Marcia Sirota
Marcia Sirota is an author, speaker, coach and psychiatrist. She's the founder of the Ruthless Compassion Institute, whose mandate is to help people have better relationships, be happier and create good habits.

Entries by Marcia Sirota

These 'Romantic' Gestures In Media Can Be Abusive In Real Life

(0) Comments | Posted February 5, 2016 | 4:55 PM

I just read a very interesting article about a recent study by Dr. Julia Lippman from the University of Michigan. The study demonstrates that watching people engaging in stalking behaviour in romantic comedies causes viewers to see this type of behaviour as acceptable.

The outcome of the study...

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Is Marco Muzzo's Tragic Case An Example Of Overly Permissive Parenting?

(254) Comments | Posted February 5, 2016 | 10:51 AM

In local Toronto-area news, Marco Muzzo, the 29-year-old son of one of Canada's wealthiest families, has just pleaded guilty to six charges, including impaired driving causing death, related to a September 2015 motor vehicle accident. Mr. Muzzo has also pleaded guilty to impaired driving causing bodily harm.


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5 Ways For Single People To Have More Love On Valentine's Day

(0) Comments | Posted February 4, 2016 | 12:09 PM

Valentine's Day is upon us and if you're single, it can be a painful reminder that there's no one in your life to buy you flowers, take you out for dinner, give you a foot rub, or bring you breakfast in bed (for now).

For many single people, Valentine's Day...

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Texters, Daters And The Challenges Of Modern Love

(0) Comments | Posted February 3, 2016 | 10:33 AM

I just read an interesting article in the New York Times Magazine by Lindsey Goldstein, entitled, "To Text, or Not to Text: A Dating Conundrum."

In her article, Ms. Goldstein describes meeting a man, having a great first date, and then receiving a flurry of texts from him over the...

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Dating Dos And Don'ts In The Age Of Jian Ghomeshi

(2) Comments | Posted February 1, 2016 | 10:44 AM

With strangely coincidental timing, the trial of the disgraced CBC radio host, Jian Ghomeshi, accused of assaulting women he worked with and dated, begins on Monday, February 1, just in time for Valentine's Day.

Dating is almost always a challenging activity; first dates that much more so. Two people...

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10 Signs That You're On A Bad First Date

(2) Comments | Posted February 1, 2016 | 10:28 AM

First dates aren't a favourite of many people. They can be awkward, uncomfortable and even painful at times, as one or both participants sit there wondering what they're doing with this other person.

I've noticed that sometimes, people on a date are miserable but feel compelled to stay until...

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10 Signs That You're In An Emotionally Abusive Relationship

(8) Comments | Posted January 28, 2016 | 9:56 AM

Everyone wants to be in a good relationship, but sometimes it's hard to realize that you've gotten yourself into a bad one. If your partner is physically assaulting you, it's clear that you're in an abusive relationship, but what about other types of bad relationships?

An emotionally abusive relationship...

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Superficial Small Talk Is Step One To Creating Intimacy

(1) Comments | Posted January 25, 2016 | 4:10 PM

I just read "The End of Small Talk" by Tim Boomer, published in the New York Times on Jan. 14, 2016. In it, Mr. Boomer advocates against small talk and promotes getting right to "big talk" with people we're just meeting, or with colleagues and acquaintances. While...

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Why We Need to Boycott This Year's Lily-White Oscars

(27) Comments | Posted January 22, 2016 | 5:33 PM

I'm really annoyed at the Oscars this year. It's bad enough that there were no people of colour nominated in the acting or directing categories last year, but two years in a row? That can't just be an unfortunate coincidence.

It's almost as though the many brilliant actors,...

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Parents With Authority Make For Happy, Stable Families

(5) Comments | Posted January 13, 2016 | 2:48 PM

I just read the January 7, 2016 article in MacLeans Magazine by Cathy Gulli, entitled, "The Collapse of Parenting, and Why it's Time For Parents to Grow Up." I was happy to see such an article featured in a national news magazine.

Coincidentally, my own Huffington...

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Our Entitlement Epidemic Spans From School To Workplace

(0) Comments | Posted January 7, 2016 | 11:58 AM

There's a viral video going around these days by a father named Tommy Jordan. The video has received over 40 million views and almost 500,000 likes. In it, Mr. Jordan reads a hostile Facebook post by his 15-year-old daughter and then responds to it, culminating with him putting...

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Personal Growth Work In 2016? It's Worth The Effort

(0) Comments | Posted January 6, 2016 | 10:49 AM

The new year, 2016, has just begun, and you'd think that everyone wants to put their best foot forward, but I've been noticing how reluctant people are, these days, when it comes to their personal growth. The opportunity to do this kind of work can be handed to them on...

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How Miss Colombia And Miss Universe Can Overcome Pageant Gaffe

(0) Comments | Posted January 4, 2016 | 4:46 PM

Two young women, Miss Colombia and Miss Philippines, recently experienced two different sides of a terrible shock. For Miss Colombia, it was the shock of being crowned the winner of the Miss Universe 2015 pageant and then less than two minutes later, having the crown removed from her head and...

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Bill Cosby's Charges Show Us How The Legal System Fails Women

(66) Comments | Posted December 31, 2015 | 11:22 AM

I was interested to note that Bill Cosby has been charged with sexual assault, stemming from an incident which allegedly occurred in 2004. He's been accused by more than 50 women of drugging and then sexually assaulting them, but in most of these cases, charges couldn't be laid...

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Steve Harvey's Miss Universe Mistake Offers A Powerful Lesson

(17) Comments | Posted December 28, 2015 | 3:38 PM

I don't know why I chose to watch the Miss Universe Pageant this past Sunday, December 20. I usually don't enjoy those types of shows, but I'm very glad I watched, because I was able to see Steve Harvey make his now-famous mistake in announcing the winner of Miss Universe...

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Authenticity Takes The Loneliness Out Of A Struggling Relationship

(0) Comments | Posted December 23, 2015 | 3:07 PM

The other day, I was talking to an acquaintance -- let's call her "Angela" -- about her marriage. She said that recently, she'd been surprised to hear from her husband -- let's call him "Martin" -- that he'd been feeling as dissatisfied as she was with their relationship.


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The Dark Side Of The Holiday Season

(0) Comments | Posted December 21, 2015 | 9:56 AM

The holidays can be a wonderful time for many people; they're an opportunity to spend time with loved ones, take some time off school or work, and enjoy the festivities. For some, though, the holidays can be stressful.

Every year, there are always people who don't look forward to the...

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The Value Of Authenticity: Being More Real and Identifying Those Who Aren't Real

(0) Comments | Posted December 16, 2015 | 12:03 PM

When you think about authenticity, what comes to mind? Maybe you don't really think about it at all. And that would be a shame, because authenticity brings real rewards.

So many people walk around with a whole lot of persona. They present themselves to the world in the way they...

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Why You Should Resolve To Be Kinder In 2016

(0) Comments | Posted December 8, 2015 | 12:39 PM

Are you someone whose New Year's resolutions are focused on being happier, healthier, or more successful? Or are you someone whose resolutions focus on being more loving and giving to others?

Interestingly, studies are showing that if you want the former, you really ought to concentrate on the latter. That...

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The Only New Year's Resolution You Need Is To Love Yourself More

(1) Comments | Posted December 1, 2015 | 5:06 PM

Each new year brings with it the promise of something better: more happiness, health, success, connection. You have high hopes for the coming year and you set your New Year's resolutions accordingly.

Sadly, despite your best intentions, don't you find that the majority of your resolutions are broken before the...

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