Meeting guys and dating has never been really a challenge for me. But, it is the development of a relationship where I've wavered. My addiction is my struggle to allow someone to get incredibly close to me. There are few things that scare me more than being completely vulnerable.
I've often heard men make the comment "Nice guys finish last." I'm here to tell you that that is NOT true. It may appear like that now, but just like the Tortoise and Hare story, where slow and steady...
It is socially accepted and possibly expected that a man may date many women at one time in search of that special one. Comparatively, many women may date only one guy at a time hoping that that one guy they invest their time and energy in will eventually become their boyfriend. When it comes to dating, a single woman's best friend is The Roster.
I am a self-professed good girl. The girl who believes it is courteous to reply to a call, text, or e-mail as I receive them. I can't deny I've been tempted to enter the other side and be that "bad girl" but I've been cursed by the inability to feel morally right playing "the game." I have no choice but to build a case for the good girl.
The problem is when it comes to dating there are many "fish in the sea." So, while you may be fortunate to attract the attention of a certain girl -- it is up to you handle it with care and know that if you drop the ball she has other options.
Make no mistake; divorce is upper case Emotional. Even though almost 40 per cent of marriages end in divorce, I felt little comfort from a statistic. As I reflect back, there were a number of positive things I did that helped me work through this transformation; strategies that helped me to get where I am today -- these are the five things that helped me find the smarter, happier, healthier me.
While I was on a date, I noticed that at a table near mine was occupied by a wonderful woman and...Brad Pitt. Or at least it had to be Brad Pitt, otherwise, why would she put up with such a booming voice that wouldn't let her get a word in edgewise? But this is what dating is like nowadays; men getting laid because they're men.
When your partner says "I love you" too early in the relationship, it's often because he or she is feeling insecure themselves or in the relationship, or more likely both. But if you don't oblige with the return "I love you," it makes the other person feel even more insecure. But that's no excuse to lie.
There's no point in going easy on someone when they behave badly in a relationship because when we tolerate disrespect, we give the other person can continue to mistreat us. If men and women were to follow four simple rules, I think that fewer feelings would be hurt and a lot less time would be wasted.