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Would You Want Your Kid to Have An Arranged Marriage?

(9) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 5:47 PM

My almost three-year-old recently turned to me and said "I can't wait to get married!" I blinked a few times, trying to comprehend if I heard correctly or not. My husband nearly choked on whatever he was eating. We were both clearly flustered as to this sudden proclamation from our...

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The Push For Push Presents May Be Misguided

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 8:53 AM

The first time I ever heard the term "push present," I was visiting a girlfriend's new baby. As I sat down to cuddle her beautiful bundle of joy, she pointed out a tiny blue Tiffany's jewelry box on the coffee table and told me her baby had given her a...

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How I Felt the First Time I Saw My Mother Helpless

(1) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 12:15 PM

Every relationship evolves throughout the course of its lifespan. Some grow and blossom, others die out when the time is right and some drag on when they should have ended long ago. I think most women can agree that there is however no relationship like the one you have with...

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16 Rules For a Happy Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 8:55 AM

"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king." At this point in my life, this is one of my favorite quotes. To me, it means that I offer to you my pearls of wisdom at a time that statistics show an alarming rate of divorce worldwide.


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Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

(1) Comments | Posted March 30, 2014 | 3:01 AM

Becoming a stepmother can be a whirlwind of change and transition as you adjust to being a part of an instant family. The reactions from others can either ease this process or make you feel further isolated. Sometimes I feel like stepmothers are held to greater scrutiny because...

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How to Raise Strong Daughters

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 12:05 PM

I have two younger sisters. When we were growing up my dad would often get tickets to sports events (hockey and baseball were the two most common ones). With each set of tickets he would rotate through the order of cousins (there were 10 of us, all boys, except for...

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Are You The Bully In Your Home?

(0) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 11:13 AM

By Angie Seth

This blog was inspired by an article I recently read in the Huffington Post about bullying. It brought tears to my eyes, not just because it was a touching piece about a mother coming to terms with the fact that unknowingly she was bullying her daughter into...

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Telling My Kids We Don't Celebrate Christmas

(1) Comments | Posted December 11, 2013 | 11:30 AM

I don't celebrate Christmas. I never have and I'm fairly sure I never will. Growing up in Ottawa in the '80s, my Christmas celebrating friends would often be shocked that December 25th was just another morning for me where I would sleep in and then go downstairs and watch cartoons...

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How Having A Child With Cerebral Palsy Makes Our Family Stronger

(0) Comments | Posted November 30, 2013 | 8:15 AM

I've shared that my three-year old daughter, Syona, has cerebral palsy. I haven't gone into the details of her diagnosis, but Syona has some serious delays in her speech, fine motor and gross motor skills because her muscles and brain don't communicate properly.

She has really tight (spastic) muscles and...

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Why Are Only Families With Children of Both Sexes Considered Complete?

(6) Comments | Posted November 29, 2013 | 4:29 PM

Six months ago, I gave birth to a baby girl. She is the light of our home and her bright face makes our hearts melt. She also has two older brothers who are absolutely in love with her. After giving birth to two boys, it's no surprise that I really...

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Why It Makes Me Want to Cry When Brown Kids Want to Be Blonde and Blue-Eyed

(17) Comments | Posted November 29, 2013 | 11:38 AM

Skin colour and kids is a funny thing.

I have three boys who are 7, 4 and 15 months and while both my husband and I are fully South Asian, we look quite different.

To be blunt, he looks more "Indian" since he has much darker skin...

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Make Your Kitchen a Classroom For Your Kids

(0) Comments | Posted October 11, 2013 | 12:29 PM

When was the last time you cooked with your kids? Just as swimming and reading are essential life skills, so too is cooking. If you've got a picky eater, who might like to know that kids who help out in the kitchen are more likely to eat what they make.

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Why India's 'Abused Goddess' Ads Have It All Wrong

(2) Comments | Posted October 10, 2013 | 5:46 PM

An ad agency recently created images of three Hindu goddesses apparently to spread the message against domestic violence in India. I'm not sure what the logic behind this is. And here's the problem.

The ad seems to be a warning (to Indian men?) that since 68 per cent of women...

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Making the Tough Choice on Childcare

(2) Comments | Posted October 9, 2013 | 7:12 AM

By Anchel Krishna

As I was growing up, we didn't go to daycare or have a nanny. My dad's mom (dadi, who we called mummi) was often around to take care of us when my parents were at work. It was a great way to grow up.

We are...

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I Don't Want to Know My Baby's Gender -- But Everyone Else Does

(2) Comments | Posted October 8, 2013 | 12:33 PM

When you are about 20 weeks pregnant you can find out the gender of your baby. This is a milestone of pregnancy that many expectant parents eagerly await.

From the moment I found out I was pregnant, one of my first thoughts was that I did not want...

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(For)get The London Look: My Quest For Natural Beauty

(0) Comments | Posted August 15, 2013 | 8:59 AM

By Sheba Siddiqui

Every so often, I like to remove a luxury in my life for a few days, weeks, or months and see how it affects me. I never want to be too dependent on anything. Whether it be my television, cellphone or eating habits, I like to change...

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Having My Baby Went as I Planned...Until it Didn't

(2) Comments | Posted August 14, 2013 | 12:27 PM

Over a month ago I went from being a "Masalamomma-in-training" to a real life Masalamomma. We were blessed with a precious baby girl and life as we knew would never be the same.

During the last trimester of my pregnancy, friends and family often asked me if I was nervous...

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8 Things You Should Never Say to a Divorced Woman

(20) Comments | Posted July 11, 2013 | 8:44 AM

Now that I'm a veteran divorcée of seven years, I am a little better-versed in the world of being single, as well as better-equipped with a more-refined manner of dealing with certain situations that arise in the kingdom of the no-longer-married.

Most people, like me, don't go into what they...

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Lisa Ray Tells Her Story One Sari at a Time

(1) Comments | Posted July 9, 2013 | 3:47 PM

Sometimes when you meet someone you never forget the feeling you have after talking to them. Lisa Ray is one such person. You really sense a love of life and a fire in Lisa when you meet her, that will leave its impact on you days after. At the official...

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Why Do Moms Judge Each Other?

(3) Comments | Posted July 9, 2013 | 12:20 PM

Squeals of laughter. We were at the park and my daughter was thoroughly enjoying her time there when I was approached by a familiar face. It was one of the nannies who I see at the park regularly. She came straight up to me and said, "Is your daughter potty...

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