I'm all for feeling and expressing love, but the idea that we need an official day to remind us to do so is a bit sad. Really, Valentine's Day -- regardless of the saint behind it -- is a commercial construct whose purpose is to wrestle money from our guilty wallets, as we try to make up for the other 364 days we feel we failed to express our feelings sufficiently.
I felt like I was daring myself to cross some arbitrary line in the sand, and once I did, there would be no turning back. Canadians' perceptions of who I was, and certainly their knowledge of my life story, would be forever altered. Even if only a few dozen people heard my story, it felt big to share personally and publicly.
An exasperated mom told them to "go jump in the lake." Todd and Trent Courage did what their mother told them. And three decades later, funds raised by the hundreds of dippers running into Lake Ontario this January 1 are expected to bring the dip's lifetime total to $1.4 million dollars for water projects in Rwanda.
Everybody has fear. My particular brand of fear usually involves worrying about what people will think of me. Writing publicly about that fear now only punctuates it further. I care way too much about what people think of me and how I'm perceived. I like to say that I'm a recovering approval-seeker, but it's a long road, baby.
When was the last time you felt that you had to prove something to the people you love? When you feel that you're not good enough, you often find yourself in isolation, sitting in the dark room, abandoned and longing for love -- Here is the eight-step process for you to take on in order to never ever again be lost in the fear of not being enough.
Amidst the carnage of a failed marriage, as your days become consumed with prying the broken shards of glass from the wounds of a shattered life, it is hard to conceive that anyone will ever be worth the risk of going through all of this again. But a life without love is incomplete -- Love is always worth it.
People often assume that the main problem of addiction comes down to an addict's lack of willpower or commitment. Although it may appear that way from the outside looking in, I would suggest the complete opposite is true. I say this because the addicts I've met in recovery are some of the most tenacious, resilient, and creative people on the planet.
Fear of flying is a common fear that many people struggle with. In my work as a therapist I have assisted several people develop coping strategies when it comes to flying. The main rule is "do not let fear stop you." Anxiety is natural, but when we give into fear it only gets worse. Here are a few tips any flyer can use:
These past couple of years, my journey as a woman has been isolating and painful due to an illness. I continue on the journey of bleak medical hallways that offer little solace for what seems like a lonely affliction. But being in this dance class and seeing my instructor with a hospital patch on her chest and buzzed hair; I realize that in our weaknesses we are strong.
Everybody's a critique. Paul Cézanne, the Post-Impressionist painter, was mercilessly ridiculed by critics when he exhibited with the Impressionists. Claude Monet's paintings were called "formless, unfinished and ugly." Aside from the art of perseverance, what can the greatest artists of all time teach us? Here are my top 10 takeaways.
Ultimate freedom, waking up late, working in your pj's and taking a spontaneous day off. It sounds like the dream job, doesn't it? Well, if running your own business is that glorious, why doesn't everyone do it? The fact is, being an entrepreneur is probably the hardest thing you will ever do. It will consume your thoughts, your relationships, your sleep and your life. You may never have a "day off" again. Still interested?
I have often said "I don't do vulnerable," and yet there have been times in my life when I have had to rely on other people to take me for cancer treatments, for example. Somehow we believe by asking for help, we are being weak, are letting ourselves down, when in reality our family and friends are only too happy to help out.