As parents and caregivers, how can we best help our children shape their sense of self? Trust. Through trusting them, demonstrating trustworthiness, and instilling a sense of trust. The more we trust our children, and are open to listening to their feelings and experiences, the more they learn to trust their own internal state.
If we expect our children to not listen to us -- whether it's going to bed, eating a meal or not hitting their brother -- then I'm going to guess that, surprise, they're not going to listen to us. By the same token, if in the work world we expect our employees to keep doing the same things over and over again, in an inefficient way, that's exactly what they're going to do.
Sure, Santa may determine that a child's behaviour is not up to snuff and is therefore a reason to deny said child of gifts on Christmas Day. But why does Santa have to be the judge, jury and (figurative) executioner on December 25th? Whatever happened to parental responsibility and the ability to look one's child in the eye in an attempt to deliver the verdict?
The University of Calgary recently reversed the guilty verdict of seven pro-life students who were found guilty of non-academic misconduct for setting up a display with graphic photos comparing abortion to the Holocaust and the Rwandan Genocide. The court decision has been heralded by some as being a victory for free speech on campus. But it's not.
I think the best way to observe blog post number 1,000 is to write blog post number 1,001...the one you're now reading. And if there's one thing I'd like to celebrate with writing it, it's the value of discipline. I raise a toast to all those who have the discipline to grind it out, to keep showing up, and to pound through pain.
A new study from Michigan State University shows people who think they can learn from their mistakes have a different brain reaction to errors than those who don't. Children who expect to make mistakes are much more willing to try new things and take on difficult tasks. As a result they're open to learning more both at school and in other environments.
I often hear this when talking about discipline methods for children. The key word in this sentence is "okay." What is our definition of this term, and is "okay" really what we want for our children? We now have a greater understanding of the impact of spanking and yelling, and how it negatively affects a person throughout their adult life.
When it comes to discipline, many parents have taken a large step backwards, and technology is to blame. In this day and age of smart phone journalism, YouTube, Twitter and Facebook shares, parents have become wary and hesitant of punishing their children in case their actions at any moment are recorded and uploaded to a willing audience in a matter of seconds.