Being talented, driven, confident, curious, creative, courageous and ambitious are all necessities if you want to be a success in any field, but they're not enough. The interpersonal component can make or break even the most promising career. The bottom line is that if you don't know how to relate to other people it will be difficult, if not impossible, to succeed in your career.
The voice in your head so badly wants to be the all-knowing wizard that it labels, judges, exaggerates and takes things personally, all in an effort to control. Labeling and judging people and circumstances makes us feel as though we have a handle on them and so the voice obliges, evaluating, slotting and categorizing.
As young people enter an increasingly over-credentialed job market, new forms of qualifications and ways of acquiring them are beginning to gain traction in an increasingly competitive environment. This not only helps candidates better market themselves, but also helps meet the emerging skills required in a vastly changing career landscape.
The word "selfish" has a bad rap. I get it. Being "concerned chiefly or only with yourself" seems like kind of an asshole move, but is that always the case? I don't think so. The "Screw you, suckers!" variety of selfishness deserves its critics, but what about the kind of selfishness that simply means you're putting yourself first?
Every person reacts to a layoff in a different way. In the immediate aftermath, you'll likely experience a range of emotions, from sadness to anger, to fear and frustration -- possibly even relief. And at some point while you're processing this unexpected life change, you'll be met with a big question: Now what?
We made the mistake of overlooking the "fit factor" before, and morale and productivity plunged. It was difficult to turn it all around. Now we prioritize compatibility during the hiring process -- we want people who work hard and play hard together. Attention to culture fit has not only made our company a better place to work, it's boosted our ROI.
So, what makes you look bad? Trying to upstage your manager, particularly if you are a lot younger than them. New ideas are always welcome, but you should always be taking them to your manager first. I see many hardworking, successful millennials in the workforce, but there are some I wish I could just course-correct a little bit.
It's not the actual interview questions that cause difficulties for candidates. It's understanding why the interviewer is asking them in the first place. What is it that they really want to know? The information that employers are after is often quite different from the literal answer to the question asked.
Some time ago I began to question this whole idea of work-life balance. I asked why do we frame the debate as if work and life are not one and the same? Do we not think work is part of the continuum that makes up our life? For me, anyway, and I suspect many others, work is an essential part of life and how we contribute to our society.
Millennials are particularly sensitive to recognition, as only 40 per cent of millennials are happy with the rewards and recognition their company offers. The same survey found that while 50 per cent of millennial employees crave recognition, just 32 per cent say their company offers a recognition program.
Think of all of the crap that is going on with your physical health, especially any recurring issues. Only you and your doctor can determine what might be causing these symptoms. But if you have an unresolved chronic issue, or recurring health issues, or multiple health issues, it's possible that some of that is rooted in some neglected stress. Don't you think?
You can always be fired, downsized, or replaced. Your company could fold. The economy could tank. Depressing, I know. But, oddly enough, it's also empowering. Knowing there's no 100% guarantee frees you from pressure fall in line, fly under the radar, cave to the pressure, and suck it up, all for the sake of "security."