So eager to right the wrongs of bullying, we find ourselves determined to identify and punish the perpetrators, often forgetting that that alone will not mitigate the harm done to the youth who felt bullied.
A few key names to consider: Richie Incognito, Chris Christie, Michael Dunn; the Baruch College fraternity boys. What do they have in common, this odd group of disparate males? Bullying. Unacceptably aggressive behavior. "Boys will be boys" mentality. Yes, it's a motley crew.
Studies have long challenged the idea that nice guys finish first. So is Fallon an anomaly? Or does he represent a shift in the balance of power between the tyrants and the team players?
You know how a taco, burrito and enchilada all have the same ingredients, they're just laid out in different ways? Well... The Little Mermaid, The Little Mermaid 2 and Tangled all share the same basic ingredients for storylines about good versus evil -- just played out in different ways.
I don't know if your face fell. I don't know if inside you crumbled into tiny little pieces. I don't know how many times you've heard those words before. I don't know if you even believed them. But I got the feeling that this might not have been the first time. And in the instant it took to process what just had happened, a million memories flashed through my mind.
On Tuesday night, we witnessed yet another example of a grown up bullying someone. It happened on camera, with a microphone in his face, making this incident both shameful and stupid. Really, Congressman Grimm?
Understanding boundaries, resolving conflict and building relationships are tools everyone will need, whether they spend their days in the playroom or the boardroom
We were rivals in class, good students who read Vonnegut and announced, to our piano teachers' pleasure and our classmates' befuddlement, that we preferred classical music to Duran Duran. We should have been friends. For some reason, C chose to go in the other direction.
Left or right, liberal or conservative, retaliation thrives in our political arenas -- and no arena is more political than where any of us spend our day and earn our pay -- the politics of work.
No one denies the importance of good math skills, so math is taught at every school and reinforced at home. We need to do the same thing for socio-emotional skills, especially empathy.
I'm the one that jumps first and freaks later. But speaking my mind? Finally fessing up to all that was wrong in my life, being a voice for those who hadn't, wouldn't or couldn't? Now that was terrifying.
Whether they are on the staffs of senators or congressmen, or work in the myriad halls of cabinet departments and federal agencies, a large number find themselves on the short end of the stick with little recourse.
I'd spent over 10 years playing scenarios of running into TJ in my head, ruminating on how I would confront him as an adult. Still, I was trembling with both fear and anger at the thought of seeing him again.
The way to counter bullying is to be true to yourself and to realize that if you are different, like Bob Dylan or Benjamin Braddock, you are much more likely, as you get older, to enrich the world with your unique perspective on life.
You are not bad people. You do not have cold and heartless souls that are incapable of feeling empathy. You do not need to be sent away and never allowed to set foot in a school again. No, not based on my experiences.
As much as bullying hogs the headlines' limelight, there's still a lot of confusion about it. October is National Bullying Prevention Month and to demystify the hot topic for both parents and educators, I recently caught up with Elizabeth Englander.