I remember that evening well: We burst into my bedroom trying to take each others clothes off and my nose scratched from my shirt button as he miscalculated the strip down. Almost a trip over his left pant leg and a bump to my shin over the trunk and we finally conquered the journey to my bed. It was hot and there I was feeling like a 20-year old sex kitten being taken by strong hands that wrestled me into the sheets. And there, in a game of twister, I looked down.
There they were, dimples that made my ass look like an offspring of Shirley Temple. But then he flipped me over and there in my reflection in the mirror was my butt again. No, I didn't have a butt smile like most bounce-a-quarter-off-it-type butts would boast, but a butt frown. The sexually induced body mortification continued: my triceps fanned my body as I held onto him. I felt my partner clutch onto my back wings and I lost my navel in a war against my abdomen.
This poignant moment in the past is something I'm reminded of when I hear the heart-felt stories from my patients because I could once relate. Which begs the question, how does one get a sex-approved body transformation?
Let's think about the possible causes first:
There is one theory that purports that people with cellulite have chronically inflamed white blood cells and inflamed cells shrink causing the skin to lose its strength. However what is more widely accepted is the notion that connective tissue in women appear in paralleled bars causing fat to push through easier than men (men have a criss-cross pattern). Not to mention the years are not on our side as age decreases the elasticity in the skin causing cellulite to appear more noticeable.
Depending on where you store your fat, it all has different meanings. For example, fat accumulation on the triceps could signify excessive insulin in the system whereas abdominal fat may signify excess cortisol production. Understanding where you gain weight is a sure fire way of understanding how you lose it.
So what can be done?
Focus on digestive health and immunity
The concept is simple. Clogged pipes and we reabsorb the toxins stored in our poop and we become ill. Not to mention over 70 per cent of our immunity is located in our digestive tract creating an immune response like inflammation (in many cases, we see a link between inflammation and weight gain). If you feel that going to the bathroom every other day is not constipation, then think again. In fact many experts will have you believe that once a day is still considered slow bowel transit time.
Dry skin brushing
Getting a loofa sponge will one of the cheapest and best investments you'll make. Dry skin brushing moves your lymphatic system and helps to remove up to 1lb of waste excreted by our skin daily, reducing the look of cellulite. Simply start with small circular movements towards the heart and getting every inch of your body before you shower daily.
Understanding hormones and their triggers
As women especially our bodies are a hormonal fun house: fun one moment and complete mind and body distortion the next. Lowering excess estrogen may decrease the appearance of excess weight on the thighs and butt. Another example is possibly increasing the levels of glucagon that is a hormone that help to encourage fat burning.
All of this info excites me because I know how much it has helped me in the past and the patients I now counsel in clinic. It is the main reason why I created "The Enlighten Movement," an online program that is focused on body transformation.
Here I bring you my expertise in Nutrition & Chinese Medicine, plus bring on a fitness expert and emotional specialist. Doors have officially opened for purchase on December 11, 2012 and will close January 5, 2013. Yep, we're hitting it out of the ballpark to give you the sex-approved body this New Year you deserve so that you can gain back a little confidence back in between the sheets.
Cannon <a href="http://www.tmz.com/2012/12/11/nick-cannon-mariah-carey-sex-music-hero/">admits that he makes love to Mariah Carey</a> while listening to her music, adding that he will masturbate to her tunes "when she's not there." "Sometimes there's special nights when you turn the music on and sometimes it's morning, you roll over and get it poppin'!"
"Some people are more experimental in bed and others are more boring. If you are wild and crazy, bring it on so the other person is well aware that you have little devil horns that come out every once in a while," <a href="http://www.marieclaire.com/celebrity-lifestyle/celebrities/heidi-klum-feature?click=pp">she confessed to Marie Claire</a>, adding, "It’s good to make an effort to dress up sometimes, to do things outside of the norm."
The actress told Good Housekeeping <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/12/10/kyra-sedgwick-kevin-bacon-doesnt-lie-doesnt-cheat-sexy_n_2270357.html?utm_hp_ref=celebrity">she and Kevin Bacon have spiced up their love life</a> now that children Travis, 23, and Sosie, 20, have headed off to college: "There's a lot more walking around the house naked," Sedgwick confesses.
<a href="http://www.redbookmag.com/fun-contests/celebrity/gwyneth-paltrow-tracy-anderson-interview#slide-1">Speaking about Tracy Anderson's fitness method</a>, Paltrow told Redbook magazine: "It did such wonders for my life, my confidence, my sex life, everything."
Wilde gave the crowd a mouthful when she shared personal details about her love life at <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/10/09/olivia-wildes-vagina-monologue-jason-sudeikis_n_1951973.html">the These Girls event at Joe’s Pub</a> in October. She confessed that she and Jason Sudeikis “have sex like Kenyan marathon runners.”
"The fountain of youth [for me], let's see...I guess it's exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex," <a href="http://www.vogue.co.uk/news/2010/06/01/cameron-diaz-july-vogue-2010-cover">Diaz told Vogue in 2010</a>, adding, "yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It's healthy, it's natural, it's what we are here to do!"
Jada and Will have been married for 11 years and have two young children, but they know how to keep the spark alive. <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2009/06/16/jada-pinkett-smith-have-s_n_216427.html">Jada told Redbook in 2011</a>: "Be sneaky... your girlfriend's house at a party. The bathroom. A bedroom. Think of places outside that are comfortable to have sex. Does he have access to his office? Have a fantasy date. Be his secretary! Pull over on the side of the road... Just switch it up."
Remember when Mayer couldn't keep his mouth shut about his sex life with ex-girlfriend, Jessica Simpson? "Sexually it was crazy. That's all I'll say," <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/john-mayer-jessica-simpson-was-crazy-2010102">he told Playboy in 2010</a>, "It was like napalm, sexual napalm. Did you ever say, 'I want to quit my life and just f**king snort you? If you charged me $10,000 to f**k you, I would start selling all my s**t just to keep f**king you?'"
“You can tell I’m into the bald,” Odom told George Lopez in 2010 <a href="http://hollywoodlife.com/2010/03/11/khloe-kardashian-lamar-odom-bald-lopez/">while sitting with wife Khloe Kardashian</a>. “You got to keep it clean down there. It’s disgusting if you let it go crazy.”
"God bless her, [Catherine Zeta-Jones] likes older guys,"<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/01/22/michael-douglas-thank-goo_n_432716.html"> Douglas told AARP</a>. "And some wonderful enhancements have happened in the last few years -- Viagra, Cialis -- that can make us all feel younger."
TMI! "I was a compulsive, serial masturbator," <a href="http://www.popcrunch.com/robert-downey-jr-masturbation-confession/">the actor confessed</a>, adding, "I utilized that organ and rode it for everything it was worth."
“I am very lucky with Brad,” <a href="http://hollywoodlife.com/2011/05/31/angelina-jolie-cleopatra-brad-pitt-jennifer-aniston/">she told the Telegraph</a>. “He is a real gentleman, but he is also a real man’s man. He’s got the wonderful balance of being an extraordinary, great, loving father, a very, very intelligent man and physically he’s a real man, in all things that it means.’” She also discussed having sex during pregnancy, <a href="http://www.ew.com/ew/article/0,,20205854,00.html">telling EW</a>, "It’s great for the sex life. It just makes you a lot more creative, so you have fun.”
After reuniting with then husband Pete Wentz at the 2009 Australia MTV Awards, Simpson got a little ahead of herself, announcing: "Sorry we haven’t seen each other in a while, so we’re going to find a quiet place to go fornicate." (<a href="http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Simpson+talks+of+finding+quiet+place+to+fornicate+at+MTV+Australia...-a0212351994">Via the Courier Mail</a>)
"I’m kind of unstoppable right now," Simpson told Ryan Seacrest <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-news/news/pregnant-jessica-simpson-my-sex-drive-is-unstoppable-right-now-2012133">about her sex life during pregnancy</a>. "The Big O is, like, the biggest O ever.”
"When I get home [from rehearsals], I train horizontally," Lake told People <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20540947,00.html">while she was competing on "Dancing with the Stars."</a>"[Partner Christian] has noticed a difference in my stamina over the last couple of weeks."
Sting loves to romance his wife Trudie Syler. "There's a playfulness we have; I like the theater of sex," <a href="http://www.harpersbazaar.com/fashion/fashion-articles/sting-trudie-styler-interview-0211?click=main_sr">he told Harper's Bazaar.</a> "I like to look good. I like her to dress up. I like to dress her up."
"I like missionary and I like being on my knees too," <a href="http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/celebrity/536025/gwyneth-paltrow-and-zoe-saldana-talk-favourite-sex-positions.html#index=1">Saldana told Marie Claire</a>. "And I love being on top ... I love doggy-style or standing up."
"At 74, I have never had such a fulfilling sex life," <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/10/jane-fonda-sex-life_n_1661999.html">Fonda told Hello! magazine</a>. "The only thing I have never known is true intimacy with a man. I absolutely wanted to discover that before dying. It has happened with Richard, I feel totally secure with him. Often, when we make love, I see him as he was 30 years ago."
“We didn’t do anything much more than kiss for several months,” Kelsey told Conan O’Brien <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/09/11/camille-grammer-kelsey-grammer_n_1874717.html">about seeing Kayte Walsh</a> while he was still married to Camille Grammer. “I just wanted to clear that up. She was worth the wait.” “I would think that would be difficult,” Conan said, laughing. Kelsey replied, “Well, for a guy that hadn’t had sex for a decade it wasn’t that hard!”
Although Clooney lost his virginity at the age of 16 ("young, very young, too young"), he told Rolling Stone <a href="http://www.rollingstone.com/movies/pictures/confessions-of-a-dirty-mind-george-clooney-talks-sex-politics-and-fame-20111109/0190256#ixzz2EmC4l4Sw">he had his first orgasm when he was much younger.</a> "I believe it was while climbing a rope when I was six or seven years old," he explained. "I mean, nothing came out, but all the other elements were there. I remember getting to the top of the rope, hanging off the rope, and going, "Oh, my God, this feels great!"
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