Attraction

Jen Chan

White Queer Girls Are Everywhere And It's A Problem For Me

Embracing my queerness on its own, devoid of intersections, was never really a huge struggle for me. That was never the thing that got me incessantly questioning myself and the world around me. Acknowledging the lightbulb that went off once I thought back to all the older girls and female teachers I'd trailed behind in countless school hallways like a gay little puppy -- that wasn't the difficult part. The difficult part was in navigating my queerness, specifically in romantic/sexual relationships, through and around and under and over a huge, gigantic lump in my mind that reads, "RACE."

What Attracts Me to You

I am trying to remind myself that the difficulties of saying goodbye are the result of making wonderful new friends, and of course I do not ever want to give that up. However after over a year of goodbyes to people, few of whom I am likely to ever see again, I am feeling the strain.
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Does Liking White Guys Mean I'm Full of Self-Hate?

I jokingly consider myself to be the first, last, and only incidence resulting from a Jamaican-Slovenian union. There is nothing I find particularly unappealing about non-white guys. But there is something I've always found especially alluring about white guys. When I explained this to someone he suggested that maybe I harboured some feelings of self-hatred that I needed to address...

5 Signs You Are Being Rejected

Many people have the tendency of falling for someone who isn't right for them or interested in them. You may call it human nature, but I call it denial. The truth of the matter is that oftentimes people are blowing you off.