Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

The Paris Attacks Remind Us That We're All One

(1) Comments | Posted November 19, 2015 | 4:43 PM

When I learned about the horrific attacks in Paris a few days ago, I was devastated. Assaults like this on innocent people are beyond senseless. I'm heartbroken for the victims of the massacre, and for their friends and families, and I can't imagine what the families of the perpetrators must...

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How To Really Be There For Someone Who Is Dying

(6) Comments | Posted November 16, 2015 | 4:48 PM

Death is a subject most people avoid talking about. We don't even like to think about it. But the truth is, everybody dies, and if we don't think about it or talk about it, we'll never learn how to deal with it in the best way possible.

Over the course...

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People-Pleasing Always Backfires

(3) Comments | Posted November 11, 2015 | 3:57 PM

Jessie* is a bright, 34 year-old office worker who always tries so hard to please her boss and ingratiate herself to her co-workers. She wonders why, with all her efforts at being nice, her boss constantly picks on her and her colleagues either ignore her or bully her.

Sam is...

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Is Prejudice Lurking In Your Business?

(1) Comments | Posted October 30, 2015 | 3:34 PM

It's 2015, but sadly prejudice is alive and well in North America. Although there are more and more people who live a prejudice-free life, there are still far too many who see those from another culture, religion, ethnic or socioeconomic group; or of a different age, weight, sexual preference, or...

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Healing The Emotional Scars Of Hurtful Parents

(4) Comments | Posted October 29, 2015 | 1:26 PM

Our feelings toward our parents can be complicated. What we feel depends on how they treated us when we were growing up and how they treat us today. Also, we often go along with how our society tells us we should feel toward our folks.

If we have loving, supportive...

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The Real Reason For Troubled Sibling Relationships

(0) Comments | Posted October 28, 2015 | 9:04 AM

Real-life is always different than theory. One way that this notion is illustrated is in my psychotherapy practice, where I've noticed a number of patterns that I never read about in any book. One such pattern I see recurring with frightening regularity is that of deeply troubled sibling relationships.


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What Trudeau Will Need to Become a Great Leader

(5) Comments | Posted October 20, 2015 | 8:51 AM

It's official. Canadians have gone to the polls. The Liberals under Justin Trudeau have won a majority government. After 10 years in power, the Conservatives under Stephen Harper are out.

Stephen Harper based his campaign on leadership, and the country responded. The election results clearly demonstrate that Canadians lost faith...

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Are You a Small Business Boss Who Stands up to Bullies?

(0) Comments | Posted October 19, 2015 | 2:02 PM

If you're an entrepreneur trying to get a small business off the ground , you're most likely going to be employing staff at some point. You may think that how these people interact isn't your concern, but if you want your business to succeed, you have to pay attention to...

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We're All Blue Jays Fans When We Gather Around the Same TV

(0) Comments | Posted October 14, 2015 | 7:00 PM

I woke up Monday morning to the joyful news that the Blue Jays had won game three of the American League Division Series, and are still alive. The reactions of the fans interviewed on the radio were understandably ecstatic as they celebrated this all-important win.

Just a few days ago,...

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When Women Accuse Powerful Men of Sexual Assault

(4) Comments | Posted October 14, 2015 | 6:54 PM

Here in Toronto, I've been following the news about Jian Ghomeshi. He was a very popular TV and radio personality, fired by the CBC one year ago in a cloud of allegations of inappropriate behaviour toward a number of women he worked with and dated.

According to a

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Protecting Yourself From Sociopaths in the Small Business World

(0) Comments | Posted October 13, 2015 | 3:56 PM

Small business week is here, and it's got me reflecting on my own journey as an entrepreneur. I've learned many lessons along the way. One story stands out as a cautionary tale to anyone who hopes to work in collaboration with other entrepreneurs.

Not that long ago, I found myself...

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When Spouses Wear Different Political Stripes

(8) Comments | Posted October 10, 2015 | 11:08 AM

The federal elections are coming up in just over a week. Hopefully, every Canadian 18 and over is getting informed and is planning to vote.

I take voting very seriously and make sure to vote in every election. I'm fortunate that most of the people I'm close to share the...

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How to Manage Challenging Guests at Thanksgiving Dinner

(1) Comments | Posted October 7, 2015 | 1:43 PM

Canadians and Americans alike love Thanksgiving. It's a time to gather with family and friends and celebrate the harvest season. It's a time to reconnect with people we haven't seen in a while, to eat a delicious meal, relax and enjoy ourselves.

Unfortunately, in many families, there are one or...

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Are You Sabotaging Your First Dates?

(1) Comments | Posted September 28, 2015 | 6:36 PM

A first date can be awkward or enjoyable, exciting or boring, amazing or excruciatingly painful. People are simultaneously putting themselves forward and sizing each other up with everything leading toward the one important decision they need to make: whether or not to have a second date.

Even if they really...

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5 Types of Toxic Co-Workers and How to Deal With Them

(0) Comments | Posted September 21, 2015 | 4:39 PM

Toxic colleagues can make an otherwise great job into a living nightmare. All it takes is one impossible person and a job we love can be a job we need to leave.

Sadly, many people today are stressed, angry, unhappy or disturbed, and some of these individuals will take out...

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Have a Strategy for Dealing With Difficult Co-Workers

(0) Comments | Posted September 16, 2015 | 6:05 PM

Anyone who works with other people -- and that's the great majority of us -- has had to deal with a difficult co-worker at some point in their career.

Whether it's the office brown-noser; the office gossip; the person who steals your ideas and claims them as their own; or...

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Is the Workplace Culture at Amazon Progressive or Destructive?

(5) Comments | Posted August 27, 2015 | 1:58 PM

I've been reading some pretty horrifying posts this week about Amazon's business culture. There was the front page New York Times article, written by Jodi Kantor and David Streitfeld, a fascinating op-ed piece in the Times by Joe Nocera, and many compelling letters to...

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Is Ghosting an Appropriate Way to End a Relationship?

(3) Comments | Posted August 24, 2015 | 6:21 PM

In June of this year, Charlize Theron broke off her engagement with Sean Penn. That's not news in Hollywood, as relationships between actors or other celebrities seem to have an inevitable, early expiration date.

What was interesting was the news that Charlize engaged in ghosting, which is the act of...

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How Would You React to Finding Your Spouse's Name on Ashley Madison?

(0) Comments | Posted August 21, 2015 | 6:05 PM

I found it very interesting to read this week that a group of vigilantes recently hacked the Ashley Madison website. For those who aren't familiar with it, Ashley Madison is a site for married people who want to cheat. Their motto, in fact, is: "Life is short. Have an affair."

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Are Apps Like Clover a Cure for the 'Dating Apocalypse'?

(0) Comments | Posted August 20, 2015 | 5:08 PM

I've gotten a lot of feedback for my recent post about the addictive quality of Tinder and today's hook-up culture. I wrote it in response to Nancy Jo Sales' article in the September 2015 edition of Vanity Fair.

I wanted to follow up with some ideas...

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