Debra Macleod
Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is a Relationship Consultant in Canada & the USA. She focuses on helping individuals make positive changes in their lives and relationships. Visit her at

Entries by Debra Macleod

Why It's Sometimes OK for a Woman to "Need" a Man

(13) Comments | Posted September 5, 2014 | 5:27 PM

It's a question that single women often ask me: "Why does my friend -- who is unemployed and has four kids with three different men -- get a ton of dates, but I don't get any? I have a great career, my own house and I am totally independent. What's...

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For Shark Week, Here Are 8 Ways to Not Get Bitten in Love

(1) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 5:23 PM

So it's that time of year again -- Shark Week. I love it. And not just the documentaries. I love the cheesy shark films like Sharknado, too. Sometimes I need that kind of brain candy. Sometimes there's nothing more therapeutic than snuggling on the couch with your sweetheart,...

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Instead of Making a Spreadsheet About Sex, Try Writing a Love Note

(2) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 1:06 PM

I was making my morning Internet rounds when I stumbled upon a story about a husband who, apparently upset with the lack of sex in his marriage, made a spreadsheet that documented how often his wife had sex with him. The spreadsheet included the date, whether sex was...

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Be Honest: Do You Throw Texter Tantrums?

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 5:09 PM

My husband, Don, and I were out for dinner the other night when, at the table next to us, a three-year-old boy launched into a classic temper tantrum. After being denied his third glass of soda -- an injustice of epic proportions when you still use a sippy cup --...

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Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 6:00 PM

Ah, the quintessential happy home: Husband, wife, 2.3 kids, a dog, white-picket fence and Friday movie nights with the whole family cuddled on the couch, munching popcorn and enjoying each other's company.

Does this happy home still exist? Well, it depends on who you ask. Some people will say this...

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Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Married

(24) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 7:07 AM

I see a lot of single women in my office, women who -- despite being smart, successful and attractive -- complain that the dating world isn't being kind to them. To be sure, both single women and men must navigate a dating world that often seems long on narcissists and...

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Wanna Get the Girl? Date Like it's 1946

(41) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 7:02 AM

If my email inbox is any indicator, it's clear that modern men and women are clueless about how to behave on a first date. Men are convinced that all women are crazy, while women lament that all men are jerks. Since neither of those statements are true, perhaps both genders...

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Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

(1) Comments | Posted October 28, 2013 | 4:01 PM

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people...

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If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

(28) Comments | Posted October 11, 2013 | 2:26 PM

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." He had experienced a string of unsuccessful relationships with women who were (in his words) needy, controlling and emotional. To some extent, I had to agree -- there...

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Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

(4) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 8:03 AM

Sarah Symonds, mistress to several but wife to none, has recently launched an online Wife School which provides insider information on how wives can ensure their husbands remain monogamous. Her advice boils down to the ESF Rule: "Men need to Eat, Sleep, and Fornicate," she says.


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10 Tips for a Spring Romance

(2) Comments | Posted April 30, 2013 | 8:19 AM

Ah, springtime -- the skies are blue and love is in the air. Every year around this time, my Inbox fills with questions from those looking for love. In response, I've compiled a short list of dating tips that you may want to tape to your fridge if you're single-and-seeking:

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Vegas "Sex" Casino: Would You Go With Your Spouse?

(1) Comments | Posted April 11, 2013 | 8:55 AM

Be honest: have you ever fantasized about having extramarital sex? If there was a completely safe, confidential place for you to indulge in it, would you do it? I'm not talking about hooking up in a shady motel for a three-way or tossing your keys in a bowl at a...

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Eight Ways to Affair-Proof Your Marriage

(168) Comments | Posted April 3, 2013 | 9:13 AM

This is part three of a three-part blog on infidelity. Visit previous blogs for parts one and two.

The Reasons for Infidelity

People often say that their marriage ended because their spouse had an affair; however, infidelity isn't always the cause of marital breakdown. Usually, it's...

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Infidelity, Part 2: How to End an Affair

(15) Comments | Posted March 4, 2013 | 7:55 AM

This is part two of a three-part series on Infidelity. Visit last week's blog for part one.

Ending an Affair

Sometimes a spouse wishes to end an affair and rebuild the marriage, but finds it difficult to tell his or her extra-marital bedmate that it is over. The...

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Part 1: How Technology Has Enabled Cheating

(1) Comments | Posted February 21, 2013 | 10:14 AM

The Discovery

Whether it is a husband who finds a forbidden lover's note tucked in his wife's purse, or a wife who discovers her husband has been paying another woman's rent, it is a gut-wrenching, life-shattering experience to suddenly discover that a spouse has been -- or is being --...

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Could Your Marriage Survive a Cruise Ship Disaster?

(0) Comments | Posted February 14, 2013 | 4:27 PM

A bad vacation makes a good story. Don't believe me? Notice your co-workers' glassy stares as you ramble on about how perfect your all-inclusive was. Now watch them spring to life as you start talking about what went wrong. How your plane sat on the runway for four hours while...

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In a Sex Rut? From Fat Cat to Sex Kitten in Eight Steps

(35) Comments | Posted February 2, 2013 | 6:06 AM

As a couples mediator, I can state with certainty that marriage problems often show up in the bedroom first. For that reason, it's important for a woman to stay sexual. It's important for men to stay sexual, too; however, women often set the tone when it comes to sex. If...

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Eight Ways to be a MILF with Class

(3) Comments | Posted January 24, 2013 | 7:17 AM

I was recently asked by a reporter what I thought of the term MILF. My answer? It depends on who is saying it. If it's a husband good-humoredly flattering his wife, great. If it's a silly teenage boy -- a la American Pie -- I also give him...

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10 Signs You're the Spouse From Hell

(40) Comments | Posted January 9, 2013 | 11:34 AM

If you think your partner is to blame for your relationship troubles, scroll through these 10 signs and ask yourself: Am I turning into the spouse from hell?

1. You have no humility. Instead of owning up to your flaws and admitting your role in conflict, you blame your...

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Some Modern Love Advice From Cleopatra

(9) Comments | Posted January 2, 2013 | 11:06 AM

Was 2012 a banner year for your love life? If so, fantastic. But not all women had such luck. Some wasted the year doing backflips in bed, hoping the hot sex would make him propose. It didn't. Instead, he continued to enjoy no-strings sex while keeping his options open. Other...

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