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Why Is Santa A Lie But God Isn't?

Posted: 12/21/2012 12:48 pm

Yep, it is that time of year again and the social media channels (the parenting ones anyway) start on the never-ending debate about who does or doesn't do Santa and who can mess it up for everyone else.

Why do people get all pissy about Santa? Every year I hear puffy people telling me that it is wrong to LIE to your kids and that they will be destroyed and messed up when they find out the harsh truth.

Now unless something really harsh happened to them as kids, I really do not recall being that crushed about the whole Santa thing.

NOTHING polarizes parents more than Santa. It is where religion, idealism and perfection of parenting clashes with more debate and bluster. My son Adam told me that a kid in his class is telling everyone that Santa isn't real.

This boy happens to be of a culture and religion that does not do Christmas. Adam and I feel that no matter your beliefs, you have to respect other peoples beliefs, cultures and origins so I tend to get a bit upset when other parents don't feel the same way I do.

Santa may annoy you for whatever reasons: the consumerism of Christmas, the paganism, etc. It is not your place to tell me or my kids that what I am doing is wrong. I have always considered myself an agnostic leaning towards atheism, but with a Protestant background, I respect the right of others to believe what they believe -- as long as it does no harm, and telling my kid that Santa isn't real is harm in my books.

My kids will no doubt figure it out for themselves, like I did. Like the tooth fairy, like monsters under the bed and so on. Reality rushes into childhood fast enough.

Do I like that Christmas is an insane mass of greed hidden among the glitter? No.

But our family will do Christmas OUR way. They have learned the pagan, religious and cultural significance of the holiday -- as much as they care to learn about at this stage anyway -- and Santa is part of that for us.

I am not lying to my kids. I am not fooling them.

Kids are way smarter than we allow. Kids generally allow themselves to be open to belief. That is how imaginations soar and free play gives them their creative outlets. When people tell them that they are "wrong" for that belief, they are telling kids they are wrong for having an imagination. I find that very, very sad. Without the permission to believe there would be no faeries, no dragons, no space aliens, nothing.

We in our house, wholeheartedly give permission to let our kids imaginations run wild.

 

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Yep, it is that time of year again and the social media channels (the parenting ones anyway) start on the never-ending debate about who does or doesn't do Santa and who can mess it up for everyone els...
Yep, it is that time of year again and the social media channels (the parenting ones anyway) start on the never-ending debate about who does or doesn't do Santa and who can mess it up for everyone els...
 
 
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Hozz
Moral Atheist...There's more of us than you think!
01:04 PM on 12/31/2012
"telling my kid that Santa isn't real is harm in my books"...if you believe that, it's fine, but expecting others to lie to keep up your charade is ridiculous.
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Billk29
Justified Ancient of Mu
04:20 PM on 12/26/2012
I'll take santa over god anyday. God shows up every 3000 yrs and tries to kill everyone,naughty or nice,in a big flood. At least santa is peaceful.
01:25 PM on 12/24/2012
I figured out Santa when I was 6 years old and noticed presents under the tree in mid-December. That, and we didn't have a chimney. Simple 6-year-old logic. Luckily for me, nobody ever fed me stories about god, so that one was even easier.
01:23 PM on 12/23/2012
Santa and God are the same person. Check the Scandenavian folk legends Santa is based on. Now compare him to God on the Sistine ceiling. Same guy.

BTW: Santa as we know him was invented as an advertisement ploy for the Coca-cola company in 1906. They still own the copyright on him. It is, by far, the most successful advertisement campaign ever conceived.
12:55 PM on 12/23/2012
Of the two, Santa is by far much nicer. You don't see any suicide bombers killing innocent people in Santa's name. You don't see wars started because Santa promised land to a tribe of his peeps. You don't see Santa being vengeful. You don't see Santa bypassing the kids who don't worship a certain way. Yup, Santa is much nicer. The other one, not so much.
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Hjorlejf
10:30 AM on 12/23/2012
I believe in a future in which children can be taught about both "god" and Santa as cultural products of our society while conveying that they are not in fact physical beings. We would be better off if future generations could appreciate cultural history while retaining the ability to tell fact from fiction (i.e. Santa, the Christian god, Zeus, etc.)
04:12 PM on 12/23/2012
Whether actually existing or not... the concept of the Christian God isn't of a physical being anyway...
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Hjorlejf
06:03 PM on 12/23/2012
Whether he's "physical" or not is irrelevant. Besides I could point out that Christians believe their god took human form as Jesus.
02:13 AM on 12/23/2012
Why is Santa a lie but God isn't?

Is this a serious question? Parents know that Santa isn't real, but many do indeed believe that God is real. Therefore, telling ones children that Santa is real is an outright lie, while telling ones children that God is real is not a lie. At worst, it is the passing on of a mistaken belief.
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11:17 AM on 12/23/2012
No they are both lies, there is as much proof of Santa as there is of Jesus, just because you believe something doesn't mean it's true.
04:05 PM on 12/23/2012
1. Even if a belief is false, if one truly believes in it, telling someone else about the belief is not lying to them. In order to lie you have to know that what you are saying is not true, and yet say it anyway.

2. Your assertion is simply incorrect. Even if one completely ignores all Biblical texts and testimonies, one still has a number of Ancient Greek and Roman historians who specifically mention the existence of a person named Jesus, who was causing some sort of disruption, and was crucified by the Romans. Jesus existence and crucifixion is not in question, what is debated is whether or not he was the son of God and whether or not he actually rose from the dead.
12:25 AM on 12/23/2012
Santa's not real?! :(
10:45 PM on 12/22/2012
I have never told my children that Santa is not real. Every year, they write a letter to him, and leave it out on Xmas eve. Last year my oldest boy told his wife all about Santa and she wrote a letter as well. I'm beginning to think it may be too late to tell them.
09:48 PM on 12/22/2012
"[T]elling my kid that Santa isn't real is harm in my books."

You sure picked a wild and non-standard definition of "harm" then. Plus what parent tells another person's kids that Santa isn't real? I've never, ever even heard of this happening.

Speaking of curious definitions, if a willful misrepresentation of reality isn't a lie, what is? Kids aren't going to lose their imaginations just because their parents tell them the truth about Santa. What an absurd thing to even suggest.
01:44 AM on 12/23/2012
people in Syria fight for survival. People in India fight against slavery. Christians are persecuted in Egypt. Have we become that weak here that telling the truth about a fictional character is considered 'harm'?
09:01 PM on 12/22/2012
God is not a lie because billions of people have bought into the BS. Therefore it MUST be true.
04:15 PM on 12/23/2012
No, not must be true, just isn't a lie. In order for something to be a lie, one has to know that it is not true, and yet choose to deceive anyway. If someone genuinely believes that God exists, and tells their children so, that's not lying. They may be mistaken, but they aren't lying.
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Kerry Sauriol
07:00 PM on 12/22/2012
"`I refuse to prove that I exist,' says God, `for proof denies faith, and without faith I am nothing.'
`But,' says Man, `The Babel fish is a dead giveaway, isn't it? It could not have evolved by chance. It proves you exist, and so therefore, by your own arguments, you don't. QED.'
`Oh dear,' says God, `I hadn't thought of that,' and promptly disappears in a puff of logic.
`Oh, that was easy,' says Man, and for an encore goes on to prove that black is white and gets himself killed on the next zebra crossing.
Most leading theologians claim that this argument is a load of dingo's kidneys, but that didn't stop Oolon Colluphid making a small fortune when he used it as the central theme of his best-selling book, "Well, That about Wraps It Up for God."

Thank you, Douglas Adams
03:47 PM on 12/22/2012
"NOTHING polarizes parents more than Santa. It is where religion, idealism and perfection of parenting clashes with more debate and bluster. My son Adam told me that a kid in his class is telling everyone that Santa isn't real.
This boy happens to be of a culture and religion that does not do Christmas. Adam and I feel that no matter your beliefs, you have to respect other peoples beliefs, cultures and origins so I tend to get a bit upset when other parents don't feel the same way I do."
I am sorry but did the author reread her own words and realized how backwards her own thinking is. The boy simply said he didnt believe in Santa. How exactly did he disrespect you or your religion? Also arent you disrespecting that boy's religion culture and beliefs when you dont respect the fact that he doesnt believe in what you believe in? It is amazing how hypocritical religious people can be.
03:32 PM on 12/22/2012
As for God I figured that crap out at a very early age when logic took over. My parents sent me to church every Sunday and to Sunday school and it didn't take long to realize the crap they were teaching us was just fairy tales like the Brother's Grim books I had. Nobody can live inside a fish and nobody could walk on water unless it was frozen. Those were the two biggest whoppers I couldn't swallow as a 5 year old. And the fact they wanted money every time I went made me suspicious something wasn't right. If this God was so magical why didn't he just give them all the money they needed. I only got 10 cents a week for working in the garden and I had to give half of it to the church. I thought what a rip off. And ya know what? It was.
03:30 PM on 12/22/2012
I was raised in a home where Santa was real until we found out he was made up and used by my parents to keep us kids in line. It was awesome. Heard chatter at school that he didn't exist so I used my imagination to figure out if he was real or not. I set traps around the house. I put thread across the fireplace to see if he came through it. I put tape on all the doors to see if he opened the doors. I put sawdust on the floor in my dad's workshop to see if he came in that way. There were traps and snares set all around our house. It was great playing detective. Every year there were logical explanations to why my traps failed so each year I would think of something else to do. Eventually I found some unwrapped gifts hidden in my parents closet and I came to the conclusion mom and dad were Santa. My biggest mistake while trying to catch me a Santa was letting my dad in on my detective work.
01:02 PM on 12/23/2012
Terrific story! Thanks for sharing.