015 | 5:09 PM

As a couples mediator, my practice specializes in trust issues and tech-based infidelity. What do I mean by that? Well, it's infidelity that begins via technology -- in most cases, as texting between opposite-sex friends that eventually leads to an emotional and/or sexual affair.

While many couples enjoy...

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8 Ways to Take Your Marriage "Off Hold"

(1) Comments | Posted August 4, 2015 | 12:19 PM

Most of us have heard of the so-called child-centered marriage. It's where a couple focuses most of their time, energy and affection on their children and very little on each other. Of course, those of us who have kids at home know that the little darlings are demanding creatures (it's...

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6 Dating Tips From Around the World

(2) Comments | Posted June 25, 2015 | 5:02 PM

After many years of working with couples whose relationships are on the rocks, I know all too well how easy it is for spouses to fall into the "roommate rut" of familiarity and predictability. Yet singles and seeking often complain of the same type of thing: routine dating habits and...

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5 Ways to Succeed at Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted June 8, 2015 | 1:35 AM

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Ah, the quintessential happy home -- mom, dad, a kid or two (or three) cuddled on the couch for a family movie night, munching popcorn and enjoying each other's company. In a world where divorce and family breakdown are rampant, does this vision still...

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Why Are Women Embracing Vesta and Contemporary Paganism?

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2015 | 4:49 PM

The rediscovery of ancient faiths like Vesta, as well as other pre-Christian polytheistic belief systems, has been skyrocketing for years now. And while both men and women are embracing these, I'd like to focus here on why women are doing so.

For starters, more...

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Should the Catholic Church Acknowledge the Destruction of Classical Pagan Culture?

(64) Comments | Posted April 16, 2015 | 1:04 PM

I recently read an article that offered a Christian apology to Jewish people for the wrongs committed against them. The author also acknowledged the way that Christianity was "built" on Judaism. That's great; however, there's a glaring omission here. Christianity was also largely "built" on the destruction and...

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From Rabbits to Resurrections: How Easter Came to Be

(18) Comments | Posted April 4, 2015 | 9:15 AM

Think Easter started as a Christian holiday? Think again. This spring holiday began as, and still is, a very pagan one. While Christians celebrate their god's resurrection, so do other faiths and traditions that existed for millenia before Christianity was established. From the Egyptian god Osiris to the Greek god...

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Is Your Wife or Girlfriend Controlling You?

(4) Comments | Posted March 31, 2015 | 5:50 PM

Let's face it -- some men are just bullies. Those of us who work with couples will tell you that we are definitely seeing an increase in angry men who use belligerence and rage -- basically adult temper tantrums -- to control the women in their lives.

While male...

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8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to Life

(1) Comments | Posted March 24, 2015 | 5:25 PM

I was chatting with a client the other day about creating couplehood rituals -- like binge-watching The Walking Dead on lazy weekends -- when she said, "I don't need to watch zombies. My husband and I live like zombies. Our marriage is the walking dead."

Sad laugh.


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Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

(1) Comments | Posted March 11, 2015 | 8:38 AM

Many of us have been in a work meeting that went on for waaaay too long. The same people, saying the same things, over and over again. The same people complaining ad nauseam, using the meeting structure as an opportunity to vent about everything that is wrong with the company,...

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The Ancient Tradition That Can Keep Your Family Together

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2015 | 5:09 PM

Stephen King said it best: "Sooner or later, everything old is is new again." That's certainly true with fashion. I'm on board with the return of wrist watches and bootcut jeans. But I'll pass on the perms and trucker hats, thank you very much.

Old traditions also...

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Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

(5) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 4:27 PM

Have you ever heard of "spouse poaching"? In today's hook-up, shack-up, non-committal dating world, it may unfortunately be becoming a kind of desperate, last-ditch strategy for some people who cannot find a partner to marry or who is worthy of marrying.

Let's back up bit. There have always been men...

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