Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

Men Like Trump Are Why Society Turns On Victims Of Sexual Assault

(61) Comments | Posted October 27, 2016 | 4:05 PM

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Republican presidential nominee Donald Trump denies recent sexual assault allegations, saying that if he ever touched a woman in the audience they would slap him. (Photo: REUTERS/Jonathan Ernst)

These days, the leaked video tape as well as the allegations of sexual...

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The Most Effective Managers Are Kind, Not Nice

(0) Comments | Posted October 18, 2016 | 8:49 AM

Sometimes, a manager thinks that they need to be "nice" at work. They're overly invested in being liked and they're uncomfortable setting limits or giving consequences. They especially don't like dealing with interpersonal conflicts between staff, assuming that at least one person will be unhappy with the way they resolve...

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Workplace Burnout Comes Down To Employees Being Too 'Nice'

(1) Comments | Posted October 17, 2016 | 5:26 PM

People talk a lot about workplace burnout but they don't always understand what it is, or how to prevent it. In my work as a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, I've seen many cases of workplace burnout and in my experience, it often comes from the employee being too "nice."

What does...

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Learning To Communicate With Your Teen

(0) Comments | Posted September 28, 2016 | 12:50 PM

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It's so important that parents have open lines of communication with their teenagers. When teens feel like they can talk to their parents, they can work through a lot of problems and avoid even more. But it's...

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Grace VanderWaal Deserved To Win America's Got Talent, But Should She Have?

(32) Comments | Posted September 16, 2016 | 4:39 PM

America's Got Talent used to be a really cheesy show with really cheesy acts, but as it often happens when a show develops a huge following, better quality people start auditioning and the tone of the show is elevated.

Such was the case this season, when the acts were so...

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What It Takes To Raise A Teenager

(0) Comments | Posted September 13, 2016 | 1:14 PM

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The teenage years can be hard on everyone. The young person is going through so many changes to their body and their psyche; they're discovering who they are and what they aspire to in life. Hormones are coursing through their veins,...

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Ryan Lochte Lied. So What Does That Mean To The Rest Of Us?

(23) Comments | Posted August 22, 2016 | 6:20 PM

The Olympics are over, but Ryan Lochte's lie lives on. Still, if we look at it, he was just carrying on the ignoble tradition of making up a story to avoid being embarrassed for some inappropriate behaviour. Hey, if former presidents of the U.S. can do it, Lochte...

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Heaven Help A U.S. More Concerned By Orlando Bloom's Junk Than Trump

(70) Comments | Posted August 5, 2016 | 1:00 PM

The other day, someone forwarded me a horrifying Huffington Post story by lawyer and commentator Lisa Bloom. The story was about why we shouldn't ignore the child-rape charges recently filed against Donald Trump.

Ms. Bloom was saying that Mr. Trump, as the current Republican presidential candidate, should be...

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Leslie Jones And The Crime Of Shattering Male Expectations

(39) Comments | Posted July 22, 2016 | 5:09 PM

Leslie Jones resigned from Twitter this week, and it's not at all surprising. She's been subject to one of the most virulent attacks by social media trolls that the Twitterverse has ever witnessed.

And why was Ms. Jones the subject of such a horrific attack? It's because one...

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Swift-Kardashian-West Feud A Circus Of Narcissism And Bullying

(2) Comments | Posted July 19, 2016 | 1:55 PM

Someone sent me a link to the recent back and forths between the Swift and Kardashian-West camps these days, and they encouraged me to write about it. Even as I do so, I'm highly ambivalent, as the whole affair is rather unsavoury, to say the least.

For those...

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After The Orlando Massacre, So Many Questions And So Few Answers

(1) Comments | Posted June 16, 2016 | 11:58 AM

When I think about the massacre in Orlando this past weekend, my heart breaks. The senseless loss of so many innocent lives is horrifying, but there are some aspects to this tragedy that are equally shocking.

I'm devastated for the victims, their friends and families. My heart goes out to...

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Lessons Learned From My Year Of Working Minimally

(2) Comments | Posted June 6, 2016 | 12:28 PM

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I'm a pretty strong, resilient person, but in the past few years I've lost a lot of loved ones, and I mean, a lot. Finally, it started getting to me.

My patience was wearing thin, my tolerance for some of the stuff that tends...

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5 Tips To Make Your Children Brilliantly Successful At Work

(0) Comments | Posted May 30, 2016 | 12:41 PM

If you're a caring parent, of course you want the best for your children. You think about their future and want them to be happy, healthy and successful in life.

You want them to have good relationships when they grow up; meaningful pastimes and success in whatever job or career...

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Chewbacca Mom And The Power Of Authenticity

(3) Comments | Posted May 27, 2016 | 10:57 AM

Chewbacca Mom, Candace Payne at Good Morning America to talk about being the new internet sensation on May 23, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by MPI02/Bauer-Griffin/GC Images)

When Candace Payne uploaded a video last week in which she sat in her car, put on a Chewbacca mask...

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How I Learned To Avoid Cleverly, Play Wisely And Procrastinate Brilliantly

(0) Comments | Posted May 24, 2016 | 1:58 PM

Over the years in my creative journey, I've engaged in some habits that at times I've felt guilty about, and yet I kept on doing them.

These habits include a pattern of avoiding certain people and activities, a fair bit of aimless meandering and a whole lot of procrastinating.


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Raising Your Workplace EQ: The Value Of Creating Connections

(0) Comments | Posted May 19, 2016 | 1:07 PM

When you're trying to be successful in your career, it's not enough to simply show up, work hard and persevere. It's not enough to take risks, think outside the box, or be innovative.

There's an essential part of work that must be mastered if you want to achieve a high...

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The Ambitious Woman's Guide To Finding Love

(1) Comments | Posted May 13, 2016 | 4:12 PM

Whoever said that a woman can have it all is being very optimistic. Most women are pulled in a dozen different directions every day, and most of us would be thrilled to borrow the two extra arms of the Indian goddess Kali, to accomplish everything we need to get done...

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3 Sure-Fire Ways To Permanently Beat Food Cravings

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2016 | 11:01 AM

There are lots of things that people say about how to overcome food cravings, but I have a sure-fire way that anyone can use, with guaranteed results.

There are three steps to overcoming your food cravings, and you'll need to do all three if you want to succeed.

Step one:...

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The Problem With Seeing Only What We Want To See

(0) Comments | Posted May 9, 2016 | 10:39 AM

I've been thinking about how it's human nature to see what we want to see and ignore anything that goes against our expectations of how things ought to be, or how we want things to be. We'll miss something that's staring us right in the face if we don't want...

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Prince: The Tragic Death Of A Strange Genius

(0) Comments | Posted May 6, 2016 | 12:09 PM

It really hit me hard when I heard the news that Prince had died, and I've been wondering why it upset me so much. I felt the loss as though he was someone I knew personally; someone important to me. I imagine other people have been feeling similarly. This was...

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