Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

12 Ways To Be Your Best Self And Live Your Best Life

(0) Comments | Posted April 29, 2016 | 5:08 PM

What does it mean to be your best self and live your best life? In my mind, being your best self is coming as close as you can to fulfilling your innate potential; being the best version of yourself that you can be.

Living your best life means maximizing the...

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Beyonce's "Lemonade": Thoughts About Art, Love, Betrayal And Forgiveness

(0) Comments | Posted April 26, 2016 | 3:58 PM

The release of "Lemonade" is fascinating for a number of reasons: an enormously popular musician is using her art to detail all the stages of confronting her husband's cheating. She shares her process with her listeners, revealing inner turmoil, deep insights, and a powerful emotional arc.

Beyonce begins the album...

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How To Go From Online Relationships To Real-Life Ones

(0) Comments | Posted April 21, 2016 | 8:51 AM

It's spring, and you should be out there dating, so why are you indoors, typing in front of a screen?

These days, we're conducting so many of our relationships online that when we're finally face-to-face with another person, we're often more awkward, uncomfortable and unsure of ourselves.

Lately, I've heard...

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Our Social Media Addiction Makes Dating Even Harder

(5) Comments | Posted April 19, 2016 | 12:14 PM

Spring is finally here. It's been a long, dark winter and many of us are eager to feel the sun on our face again. It's time to leave the warm cave where we've been hibernating and start reconnecting with our fellow human beings -- some of us might even want...

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10 Steps To Help You Bounce Back From Adversity

(0) Comments | Posted April 7, 2016 | 1:48 PM

Life can be beautiful, but occasionally it can also kick us in the teeth. We can experience loss, disappointment, adversity. Eventually, everyone has to face their fair share of pain. What makes the difference between someone who barely survives these challenges in life, and someone who meets these challenges head-on...

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There's A Difference Between Being 'Nice' And Being Kind

(2) Comments | Posted April 1, 2016 | 4:15 PM

If you're someone who's realized that over the years that you've been much too "nice," and that this habit of pleasing others hasn't been making you happy, perhaps it's time for a change.

Maybe it's been confusing that after spending so much time trying to be "nice," you've experienced bullying,...

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What We Can All Learn From Rob Ford's Passing

(16) Comments | Posted March 30, 2016 | 1:31 PM

It's a tragic story. Former Toronto mayor, Rob Ford has died of cancer at age 46, leaving behind family, friends, colleagues, supporters and a whole lot of nay-sayers. A polarizing figure in Toronto politics, Ford was loved and reviled, possibly in equal measure.

When I think about Rob Ford, the...

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Do You Know Why You're A People-Pleaser?

(0) Comments | Posted March 22, 2016 | 5:25 PM

Some people are really, really nice. They're almost never angry but most always pleasant and agreeable, no matter what's going on around them. We all know at least one person like this. Maybe, you're one of them?

Maybe you're someone who tries really hard to make others happy; someone who...

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Releasing Your 'Inner Warrior' Combats Self-Doubt

(0) Comments | Posted March 22, 2016 | 1:34 PM

I think about what it means to be empowered, and what it would be like to feel strong, confident, brave and free. In today's society, where we're lucky enough not to have to fight for our territory, property or survival, being empowered has a very different connotation than it did...

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To Get Ahead, Stop Being Nice And Start Being Real

(7) Comments | Posted March 18, 2016 | 3:32 PM

If you're hard-working, responsible, loyal and able to take initiative, but you aren't managing to achieve that next level of success, there might be a simple answer to this problem.

If you love your children and care for them the best you can, but you find that they're defiant, oppositional,...

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Why Are Some Siblings So Hateful Towards Each Other?

(4) Comments | Posted March 1, 2016 | 1:47 PM

Siblings can be our best friends or our worst enemies. I've heard of one sibling giving up a kidney for another; being a surrogate for another one's pregnancy, or giving another sibling the down-payment for a house.

I've also heard of one sibling sabotaging another sibling's career or love-life; stealing...

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Why Is Kesha Being Punished?

(30) Comments | Posted February 24, 2016 | 10:43 AM

The recording artist Kesha broke down in tears the other day. This came after a New York City judge ruled against her in her ongoing struggle to extricate herself from her contract with music producer Lukasz Gottwald, known in the industry as Dr. Luke.

Kesha alleges that early...

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5 Bad Breakup Mistakes You Want To Avoid

(0) Comments | Posted February 22, 2016 | 6:02 PM

Breaking up is never much fun, even when you're the one who's doing the breaking up. It's hard to hurt the other person and of course, it's awful to be hurt.

Breaking up can be horrible, but there are things you can do to make it easier for yourself. I've...

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The Connection Between Childhood Experiences And Adult Problems

(5) Comments | Posted February 17, 2016 | 4:26 AM


As an adult psychiatrist, I spend a lot of time thinking and talking about childhood, and there's a good reason for this. It's become abundantly clear over the past 20-plus years of doing psychotherapy that childhood experiences are at the root of adult problems.

Every person...

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10 Attitudes That Will Bring You Happiness

(0) Comments | Posted February 9, 2016 | 2:38 PM

For people who want to be successful in life, there isn't always a clear road map. There are many coaches, writers and experts vying for your attention, each one with their own set of directions that you're supposed to follow in order to achieve happiness and success.

There are...

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5 Behaviours Guaranteed To Prevent Happiness And Success In Your Life

(4) Comments | Posted February 9, 2016 | 8:42 AM

People write and speak a lot about the behaviours that will set you up for happiness and success, but have you ever considered the behaviours that are holding you back from achieving your goals in life?

I've identified five specific behaviours that are guaranteed to cause you difficulties in life...

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These 'Romantic' Gestures In Media Can Be Abusive In Real Life

(0) Comments | Posted February 5, 2016 | 3:55 PM

I just read a very interesting article about a recent study by Dr. Julia Lippman from the University of Michigan. The study demonstrates that watching people engaging in stalking behaviour in romantic comedies causes viewers to see this type of behaviour as acceptable.

The outcome of the study...

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Is Marco Muzzo's Tragic Case An Example Of Overly Permissive Parenting?

(256) Comments | Posted February 5, 2016 | 9:51 AM

In local Toronto-area news, Marco Muzzo, the 29-year-old son of one of Canada's wealthiest families, has just pleaded guilty to six charges, including impaired driving causing death, related to a September 2015 motor vehicle accident. Mr. Muzzo has also pleaded guilty to impaired driving causing bodily harm.


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5 Ways For Single People To Have More Love On Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2016 | 11:09 AM

Valentine's Day is upon us and if you're single, it can be a painful reminder that there's no one in your life to buy you flowers, take you out for dinner, give you a foot rub, or bring you breakfast in bed (for now).

For many single people, Valentine's Day...

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Texters, Daters And The Challenges Of Modern Love

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2016 | 9:33 AM

I just read an interesting article in the New York Times Magazine by Lindsey Goldstein, entitled, "To Text, or Not to Text: A Dating Conundrum."

In her article, Ms. Goldstein describes meeting a man, having a great first date, and then receiving a flurry of texts from him over the...

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