Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

The 12-Step Cure For Helicopter Parenting

(0) Comments | Posted May 8, 2017 | 11:26 AM

It's spring, and kids are graduating from University and starting their careers.

Those young people whose parents raised them to be hard-working, responsible and self-directed are going to be at a huge advantage, compared to those who have helicopter parents or those who've studied at schools that act like helicopter...

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Helicopter Parents Are Raising Unemployable Children

(0) Comments | Posted May 2, 2017 | 12:41 PM

Helicopter parents are in the news a lot these days. These are the parents who can't stop hovering around their kids. They practically wrap them in bubble wrap, creating a cohort of young adults who struggle to function in their jobs and in their lives.

Helicopter parents think that they're...

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Is Your Style Of Relating Successful Or Problematic?

(0) Comments | Posted April 6, 2017 | 12:11 PM

In working with people for over 25 years, I've identified five styles of human interaction. Two of them work really well to create positive personal and professional relationships. Two are more problematic. One can go either way.

If you want to be happy and successful in your relationships, you're going...

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Want To Connect More To Others? Learn To 'Just Be' With Them

(2) Comments | Posted April 3, 2017 | 11:55 AM

It seems that people have become more and more alienated lately. More often than not, our mode of interaction is transactional, as opposed to empathetic.

"Empathetic" and "transactional" are two of the ways that people behave with one-another, and they're quite the opposite. The former is about enjoying and appreciating...

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6 Parenting Traps That Will Turn Your Kid Into A Sociopath

(7) Comments | Posted March 21, 2017 | 11:32 AM

Most parents want only good things for their children. Their actions are based on what they believe will best serve their kids. Unfortunately, there are some mistaken ideas going around that are much more harmful to children than helpful.

When parents adopt these mistaken ideas they can take actions...

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The Entertainment Industry Double Standard Hurting Women And Men

(0) Comments | Posted March 9, 2017 | 12:45 PM

With International Women's Day fresh in my mind, I'm celebrating being a woman. I'm also taking the opportunity to vent a bit about an issue that's been bothering me for a while, now. It's about the glaringly different ways that men and women are represented in the entertainment industry.


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Make March Break More Meaningful For Your Teens

(0) Comments | Posted March 6, 2017 | 4:23 PM

March Break 2017 is almost upon us and everywhere, parents of teens are scrambling to figure out how to occupy their kids' time for an entire week. Many parents are planning vacations, sports camp or some other fun activities for their teens, but I think that this is a missed...

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Spoiling Your Teen Is Ruining Their Life

(11) Comments | Posted February 27, 2017 | 11:49 AM

With Family Day fresh in my mind, I've been thinking about the way some teenagers are growing up these days. I see these kids all over. They're angry and frustrated, miserable and lost, and it's mainly the fault of their parents who've been letting them down.

These teens are spoiled,...

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What Happens To The Children Of Extreme Narcissists?

(10) Comments | Posted February 23, 2017 | 3:50 PM

I recently wrote a post about who marries an extreme narcissist. Now, I'm going to talk about what happens to the children of extreme narcissists. In my practice as a psychiatrist, I've encountered many such children and they've all been adversely affected by having one or both parents with this...

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Who Marries An Extreme Narcissist?

(7) Comments | Posted February 16, 2017 | 8:06 AM

Recently, it was Family Day, and I got to thinking about all the different types of families there are: single-parent families, blended families, LGBTQ families, mixed-race families, multi-faith families.

The family that I'm most interested in these days is that of the extreme narcissist. I'll follow this post with one...

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What Do Addicts, Serial Killers And Billionaires Have In Common?

(2) Comments | Posted February 9, 2017 | 10:50 AM

On the surface, violent serial killers, crack addicts searching for their next hit and insatiably greedy billionaires don't seem to have very much in common, if anything at all. But they're a lot more similar than we might think.

What all these people share is the fact that their actions...

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Don't Let The Extreme Narcissists Of The World Silence You

(4) Comments | Posted February 6, 2017 | 10:53 AM

In the wake of recent U.S. events, I've been thinking a lot about extreme narcissists. Whether they're a boss, a colleague or an employee, a parent or a sibling, a lover or a spouse, the CEO of a corporation or the president of a country, all extreme narcissists have the...

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A Word On Extreme Narcissists In The Wake Of Trump's Inauguration

(33) Comments | Posted January 23, 2017 | 10:32 AM

It's 2017 and extreme narcissists are among us. These toxic individuals are a real problem, as they're destructive and often dangerous. When an extreme narcissist holds a position of power, say, as the head of a corporation or a country, we're in a mess of trouble.

What makes someone an...

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Michelle Obama Leaves Behind A Legacy Of Kindness

(23) Comments | Posted January 17, 2017 | 3:09 AM

Jimmy Fallon did a tribute to Michelle Obama the other day in which people were supposed to stand in front of a photograph of the First Lady and record a message for her to view at a later date.

Not surprisingly, Mrs. Obama and Mr. Fallon were listening...

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Stop Being A User And Open Your Heart To Others

(0) Comments | Posted January 3, 2017 | 2:31 PM

Lately, I've been thinking a lot about the importance of making connections. We all really need them but it seems that people are more disconnected than they've ever been.

Recently, I had a conversation with the psychotherapist Megan Bruneau, for my Ruthless Compassion podcast. She's also noticed how...

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Getting Into The 'Holiday Spirit' 365 Days A Year

(0) Comments | Posted December 28, 2016 | 2:13 PM

Even though the holidays are upon us, I've noticed that lately, many people in Toronto have been more rude, selfish and inconsiderate than usual. Driving in my car, I'm often cut off. People speed through red lights and try to squeeze into parallel-moving traffic, risking accidents as they muscle their...

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Men Like Trump Are Why Society Turns On Victims Of Sexual Assault

(61) Comments | Posted October 27, 2016 | 3:05 PM

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Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump denies recent sexual assault allegations, saying that if he ever touched a woman in the audience they would slap him. (Photo: REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst)

These days, the leaked video tape as well as the allegations of sexual...

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The Most Effective Managers Are Kind, Not Nice

(0) Comments | Posted October 18, 2016 | 7:49 AM

Sometimes, a manager thinks that they need to be "nice" at work. They're overly invested in being liked and they're uncomfortable setting limits or giving consequences. They especially don't like dealing with interpersonal conflicts between staff, assuming that at least one person will be unhappy with the way they resolve...

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Workplace Burnout Comes Down To Employees Being Too 'Nice'

(1) Comments | Posted October 17, 2016 | 4:26 PM

People talk a lot about workplace burnout but they don't always understand what it is, or how to prevent it. In my work as a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, I've seen many cases of workplace burnout and in my experience, it often comes from the employee being too "nice."

What does...

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Learning To Communicate With Your Teen

(0) Comments | Posted September 28, 2016 | 11:50 AM

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It's so important that parents have open lines of communication with their teenagers. When teens feel like they can talk to their parents, they can work through a lot of problems and avoid even more. But it's...

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