Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

Become a Winner: Adopt the Top Ten Habits of Elite Athletes

(1) Comments | Posted June 30, 2015 | 5:15 PM

The Pan Am games are coming to Toronto very soon, and it's got me thinking about how someone becomes a world-class athlete.

These sports superstars aren't necessarily born with super-human abilities. Mostly, it's their hard work and dedication to their craft that puts them head and shoulders above the rest...

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Marriage Equality Is a No-Brainer

(0) Comments | Posted June 27, 2015 | 6:53 PM

When I heard that the U.S. Supreme Court had finally accorded marriage rights to gay people, it felt like one of those, "Well, yeah!" moments.

Here in Canada, same-sex marriage rights have been in place for a decade. It feels like the U.S. has finally caught up with the way...

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It's Time to Lower the Confederate Flag for Good

(3) Comments | Posted June 24, 2015 | 12:29 PM

It's been a very sad time for South Carolina, and for the whole of the United States, these past few days. Nine black parishioners were murdered while gathered for bible study at Mother Emanuel African Methodist Church last week, and the world took a collective gasp.

People are...

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Top Five Tips for Super Summer Romance

(0) Comments | Posted June 23, 2015 | 2:36 PM

It's summer finally and if you're anything like me, you've come out of hibernation and are excited to be getting out there and enjoying everything that summer has to offer.

Here in Toronto, we have an exciting summer to look forward to including the Pan Am games. The city will...

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America's Fatal Attraction to Guns Is More Emotional Than Logical

(111) Comments | Posted June 21, 2015 | 8:56 PM

I've been following the news about all the recent shootings in the U.S.A. I was particularly horrified by the targeting of black church-goers in Charleston, South Carolina. And I was further distressed to read about 17 people shot at two different block parties this past weekend.

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The Five Fatal Relationship Mistakes That are Keeping You Single

(7) Comments | Posted June 19, 2015 | 3:24 PM

Do you know someone who seems like a good catch -- smart, attractive, has a decent job -- but who can never seem to hold on to a relationship? Maybe that person is you?

This person goes on their fair share of dates, even starts some relationships, but then soon...

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We Must Let Go of Our Fear of Rejection

(0) Comments | Posted June 16, 2015 | 5:41 PM

Probably the scariest activity we could engage in is public speaking. People often rate this fear higher than the fear of death. It's terrifying because it puts us in the position of being judged, found wanting, and then rejected.

One of the most basic human fears is the fear of...

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What the Duggar Family Teaches Us About Sexual Abuse

(5) Comments | Posted June 7, 2015 | 9:21 AM

The truth is, I've never watched the Duggar family on TV. Still, with all the current media coverage, it's impossible not to be aware of the fact that the eldest son Josh has confessed to inappropriate sexual behaviour, as a teenager, toward four of his sisters and a babysitter.


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What Caitlyn Jenner Teaches Us About Authenticity

(5) Comments | Posted June 3, 2015 | 12:20 PM

Like millions of other people, I've been following the Caitlyn Jenner story. What we've been seeing is a person who's lived her entire life with a painful secret.

She's been hiding her true nature, even from those closest to her and now, at age 65, she's finally come out to...

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Get Rid of Your Inner Bully

(0) Comments | Posted May 31, 2015 | 9:14 PM

There's a lot of bullying going on these days. We find it in schools, in the workplace and on-line.

There's one form of bullying that rarely gets talked about though, and it's creating a lot of misery. I'm talking about self-bullying.

When we grow up, we take in everything we...

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Let's Bring an End to Bullying by Choosing to #BeKind

(5) Comments | Posted May 28, 2015 | 7:49 AM

I was just watching the video about Sean O'Brien, the #DancingMan, on Yahoo news the other day, and it got me thinking about all the bullying going on these days.

Sean's a great guy, but he's seen his fair share of bullying. Still, he's not inclined to be angry or...

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Are You Too Nice in Your Relationships?

(3) Comments | Posted May 26, 2015 | 8:58 AM

Everyone wants friendship and love in their life, and we all have our own ideas about how to create great relationships. One of the things that gets in the way of this is our tendency to be too nice.

Many of us are convinced that being "nice" is the way...

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Men, You Can Have Fantastic Relationships With Women

(0) Comments | Posted May 25, 2015 | 7:56 AM

It's 2015, and fantastic relationships between men and women are sadly in the minority. I think that the problem comes from common misunderstandings between the sexes.

Men and women make a lot of assumptions about each-other; assumptions about the ways that we're different and about the ways we're the same....

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What Makes a Mother?

(0) Comments | Posted May 11, 2015 | 12:01 PM

Another Mother's Day has come and gone, and it has me reflecting on what it is that makes a mother. In my own life, I've been lucky to know many women who've been like a mother to me.

There was my devoted grandmother, my "Baba," who was mother to a...

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What Provokes Us to Be Mean to Nice People?

(2) Comments | Posted May 10, 2015 | 11:08 PM

There's another side to the story of kind versus nice, and that's the story of those who are hurtful or disrespectful to the nice person. Who are these people and what's driving their behaviour?

We know what makes someone kind: it's an outpouring of positive self-regard onto others. What makes...

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Why You Should Stop Being Nice and Start Being Kind

(3) Comments | Posted April 26, 2015 | 10:44 AM

A lot of people are attached to the idea of being "nice." It's not so easy for these individuals to let go of their need to be nice, or to appreciate how different it is from being kind.

This distinction is important, however, because these two ways of being lead...

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You Can Become More Confident, Right Now

(2) Comments | Posted April 25, 2015 | 10:04 AM

Do you envy the person at the party who walks in, glowing with positive self-regard, and who soon finds himself surrounded by fascinated, admiring fellow guests?

Do you wish you were the person who takes a leadership role in the workplace and who is often given roles of greater responsibility...

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Your Problems Persist Because You're Making Bad Choices

(1) Comments | Posted April 22, 2015 | 6:29 PM

Have you noticed that the same problems keep coming up in your relationships or at work?

Maybe you're someone who keeps regaining the weight that you've lost or whose blood sugar is managed for a while but then invariably is out of control again?

Maybe you repeatedly experience bullying by...

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It's Time to Stop Being So Nice at Work

(0) Comments | Posted April 16, 2015 | 8:41 AM

Have you been trying to be a really nice person at work? Have you been noticing that your attempts have been backfiring? You might want to consider the possibility that instead of being so nice, you should work on trying to be kind, and that this subtle shift will make...

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What's Really Going on When Celebrities Feud

(0) Comments | Posted April 12, 2015 | 1:16 AM

When people say that love and hate are two sides of the same coin they aren't wrong. Intense feelings of love and of loathing have something significant in common: they both involve a powerful psychological attachment to the object of these emotions.

When someone feels strongly toward another person --...

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