BIRTH

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To Doula Or Not To Doula?

It was only some years after the birth of my son that I began to be really intrigued by the idea that there could've been someone in the room with me to speak when I could only growl. Don't get me wrong, my midwife Susie was amazing, but she was busy doing midwife-y things like checking blood pressure and filling in paperwork and unwrapping the cord from around my son's neck: um, yes please.
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Throw Your Birth Plan In The Trash

When we are talking about the details of your birthing vision, there are important choices to be made. You may decide that some choices should be adhered to, like delayed cord clamping, because of the benefits for your baby. Other choices will be greatly influenced by factors beyond your control, and your birthing process may require a shift in thinking about how to ascend That Mountain.
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There's No Glossing Over The Loss Of Miscarriage

I think we do all women a disservice when we don't challenge the "Disneyfication" of our reproductive experience. Pregnancy is glorified as transcendent despite its many dark elements. Birth is similarly idealized. But miscarriages resist beatification; at best, they are an extremely efficient expulsion of expired reproductive material by one's own body.