Take that you bullies! Some recent stories have made me smile, stories in which outsiders have struck back at their tormenters, be they schoolyard ...
Indeed, most instances of "faking it" are caused by the usual reasons, most of which are innocuous. It's the more insidious ones that we, as parents, need to be aware of so that we can address the causes at the basis of why our children are avoiding school.
When I took my girls to see the musical Wicked, I wasn't sure how my 10-year-old and 5-year-old would react to the story of the Good Witch and the Bad Witch. It turned out to be a gorgeous musical that brought tears to our eyes for its honest, important lessons about friendships.
I'll be honest. The instinctive part of me as a Mom, the part that wants to protect my children from cruelty, scrutiny, and humiliation of any kind wanted to scream, "TAKE THE COSTUME OFF, BABY! DON'T GO OUT THERE!"
The nation's official position for the next five years on diet for health is on the line, imperiled by bullies. I am speaking out simply because we don't know how many others, encountering the same forces, have decided doing so is not worth the abuse. I am speaking out because: it is.
Donald Trump and Chris Christie are both brash, egomaniacal, bullying Northeasterners running for the nation's top job. They both seem to derive genuine pleasure from puffing themselves up and putting everyone else down. So why is Trump soaring in the polls, and Christie gasping for air?
Unfortunately, identifying and dealing with bullying is much more difficult for employers (and lawyers looking for lawsuits) than the more overt forms of sexual and physical harassment of the past -- even though the objectives, power and control over the victim, are the same.
Sure, realizing Rugrats was filled with sex jokes might put a slight dent in your childhood memories, but let's have a look at some things that actually will ruin your childhood as it happens.
The next time you see a middle-schooler or even a peer use derogatory terms, make faces or inappropriate impressions or gestures related to disability, take that opportunity to talk about it. It all starts with a conversation. A conversation many won't have, unless you bring it up.
I am a victim of online bullying. I wrote an article about living with my boyfriend and his parents and got severely bashed for it. There were dozens of comments--close to 1400--stating I was immature, childish and downright unappreciative.
I knew from the minute that he was born I'd have to begin the process of letting go and sharing him with the world. Then came Kindergarten. I prayed my mistakes and missteps would be covered in grace and that somehow he'd soar in spite of his mother and he sure did!
Go ahead and present me in a calm, polite way with evidence against my viewpoint, and I will read it with an open mind. I will happily engage in civil conversation with someone who doesn't agree with my take on something, because that sort of discourse helps my practice by teaching me about other perspectives.
No one wants to believe their child is bully, but guess what, yours might be. What are you using at home for conflict resolution when your child acts out?
As much as no parent would ever want to admit it, it may not always be your child who is the one being picked on. What do you do when your child is the bully? Parents have to understand that at some point their child could possibly be the one bullying. Don't be ashamed or embarrassed by it. How can a child learn if you don't teach them?
The problem is the adults. I'm taking about the parents who raised their kids to think it's hilarious to embrace racial caricatures. And yes, I'm aware that some of the students in the photo are Latinos. If anything, that's even worse.
If you feel like you have met one of these delightful social treats, you are not alone - I know I certainly have, and recently. When bullied as a child I struggled to process what was wrong, as a grown adult, it left me hollow, shattered and totally paranoid.