Erin Silver
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Erin Silver is a freelance writer and blogger with more than 15 years experience writing for major magazines and newspapers in Canada and the United States. A single mom to two rambunctious young boys, she is inspired to share her experiences on everything from divorce and single parenting to dating and blending families. Erin is currently pursing her MFA and writing a memoir, Burnt: Cooking My Way Through Divorce, featuring recipes for every stage of the healing process. Visit her at erinsilver.ca.

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How Divorce Affects Your Friendships

(0) Comments | Posted March 27, 2017 | 1:04 PM

The other night I went to a 40th birthday party at a friend's house. His wife threw him a wonderful dinner, invited his big group of friends, who have known each other since nursery school and have stuck together through every happiness and tragedy ever since, and made him a...

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Divorce Has Made Me A Stronger Mama

(0) Comments | Posted March 14, 2017 | 3:17 PM

At first, I thought bringing my boys on a three-day trip to Quebec City was a mistake. They were overexcited and bickered non-stop on the plane. When we got off the plane, we realized it was -22 degrees Celsius, plus the windchill. It was too cold to walk around and...

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Your Kids Should Eat Fermented Foods

(0) Comments | Posted March 10, 2017 | 8:18 AM

I've heard a lot of buzz lately about fermented foods. I know fermented foods are good for our gut health and that we should eat more fermented foods like kefir, kimchi and sauerkraut. But I'd never once given any thought to how fermented foods could benefit my kids. I never...

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Stop Throwing Big Birthday Parties For Your Kids

(24) Comments | Posted February 21, 2017 | 4:42 AM

This year I wanted to do something different for my son's eighth birthday. I'd always thrown big birthday parties for them in the past, but this year, I didn't want to have a birthday party at all. It's always a big production. I end up entertaining 40 kids, working so...

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I Won't Apologize For Feeding My Kids Healthy Foods

(3) Comments | Posted February 2, 2017 | 5:46 AM

This weekend my son has a hockey tournament in another city. It's his first tournament and he's very excited to stay in a hotel with his teammates. But rather than asking who they're playing and what he and his friends will do at the hotel after their games, he seemed...

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Should Writing About Divorce Be Off Limits?

(0) Comments | Posted January 25, 2017 | 2:48 PM

I had such an overwhelming response to my last blog post, in which I described my recent trip to Arizona and how having some "family time" with my kids and ex eventually resulted in tears. I want to thank you for reading, empathizing, and for sharing your feedback with me....

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How A 'Family' Hike Brought My Kids To Tears

(0) Comments | Posted January 11, 2017 | 1:33 AM

This holiday season, my kids and I spent some time with my parents in Arizona, along with one of my brothers, his wife and their baby. We had a great time, and it was amazing to see my youngest brother all grown up with a family of his own.

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Coping With Holiday Nostalgia

(0) Comments | Posted December 21, 2016 | 6:47 AM

The kids and I are heading to our happy place. We go to Arizona every year for winter break to spend time with my parents at their desert home. It's the highlight of our year; the time when the fondest memories are made, when the best photos are taken.

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How To Raise A Kinder Family This Year

(0) Comments | Posted December 13, 2016 | 5:26 AM

This is the time of year when parents tend to worry about whether they're spoiling their kids. How many gifts are too many to give during Christmas or Chanukah? Did we buy enough? Did our kids get what they wanted?

We want them to feel grateful, not entitled, yet...

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Certain Strategies Can Help Kids Cope With Change

(0) Comments | Posted December 2, 2016 | 6:16 AM

My oldest son, Ari, has not been behaving well lately. I love him to pieces, but he's a bit of a challenge at the best of times. He's smart -- too smart -- and is always questioning, negotiating and figuring out ways to wear me out and get attention, even...

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A Psychic Medium Told Me To Let Go Of My Past. But How?

(0) Comments | Posted November 25, 2016 | 1:25 PM

One thing I'm realizing about divorce is that it can follow you around like a stray dog. I'm four years post divorce, and there it is, always trailing behind me. If kids weren't involved, I'd get to move forward without any sort of a shadow. But with kids, I'm tied...

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Disorganized Mom Seeking Professional Help

(2) Comments | Posted November 17, 2016 | 4:45 AM

Am I the only mom who feels I need an assistant? Someone who can help me differentiate between Monday and Tuesday? Sometimes I get things so mixed up that I show up at school having forgotten which of my kids' class field trips I'm about to go on. On Halloween,...

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Maybe There's Hope For Me As A Hockey Mom After All

(0) Comments | Posted November 8, 2016 | 2:51 PM

I'm trying to be a good hockey mom, but it seems I've got a lot to learn.

I had to learn early on after becoming a single mom how to tie skate laces and help my boys put on their equipment. I began by asking other veteran moms and dads...

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Can You Teach Brothers To Love And Support Each Other?

(0) Comments | Posted November 1, 2016 | 10:00 AM

It's not always easy having boys 15 months apart. Now ages six and seven, they have always wanted the same thing at the same time -- same toys, same food, same clothes. They often feel they are somehow competing for the same resources, too, whether it be our time or...

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How Do You Help Your Kids Get Back Up When They Fall?

(0) Comments | Posted October 20, 2016 | 2:51 PM

The other day I got to the kids' school for the book fair right on time. When I arrived, my oldest son, Ari, was in tears and complaining of chest pains. His teacher had her arm around him, but I could tell she wasn't sure what to do except wait...

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How To Teach Your Child To Cope With Failure

(0) Comments | Posted October 17, 2016 | 9:03 AM

There was a big cross country race the other day. I really wanted my kids to be on the school team, to participate in the race. But for whatever reason -- whether a lack of interest or fear of failure -- they refused to try. My little guy is actually...

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How To Fight The Inevitable Holiday Weight Gain

(1) Comments | Posted October 11, 2016 | 11:44 AM

Thanksgiving might be where it all begins for Canadians: holiday season weight gain. In the United States, it is estimated that Americans gain between five and 10 pounds between their Thanksgiving and New Years. Other more recent studies show that people actually only gain about a pound, with men gaining...

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My Boys Fight Nonstop And I Can't Help Feeling A Little Proud

(17) Comments | Posted September 26, 2016 | 5:58 PM

My boys fight nonstop. Nonstop. If you were taking a flight, nonstop would be a good thing, but when they are constantly bickering, teasing each other, wrestling and deliberately getting under one another's skin, nonstop takes on a negative connotation.

"Stop fighting!" I'll tell them. But after saying it for...

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Blending Families Is A Challenging Business

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2016 | 3:26 PM

Blended families are everywhere, representing nearly 13 per cent of all Canadian households. In the U.S. approximately 40 per cent of adults have a close step-relationship, such as with stepchild or stepparent.

The process of bringing two families together, or adding a stepparent, can be extremely...

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Now That School Is In, Are Video Games Out?

(3) Comments | Posted September 8, 2016 | 10:07 AM

Are video games a god's gift to parents or a big problem for kids?

I've been debating this topic for the last two weeks, ever since my baseball-obsessed seven-year-old got a new video game. MLB 16 The Show, in case you're wondering. The kid could play all day if I...

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