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The Deadly Mindset Behind "Honour Killings"

Posted: 10/24/11 11:33 PM ET

Mohammad Shafia (centre), Hamed Shafia and Tooba Mohammad Yahya, behind police officers to the left, arrive at the Frontenac Court courthouse in Kingston Ontario on Friday, October 21, 2011.


"And when the girl-child buried alive is asked for what sin she was killed. (Quran 81:8)"

This verse from the Quran seems to be the most appropriate for this story. A man, along with his (second) wife and son, stands accused of orchestrating the murders of his three daughters and a first wife (who could not bear children, hence the second wife).

In the early hours of June 30, 2009, a woman of Afghan background dared to do the unthinkable: learn how to drive. You know what I'm talking about: the moment for most young people when they finally get to be in control of something that's for all intents and purposes a big deal, for once in their life.

This is not a story from Kabul, Afghanistan where the family originates. This is a story from Kingston, Ontario -- home to the Royal Military College campus, Canadian Forces Base Kingston and even the Kingston Penitentiary that may well become the new home of the family members accused in this alleged case of honour killings in Canada.

Evidence in this case is still emerging as the trial continues, but quite a bit of information (not evidence) is already available through the initial coverage of this case in mid 2009. The Crown's allegation is that the father had begun to perceive the liberal attitudes taken by four women constituted an egregious display of immorality and as such, warranted their death. Keep in mind, he had been in Canada for a whole two years, having come from a place, which is for all intents and purposes, a failing state.

Recently, we have heard allegations in court that the father, in collaboration and conspiracy with the mother and son, orchestrated this killing to reclaim this supposed lost honour by having young girls who might have become rebellious.

"What will people say" is another major problem in such a mindset: If someone in the community just whispers that the girls have done something wrong (to us it would be small, to this mindset, anything is a trigger: Facebook, text messaging, you name it), they are guilty until proven innocent. Was this proof for the father that the girls had been corrupted by the West? Generally speaking, learning to drive would only give them the opportunity to have free sex, which surely would be the next step (is how the thinking goes in this Old World mentality). This is why women are practically locked up so as to "save" them from themselves (yes, it's always her fault).

Honour killings are not exclusive to Muslims; hardline Sikhs, Hindus and Christian Arabs are notorious for them also for not cooperating with arranged marriages or otherwise exerting inklings of feminine self. The overwhelming majority of honour killings and FGM that occur in Muslim societies do so in the harsh and austere environments, which constitutes much of the geography of places like Afghanistan, Pakistan, the Middle East and North Africa. This if of course, not to say, "the desert made 'em do it" but to note the environment in which the Quranic verse was first revealed and the kind of mindsets it tries to correct.

Girls being buried alive still happens in India (mostly Hindus) due to male gender preference (to do the farming of course) and modern female infanticide is manifested by using ultrasound to find out gender early so that if it's a girl, the fetus can be aborted (China). I would qualify this as another form of "honour killing" not because I believe conception equals life (I do not), but ending the life of a female child because of gender or imagined immorality that supposedly comes with it.

This anti-female child attitude is condemned in another verse also:

When news is brought to one of them, of (the birth of) a female (child), his face darkens, and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people, because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain it on contempt, or bury it in the dust? Ah! what an evil (choice) they decide on? (16:57-58)

In the end, child or adult femalicide (yes, it's a real word) is among the pre-Islamic practices that are expressly prohibited, lacking honour completely and subject to findings of guilt by God. As for judgement in a court of law, well -- the case continues...

 
Mohammad Shafia (centre), Hamed Shafia and Tooba Mohammad Yahya, behind police officers to the left, arrive at the Frontenac Court courthouse in Kingston Ontario on Friday, October 21, 2011. "And ...
Mohammad Shafia (centre), Hamed Shafia and Tooba Mohammad Yahya, behind police officers to the left, arrive at the Frontenac Court courthouse in Kingston Ontario on Friday, October 21, 2011. "And ...
 
 
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10:07 PM on 11/15/2011
The vast majority of Muslims parents don't hate their daughters - we love them. Yet we appear to be at a loss when it comes to dealing with what is a taboo in many parts of the Muslim community - and that is how to reconcile the fact that unlike their parents young Muslims here who are unmarried are more likely to be having sex. There is a "no way - don't even think about it" attitude among even loving Muslim parents on the issue of premarital sex. Is it because we come from countries where sex outside marriage is regarded if not as a crime, a legal defence to a crime? The vast majority of us would never harm our children, would never stand for corporal punishment for sexual immorality but we also may cringe at the possibilty that they may be having sex before they tie the knot. And its often regarded in the immigrant Muslim community in particular that parents of a teen who is engaging in sexual activities have a big problem on their hands. Do we condemn our children for wanting sex before marriage and give license to those few extremists who engage in honour killings? Or do we respect our thousand year old tradition of Islamic compassion and love them, no matter what their choice? God demands that we exercise compassion. It is in our holy book.To find out more, check out our recent khutbah/sermon, at www.mpvottawa.com Much salaams/peace
12:10 PM on 10/25/2011
Firstly, some of your facts are a bit trite and not entirely correct, as there is much more to it than you post.
Secondly, when a person moves to another country, not of his origin, then that person has to live by the rules of the new country, regardless of what their specific religious or previous country's laws were, especially when it comes to civil and criminal laws, This man and his wife should get the maximum penalty available for what they did. His 'honor' is only 'pride, arrogance, hugh male ego and chavanism'. It is rampant in E..Asian (India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, etcccc...) and Arab countries. They carry it with them to their new countries and expect to live as they like, not respecting nor even seeing where they are, what the culture is like, and surely not respecting their own children's assimilation into their new country. And they do not respect the laws of the new country they come to. They use their 'religious laws' as a foil and then call themselves 'victims' when anyone challenges it; when, in fact, they themselves are the perpetrators. What they did was pre-meditated murder and they should be tried for it and not be allowed to weasle out of it. If we do not stand by our own created country's laws, then we will be stepped on and run over. I see it happening all the time. I live in E. Asia.
09:15 AM on 10/25/2011
I wonder why only women are ever killed to restore family honor? I mean logically some of the Muslim men must be dating girls, and probably get far more serious then sitting at a restaurant with someone of the opposite gender. Why are they never caught and killed.

Just to be clear, I do not condone ANY honor killings, however this shows that the people who do this are clearly not thinking logically.
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03:05 AM on 10/25/2011
"Honour killings are not exclusive to Muslims; hardline Sikhs, Hindus and Christian Arabs are notorious for them also for not cooperating with arranged marriages or otherwise exerting inklings of feminine self"

As the saying goes “you cannot solve a problem until you recognise it”. The justification for the mistreatment of women based on verses of the Koran must be acknowledged as a problem before this situation can ever be resolved. Sadly this will never happen as the only solution to such an acknowledgment would be to abandon those verses, something the Islamic community is unwilling to do.

As such the only other choice is to project the same behaviour on other religions to make your religion look relatively less offensive. This is what this author is trying to do. But make no mistake there is nothing in this post that condemns either the actions or the verses in the Koran that justify it.
09:13 AM on 10/25/2011
Although not Muslim myself, I would imagine that verses in the Quoran can be interpreted in many different ways, similar to the many interpretations of the bible. And if what he says about other religions having honor killings is true (and I think it probably is) then it puts the problem into better perspective.
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03:29 PM on 10/25/2011
There is no justification in the Quran for honor killing. In fact in several places, the Quran specifically condemns killing your children:.

[6.140] They are lost indeed who kill their children foolishly without knowledge, and forbid.what Allah has given to them forging a lie against Allah; they have indeed gone astray, and they are not the followers of the right course.

The idea that "family honor" is something so precious that is worth killing over is not at all justified by the religion. It is cultural and not limited to any particular faith community. In fact, if you really stop to think about it "shotgun wedding" is an American phrase. In modern times, certain geographic regions still adhere to similar concepts of honor and nowadays it is more acceptable to be anti-Islamic than ethnocentric or racist so there may be a desire to link the practice uniquely to Islam but that isn't valid.

On the other hand, in the Bible one can read:
Leviticus 21: [9] And the daughter of any priest, if she profanes herself by playing the harlot, profanes her father; she shall be burned with fire.

Of course that doesn't make honor killing a Judeo-Christian practice either but I would actually argue it is easier to justify them from the Bible than from the Quran.
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02:35 AM on 10/25/2011
EVIL IS EVIL !

http://www.truechristianityevangelism.org/koranhell.html