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Picky Eaters, the One-Bite Rule and the Power of Change

Posted: 09/02/11 08:00 AM ET

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When it comes to feeding a family, it's remarkably difficult to make a meal that is universally appealing to the many hungry mouths at the table. As a somewhat picky eater myself, I understand and accept this reality, but as chief cook-in-residence it can be a challenging one to navigate.

After years of cooking for kids, I've learned that I don't believe in forcing anyone to eat something that begs for groaning and reflexive retching. There is nothing worse than sitting across from someone -- this could be adult or child -- who turns many shades of green before lifting a hand to his or her mouth to cover a potential eruption. The entire table falls silent as the table-mate either expels what's in their mouth, or swallows the goods with a little shudder. Not pleasant for anyone.

So, while I'm obviously against force-feeding, I am a firm believer in the one bite rule. At least one bite must be taken from each item on the plate. Two or three would be preferable, but one will suffice. In my experience, what starts off as one usually ends up as three or four or even 10, eventually. And the less fuss I make about these bites, the more likely they are to be taken.

What I've also learned is that if one of my children detests something, like a burger for example, and I serve it in a new and inventive way, the previously offensive food is now one of interest; something worthy of consideration. It doesn't matter that I was only creative out of necessity (no buns in the house, only four pickles in the jar and barely enough cheese to feed a mouse), the bottom line is, I was inventive. Something old was transformed into a new and fresh food; one that was worth considering. And eating. And enjoying. Making me realize that while my kids won't always happily nosh on what's before them, they are more interested in trying if the foods can be seen in a new light.

Baguette Burgers

• 1 lb ground beef
• 2 tablespoons Dijon mustard
• 2 tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
• 1 egg yolk
• Kosher salt and fresh ground pepper, to taste
• 16 slices baguette rounds, about 3/4 inch thick
• 4 pickles, divided into 16 pieces
• 4 thick slices of cheese, divided into 16 cubes
• 2 large pieces of romaine lettuce, torn into 16 small pieces
• 1/4 cup mayo
• Toothpicks

Preheat the oven to 400 degrees. Combine the ground beef, Dijon mustard, Worcestershire sauce, egg yolk, salt and pepper in a large bowl and mix well.

Shape into 16 mini patties, approx. 2 inches in diameter. Place on a parchment lined baking sheet and cook for 14 minutes, or until the meat reaches the desired doneness.

While the meat is cooking place the baguette rounds on a large platter. Spread each with a smear of mayo and top with a piece of lettuce. Once the burgers are cooked, place one each slice of baguette. Top each with a cube of cheese and a piece of pickle and spear with a toothpick to hold it all together.

 

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07:55 PM on 09/09/2011
The Truth About the Nutritional Benefits of Eggs
To begin we have been told by medical experts for years to refrain from eating too many eggs per week. Born from this edict we now separate the yolk from the whole egg and serve the egg white as a separate entity in a sandwich and even leave out the yolk
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12:28 PM on 09/04/2011
Being a picky eater is an attitude you passed down to your kids. The idea that often people sit at the table, take a bite, and vomit, while their fellow diners watch, is nothing short of bizarre in my world view. But if you believe that, you train your kids to manipulate you in that exact way.

Picky eaters are convinced that there is lots of normal, wholesome food that is nothing short of vomit-worthy. Picky eaters take pride in the vast array of food they refuse to eat. It is just a manifestation of the American acceptance of eating disorders as a way of making yourself feel special. It is a sign of abundance that people even have the option to waste food in this way.

In most times and places, the first famine would have taken out the majority of picky eaters.
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09:20 PM on 09/02/2011
I found that when I stopped being the chief cook in residence and began to bring my boys into planning, prep and cooking, they stopped being picky and became very inventive. My guys are 19 and 24 and my youngest's favorite dish is Unagi or mussels and my oldest is a fantastic cook and adventurous eater also. The funny thing is, when they started helping with the cooking, I became the picky eater. It seems I wanted them to eat what I wanted to eat and when they had the input, I had to cook with things like (ugh) black olives or dill pickles.
My youngest actually asked to speak to a chef in a restaurant when he was about 10 because he wanted to know why the meatloaf was so good. The chef explained that he used beef, pork and lamb and my son nodded wisely and explained that his nana always put beef and pork in her meatballs and burgers but the lamb really added something... I created a monster.
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01:09 PM on 09/02/2011
I agree whole-heartedly with the one-bite rule. Kids don't like new, they like familiar, when you put something new on their plate, they often look disgusted and immediately proclaim they aren't eating THAT, which can be very frustrating for a parent who has just taken the last 40 minutes preparing the meal. The one-bite rule at least give the child the chance to try the food AND THEN decide it is revolting.
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11:18 AM on 09/02/2011
REQUIRING even one bite is still force-feeding. My parents rarely had the fortitude to follow through, but they believed in making us eat something and there were a few, token evenings where we were made to sit at the table either until we ate whatever it was, or they gave up. If the kid still refuses to eat the one bite, let it go. It's not worth forcing anything. In my case, it was the official glass of milk (which my mom somehow thought should be a pint.*) The kid doesn't get an alternate food, they only get the part of the meal they can/will eat.

But if a kid really doesn't even want to take a single bite, that should be taken seriously.

The author should accept that being a picky eater as a child is NORMAL. The palette changes over time. There is also something called a supertaster, for whom this issue is very real and serious and capable of causing physical pain.

*In my childhood it was basically whole milk or skim milk. I never saw 2% till the high school cafeteria and for the first time milk was drinkable. Later on 1% became available and I actively enjoy 1%. But whole milk still is gross to me, too rich and fatty and skim has an off taste. IOW being forced to sit there and down a large glass of whole milk was minor torture.