When you're in love, social media is very good to you. Every encounter -- date night, food fight, and strolls in the park -- becomes a selfie photo shoot, and you just can't wait to upload those images to your page.
It's time for women to stop judging each other and discriminating based on an aspect of our lives that is supposed to be private. We live in the 21st century, and if boys get to high-five each other over beer and pizza about their sexual adventures, why can't women do the same thing?
I am single again but something feels different this time around -- I'm content being alone for the first time in my adult life. I've decided to use this period, unattached to a male counterpart, to break the cycles I've been repeating for years.
Here is some proof. Humour is one of the highest rated traits for attracting a lover -- ranked by men as appealing, topping even 'wearing sexy clothes'. Both men and women considered humor to be in the top three traits that make someone appealing for short-term (read "sexual") or long-term (read "partner") connections.
Couples often assume that fighting and conflict are inevitable -- "normal," even, to be tolerated and managed, at best. They may not recognize that their diminished sexual and romantic life is interwoven with how and why they conflict as they do in their relationship overall.
Take care of yourself as a parent. Your kids are watching you. They need to see that life is worth living as an adult. It's hard for kids to be happy when their parents are sad.
Little did I know last spring, when I did my first boudoir shoot, that being photographed would become an erotic experience in itself, one that mimics the experience of having sex. There is the phenomenon of getting turned on fantasizing about the upcoming encounter.
Do couples in their 50s really still have sex? Well hell yes! It's not just the realm of the young and beautiful, as the media and advertising would have us believe.
The stresses and strains of life such as career, raising kids and growing older, can deplete us -- or at the very least, distract us from the goal of sustaining an intimate, dynamic connection with our life partner.
If you do not want to be in the relationship without either oral sex or more sex or better sex or whatever, be direct. Do not be passive aggressive, stay in the relationship and be bitter and resentful, or, worst, be unfaithful.
Could I have loved my wife forever? In this moment, thinking of the time just before she told me she'd already consulted with a divorce attorney, I have an unequivocal yes. I was still madly, somewhat painfully, in love with my wife of 11 years, and single partner for 13 years.
he ubiquitous and unabashed ED message, that real men have rock-hard erections, is delivered by rugged, denim-clad actors who promise that the man who pharmaceutically re-ignites his "readiness" will return unparalleled pleasure to his female partner (the women in these ads are beside themselves with grateful anticipation).
Sex seems central to intimate and romantic relationships. If it is a means of intimate communication, and communication is the secret to a lasting and healthy relationship, why don't we gay men talk about it that way more often?
My preferring not to have intercourse might be less about a distaste for the actual act (or pain, or boredom) than it is about the way in which too many guys approach it, not just as the endgame but as the only way to truly score.
Go, have sex with your spouse, and even try to enjoy it. And tell me if your marriage doesn't get just a bit closer and more connected, in spite of yourself.
As I learned in the trenches, the only thing keeping each of us back from satisfaction is our unwillingness to say yes to adventure that scares us and shakes our comfortable status quo.