Debra Macleod
Debra Macleod, B.A., LL.B., is a top-selling relationship author, expert resource for major media and couples mediator. Visit her private practice at

Entries by Debra Macleod

8 Ways to Bring a Zombie Marriage Back to Life

(0) Comments | Posted March 24, 2015 | 5:25 PM

I was chatting with a client the other day about creating couplehood rituals -- like binge-watching The Walking Dead on lazy weekends -- when she said, "I don't need to watch zombies. My husband and I live like zombies. Our marriage is the walking dead."

Sad laugh.


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Stop Talking Your Relationship To Death!

(1) Comments | Posted March 11, 2015 | 8:38 AM

Many of us have been in a work meeting that went on for waaaay too long. The same people, saying the same things, over and over again. The same people complaining ad nauseam, using the meeting structure as an opportunity to vent about everything that is wrong with the company,...

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The Ancient Tradition That Can Keep Your Family Together

(0) Comments | Posted March 5, 2015 | 5:09 PM

Stephen King said it best: "Sooner or later, everything old is is new again." That's certainly true with fashion. I'm on board with the return of wrist watches and bootcut jeans. But I'll pass on the perms and trucker hats, thank you very much.

Old traditions also...

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Spouse Poaching: Why Married People Are Sexy Targets

(5) Comments | Posted February 24, 2015 | 4:27 PM

Have you ever heard of "spouse poaching"? In today's hook-up, shack-up, non-committal dating world, it may unfortunately be becoming a kind of desperate, last-ditch strategy for some people who cannot find a partner to marry or who is worthy of marrying.

Let's back up bit. There have always been men...

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It Seems Some Men Are in 50 Shades of Shock

(10) Comments | Posted February 16, 2015 | 12:55 AM

Sorry gentlemen, but it seems that some of you can dish it out, but you can't take it.

Women are constantly faced with an onslaught of media images, commercials, sit-coms, television shows and movies that portray younger, hotter, air-brushed, nipped and tucked, sexier and naked or nearly-naked versions of...

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Why Opposite-Sex Friendships Will Destroy Your Marriage

(21) Comments | Posted February 9, 2015 | 4:58 PM

While there are a lot of ways to screw up a marriage, spouses who have close opposite-sex friendships are toying with one of the riskiest and most short-sighted behaviours that commonly lead to infidelity and ultimately divorce.

Many of my consults begin with a client saying something like this:...

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Have Women Lost Their "Feminine Mystique?"

(44) Comments | Posted January 30, 2015 | 4:16 PM

I was sitting in the movie theatre this past weekend to see The Imitation Game with my husband Don when a gaggle of twenty-something gals walked into the theatre, continuing past us to sit in the very back row.

Like lipsticked versions of the typical unruly kids...

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How to Hit the Spiritual "Reset Button" in Your Life

(3) Comments | Posted January 7, 2015 | 11:24 AM

I've always loved the idea of a fresh start. A clean slate. I think most of us do. The chance to cleanse past mistakes, to right old wrongs, to move forward in life without the burden of bad memories or unhealthy habits. It's why we make New Year's resolutions. We...

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Dating in 2015: Why Modest Will Be Hottest

(19) Comments | Posted December 28, 2014 | 10:19 AM

Was 2014 the year that you found the man of your dreams? Was it the year that men treated you with respect and adoration? Was it the year that your boyfriend dropped to one knee, told you he couldn't live without you, and asked you to spend the rest of...

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Why Modern Paganism Is Good For Today's Families, Part II

(4) Comments | Posted December 21, 2014 | 2:00 PM

This blog is Part II of a two-part blog discussing the rise and role of modern paganism -- specifically the New Vesta tradition -- in today's families. Click here to read Part I.

Let me ask you a question: How do you feel when you're sitting by a...

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Why Modern Paganism is Good For Today's Families

(16) Comments | Posted December 12, 2014 | 5:07 PM

This blog is part of a two-part series discussing the rise and role of modern paganism in today's families. Part I tells the author's story, while Part II expands into the history and principles of some practices.

I grew up in an atheist home. It was a happy, kind-hearted and...

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8 Lies That Parents on the Brink of Divorce Might Tell Themselves

(13) Comments | Posted December 1, 2014 | 4:28 PM

As a former divorce mediator and current couples and family mediator, I have heard every excuse that parents use to feel better about breaking up their family. Here are eight of the most common lies that, if you're considering divorce, you might be telling yourself:

1. My...

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8 Reasons Your Husband is Falling Out of Love With You

(45) Comments | Posted November 13, 2014 | 5:04 PM

I can't tell you how many unhappy husbands I've seen in my office over the past decade or so. They present with all kinds of issues, from infidelity to in-law troubles and everything in between. Yet despite the variety of marriage problems that can arise, there are some complaints that...

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How Amal Clooney is Bringing Marriage Back into Style

(2) Comments | Posted November 5, 2014 | 11:50 AM

Just as fashion trends have a tendency to return (I've seen two people wearing Swatches this week alone!), it appears that marriage is making a comeback. A new and improved version of marriage is hitting the shelves, and it is perhaps more fashionable than ever. Why? Largely because of the...

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Eight Monster Men You Should Be Scared To Date

(8) Comments | Posted October 29, 2014 | 6:15 PM

If you're a single woman trying to survive in the dating world, you know it can be a scary place. While there are many truly wonderful men out there, there are also dark places where " monster men" lurk, lying in wait for an unsuspecting lovely like you to wander...

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Why Men Get Laid, But Women Get Screwed

(26) Comments | Posted October 23, 2014 | 12:54 PM

If there's one sentiment that sums up the current dating culture, it's the words of Quentin Crisp, "Men get laid, but women get screwed."

Take a step back. What you're about to read has nothing to do with morality, religion or judgment -- as far as I'm concerned, those...

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Why It's Sometimes OK for a Woman to "Need" a Man

(13) Comments | Posted September 5, 2014 | 5:27 PM

It's a question that single women often ask me: "Why does my friend -- who is unemployed and has four kids with three different men -- get a ton of dates, but I don't get any? I have a great career, my own house and I am totally independent. What's...

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For Shark Week, Here Are 8 Ways to Not Get Bitten in Love

(1) Comments | Posted August 12, 2014 | 5:23 PM

So it's that time of year again -- Shark Week. I love it. And not just the documentaries. I love the cheesy shark films like Sharknado, too. Sometimes I need that kind of brain candy. Sometimes there's nothing more therapeutic than snuggling on the couch with your sweetheart,...

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Instead of Making a Spreadsheet About Sex, Try Writing a Love Note

(2) Comments | Posted July 25, 2014 | 1:06 PM

I was making my morning Internet rounds when I stumbled upon a story about a husband who, apparently upset with the lack of sex in his marriage, made a spreadsheet that documented how often his wife had sex with him. The spreadsheet included the date, whether sex was...

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Be Honest: Do You Throw Texter Tantrums?

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 5:09 PM

My husband, Don, and I were out for dinner the other night when, at the table next to us, a three-year-old boy launched into a classic temper tantrum. After being denied his third glass of soda -- an injustice of epic proportions when you still use a sippy cup --...

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