Delaine Moore
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Delaine Moore is an author, speaker, Mars Venus Divorce & Dating Coach, and founder and CEO of I Am Divorced Not Dead. Armed with a mission to help men and women going through divorce STOP falling apart and START becoming Fearless and Fiery, Delaine loves coaching individuals and groups on how to successfully shed their married skin, date with confidence, and pursue passion in all areas of their lives.

Having survived and championed her own painful divorce -- which included overcoming infidelity and single parenting three young children -- Delaine went on to write a memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom (Seal Press, Spring2012), co-found a magazine for divorced women, and partner with relationship expert Dr. John Gray of Mars Venus Coaching.

Delaine is a masterful mentor when it comes to blasting through your self-told lies and excuses, unlocking the secrets of dating success and understanding the opposite sex, excavating your dormant passions, and fueling them with courage, confidence, and clarity.

Delaine’s upcoming memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom (Seal Press, Spring 2012), not only casts a revealing new light on the struggles of divorcing moms, it breaks new ground in challenging society’s Rule book for Women. It is the hard-earned story of how her body roused to thrust her life forward during the first year of her divorce, blasting through all her ‘coulds’ and ‘shoulds’ and demanding she recognize how much of her Self and passion she’d sublimated to be the perfect mom and wife.

The former COO and Executive Editor of Divorced Women Online, Delaine’s expert articles have appeared on MSN’s GLO, First Wives World and The New York Time’s About.com. Her essay, “Less Than a Bump and a Grind,” won the Readers’ Choice Award in Novelette.com’s essay competition on the topic of men, and she recently appeared on CareOne’s Financially Fit TV, The Cracked I radio, and Cosmo Radio’s “Get In Bed.”

Blog Entries by Delaine Moore

What Love is Like After Divorce

(1) Comments | Posted May 8, 2012 | 5:00 PM

It's been a long road getting to "healthy" since I got divorced five years ago. Between legal matters, single parenting, starting a new career and exploring the dating/sex trenches, my life often felt like one giant ball of CRAZY.

But there came a time, about two years ago, when...

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Can Married Women Handle a Single Woman's Truths?

(45) Comments | Posted April 2, 2012 | 4:09 PM

A month ago, a local book club contacted me to say that they'd chosen my just-released memoir, The Secret Sex Life of a Single Mom, as their April pick. So great was their enthusiasm that they also asked if I might attend their meeting in person. I agreed...

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The Lure of BDSM and D/s: MY Shades of Grey

(15) Comments | Posted March 26, 2012 | 2:00 AM

Today, as women everywhere breathe heavily over 50 Shades of Grey, an erotic novel complete with bondage, discipline and power fantasy role-playing, I actually find myself breathing a little easier...

Because it's something I've experienced in real life. Moreover, I chose to tell the world about it in my just-released...

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Two Men in One Weekend

(46) Comments | Posted March 14, 2012 | 10:19 AM

Oh my God, I am so paranoid. I just can't seem to escape it. Might as well go ahead and write on my tombstone:

Loving mom, dedicated friend,
Had sex with two different men in one weekend. Devoted her life to worrying about it.

But now that a few...

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My Next Partner Will Lie Beside Me & Enjoy A Good Book

(44) Comments | Posted March 12, 2012 | 8:16 PM

I've always yearned to lie beside the man I love and discuss a good book. To me, the mere idea of it feels romantic. Intimate. Even arousing.

No man I've cared for thus far, my ex-husband included, enjoyed reading books. Sure, they'd scour over a newspaper or the odd motorcycle...

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"Who Needs a GF When I Have a Maid?"

(26) Comments | Posted February 15, 2012 | 4:09 PM

Though I don't know my friend Tim really well, I've always held him in high regard. The other day, however, I got to thinking that it seemed strange that he was still single. I mean, I knew he was divorced. But that was eight years ago and he didn't seem...

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Would You Rather Read a Book or Have Sex?: A Poll for Wives

(319) Comments | Posted January 16, 2012 | 10:35 AM

It's a taboo subject in our culture: Married women, who dislike -- even hate -- having sex with their husbands.

It's a subject usually held in silence, behind embarrassment, confusion, sometimes even apathy. It's consoled with inner placations, like "There's more important things in a marriage than sex", or...

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Are Single/Divorced Moms Hiding Their Sex Lives?

(53) Comments | Posted January 10, 2012 | 1:39 PM

What's really happening in the sex lives of divorced or single moms? Are they at home on Saturday nights watering their plants? Are they periodically dating, but adhering to a strict code of abstinence? Or are many moms choosing to date and take lovers -- perhaps until the next Mr....

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"I Don't Need A Man"? Please!

(161) Comments | Posted October 11, 2011 | 9:10 AM

Over the past three years since I got divorced, it is by far THE most popular statement I've heard from women: "I don't need a man." And it's been said with passion. Power. Ownership. As if it's been EARNED.

And I've heard it all over the place:...

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First Date Kisses and the Hormones of a Divorcee

(6) Comments | Posted September 5, 2011 | 8:00 AM

Hollywood TV and film make the first date 'goodnight kiss' look so easy. It's usually not a closed-mouth 'see-ya-later' kind of kiss, but a deep, lingering, passionate kiss -- the kind that makes the viewer go, "Mmmm."

But the viewer doesn't see hands venturing anywhere inappropriate. Lips inevitably do...

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What Do You Say to "I Don't Believe in Monogamy"?

(1196) Comments | Posted August 19, 2011 | 2:19 PM

I recently went out on a first date with a stylish, charming man of French (Québécois) descent. And when our conversation moved into that of relationships (which it inevitably does with me) he suddenly caught me off guard by stating : "I believe in commitment...but not monogamy."

His admission left...

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I Made Out With a Married Man, and Then I Told His Wife

(581) Comments | Posted August 2, 2011 | 10:53 AM

So I made out with another woman's husband a couple of weeks ago.

That's right. This here divorce and dating expert got conned by a handsome, sweet- talking cheater.

Back up and let me explain:

It was 6 p.m. on a Tuesday night, right in the middle of the Calgary...

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