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It's daunting to be responsible for another life. But it's also selfish... to pass on one's DNA. To have someone who looks up to you. To feel the pride and joy that comes with the pain and tears. Some say that parenthood is the most selfless of "loves" one experiences in one's life. In our case, it wasn't selflessness that drove us to the decision. We chose parenthood because we wanted something out of it.
Cameron Diaz doesn't want kids, and she isn't afraid to say it. As the video above explains, Diaz's interview in this month's Esquire magazine reveals the actress has no desire to be a mother. At 41,...
It happens to everyone as we get older. Either you have kids or your friends have kids. But the one factor that a lot of people seem to forget is that children aren't for everyone. That doesn't mean your friendships are doomed. There are actually a few tricks you can do to look like a hero to your parenting friends, with limited child-you interaction.
There's a divide in our culture between childless people and people who are parents. I think we need to support our parent friends more. I've had jealousy and snark directed towards me because I can sleep in on weekends and don't have to deal with the kid alarm clocks at 5 a.m. And it is annoying. I'm not making excuses for that. But I think we need to look behind the snark and annoyance to the real issue. Parents often feel very alone. And most of the time, childless people don't get it, because we're not in it.
Dear Andrea, circa 2007: You decided to wait until your 30s to have children. Good for you! You don't understand it yet, but one day you will be "that mom." The one who lets her kids watch TV for hours so she can get the house ready for a party. The one who gives up on wiping a snotty nose while out in public.
Would we be the kind of parents who treat our kid like a status symbol? Would I be the mother who'd run the family into financial ruin to make sure my girl had more Louis Vuitton bags than any of her classmates so she'd have a positive self-image? I suspect I might.
Some people say that people who don't have children are selfish. And your point is? Yes, I like the freedom to work and enjoy life with just little old me to think about. Besides, give me a break. Why do you think people have kids? To further the human race? For the kid's sake? Doubtful.