Criticism

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At What Point Does Being Helpful Become Complaining?

I am a consultant, but unless someone asks me for feedback on things, I don't offer that. When I attend a conference, I focus on the positives, not what they could do differently. When I am at a friend's house, I compliment my host, not offer decorating ideas, and when I am working with a coworker, I don't assume I know the best way to do things; I appreciate there are many ways to get things done properly, and my way isn't always the best way.
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A Woman's Guide to the Impostor Syndrome

I am not saying that we should not strive to be the very best people and professionals we can be. This is not a call to "lean out." By all means, let's strive to be amazing, but let's also aspire to be more gentle with ourselves and with others.
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How to Get Over Getting Dissed

My wise self knows that I created my company to help people become their happiest and most authentic selves at work. I believe very firmly in being yourself, yet I questioned the value of my own authenticity at the slightest critique. The irony is not lost on me.
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10 Life Lessons from History's Most Famous Artists

Everybody's a critique. Paul Cézanne, the Post-Impressionist painter, was mercilessly ridiculed by critics when he exhibited with the Impressionists. Claude Monet's paintings were called "formless, unfinished and ugly." Aside from the art of perseverance, what can the greatest artists of all time teach us? Here are my top 10 takeaways.
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Hillary Clinton's Advice On Taking Criticism

A few weeks ago, in the company of 5,000 other women, I heard Hillary Clinton offer advice I took to heart. She said, "Take criticism seriously, but not personally". For such a simple sentiment, it struck me as profound. In fact, it's not too much of a stretch to say that those six words knocked our collective socks off. The room grew rather still. I could tell that there were other recovering perfectionists, like myself, in the room for whom that struck home.

What I Learned This Week: Every Great Project Needs Two Leaders

There's an old showbiz adage that goes, and usually said with a sigh, "Everyone's a critic." But in this case, I'm not talking about the layman, the doctor, the lawyer, the banker or the dentist who suddenly becomes an "expert" by the grace of the sheer volume of their argument; I'm actually talking about the qualified pro. Two of them, actually.
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Criticism is Part of the Game When You're an Artist

As a writer, I consider myself an artist at heart. As artists, we rely heavily on praise -- from friends, loved ones, business associates, fans and the critics on a good day. Praise boosts us by increasing our self-worth. We feel more confident and it shows. When the inner artist is criticized -- wham-o -- our self-worth takes a hit.