Living better is often based on clichéd advice and personally, I think it's time to put a stop to it, because frankly, there's some advice, especially when it comes to relationships, that needs to be taken with a grain, heck, make that a whole block, of salt. Such as:
There Are Plenty More Fish in the Sea:
Remember when your pet goldfish died and your parents promised to buy you another one just the same? Goldie II wasn't the same, was he? Like goldfish, when a relationship goes belly up, you can't just go out and buy a new one. And while there may be plenty of fish in the sea, catching one isn't always easy. Which doesn't mean you should stop casting your net. But know that while there are plenty of fish, you'll probably want to throw most of them back before you find one worth keeping.
Time Heals a Broken Heart:
You probably wouldn't be too happy if you showed up in your doctor's office with a busted leg or a brain tumour and she told you to go home and simply wait for it to heal. Sometimes you need to do a little open-heart surgery. Take a trip, get some therapy, throw darts at a picture of your ex -- whatever it takes to stitch up the wound before you can let time do its stuff.
Just Move On:
Relationships aren't like the bacon bits section of the salad bar. You don't just move on. It's a process. That doesn't mean you sit and stew in your apartment (at least not for too long). But instead of simply bucking up and moving on to the next warm body so you can make all the same mistakes all over again, use this time to mourn and properly say goodbye to that crappy relationship. Reflect upon what you do and don't want to do next time. That way you minimize dragging all that disappointment, anger and resentment (because, of course, the relationship death was his fault, right?) into your next relationship.
Love Conquers All:
Yeah, and I've figured out a way to lose weight by eating only chocolate! I know that it is extremely romantic and life affirming to think that your love alone will get you through anything. But when it's 4 a.m., the kid's crying, you haven't slept in three days, the house is a mess, and your annoying, unemployed brother-in-law is mooching, I mean, living with you temporarily, love may feel a little overwhelmed by the task of conquering all. I know that "communication conquers all" isn't quite as romantic sounding, but it's a good place to start. Combine communication with regular tolerance, kindness, understanding and some good old-fashioned grinning-and-bearing-it, and you at least stand a chance at putting a dent in (if not completely conquering) most of what comes at you.
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Soooo many people need to hear this! I have some friends that I wish would realize this, before it gets too late.
From an observer’s perspective, the issue appears to be nearly unapproachable. There appear to exist so many potentially points of subjective distortion to the declarers’ perspectives that the value of such testimony appears to be less than objective. However, if, immediately prior to the point at which death does them part, they both honestly believe that their relationship conquered all obstacles, perhaps it did.
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If you are choosing to give someone power over your feelings based on something that they did to you, then you have some serious explaining to do to you about yourself.
A relationship is a meeting of two different people who want to share something. A toxic relationship is one or two people claiming that each "owns" the other. People are not slaves. You cannot own someone. You can merely be trusted to care for them for as long as they choose to let you and you choose to do so. If they stop, then don't lay a guilt trip on yourself about them. Life is too short to choose to be miserable. If your cat dies, are you going to blame the cat for dying? Same goes for humans wandering in and out of relationships. Nothing in life is guaranteed. Get used to it.
starting to have some Doubts !
Seems to be Infinite Demand for this Welfare sort of Thing !
Of course it is difficult to think of Problems when you are in bed Moaning in Ecstasy (not the Drug) !
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Forty years is quite a bit of experience in a relationship. However, from an observer’s perspective, the issue of the relevance of a particular couple’s experience to another couple appears salient. The extent to which the relationship dynamic might vary appears to be significant.
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