Over the years, at Just For Laughs and Airborne Mobile, I've never been a major fan of focus groups for multiple reasons; most notably because the people gather to tell you exactly what they figure you want to hear. But in this group the men said things to try to appear smart. The women said smart things.
A 30-year-old women came to my office and cried because after a decade of abuse, she had mustered the courage to leave a horrific and impossible situation. She was now being forced out of the shelter, and she had no job, no food, and did not know how she was going to support her children. Her son sat beside her, rolling his eyes.
When you're a woman, tone policing is rampant. Amid the hate and abuse, we are expected to stay as calm and eloquent as possible. Our justified rage is always attributed to over-sensitivity, hormones, or PMS-ing. We are treated as emotional, not intellectual beings, when the truth is we are emotional AND intellectual beings. Intellect without emotion is dead inside. There's a whopping double standard regarding tone between men and women (and of course others along the gender binary and non-binary folk). Men who are angry are passionate and driven. Women who are passionate and driven are just angry.
Today is the United Nations International Day for the Elimination of Violence against Women, which kicks off 16 Days of Activism against Gender-Based Violence. This year has seen an explosion of women speaking out against abuse and public discussion about the crisis of violence against women. But in every other way, nothing much has changed.
In case you have not noticed, there is a growing trend of women's empowerment organizations springing up everywhere that are geared to helping professional women achieve success and fulfillment. With so many popping up, it makes me wonder: are career women that hungry and in need of support groups to empower themselves?
Today is International Men's Day, so let's join hands today and celebrate all that men have done for the world. Wow, I couldn't even type that with a straight face. But International Men's Day? Seriously? Every day is International Men's Day, or really International Cisgender Men's Day. Every day the achievements of men are celebrated. Every day their innovations are hailed. What's next? International White People Day? International Heterosexual Day? I'm sure some of you would love that.
The guys I worked with teased me. They saw me as a hospitable female underling, lucky to be included at a sales meeting. I continued to disarm them with copious levels of service and their unconscious bias prevented them from seeing me as competition. By 1989, I was promoted to be a Vice President in head office and had leap frogged over most all of the guys in that meeting!
The report calls for a national plan to address violence against immigrant and refugee women and immigration policies that better support immigrants in precarious circumstances. It calls on the federal government to abolish the two-year conditional status for sponsored spouses, reinstate access to the Interim Federal Health program to all refugee claimants and uphold the privacy of all people who have access to social and health services.
As a therapist I have worked with many successful women who have the "fraud syndrome," where they think they do not deserve the success they are experiencing and that somebody somehow will find out that they are faking it. There are also those who are suspicious of success and power. Here are some of the common blocks and defeating thoughts that women commonly experience.
When you're bargaining in street markets, shaking hands, touching money, and using bathrooms sans soap and water, hand sanitizer is crucial, and you'll be using a lot of it. Unfortunately, this can be very drying on the skin since most are formulated entirely with ethyl alcohol. Nothing puts me off more than a sterile hospital smell and scaly hands. Luckily, there are alternatives.
I started by telling you about my own experience in the world of abuse. I did this because those experiences are what helped me understand the importance of healing in light of a frightening situation. These women -- our sisters -- need our support and understanding to heal. But we cannot forget the men. At some point we are going to have to turn around and help heal this man. Many will think he is undeserving, but he too experienced trauma in his life which he has had to cope with. I'm not talking about forgiveness, I'm talking about compassion.
My last night in India had a moment like that. It shifted my experience for me, and I'm still working to process what has changed. He said, "men will be men." He manipulated my friendliness, my culture, my joy for life, and passion for my work as an open invitation to remind me that I was indeed in the centre of Delhi.
What should women expect in terms of a financial plan? The plan should include a cash flow projection -- this means how much money you earn and spend in a month, a net worth statement -- which are your assets minus your liabilities, as well as a projection of your net worth throughout their lifetime.
I have often been told that I don't seem like a "typical" sorority girl and I'm never sure how to take that. Am I being applauded for not being a daft, superficial party girl straight out of Animal House? Obviously we go to parties (like most university and college students do), but this has never been the primary function of a sorority.
It's not cyber-bullying, it's cyber-rape. Imagine you receive an email containing a naked picture of you in a sexual position. You remember, that one that you sent your lover. The email is linked to a site where more images of your naked and vulnerable body are displayed followed by hateful comments, complete strangers tearing you apart, a cybermob virtually raping you. The site includes your full name, your home address, your contact information. Some of the commenters threaten to come to your home and rape you.
The reality is, when you ask someone when they're planning to get pregnant, you have no idea what their reality is. They might be trying to no avail. They might not want kids. They might be wavering in their marriage. They might be part of the witness protection program and you've just blown their cover.
The requirements for the capacity to marry are quite low and, in particular, not as onerous as the level of capacity required to execute testamentary documents. Therefore, theoretically, someone who does not have the requisite capacity to execute a will can have the capacity to marry. In Ontario, marriage has the effect of revoking a will in most cases.
Looking at our study, the percentage of women filing bankruptcy who were living on their own, either because they were single, divorced or widowed, increased over the four year study period. The largest growth occurred in women who were divorced or separated. We also saw an alarming increase in the percentage of female single parents declaring bankruptcy.