Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

What Grief Taught Me

(0) Comments | Posted July 29, 2015 | 9:12 AM

When I was 25-years-old and early on in my medical training, I got a phone call from my mom one day. With no preamble, she blurted out, "She's gone!"

At first, I didn't know who mom was talking about. Then she said the name. It was Esther, my infant niece....

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The Four Pillars of Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted July 26, 2015 | 2:31 PM

Everyone talks about happiness, and everyone has their own ideas about what will bring us more of it. I think that there are four key principles that together, can create significantly more happiness for ourselves, as well as for those around us.

I call these principles the "four pillars of...

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Good Communication Can Prevent a Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted July 23, 2015 | 6:15 PM

A lot of relationships end when they really could continue. I think that a major problem is the lack of communication.

We make three fundamental mistakes around communication that can really jeopardize an otherwise viable relationship, and there are three important communication skills that can make the difference between an...

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How to Survive a Bad Breakup

(0) Comments | Posted July 17, 2015 | 8:12 AM

Breaking up is bad enough at the best of times. What if the breakup came as a huge shock? What if you were madly in love with your girlfriend and counted on her for all your emotional support?

What if you were happily married for years and your husband suddenly...

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Facing Adversity Can Turn Us Into Better People

(0) Comments | Posted July 16, 2015 | 8:28 AM

I like the idea of turning lemons into lemonade. It seems to me that there are a lot of things we can do to transform difficult, even painful situations into opportunities for growth, learning and more love.

Life can sometimes be unbelievably beautiful, with everything coming together to create a...

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How to Make the Best Choices for Your Life

(0) Comments | Posted July 7, 2015 | 12:18 PM

So much of creating a good life comes from making better choices. When you think of it, everything we have in life comes from the choices that we've made. Whether they're conscious and deliberate or made by default, they're all our choices.

If we make the wrong choices, or fail...

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Four Strategies for Coping With Loss

(1) Comments | Posted July 3, 2015 | 7:19 AM

Lately, I've been talking to quite a few people who've lost loved ones. It's got me thinking about how we cope with loss, especially the loss of a young person, and how we keep going forward in our lives in the face of such a tragedy.

Grief is a weird...

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5 Tips For Getting Into Shape This Summer

(0) Comments | Posted July 2, 2015 | 12:41 PM

Summer is here, and many of us will be heading to the beach or attending holiday parties. It's also wedding season, and everyone will want to look their best. This is why it's easy to get conned by unscrupulous diet promoters who'll take our money for the promise of "instant...

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Become a Winner: Adopt the Top Ten Habits of Elite Athletes

(2) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 5:15 PM

The Pan Am games are coming to Toronto very soon, and it's got me thinking about how someone becomes a world-class athlete.

These sports superstars aren't necessarily born with super-human abilities. Mostly, it's their hard work and dedication to their craft that puts them head and shoulders above the rest...

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Marriage Equality Is a No-Brainer

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2015 | 6:53 PM

When I heard that the U.S. Supreme Court had finally accorded marriage rights to gay people, it felt like one of those, "Well, yeah!" moments.

Here in Canada, same-sex marriage rights have been in place for a decade. It feels like the U.S. has finally caught up with the way...

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It's Time to Lower the Confederate Flag for Good

(3) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 12:29 PM

It's been a very sad time for South Carolina, and for the whole of the United States, these past few days. Nine black parishioners were murdered while gathered for bible study at Mother Emanuel African Methodist Church last week, and the world took a collective gasp.

People are...

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Top Five Tips for Super Summer Romance

(0) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 2:36 PM

It's summer finally and if you're anything like me, you've come out of hibernation and are excited to be getting out there and enjoying everything that summer has to offer.

Here in Toronto, we have an exciting summer to look forward to including the Pan Am games. The city will...

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America's Fatal Attraction to Guns Is More Emotional Than Logical

(111) Comments | Posted June 21, 2015 | 8:56 PM

I've been following the news about all the recent shootings in the U.S.A. I was particularly horrified by the targeting of black church-goers in Charleston, South Carolina. And I was further distressed to read about 17 people shot at two different block parties this past weekend.

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The Five Fatal Relationship Mistakes That are Keeping You Single

(7) Comments | Posted June 19, 2015 | 3:24 PM

Do you know someone who seems like a good catch -- smart, attractive, has a decent job -- but who can never seem to hold on to a relationship? Maybe that person is you?

This person goes on their fair share of dates, even starts some relationships, but then soon...

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We Must Let Go of Our Fear of Rejection

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2015 | 5:41 PM

Probably the scariest activity we could engage in is public speaking. People often rate this fear higher than the fear of death. It's terrifying because it puts us in the position of being judged, found wanting, and then rejected.

One of the most basic human fears is the fear of...

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What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

(5) Comments | Posted June 7, 2015 | 9:21 AM

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter.


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What Caitlyn Jenner Teaches Us About Authenticity

(5) Comments | Posted June 3, 2015 | 12:20 PM

Like millions of other people, I've been following the Caitlyn Jenner story. What we've been seeing is a person who's lived her entire life with a painful secret.

She's been hiding her true nature, even from those closest to her and now, at age 65, she's finally come out to...

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Get Rid of Your Inner Bully

(0) Comments | Posted May 31, 2015 | 9:14 PM

There's a lot of bullying going on these days. We find it in schools, in the workplace and on-line.

There's one form of bullying that rarely gets talked about though, and it's creating a lot of misery. I'm talking about self-bullying.

When we grow up, we take in everything we...

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Let's Bring an End to Bullying by Choosing to #BeKind

(5) Comments | Posted May 28, 2015 | 7:49 AM

I was just watching the video about Sean O'Brien, the #DancingMan, on Yahoo news the other day, and it got me thinking about all the bullying going on these days.

Sean's a great guy, but he's seen his fair share of bullying. Still, he's not inclined to be angry or...

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Are You Too Nice in Your Relationships?

(3) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 8:58 AM

Everyone wants friendship and love in their life, and we all have our own ideas about how to create great relationships. One of the things that gets in the way of this is our tendency to be too nice.

Many of us are convinced that being "nice" is the way...

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