Black Daddies Club

The Castration of the Black Male Body in Toronto

Brandon Hay | Posted 11.02.2013 | Canada
Brandon Hay

The summer is hot and it's not just the temperature. Each summer I dread the headline news of young black males heading to the mortuary, and this summ...

"Daddy, Where Do Babies Come From?"

Brandon Hay | Posted 06.25.2013 | Canada Living
Brandon Hay

Sooner or later, and usually at the most inappropriate time, some version of The Question ("Where do babies come from?") will emerge from your child's lips. Whatever the inspiration, our responses as Black Daddies tend to oscillate between evasion and deliberate vagueness ("Go ask your mother....").

How I Became a Long-Distance Father

Brandon Hay | Posted 05.19.2013 | Canada Living
Brandon Hay

For me, fatherhood began with a text message, followed by me making a 30 minute, long-distance call. Someone whom I hadn't heard from in about two months now tells me she's two months pregnant with my child. Every visit to see Aaliyah is like introducing myself to her for the first time.

When a Black Man Is Murdered, Don't Call Him a Deadbeat

Brandon Hay | Posted 04.22.2013 | Canada
Brandon Hay

Recently a brother in Toronto's West End was murdered. When I read the Toronto Star article, I immediately felt that they were making the victim seem guilty. What is the picture being painted of black men and black bodies in Toronto? Are we pawns to be shuffled and sacrificed on society's chessboard? Is there anything sacred about our existence? Are we only good for selling newspapers? Are our deaths to be used to get more funding for the police system? I refuse to play the position of the pimp, the drug dealer and/ or the deadbeat dad that you have laid out for me as choices. I must and will resist.