Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

Are You Sabotaging Your First Dates?

(1) Comments | Posted September 28, 2015 | 5:36 PM

A first date can be awkward or enjoyable, exciting or boring, amazing or excruciatingly painful. People are simultaneously putting themselves forward and sizing each other up with everything leading toward the one important decision they need to make: whether or not to have a second date.

Even if they really...

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5 Types of Toxic Co-Workers and How to Deal With Them

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2015 | 3:39 PM

Toxic colleagues can make an otherwise great job into a living nightmare. All it takes is one impossible person and a job we love can be a job we need to leave.

Sadly, many people today are stressed, angry, unhappy or disturbed, and some of these individuals will take out...

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Have a Strategy for Dealing With Difficult Co-Workers

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2015 | 5:05 PM

Anyone who works with other people -- and that's the great majority of us -- has had to deal with a difficult co-worker at some point in their career.

Whether it's the office brown-noser; the office gossip; the person who steals your ideas and claims them as their own; or...

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Is the Workplace Culture at Amazon Progressive or Destructive?

(5) Comments | Posted August 27, 2015 | 12:58 PM

I've been reading some pretty horrifying posts this week about Amazon's business culture. There was the front page New York Times article, written by Jodi Kantor and David Streitfeld, a fascinating op-ed piece in the Times by Joe Nocera, and many compelling letters to...

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Is Ghosting an Appropriate Way to End a Relationship?

(3) Comments | Posted August 24, 2015 | 5:21 PM

In June of this year, Charlize Theron broke off her engagement with Sean Penn. That's not news in Hollywood, as relationships between actors or other celebrities seem to have an inevitable, early expiration date.

What was interesting was the news that Charlize engaged in ghosting, which is the act of...

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How Would You React to Finding Your Spouse's Name on Ashley Madison?

(0) Comments | Posted August 21, 2015 | 5:05 PM

I found it very interesting to read this week that a group of vigilantes recently hacked the Ashley Madison website. For those who aren't familiar with it, Ashley Madison is a site for married people who want to cheat. Their motto, in fact, is: "Life is short. Have an affair."

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Are Apps Like Clover a Cure for the 'Dating Apocalypse'?

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2015 | 4:08 PM

I've gotten a lot of feedback for my recent post about the addictive quality of Tinder and today's hook-up culture. I wrote it in response to Nancy Jo Sales' article in the September 2015 edition of Vanity Fair.

I wanted to follow up with some ideas...

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The Addictive Quality of Tinder Is Bringing an End to Intimacy

(2) Comments | Posted August 16, 2015 | 10:13 AM

I read with interest Tinder's recent Twitter rant the about the September 2015 Vanity Fair article, "Tinder and the Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse," by Nancy Jo Sales.

I wondered whether it was an example of extreme defensiveness brought on by Ms. Sales hitting the nail...

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Guilt Is Really Manipulation

(0) Comments | Posted August 4, 2015 | 9:02 AM

Maybe you've felt them yourself; the painful, recurrent pangs of guilt? Maybe you've wanted to do something but stopped yourself, because you were held back by guilt? Maybe you've felt compelled to do something that you didn't really want to do, because guilt made you do it? If this is...

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Make Time to Smile

(0) Comments | Posted July 30, 2015 | 1:26 PM

I read a story online this week about a six-year-old boy named Jaden Hayes, who lost both his parents and decided to do something positive rather than give in to his grief.

He's going around his hometown of Savannah, Georgia, giving people a small toy and then asking...

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What Grief Taught Me

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2015 | 9:12 AM

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!"

At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece....

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The Four Pillars of Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted July 26, 2015 | 2:31 PM

Everyone talks about happiness, and everyone has their own ideas about what will bring us more of it. I think that there are four key principles that together, can create significantly more happiness for ourselves, as well as for those around us.

I call these principles the "four pillars of...

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Good Communication Can Prevent a Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted July 23, 2015 | 6:15 PM

A lot of relationships end when they really could continue. I think that a major problem is the lack of communication.

We make three fundamental mistakes around communication that can really jeopardize an otherwise viable relationship, and there are three important communication skills that can make the difference between an...

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How to Survive a Bad Breakup

(1) Comments | Posted July 17, 2015 | 8:12 AM

Breaking up is bad enough at the best of times. What if the breakup came as a huge shock? What if you were madly in love with your girlfriend and counted on her for all your emotional support?

What if you were happily married for years and your husband suddenly...

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Facing Adversity Can Turn Us Into Better People

(0) Comments | Posted July 16, 2015 | 8:28 AM

I like the idea of turning lemons into lemonade. It seems to me that there are a lot of things we can do to transform difficult, even painful situations into opportunities for growth, learning and more love.

Life can sometimes be unbelievably beautiful, with everything coming together to create a...

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How to Make the Best Choices for Your Life

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2015 | 12:18 PM

So much of creating a good life comes from making better choices. When you think of it, everything we have in life comes from the choices that we've made. Whether they're conscious and deliberate or made by default, they're all our choices.

If we make the wrong choices, or fail...

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Four Strategies for Coping With Loss

(1) Comments | Posted July 3, 2015 | 7:19 AM

Lately, I've been talking to quite a few people who've lost loved ones. It's got me thinking about how we cope with loss, especially the loss of a young person, and how we keep going forward in our lives in the face of such a tragedy.

Grief is a weird...

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5 Tips For Getting Into Shape This Summer

(0) Comments | Posted July 2, 2015 | 12:41 PM

Summer is here, and many of us will be heading to the beach or attending holiday parties. It's also wedding season, and everyone will want to look their best. This is why it's easy to get conned by unscrupulous diet promoters who'll take our money for the promise of "instant...

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Become a Winner: Adopt the Top Ten Habits of Elite Athletes

(2) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 5:15 PM

The Pan Am games are coming to Toronto very soon, and it's got me thinking about how someone becomes a world-class athlete.

These sports superstars aren't necessarily born with super-human abilities. Mostly, it's their hard work and dedication to their craft that puts them head and shoulders above the rest...

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Marriage Equality Is a No-Brainer

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2015 | 6:53 PM

When I heard that the U.S. Supreme Court had finally accorded marriage rights to gay people, it felt like one of those, "Well, yeah!" moments.

Here in Canada, same-sex marriage rights have been in place for a decade. It feels like the U.S. has finally caught up with the way...

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