Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota MD is a psychiatrist, author, speaker, and the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute. The mandate of the Institute is to promote success, happiness and well-being through the practice of ruthless compassion.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

Are You Too Nice in Your Relationships?

(2) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 8:58 AM

Everyone wants friendship and love in their life, and we all have our own ideas about how to create great relationships. One of the things that gets in the way of this is our tendency to be too nice.

Many of us are convinced that being "nice" is the way...

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Men, You Can Have Fantastic Relationships With Women

(0) Comments | Posted May 25, 2015 | 7:56 AM

It's 2015, and fantastic relationships between men and women are sadly in the minority. I think that the problem comes from common misunderstandings between the sexes.

Men and women make a lot of assumptions about each-other; assumptions about the ways that we're different and about the ways we're the same....

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What Makes a Mother?

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 12:01 PM

Another Mother's Day has come and gone, and it has me reflecting on what it is that makes a mother. In my own life, I've been lucky to know many women who've been like a mother to me.

There was my devoted grandmother, my "Baba," who was mother to a...

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What Provokes Us to Be Mean to Nice People?

(2) Comments | Posted May 10, 2015 | 11:08 PM

There's another side to the story of kind versus nice, and that's the story of those who are hurtful or disrespectful to the nice person. Who are these people and what's driving their behaviour?

We know what makes someone kind: it's an outpouring of positive self-regard onto others. What makes...

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Why You Should Stop Being Nice and Start Being Kind

(2) Comments | Posted April 26, 2015 | 10:44 AM

A lot of people are attached to the idea of being "nice." It's not so easy for these individuals to let go of their need to be nice, or to appreciate how different it is from being kind.

This distinction is important, however, because these two ways of being lead...

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You Can Become More Confident, Right Now

(2) Comments | Posted April 25, 2015 | 10:04 AM

Do you envy the person at the party who walks in, glowing with positive self-regard, and who soon finds himself surrounded by fascinated, admiring fellow guests?

Do you wish you were the person who takes a leadership role in the workplace and who is often given roles of greater responsibility...

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Your Problems Persist Because You're Making Bad Choices

(1) Comments | Posted April 22, 2015 | 6:29 PM

Have you noticed that the same problems keep coming up in your relationships or at work?

Maybe you're someone who keeps regaining the weight that you've lost or whose blood sugar is managed for a while but then invariably is out of control again?

Maybe you repeatedly experience bullying by...

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It's Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work

(0) Comments | Posted April 16, 2015 | 8:41 AM

Have you been trying to be a really nice person at work? Have you been noticing that your attempts have been backfiring? You might want to consider the possibility that instead of being so nice, you should work on trying to be kind, and that this subtle shift will make...

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What's Really Going on When Celebrities Feud

(0) Comments | Posted April 12, 2015 | 1:16 AM

When people say that love and hate are two sides of the same coin they aren't wrong. Intense feelings of love and of loathing have something significant in common: they both involve a powerful psychological attachment to the object of these emotions.

When someone feels strongly toward another person --...

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Canadians Should Stop Being So Nice

(24) Comments | Posted April 3, 2015 | 11:22 AM

Earlier in March, I read a blog on BBC Travel, written by Eric Weiner. He said that he and his family go on an annual road trip to Canada, in part because he loves how "nice" we Canadians are.

It got me to thinking about whether being nice is a...

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Why It's Sad When Women Say They Oppose Feminism

(99) Comments | Posted March 3, 2015 | 4:48 PM

It's very strange to me that the notion of feminism currently seems to be equated with man-hating or man-bashing.

As a feminist myself, surrounded by many other feminists, it's clear that none of us have the least bit of animosity, contempt or destructive wishes toward men.

For feminists the world...

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Why Women Need To Be More Powerful Around Men

(12) Comments | Posted March 1, 2015 | 6:51 PM

I've noticed a trend among women in their personal and professional relationships: the tendency to soft-pedal when expressing their displeasure with something a man has done.

These women are concerned about how the man might react to their feedback. They're afraid that he's going to become defensive or that he'll...

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A New Look at Resilience

(0) Comments | Posted February 25, 2015 | 8:14 AM

When you think about resilience, you probably think of the ability to bounce back when faced with difficult or painful situations. You think about being able to carry on when you've encountered stress or loss, disappointment, frustration or tragedy. And that's all true.

Resilience, as most of us understand it,...

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Wellness Is About More Than Health

(1) Comments | Posted February 2, 2015 | 4:52 PM

Our world is more toxic than ever -- polluted with neurotoxic and carcinogenic pesticides; hormone disrupting perfumes and packaging additives; toxins in house cleaning supplies, cosmetics, paints, and even in the finishing sprays to keep new clothing smooth and the coating on furniture to make it non-flammable.

We're also more...

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The Key to Health, Happiness and Success in 2015

(0) Comments | Posted January 13, 2015 | 4:14 PM

So, another year is almost over and a new one is about to begin. At this stage in my life, it's amazing how quickly the years fly by. I've started to think about what I accomplished last year and what my goals are for the coming year. Mostly, I realize...

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Why I Pity Today's Young Celebrities

(0) Comments | Posted March 13, 2014 | 11:26 AM

We live in the days of wayward celebrity youth. They're in and out of rehab, being booked for a DUI, or making videos that could double as soft core porn. These kids are not yet out of their teens, but their behaviour is wildly out of control.

It saddens me...

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10 Perils We Face in the 21st Century

(1) Comments | Posted April 22, 2013 | 5:20 PM

We're living in exceedingly dangerous times, and while we might think that the dangers we face come in the form of nuclear proliferation, rampant war-mongering, easy access to weapons, global warming and global financial collapse, we'd be wrong.

While all the above are dangerous, to be sure, they're just symptoms...

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The Seven Secrets of Spectacular Sex

(37) Comments | Posted March 8, 2013 | 4:26 PM

Everyone wants better sex, but many of us have the wrong idea about how to make it happen. Here are the seven secrets to achieving a spectacular sex life.

The first thing we need to understand is that, despite what television, movies and videos say, sex is an experience, not...

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Do You Love Like an Adult or Child?

(8) Comments | Posted December 22, 2012 | 5:59 PM

When I observe how people engage in romantic relationships, it seems that they do this in one of two ways: either from the perspective of a child or from that of an adult.

People who pursue love from an adult perspective are looking for companionship, romance, a life partner....

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Do You Have Dating ADD?

(25) Comments | Posted October 30, 2012 | 12:00 AM

A new malady has sprung up simultaneously with the ascent of online dating. It's called dating ADD. Symptoms of this disorder are similar to the more common form of ADD: easy distractibility, lack of focus and inability to stick to a task.

Dating ADD appears to have arisen out...

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