The most important thing is to stay healthy as this will mean you're firing on all cylinders physically, emotionally and psychologically when facing the bully. Bullies crave an emotional response so do your best to remain calm and rational, no matter how upset you may be feeling inside.
There's something about local government that brings out the worst in some people. Staff get spat on. Mayors and councillors are often the victims of what can only be described as cyberbullying. In some towns, process servers would be well-advised to offer volume discounts to local governments.
As a competitive athlete you sign up for scrutiny and judgment. But, even then, you need to be thick skinned because you're out there doing your best, succeeding or failing for everyone to see. Kids who get bullied don't sign up to be judged.
Take that you bullies! Some recent stories have made me smile, stories in which outsiders have struck back at their tormenters, be they schoolyard ...
Indeed, most instances of "faking it" are caused by the usual reasons, most of which are innocuous. It's the more insidious ones that we, as parents, need to be aware of so that we can address the causes at the basis of why our children are avoiding school.
When I took my girls to see the musical Wicked, I wasn't sure how my 10-year-old and 5-year-old would react to the story of the Good Witch and the Bad Witch. It turned out to be a gorgeous musical that brought tears to our eyes for its honest, important lessons about friendships.
I'll be honest. The instinctive part of me as a Mom, the part that wants to protect my children from cruelty, scrutiny, and humiliation of any kind wanted to scream, "TAKE THE COSTUME OFF, BABY! DON'T GO OUT THERE!"
The nation's official position for the next five years on diet for health is on the line, imperiled by bullies. I am speaking out simply because we don't know how many others, encountering the same forces, have decided doing so is not worth the abuse. I am speaking out because: it is.
Donald Trump and Chris Christie are both brash, egomaniacal, bullying Northeasterners running for the nation's top job. They both seem to derive genuine pleasure from puffing themselves up and putting everyone else down. So why is Trump soaring in the polls, and Christie gasping for air?
Unfortunately, identifying and dealing with bullying is much more difficult for employers (and lawyers looking for lawsuits) than the more overt forms of sexual and physical harassment of the past -- even though the objectives, power and control over the victim, are the same.
Sure, realizing Rugrats was filled with sex jokes might put a slight dent in your childhood memories, but let's have a look at some things that actually will ruin your childhood as it happens.
The next time you see a middle-schooler or even a peer use derogatory terms, make faces or inappropriate impressions or gestures related to disability, take that opportunity to talk about it. It all starts with a conversation. A conversation many won't have, unless you bring it up.
I am a victim of online bullying. I wrote an article about living with my boyfriend and his parents and got severely bashed for it. There were dozens of comments--close to 1400--stating I was immature, childish and downright unappreciative.
I knew from the minute that he was born I'd have to begin the process of letting go and sharing him with the world. Then came Kindergarten. I prayed my mistakes and missteps would be covered in grace and that somehow he'd soar in spite of his mother and he sure did!
Go ahead and present me in a calm, polite way with evidence against my viewpoint, and I will read it with an open mind. I will happily engage in civil conversation with someone who doesn't agree with my take on something, because that sort of discourse helps my practice by teaching me about other perspectives.
No one wants to believe their child is bully, but guess what, yours might be. What are you using at home for conflict resolution when your child acts out?