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Don't Choose Toys For Your Kids Based on Stereotypical Gender Roles

(3) Comments | Posted August 11, 2014 | 1:53 PM

I always wanted a little girl. After having two boys, I yearned for pink and bows. My entire house was filled with cars, trucks, superheroes and whoopee cushions and I longed to see a Barbie or doll stroller among it all.

Last year, my husband, sons and I were blessed...

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6 Ways to Recycle Your Indian Wedding Outfit

(0) Comments | Posted August 5, 2014 | 12:15 PM

By Tanvi Rastogi

After months of research and swatches you finally got your wedding outfits in order. Colour coordinated, jewelry and make up synced with footwear to match or compliment the outfit. But once all the hoopla is over, does that expensive outfit get packed-never-to-see-the-daylight again? That doesn't sound right....

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When Cultural Norms Stand in the Way of Breastfeeding

(2) Comments | Posted August 5, 2014 | 8:11 AM

By Anjali Joshi

Before I had even stepped foot in the labour and delivery ward of a hospital, I was determined to exclusively breastfeed my baby. I had done my research, read the stacks of pregnancy books, and all arrows pointed to the same message: breast milk was the most...

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How Report Cards Put Pressure on Parents

(1) Comments | Posted June 27, 2014 | 12:26 PM

My three-year-old completed her first year at pre-school this past week. Even though it was only thrice a week, we have seen her progress leaps and bounds from a little baby back in the fall to a "big girl" as she likes to refer to herself now. Throughout this time...

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Top 10 Ways to Be a Contagious Parent

(26) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 5:20 PM

2014-06-11-rajdeep93x150.jpeg The other night, my six-year-old daughter said to me, "Mommy, the fashion show starts in fifteen minutes."

I giggled and told her, "Okay, I'll be there."

This is the same kid who plans family tea parties, family game nights, and special themed...

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Dads Might Have the World's Toughest Job

(0) Comments | Posted June 11, 2014 | 12:33 PM

The minute the stick turns +, the spotlight is on the mommas. She lends her body to the growing little pea inside her. Her body is taxed with fluid retention and swollen ankles, heartburn, backaches, and the finale of the nine months is labour and delivery. And, then she lends...

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What I've Learned By Being a Feminist, South Asian Mom

(1) Comments | Posted June 6, 2014 | 5:13 PM

2014-06-06-anushayhead.jpg Any woman can tell you that as a feminist, your morals and boundaries are constantly being challenged, and maybe not more often than when you are both desi and feminist. As with any culture, our traditions come laden with sexist traditions and customs,...

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Would You Want Your Kid to Have An Arranged Marriage?

(9) Comments | Posted April 4, 2014 | 5:47 PM

My almost three-year-old recently turned to me and said "I can't wait to get married!" I blinked a few times, trying to comprehend if I heard correctly or not. My husband nearly choked on whatever he was eating. We were both clearly flustered as to this sudden proclamation from our...

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The Push For Push Presents May Be Misguided

(0) Comments | Posted April 2, 2014 | 8:53 AM

The first time I ever heard the term "push present," I was visiting a girlfriend's new baby. As I sat down to cuddle her beautiful bundle of joy, she pointed out a tiny blue Tiffany's jewelry box on the coffee table and told me her baby had given her a...

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How I Felt the First Time I Saw My Mother Helpless

(1) Comments | Posted April 1, 2014 | 12:15 PM

Every relationship evolves throughout the course of its lifespan. Some grow and blossom, others die out when the time is right and some drag on when they should have ended long ago. I think most women can agree that there is however no relationship like the one you have with...

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16 Rules For a Happy Marriage

(0) Comments | Posted March 31, 2014 | 8:55 AM

"In the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king." At this point in my life, this is one of my favorite quotes. To me, it means that I offer to you my pearls of wisdom at a time that statistics show an alarming rate of divorce worldwide.

I,...

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Five Things You Shouldn't Ask a South-Asian Stepmom

(1) Comments | Posted March 30, 2014 | 3:01 AM

Becoming a stepmother can be a whirlwind of change and transition as you adjust to being a part of an instant family. The reactions from others can either ease this process or make you feel further isolated. Sometimes I feel like stepmothers are held to greater scrutiny because...

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How to Raise Strong Daughters

(0) Comments | Posted March 28, 2014 | 12:05 PM

I have two younger sisters. When we were growing up my dad would often get tickets to sports events (hockey and baseball were the two most common ones). With each set of tickets he would rotate through the order of cousins (there were 10 of us, all boys, except for...

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Are You The Bully In Your Home?

(0) Comments | Posted February 25, 2014 | 11:13 AM

By Angie Seth

This blog was inspired by an article I recently read in the Huffington Post about bullying. It brought tears to my eyes, not just because it was a touching piece about a mother coming to terms with the fact that unknowingly she was bullying her daughter into...

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Telling My Kids We Don't Celebrate Christmas

(1) Comments | Posted December 11, 2013 | 11:30 AM

I don't celebrate Christmas. I never have and I'm fairly sure I never will. Growing up in Ottawa in the '80s, my Christmas celebrating friends would often be shocked that December 25th was just another morning for me where I would sleep in and then go downstairs and watch cartoons...

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How Having A Child With Cerebral Palsy Makes Our Family Stronger

(0) Comments | Posted November 30, 2013 | 8:15 AM

I've shared that my three-year old daughter, Syona, has cerebral palsy. I haven't gone into the details of her diagnosis, but Syona has some serious delays in her speech, fine motor and gross motor skills because her muscles and brain don't communicate properly.

She has really tight (spastic) muscles and...

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Why Are Only Families With Children of Both Sexes Considered Complete?

(6) Comments | Posted November 29, 2013 | 4:29 PM

Six months ago, I gave birth to a baby girl. She is the light of our home and her bright face makes our hearts melt. She also has two older brothers who are absolutely in love with her. After giving birth to two boys, it's no surprise that I really...

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Why It Makes Me Want to Cry When Brown Kids Want to Be Blonde and Blue-Eyed

(17) Comments | Posted November 29, 2013 | 11:38 AM

Skin colour and kids is a funny thing.

I have three boys who are 7, 4 and 15 months and while both my husband and I are fully South Asian, we look quite different.

To be blunt, he looks more "Indian" since he has much darker skin...

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Make Your Kitchen a Classroom For Your Kids

(0) Comments | Posted October 11, 2013 | 12:29 PM

When was the last time you cooked with your kids? Just as swimming and reading are essential life skills, so too is cooking. If you've got a picky eater, who might like to know that kids who help out in the kitchen are more likely to eat what they make.

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Why India's 'Abused Goddess' Ads Have It All Wrong

(2) Comments | Posted October 10, 2013 | 5:46 PM

An ad agency recently created images of three Hindu goddesses apparently to spread the message against domestic violence in India. I'm not sure what the logic behind this is. And here's the problem.

The ad seems to be a warning (to Indian men?) that since 68 per cent of women...

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