As a men's image consultant, it is my job to transform men into their genuine selves, not the men society demands. When I first met Ted, he talked about his failed marriage and his imminent divorce. He said he numbed out and lost 20 pounds of muscle after his wife told him about her affair. Ted was a wounded man but he was ready to change. He just didn't know how.
Make no mistake; divorce is upper case Emotional. Even though almost 40 per cent of marriages end in divorce, I felt little comfort from a statistic. As I reflect back, there were a number of positive things I did that helped me work through this transformation; strategies that helped me to get where I am today -- these are the five things that helped me find the smarter, happier, healthier me.
Might as well write on my tombstone: "Loving mom had sex with two different men in one weekend. Devoted her life to worrying about it." Having wild sex with multiple partners after separation isn't a pair of shoes most have walked in, and promiscuity is contentious; it could be hot and juicy, yet still trigger judgement, even moral outrage.