Debra Macleod
Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is a Relationship Consultant in Canada & the USA. She focuses on helping individuals make positive changes in their lives and relationships. Visit her at

Entries by Debra Macleod

How to Hit the Spiritual "Reset Button" in Your Life

(3) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 12:24 PM

I've always loved the idea of a fresh start. A clean slate. I think most of us do. The chance to cleanse past mistakes, to right old wrongs, to move forward in life without the burden of bad memories or unhealthy habits. It's why we make New Year's resolutions. We...

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Dating in 2015: Why Modest Will Be Hottest

(19) Comments | Posted December 28, 2014 | 11:19 AM

Was 2014 the year that you found the man of your dreams? Was it the year that men treated you with respect and adoration? Was it the year that your boyfriend dropped to one knee, told you he couldn't live without you, and asked you to spend the rest of...

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Why Modern Paganism Is Good For Today's Families, Part II

(4) Comments | Posted December 21, 2014 | 3:00 PM

This blog is Part II of a two-part blog discussing the rise and role of modern paganism -- specifically the New Vesta tradition -- in today's families. Click here to read Part I.

Let me ask you a question: How do you feel when you're sitting by a...

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Why Modern Paganism is Good For Today's Families

(16) Comments | Posted December 12, 2014 | 6:07 PM

This blog is part of a two-part series discussing the rise and role of modern paganism in today's families. Part I tells the author's story, while Part II expands into the history and principles of some practices.

I grew up in an atheist home. It was a happy, kind-hearted and...

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8 Lies That Parents on the Brink of Divorce Might Tell Themselves

(13) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 5:28 PM

As a former divorce mediator and current couples and family mediator, I have heard every excuse that parents use to feel better about breaking up their family. Here are eight of the most common lies that, if you're considering divorce, you might be telling yourself:

1. My...

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8 Reasons Your Husband is Falling Out of Love With You

(45) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 6:04 PM

I can't tell you how many unhappy husbands I've seen in my office over the past decade or so. They present with all kinds of issues, from infidelity to in-law troubles and everything in between. Yet despite the variety of marriage problems that can arise, there are some complaints that...

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How Amal Clooney is Bringing Marriage Back into Style

(2) Comments | Posted November 5, 2014 | 12:50 PM

Just as fashion trends have a tendency to return (I've seen two people wearing Swatches this week alone!), it appears that marriage is making a comeback. A new and improved version of marriage is hitting the shelves, and it is perhaps more fashionable than ever. Why? Largely because of the...

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Eight Monster Men You Should Be Scared To Date

(8) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 7:15 PM

If you're a single woman trying to survive in the dating world, you know it can be a scary place. While there are many truly wonderful men out there, there are also dark places where " monster men" lurk, lying in wait for an unsuspecting lovely like you to wander...

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Why Men Get Laid, But Women Get Screwed

(26) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 1:54 PM

If there's one sentiment that sums up the current dating culture, it's the words of Quentin Crisp, "Men get laid, but women get screwed."

Take a step back. What you're about to read has nothing to do with morality, religion or judgment -- as far as I'm concerned, those...

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Why It's Sometimes OK for a Woman to "Need" a Man

(13) Comments | Posted September 5, 2014 | 6:27 PM

It's a question that single women often ask me: "Why does my friend -- who is unemployed and has four kids with three different men -- get a ton of dates, but I don't get any? I have a great career, my own house and I am totally independent. What's...

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For Shark Week, Here Are 8 Ways to Not Get Bitten in Love

(1) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 6:23 PM

So it's that time of year again -- Shark Week. I love it. And not just the documentaries. I love the cheesy shark films like Sharknado, too. Sometimes I need that kind of brain candy. Sometimes there's nothing more therapeutic than snuggling on the couch with your sweetheart,...

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Instead of Making a Spreadsheet About Sex, Try Writing a Love Note

(2) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 2:06 PM

I was making my morning Internet rounds when I stumbled upon a story about a husband who, apparently upset with the lack of sex in his marriage, made a spreadsheet that documented how often his wife had sex with him. The spreadsheet included the date, whether sex was...

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Be Honest: Do You Throw Texter Tantrums?

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 6:09 PM

My husband, Don, and I were out for dinner the other night when, at the table next to us, a three-year-old boy launched into a classic temper tantrum. After being denied his third glass of soda -- an injustice of epic proportions when you still use a sippy cup --...

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Five Ways to a Happy Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted May 28, 2014 | 7:00 PM

Ah, the quintessential happy home: Husband, wife, 2.3 kids, a dog, white-picket fence and Friday movie nights with the whole family cuddled on the couch, munching popcorn and enjoying each other's company.

Does this happy home still exist? Well, it depends on who you ask. Some people will say this...

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Don't Live With Your Boyfriend if You Want to Get Married

(24) Comments | Posted January 30, 2014 | 8:07 AM

I see a lot of single women in my office, women who -- despite being smart, successful and attractive -- complain that the dating world isn't being kind to them. To be sure, both single women and men must navigate a dating world that often seems long on narcissists and...

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Wanna Get the Girl? Date Like it's 1946

(41) Comments | Posted December 5, 2013 | 8:02 AM

If my email inbox is any indicator, it's clear that modern men and women are clueless about how to behave on a first date. Men are convinced that all women are crazy, while women lament that all men are jerks. Since neither of those statements are true, perhaps both genders...

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Can "Oil Patch Marriages" Ever Work?

(1) Comments | Posted October 28, 2013 | 5:01 PM

Since the oil boom of the 1970's, many Alberta wives have called themselves "oil patch widows" due to work rotations that require their husbands to be away for weeks or months at a stretch. It is understandable how this physical separation can lead to an emotional disconnection between two people...

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If You Think All Women Are "Crazy," Take a Look at Yourself

(28) Comments | Posted October 11, 2013 | 3:26 PM

I recently saw a man in my office who asked me why all the women he dated turned out to be "crazy." He had experienced a string of unsuccessful relationships with women who were (in his words) needy, controlling and emotional. To some extent, I had to agree -- there...

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Marriage 101: Eight Classes I Wish Existed

(4) Comments | Posted May 10, 2013 | 9:03 AM

Sarah Symonds, mistress to several but wife to none, has recently launched an online Wife School which provides insider information on how wives can ensure their husbands remain monogamous. Her advice boils down to the ESF Rule: "Men need to Eat, Sleep, and Fornicate," she says.


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10 Tips for a Spring Romance

(2) Comments | Posted April 30, 2013 | 9:19 AM

Ah, springtime -- the skies are blue and love is in the air. Every year around this time, my Inbox fills with questions from those looking for love. In response, I've compiled a short list of dating tips that you may want to tape to your fridge if you're single-and-seeking:

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