Dating After Divorce

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One Man's Post-Divorce Makeover

As a men's image consultant, it is my job to transform men into their genuine selves, not the men society demands. When I first met Ted, he talked about his failed marriage and his imminent divorce. He said he numbed out and lost 20 pounds of muscle after his wife told him about her affair. Ted was a wounded man but he was ready to change. He just didn't know how.
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Five Steps to a Healthier You, Post-Divorce

Make no mistake; divorce is upper case Emotional. Even though almost 40 per cent of marriages end in divorce, I felt little comfort from a statistic. As I reflect back, there were a number of positive things I did that helped me work through this transformation; strategies that helped me to get where I am today -- these are the five things that helped me find the smarter, happier, healthier me.
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What Love is Like After Divorce

Somewhere during the course of my post-divorce singlehood, my "value hierarchy" changed -- and "serious relationship" was no longer at the top of my list as it had been while married. All that independence, and self-care and personal success I'd cultivated since divorcing felt threatened.

Can Married Women Handle a Single Woman's Truths?

Which parts of my book were THAT "uncomfortable" for them? Was it when I received a phone call in the middle of the night from my husband's mistress? Was it my sexual curiosity -- perhaps the fact that I learned to G-spot orgasm with a man I casually dated, or that I once attended a sex club?
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Two Men in One Weekend

Might as well write on my tombstone: "Loving mom had sex with two different men in one weekend. Devoted her life to worrying about it." Having wild sex with multiple partners after separation isn't a pair of shoes most have walked in, and promiscuity is contentious; it could be hot and juicy, yet still trigger judgement, even moral outrage.
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What Do You Say to "I Don't Believe in Monogamy"?

What if having sex with someone other than your partner isn't just a 'lifestyle' choice? What if our culture has simply indoctrinated us with beliefs around love, commitment, attraction and sex that end up emotionally terrorizing us unnecessarily at some point, or all throughout, our lives?