Diane Weber Bederman
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Diane Weber Bederman is a multi-faith endorsed, hospital- trained chaplain. She took her course in clinical pastoral education at the Toronto General Hospital in association with The Toronto Institute for Pastoral Education, Toronto School of Theology. She graduated from the University of Toronto, Faculty of Dentistry with a Diploma in Dental Hygiene and from York University, Glendon Campus with a BA in Interdisciplinary Studies concentration in human behaviour.
She writes about religion in the public square and mental illness on her blog:The Middle Ground:The Agora of the 21st Century. She is a regular contributor to Convivium:Faith in our Community
Read her WEB-BOOK: Words that Bear fruit:teaching the mind, touching the soul.
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This Mother's Day, Think of the Kids

(2) Comments | Posted May 8, 2014 | 9:10 AM

Mother's day is around the corner. For too many children whose families are restructuring all they want for the day to be happy is their father. They want their dream back. They want to be able to love both parents equally without guilt. We owe it to our children to...

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Veil of Tears: Naming the Missing and Dead Indigenous Women

(0) Comments | Posted May 5, 2014 | 2:11 PM

*The following names are from a database of missing and murdered aboriginal women in Canada documented in Maryanne Pearce's thesis: An Awkward Silence: Missing And Murdered Vulnerable Women And The Canadian Justice System .

Veil of tears #ItEndsHere


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In Remembering Boston Bombers, Don't Forget International Terrorism

(1) Comments | Posted April 16, 2014 | 5:22 PM

Aristotle wrote "memory is the scribe of the soul." America terrorism is now a deeply embedded memory - a psychic wound written on her soul.

The memorial for the Boston Marathon bombing has taken place -- the marathon itself is April 21. Three people were killed and more...

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Obama and Kerry Are Going Too Far To Prove We Are Tolerant and Inclusive

(5) Comments | Posted April 3, 2014 | 5:23 PM

During times of universal deceit, telling the truth becomes revolutionary: George Orwell.

I fear we are losing our moral compass in the West under President Obama and Secretary of State Kerry. Political correctness has unleashed attacks on the very foundation of Western Civilization: ethical monotheism; the Judeo/Christian ethic brought out...

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Shaming Criminals Could Reduce Crime

(4) Comments | Posted March 25, 2014 | 12:29 PM

Have you ever seen a dog wearing a cone over his head? Those big, clunky plastic cones that keep them from licking a wound? Its official name is "Elizabethan Collar." It works. It just looks ridiculous. I sometimes think that these dogs and cats know that it looks ridiculous and...

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The True Meaning of Ethical Monotheism

(1) Comments | Posted March 19, 2014 | 4:33 PM

There are two stories about the revelation at Mount Sinai. God sent a friend request and the Jews accepted. The second story: God sent a friend request and the Jews waited, looked into the ramifications of the contract, the commitments-rights and responsibilities, the duration, little things. God really wanted the...

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The Only Shame in Mental Illness Is the Shameful Lack of Understanding

(4) Comments | Posted March 14, 2014 | 9:35 AM

It's so easy to say I have a cardiac condition, or my blood pressure is through the roof, even talking about one's bowels is acceptable. But acknowledge a mental illness, and the world looks at you differently -- with a little apprehension. Or maybe a lot, especially after reading about...

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The One Thing Atheists and Fundamentalists Have in Common

(91) Comments | Posted March 4, 2014 | 11:35 AM

Most of us think of those who proselytize as religious fundamentalists. Many of us have experienced the knock at the door and upon opening it we see two well-groomed young men, white shirts and ties wanting to talk to us about God -- Mormons. Or we are greeted by young...

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Shame on the West for Ignoring Mass Murder

(2) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 7:33 AM

In the spring of 1994, the Hutus of Rwanda turned on the Tutsis and within 100 days murdered almost 800,000 of them. "Why?" They asked. For being Tutsis?

They probably asked God: "Why would such a thing happen?" Is that not the universal plea?

The question was the same as the one asked 50 years earlier when six million Jews were murdered. "Why?" they asked. For being Jews?

The question coming out of the concentration camps was "Why God? Where were you?"

Answers were sought. How could God allow such horror? I remember one of the attempts to answer such a profound question.

Perhaps God lifted His gaze, just for a nano-second and looked upward, toward the future or to the other side of the universe-for just a nano-second and in that time the people were massacred.

Maybe that happened in Rwanda, too.

But I don't think so. God in His infinite compassion would never permit such a thing. It wasn't God. It was humanity. From the Nazi killing machine throughout Europe to Rwanda there was what Thomas Aquinas called an Ignorantia Affectata. "A willful lack of knowledge designed to protect one from the harm so useful that one protects it, keeps it from the light, in order to continue using it."

There was a lack of desire to aid Rwanda. Canadian General Dallair, in charge of the UN Peace keeping troops sent a warning when weaponry arrived in Rwanda from Belgium, France, and the United Kingdom, meant of course for good intentions.

Human Rights Watch called on the world to use the word "genocide" -- a term which would have legally obliged the UN to act. Yet, the US and UN security council voted on Day 12 of the massacre to remove 90% of the peacekeeping force in Rwanda. There were no soldiers for war.

Day 25 of the massacre: "Be careful... a genocide finding could commit us to actually 'do something.' US defence department discussion paper warns."

Day 45 the UN finally asks the US to provide 50 armoured personnel carriers. They argue for weeks over who will pay for them. The carriers don't arrive until July.

Day 65 as the killings continued, the French government continued to supply weapons through eastern Zaire (DR Congo). President Francois Mitterrand said, "In such countries, genocide is not too important." (Reported in the newspaper Le Figaro.)

Rather reminiscent of the world response to the elimination of Jews from Europe.

A desire not to know, an intentional "bystander."

And now we come back to the world today.

What have you heard about Burma, Tibet, Northern Cyprus? Even less than Syria, North Korea, Sudan and Democratic Republic of Congo.

Don't look. Pretend it's not happening-or pretend that efforts at peace will work-if we just give it enough time. Rwanda took more than 100 days. The Jewish people waited five years. Syria has been in conflagration for three years. Talk. Talk. Talk. Well maybe there will be talk. But then who's listening. The media? There is a certain presence of an absence in far too many hot spots.

We are cultivating that Ignorantia Affectata which is just a slip down the slope to the banality of evil where it becomes easier to turn away from the cries of those in places neither glamourous nor easy to access.

I last wrote about Burma in August 2013. According to reports in February 2014, it seems nothing has changed. Why would it when the facts about Muslim ghettos, "de facto open-air prisons" ghettos are kept hidden.

Religious intolerance against the Muslim Rohingya minority and Christians from the Chin and Kachin minorities continues despite the pleas of a dozen former Nobel Peace laureates urging "an international, independent investigation of the anti-Muslim violence in Burma" June 2013.

According to the The U.N Human Rights Council "from inside Tibet and from Tibetan-populated counties of Chinese provinces regularly cite cases of Chinese security forces firing on unarmed Tibetans protesting Beijing's rule, of the beating and torture of Tibetan prisoners, and of other abuses."

You probably haven't heard about this. There seems to be a dearth of reports from Tibet. Perhaps because "China has not complied with these requests" from U.N. human rights chief Navi Pillay to "allow special rapporteurs--experts charged with reporting to the U.N. on special areas of concern--to visit and observe conditions in Tibet."

Are you even aware that Northern Cyprus has been under illegal occupation by Turkey since 1974? Did you read about "systemic human rights abuses against Greek Cypriots , ethnic cleansing from ancestral homes or that 200,000 Greek Cypriot refugees have been prevented from returning to their homes and lands and 162,000 colonists have been illegally transferred to the occupied area by Turkey to alter the demography of the island"?

I guess this story isn't sexy.

And then there are the continuing horror stories out of Syria. And what is the world doing? It seems we declare red lines and then ignore them and we watch. Or not watch as the case may be. Yet, there are 2 million refugees, more than half of them children, two million others displaced within the country and an estimated 11,420 children killed. And starvation is rampant.


Syria is another country where access is difficult. Satellite imagery is used to document the destruction: of buildings. The Global Heritage Fund's director of Global Projects, Dan Thompson said: "All of the country's world heritage sites have sustained damage, including the Unesco site cities, and a great many of the other monuments in the country have been damaged, destroyed or have been subject to severe looting."

And then there is Northern Korea. Slavery, starvation, mass murder. Yet we get our reports from Dennis Rodman. We all heard about Kim Jung-un's birthday party but nothing about human rights abuses until mid-February when the UN came out with its report-that took a year to collate.

And slavery in Sudan, atrocities in Eritrea, targeted killings in Somalia, beheadings and mass rape in Mali, starvation in Zimbabwe, "modern slavery" in preparing for World Cup 2022 in Qatar.

Can you imagine how these innocent victims would feel if they knew the time talking heads spend on reporting about a peace deal between a democracy and an autocratic theocracy while they suffer from war, hunger, torture, devastation of their families and homes, face ethnic cleansing, live in open air prisons, become enslaved, because too few are paying attention to them?

Can you imagine what they would think if they knew the Palestinian Authority had "misspent, squandered or lost to corruption" 2.5 billion euros in aid from the European Union over the last four years. And that Egypt had lost one billion euros of aid money over six years.

Or how they would react if they knew that Palestinian refugees receive $83 per refugee while 19.2-million refugees and asylum seekers in 116 countries receive $52 per refugee.

Or their reaction to the fact that Gaza and the West Bank are blessed with 5 star hotels.

Can you imagine how it must feel to know that the UN, EU and the USA have turned their gaze away, perhaps protecting themselves from culpability, while feeling good about another attempt at peace process between two plots on the ground that are relatively calm?

Do you think they ask themselves why their plight is so unimportant?

Ignorantia Affectata.

Sir Thomas More reminds us in "A Man for All Seasons" "silence gives...

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A Question of Evil

(1) Comments | Posted February 18, 2014 | 3:54 PM

Apropos of no particular reason, I decided to write about evil. Not that it's difficult to find. No deep-throat type of investigation. But, from whence does it come?

Are we by nature born generous and good, a secular view espoused since the time of Rousseau and the Enlightenment? Do we...

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Why We Should Judge a Country On its Attitude Towards Homosexuals

(6) Comments | Posted February 12, 2014 | 11:29 AM

Last November I wrote about Olympic hopeful Jake Holden. The Olympics are here but I noticed a great deal of air time has been given to discussing gay rights, probably because Russia had made its anti-gay position clear ahead of the Games. J.J. McCullough put this into perspective...

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Use This Valentine's Day To Plant Trees, Not Destroy Them

(2) Comments | Posted February 5, 2014 | 11:50 AM

Valentine's Day is fast approaching. Just recovering from the warmth of Christmas love and giving and there is another opportunity to share.

It is said the holiday came about because of a note Valentinus, a Christian, incarcerated for his religious beliefs, wrote to his jailer's blind daughter whose sight...

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Why We Should Commemorate the Liberation of Auschwitz

(2) Comments | Posted January 26, 2014 | 8:39 PM

Monday, January 27, 2014, is the 69th anniversary of the liberation of Auschwitz. Auschwitz was built as part of the military-industrial infrastructure for the sole purpose of gathering, transporting and incinerating Jews -- for the crime of being Jewish. Commemorations will be taking place around the world.

Do we...

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What Rosie DiManno Gets Wrong About Mental Illness

(8) Comments | Posted January 25, 2014 | 7:22 AM

The word "mental" conjures fearful images; the "crazed" ax murderer, the "psycho" who stalks people and then stabs them repeatedly, the young man who takes a gun and sprays a stream of bullets in a room full of young children. Mental illness drags behind it a heavy bag of ignorance...

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Do You Suffer From Mental Illness? Turning To Religion May Help

(38) Comments | Posted January 22, 2014 | 12:34 PM

Reyal Jardine-Douglas, Sylvia Klibingaitis, Michael Eligon, Michael MacIsaac, and Sammy Yatim are all dead.

The 2013 Mobile Crisis Team Coordination Steering Committee Report, MCIT Program Coordination in the City of Toronto acknowledges that it's important to recognize that mental illness is not, in and...

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Palestine Needs a Story of its Own

(17) Comments | Posted January 15, 2014 | 4:49 PM

Nations have a narrative that explains their culture, their common shared experiences, beliefs, rituals, symbols and stories. The narrative explains the laws of the people and teaches the language that binds them together.

Nations are also defined by their borders, yet the Jewish people maintained a nation without defined borders...

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Israel: Western Imperialism Favours Democracy

(12) Comments | Posted January 9, 2014 | 4:00 PM

Yves Engler in his blog " How the Tories Propagate Jewish Imperialism" has given a detailed history of Canada's defense of Israel's right to exist. But he takes umbrage with the current government for being "more aggressive in its public declarations than any before it and this has...

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Perhaps I Was Too Harsh on Québec

(3) Comments | Posted January 7, 2014 | 12:59 PM

I have written about Quebec before.

Let's just say that I won't be beatified any time soon. But I think the Québecois deserve a badge of courage for their attempts to define reasonable accommodation.

They are asking the question "What is the definition of tolerance?" I suggest the...

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The Idea of Trickle-Up Ethics

(2) Comments | Posted December 30, 2013 | 3:11 AM

Rabbi Hillel, a native of Babylonia who moved to Jerusalem in the time of Herod wrote:

"If I am not for myself, then who will be for me?
And if I am only for myself, then what am I?
And if not now, when?"

There has...

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Don't Let Roger Waters Get Away With What He Said

(10) Comments | Posted December 23, 2013 | 4:29 PM

I don't make a habit of reading Dave Bidini, columnist for the National Post. Saturday's article caught my eye: "Dear Roger Waters or a Boys View of Pink Floyd." He appears to be enthralled with rock concerts yet at the same time a little embarrassed because he wrote...

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