Sex is about a lot of things, sometimes different things to different people. Despite many years of working with couples of all ages, races, and personality types, I am still amazed by how much the meaning of sex can vary from person to person.
Everywhere I look lately on social media I am inundated with women tearing one another down. Whether it's an article on the Kardashians, the newest Victoria's Secret campaign, or the hottest Instagram sexy selfie seductress--we women are downright vicious in the comments sections.
Double standards are so pervasive in society today. A guy who romances multiple ladies is a straight-up boss, but a girl who dates around is a "slut" ...
To all my LGBT friends and Americans, this is your time. Congratulations! The bullies and bigots will kick and scream like the small minded manipulators they are, but it hasn't been enough to prevent Americans from doing the right thing.
If it was easy to keep people erotically charged by each other after they enter a long-term relationship, sex experts would be out of business. The fact is, that after the first few years of marriage or any relationship arrangement where people spend a lot of time together, interest can wane.
Society wants to diagnose me, psychoanalyze me and judge me. It wants to cure me of this natural primal urge. The irony is men don't need to justify their hunger for hanky-panky. It's a given, a fact -- something that is universally accepted yet I must apologize and feel shame because I am a highly sexual woman.
It's an epic battle that has been raging since before humans walked the earth: and with a business like ours, we hear all about it, all the time. Which sex truly reigns supreme?
If you frequently have the experience of telling a friend, "He seemed so charming and interested in a relationship but turned out to be interested in only one thing," then you're missing the warning signs: all you are is a booty call.
When we get sex ed as young people, we almost never get information about pleasure. Much of the early messaging we get is shame-based and only highlights the dangers of sex. We might be taught to avoid sexually transmissible infections and pregnancy, but we're rarely taught how to discover and negotiate our pleasure.
Defining and embracing a true gay culture, which goes well beyond sexuality, is the next stage. We see organizations like gay softball leagues, gay choirs, and gay running clubs. They are institutions meant to build strength and support between one another because we do share so much in common and we understand what it took to become who we are more than anyone else.
In the future, transhumanist technology and science will compliment the LGBT movement and help push it forward in the face of continued social oppression and closed-mindedness.
The reasons why women hold themselves back from receiving pleasure in their bodies and having orgasm are common and widespread. And women can open up to pleasure and change their relationship to their bodies and their sexuality at any age.
The queer world still exists apart -- discrete, you might say -- from the straight world, and to be a bisexual woman on OKCupid is to travel back and forth between them, bicoastal, bilingual, bicultural, always apologizing to one on behalf of the other.
Don't lie. She will find out. When you break trust with a woman; you rock her very foundation. Don't change the rules and pretend that you didn't. Don't make her think that she is crazy to protect your lies. Really. Don't screw with a woman's internal GPS.
Don Meredith's fall from grace is seen as a collective one, because there are a lot of black people who see his presence in the Senate as a collective achievement; he's seen as "one of us who made it to the top." We are so eager to see black faces in positions of power that we get caught up in the "excitement" of seeing someone who looks like us on the political stage, and we fail to pull back the curtain.
When it comes to getting laid, every hour counts. Every hour of sleep, that is.